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GAF, I Hate Everyone Aside From My Family and GF. Help Me.
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CommonSense
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You are depressed. Simple as that. Depression masks itself in many ways.
ErasureAcer
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Don't hate them. /help.
Maybe. But if he was depressed, wouldn't he be shoving aside his family and GF as well?
ThanksVision
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I was the same way as you in high school OP. At college I've grown out of it a bit, but it's an odd problem. People are just so ignorant and fake and they bother me. I still keep up a facade of likability even though I truthfully want nothing to do with them, because I'm not going to go out of my way to be an asshole. Hell, your family and your GF are all you need. Surround yourself with people that generally like/love you and you're set. I have a pretty solid group of friends here that I really like being around, and they keep me content. I don't need everyone else.
CommonSense
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Not always. People need to have some form of release.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
Do you work retail? If so, this is normal.
If the fake people bother you, why act fake yourself and pretend you like them? I find myself generally disliking a lot if people, but I'm mostly upfront about it, cause its too much effort to pretend to enjoy their company and life is too short.
If the fake people bother you, why act fake yourself and pretend you like them? I find myself generally disliking a lot if people, but I'm mostly upfront about it, cause its too much effort to pretend to enjoy their company and life is too short.
lastflowers
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Is it everyone you meet? Or certain people?
I have a dislike for a lot of people that I can have cogent conversations with. I often go to dinner with groups of people that I really kind of dislike.
If it is EVERYONE you meet, you might need to try to pinpoint why you dislke everyone. It very well could be some form of depression that is trying to force you to push away from everyone around you.
I have a dislike for a lot of people that I can have cogent conversations with. I often go to dinner with groups of people that I really kind of dislike.
If it is EVERYONE you meet, you might need to try to pinpoint why you dislke everyone. It very well could be some form of depression that is trying to force you to push away from everyone around you.
BocoDragon
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When I really think about why I like others... and I do, a lot.... it comes down to some kind of arbitrary feeling of admiration/fondness/respect for others. I can't really explain why I feel it, and you don't. Your symptom almost sounds sociopathic, except the fact that you like your family and GF means you aren't all bad... I dunno... is it really a problem?
GhostWriter24
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Even the good people that I have met, and that I really feel genuinely care about me (a former co-worker was texting me and my gf like crazy after I talked to him, then hadn't spoken to him in a few days afterward and he became worried) I will push away. What am I doing?
CommonSense
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CommonSense
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You're depressed and don't like yourself enough to let anybody in. A classic and extremely.common case.
Yeah behave like this longer and your gf will eventually leave you too, so better do something about it.
Canis lupus
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You need to see a psychologist, it will help.
GhostWriter24
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I'll second this, this is depression of some sort. I've been there.
You need to speak with a psychotherapist to determine if regular therapy sessions are enough or, possibly, if you need to get on some sort of medication.
CommonSense
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Do you smoke a lot of weed op? In school we discovered that in certain cases it can cause social apathy to an extreme.
lastflowers
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This is something that actually helped me somewhat. I grew both an appreciation and understanding of people with different backgrounds from me along with an appreciation for the fantastic background that my parents provided. I also felt sorry for the many youths within society that retail workers have to deal with, since we're all a bunch of prissy, self-obsessed twerps.
Retail also made me strive to do more with my intelligence than work retail. Seeing incredibly smart coworkers go nowhere 8 years after high school or being drug addicts is a pretty good motivator. Their inability to strive for a consistent state of living was astonishing to me. Paycheck to paycheck was not a life for me.
Now I'm surrounded by similarly minded people who are retail/consumer obsessed individuals that scoff at shopping at a kohls, yet they are also infinitely more giving and aide conscious than my previous retail coworkers.
People are weird. So, while I 'judge' a book by its cover and typically despise a whole large amount of people, my experiences tell me that people are so very very complicated. I only choose to stay around the people who provide me with interesting conversations and are a little less fake (to me) than everyone else. The rest, while still probably interesting and fascinating people (to their friends), bore the fuck outta me.
