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HR typically doesn't care about racism, so nothing will happen.

Sucks, but I'm used to it. Can't wait to deal with more diet racism wherever I work.
 
More power to you then. They pretty clearly were repeating what you previously said about having a limited amount of empathy. Most people don't have a cap on that, and thus he was questioning it.

Everyone has a limit to their empathy. If you believe otherwise you are either a messiah or have never truly tested to see the limits of care you can afford. I turn down high paying positions because I am empathetic to the ills of society. I worked in non-profits fighting educational inequality, schools servicing special needs students, and now hospitals saving lives. I concentrate my empathy into goals like that. Not granting it to some Trump supporter who hypothetically may have lost his job for being a bigot. Nah, sorry, that's just not important enough for me to dedicate supportive emotions to. I literally cannot be empathetic in understanding their ignorance or bigotry. That is my limit.
 
If you had a problem with this person you should have confronted him, not straight to his employer. You come off as a malicious coward asking for company to your post action misery. You know you wanted to ruin the person, just be honest with yourself and realize that you are capable of letting your emotions get the better of you over a facebook post, no matter how lame or shitty it was.
 
If you had a problem with this person you should have confronted him, not straight to his employer. You come off as a malicious coward asking for company to your post action misery. You know you wanted to ruin the person, just be honest with yourself and realize that you are capable of letting your emotions get the better of you over a facebook post, no matter how lame or shitty it was.

Damn, dude said "malicious coward" lol

If only people could get that heated about racism 🤔
 
Reporting people who aren't even your co-worker and trying to get them fired is ridiculous. What's next, back to Mcarthyism, getting people into relocation camps for not having your same exact views? Yes, those are extreme next steps and a hyperbole on my part, but the more people push stuff like the OP did the more we are moving towards a very scary world. It seems like the majority of people are happy the dude might get fired just because he is a Trump supporter.

Also, the first pic was in very poor taste but wasn't exactly racist. The 2nd pic he posted was more disgusting IMO, why the hell are you even going to this guy's Facebook in the first place since it sounds like you aren't even Facebook "friends" with him?

Well be honest, most people saying they are happy are saying so because of the racist imagery, not so much Trump. Although one poster and I had some exchanges on page 8 about Trump supporters/employment.

The only thing now I'm still waiting on is for the OP to clarify whether it's a private or public FB page, as I do have moral issue with private profile content being sent to an employer who has no means to normally view said content without permission. That is an overarching principal, not something unique to this asshole. Employers shouldn't have more access to your life than you are willing to share in person or publicly, whatever the content is. From status updates to pictures to x. It is an invasion of privacy, however for the 20th time, you are responsible for the shit you put on the internet. Still if it's a private profile and people in this topic who have been quick to congratulate the OP with the minimal information provided don't at least consider privacy from work/employment then yes, I'll be a bit worried about the attitudes of some in this topic (I can empathise with the outrage and conclude the guy is an asshole, but privacy is not something to take lightly). If it's public my earlier advice still stands for the OP and his conscious, and in regards to the work finding out it's just tough luck if the profile is fully public.

If the above has zero thought put into it, then what is next? Everyone and anyone emailing otherwise private profile shit to peoples work just to try and get a reaction? Drunk photos? Pictures of people high? Snide statuses about customer service/where they work? (people blow off steam sometimes you know... even although they pretend in work it's the best job ever) Privacy does need to be respected, even for assholes, and yes even on social media if someone has a private profile you have been granted access to. Which is why reporting tools exist and although we've discussed FBs lack of action, as I said on the last page that is on them. FB is a private company that has to be held accountable for enforcing their T&C, and citizens shouldn't just charge off for vigilante justice every time they come across an asshole online and are worried/impatient about FB sorting it out.

Lastly if the profile was public and then the guy made it private after the complaint, whatever was public once is still fully public knowledge. That's mainly because the content poster knew his/her profile was public at the time of the content being posted. The potential difference here is the poster not knowing someone they have added is cataloging their otherwise privacy restricted content and sending it off without their permission to an employer. There is some nuance to privacy, especially online. Anyway, I'm at least hoping the OP can give me a definitive answer on this, for my own curiosity.
 
Sorry for ditching the thread. I had to finish work, mow my lawn, and make dinner for my wife and I.

Sometimes empathy gives me powerful anxiety when I hurt others. Even if they're shitty people.

The support in this thread had been tremendous. I don't have an anger issue. Today was the hardest day of work I've had in several months. I lashed out, but still think racists should be held accountable.

This person's Facebook profile is completely public. I know him through a friend, and I think most of us add acquaintances to be nice.

I am a 911 operator and police and fire dispatcher. While it's true I'm not on scene, my job is incredibly stressful and today it was exceptionally so.

I thank all of you who showed support in this. It'll allow me to sleep tonight. I'll be here for a few hours if anyone has direct issues they want me to answer.
 
Sorry for ditching the thread. I had to finish work, mow my lawn, and make dinner for my wife and I.

Sometimes empathy gives me powerful anxiety when I hurt others. Even if they're shitty people.

The support in this thread had been tremendous. I don't have an anger issue. Today was the hardest day of work I've had in several months. I lashed out, but still think racists should be held accountable.

This person's Facebook profile is completely public. I know him through a friend, and I think most of us add acquaintances to be nice.

I am a 911 operator and police and fire dispatcher. While it's true I'm not on scene, my job is incredibly stressful and today it was exceptionally so.

I thank all of you who showed support in this. It'll allow me to sleep tonight. I'll be here for a few hours if anyone has direct issues they want me to answer.