Please don't conclude my previous post as mocking, facetious, or otherwise. If it's really affecting your well-being, you should really seek help. It will be beneficial! You know you can't sit on your butt and hope it goes away. Do something about it. I like you on GAF.
I was the same way. I was very very depressed and didn't realize it. Still am and still happens somewhat often. Only realized it when my depression and insecurities turned into anger and I drove away my ex, even though I loved her more than anything and she was my best friend and the only person I liked.
I was incredibly depressed and I can't stress this enough. This isn't a normal way of thinking and you are limiting your happiness.
I was incredibly depressed and I can't stress this enough. This isn't a normal way of thinking and you are limiting your happiness.
GhostWriter24
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None whatsoever.
I too, hate a fuckton of people, but in my case it works as sort of a pre-judgement thing of not liking them until I actually meet them and they either prove I was wrong in thinking that or not.
It just comes from dealing with a lot of awful assholes in my lifetime. I just assume everyone's an asshole with an agenda or stupid or ignorant or fake until they show me otherwise.
In some particular ways I feel superior to everyone else and at the same time I realize that im actually way inferior for even thinking that way. Im not proud of it but it just sorta happens
It just comes from dealing with a lot of awful assholes in my lifetime. I just assume everyone's an asshole with an agenda or stupid or ignorant or fake until they show me otherwise.
In some particular ways I feel superior to everyone else and at the same time I realize that im actually way inferior for even thinking that way. Im not proud of it but it just sorta happens
CommonSense
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Yup, then it's time for some professional help buddy. Make the call.
OP, I know nothing about depression (which has been mentioned) so I'll just ask a few silly questions...
How does this "hate" manifest itself? If it's simply "not caring" I'm not sure how I'd file that if you know what I mean.
And you mentioned friends/good friends. I take it these were established from before you current mindset emerged? I think it's interesting that a part of you still label them as friends and I hope that offers a glimmer of hope!
Anyway, like I said I don't have any expertise so good luck.
How does this "hate" manifest itself? If it's simply "not caring" I'm not sure how I'd file that if you know what I mean.
And you mentioned friends/good friends. I take it these were established from before you current mindset emerged? I think it's interesting that a part of you still label them as friends and I hope that offers a glimmer of hope!
Anyway, like I said I don't have any expertise so good luck.
Red Liquorice
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Some of us hate everyone AND family, so I think you're doing pretty good.
Yeah, definitely with that in mind.
GhostWriter24
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No, I feel comfortable telling you all about this issue.
There are people I've met throughout my life who I would classify into the category of hatred. Someone who tried to kill my mother and sister. A racist dorm RA. People who'd (and I honestly don't mean to offend anyone, I know a few women who both would and have) fuck to get a job rather than earn it through merit and have succeeded.
CommonSense
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Reading that edit it seems you may have PTSD. Nobody here is qualified to help you. All I can say is thank god you're alive and I am sorry that happened to you sir.
I've seen your edit man (and I think I remember a thread on GAF?), come on... you gotto get that out your system and I know it seems to be said a lot but seek some help.
Good luck.
Ok, so even before the edit I was going to present this conclusion:
You feel comfortable with us...why? We're complete strangers. You'll never see us in real life. We're "safe" people to confide in because you don't really have to trust us. We can vanish from your life with a click of a button.
So that says that you have a reason to not trust people in real life and to fear getting close to people.
Now, coupled with the edit, that really confirms what I was already theorizing.
Seek professional help, and look into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder to be safe.
I.. honestly think CommonSense is exagerating a bit here.
Not in that you should seek some professional help to find out whats up, but I dont think we should be throwing out names of conditions around where the prescription to help your issue might be easier than you think
Overly thinking about yourself as if you were sick or with a serious condition might make you spiral into something worse. Just get a check up from a professional, see what he/she tells you and only pay attention to that.
Not in that you should seek some professional help to find out whats up, but I dont think we should be throwing out names of conditions around where the prescription to help your issue might be easier than you think
Overly thinking about yourself as if you were sick or with a serious condition might make you spiral into something worse. Just get a check up from a professional, see what he/she tells you and only pay attention to that.
This was my reaction as well. (I have two friends who both suffer from it.) Let me know if you need help w/ getting resources for it- I can reach out to one of them and see if he has any suggestions on where to turn.
CommonSense
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Salsa is correct. Without evaluating you personally all I am doing is pissing into the wind.
It's still solid advice, only that it he shouldnt act on it without reaching to a professional with a background on recognizing the real situation in this kind of thing
CommonSense
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I concur. At the very least he should attend a victims of a violent crime (yes it exists) meeting group and see how they have dealt with this horrible issue.
Stop reading this topic and go to a professional with an open mind. You've admitted to yourself that you have a problem and you know you need to do something about it. You're obviously not ignorant of this fact so the one equation left is having the balls to face your problem head on.
GhostWriter24
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It's not so much when I'm with them, it's the feeling that takes place afterward. Almost as if there's been some sort of betrayal without something like that even taking place.
It's an immediate animosity before I even get to know them.
Quick question OP. Do you have an account on any mainstream social networking site?
Meh, it can be hard to find good friends nowadays. I found ever since social media took off I found myself talking to less and less people, and I'm not talking the early Facebook days, I'm referring to the last 3-4yrs. I keep in touch with maybe like 4 really good friends I've had since High School. Lucky for me my gf hates social networking and doesn't use it.
While it can be good for certain things, I hate what it can do to people, and what it's doing to this generation. You'll have a friend you meet, then they act NOTHING like they do in person once they're on Facebook or Twitter saying dumbshit for likes, it's annoying as hell. It's like they are looking for some kind of acceptance sometimes.
I don't even really use my Twitter to follow friends anymore, mainly, Game, Sports, and other things related to my interest. My FB collects dust, and all me and my close friends do on there is troll each other or lol at stuff people say and arguments (the Presidential Debate turned my FB into goldmine of lol worthy stuff).
But yea OP, it's really up to you, regardless of what annoys you, you ultimately make the choice to not keep in touch with them. Maybe you're just not a people person, idk. Lol.
Meh, it can be hard to find good friends nowadays. I found ever since social media took off I found myself talking to less and less people, and I'm not talking the early Facebook days, I'm referring to the last 3-4yrs. I keep in touch with maybe like 4 really good friends I've had since High School. Lucky for me my gf hates social networking and doesn't use it.
While it can be good for certain things, I hate what it can do to people, and what it's doing to this generation. You'll have a friend you meet, then they act NOTHING like they do in person once they're on Facebook or Twitter saying dumbshit for likes, it's annoying as hell. It's like they are looking for some kind of acceptance sometimes.
I don't even really use my Twitter to follow friends anymore, mainly, Game, Sports, and other things related to my interest. My FB collects dust, and all me and my close friends do on there is troll each other or lol at stuff people say and arguments (the Presidential Debate turned my FB into goldmine of lol worthy stuff).
But yea OP, it's really up to you, regardless of what annoys you, you ultimately make the choice to not keep in touch with them. Maybe you're just not a people person, idk. Lol.
winston_pr
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You have been the victim of a serious crisis. That comes with heavy luggage emotionally. It is not rare for people who have been victims to attacks or other crimes, war or similar fear for losing ones life to suffer PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). It can manifest in the most subtle ways. Individual talk therapy or even group-therapy can really help and I really recommend you get the support you deserve from a professional in PTSD/Trauma. You don't even have to like your therapist, just trust that this person will have as his/her sole mission to guide you towards less aggregated pain and help bring the "real you" back again.
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