Just to be 100% crystal by public I mean you can view all his posts WITHOUT having him added. Not that he appears in the public search, or when clicking through profiles. Just asking as you said

most of us add acquaintances to be nice

If you mean I could go on his profile and see all these posts without adding him then I drop my privacy concerns and it becomes completely about what you wanted to do, and how you feel about it.
 
Thinking badly of Obama is not the same as being racist.

You really overreacted, honestly. And while nothing can be done now, you really should think about what you're doing before you do it in the future. I don't advocate for the idea of getting people in trouble at work due to their speech outside of work.

Yup. For the record I don't agree with the meme in any way either. Wrong but I wouldn't call it racist. I've seen much, much worse.
 
Yup. For the record I don't agree with the meme in any way either. Wrong but I wouldn't call it racist. I've seen much, much worse.

His feed is full of stuff like this.

This meme for example.

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Although people don't seem to be fazed by this one either so I dunno
 
Just to be 100% crystal by public I mean you can view all his posts WITHOUT having him added. Not that he appears in the public search, or when clicking through profiles. Just asking as you said



If you mean I could go on his profile and see all these posts without adding him then I drop my privacy concerns and it becomes completely about what you wanted to do, and how you feel about it.
Yes. It is completely public. My wife is able to see all his posts and information despite not being his 'friend'.

Lol, that is pretty funny, come on.

No, it isn't.
 
Yes. It is completely public. My wife is able to see all his posts and information despite not being his 'friend'.



No, it isn't.

Thanks for clearing that up. Glad I posted about privacy but I feel better knowing it's all public. Still not the way I would have handled it, but what is done is done and you'll only know yourself how you feel.

Lol, that is pretty funny, come on.

On South Park, in a comedy show or behind closed doors with friends? Some GAFers would be hypocrites to say they never chuckle at politically incorrect jokes within environments where pushing boundaries are expected or privacy allows it and there is no harmful intent. Lots of dark and crude humour goes along the horrible sides of humanity to try and produce a "laugh" where there is otherwise mass pain and suffering. Humans have long tried to use humour to cope with situations of great despair. On a random white dudes public FB who is pro-Trump? Chances are there are other factors to worry about.

Context matters. The person delivering something like that isn't Chris Rock in an 18+ comedy club.
 
Sorry for ditching the thread. I had to finish work, mow my lawn, and make dinner for my wife and I.

Sometimes empathy gives me powerful anxiety when I hurt others. Even if they're shitty people.

The support in this thread had been tremendous. I don't have an anger issue. Today was the hardest day of work I've had in several months. I lashed out, but still think racists should be held accountable.

This person's Facebook profile is completely public. I know him through a friend, and I think most of us add acquaintances to be nice.

I am a 911 operator and police and fire dispatcher. While it's true I'm not on scene, my job is incredibly stressful and today it was exceptionally so.

I thank all of you who showed support in this. It'll allow me to sleep tonight. I'll be here for a few hours if anyone has direct issues they want me to answer.

You did good op, I would have done the same, zero tolerance for racism, I don't care if it's a friend or a loved one, don't care if it's a joke or not. Sure it pisses people off,but the sensible ones and can and do change. Spend your empathy on those who can be reasoned with or want to improve themselves. Those who don't tolerate this fucking out of date and frankly archaic line of thinking. Diet racism is still racism, no matter how well dressed up it is. Now matter how 'funny' it is.
 
HR typically doesn't care about racism, so nothing will happen.

Sucks, but I'm used to it. Can't wait to deal with more diet racism wherever I work.

This is so true, in my last work there was a guy with images(memes) making fun of aboriginal and black people posed on the windows, it was a ground level so everybody who walked next to the office was able to see them, HR never did anything and the guy was never in trouble.
 
If you are friends with him on facebook, or just nosey enoug to snoop his profile...you have no business spreading what is on his personal page.

People are very capable of seperate personal and work lives and facebook is very much personal if it not a business page.
 
Well, one thing is for sure, Dr. Benton Quest: if I am your coworker, I personally would not be feeling comfortable working together with you. Who knows? One day you might dislike me for whatever reason, and then when you're having a bad day you will immediately report any mistakes I make to the HR in the interest of getting rid of me.

I wouldn't want working with colleague like that.

Edit: Wait:

I need to clarify a few things. I do not consider this person a friend, and they are not a co-worker of mine.

You two are not even work colleague? You actually did this to someone and the HR of another company? Damn.
 
I'm really envious of this whole HR concept and process. I'm active duty military, we don't have that specifically. When you first join, you hear crazy stuff about what someone may have said or done, and you are legitimately thankful that you are not the one that has to fix it. As time goes by, you progress through the rank structure. Next thing you know, you are the one taking someone off to an office and discussing/documenting the problem. Even if it was something that got him or her arrested, you still have to deal with it directly. You have to be professional and detail exactly how they messed up. This often leads to apologies, pleading, crying, or further insubordination. Needless to say it can be really uncomfortable. Can't wait to have a HR office that handles this kind of stuff.
 
need a few things to consider, does he have a wife? how many children does he have? do they have 2 dogs or 1 cat? is his house on mortgage? maybe his mother is depending on him for medication
 
Nothing wrong with a stupid politically incorrect joke. Don't take yourselves so seriously, everybody. You're preaching to the choir here, might as well have a laugh while you do it. Unless, of course, that's problematic.
 
gonna start doing this to all the communists i see on facebook making gulag jokes and talking about wanting to kill cops. Thanks for the idea OP!
 
If it's public, his employer likely already knew about it. Not saying you did the right or wrong thing, but it was probably already known.
 
HR typically doesn't care about racism, so nothing will happen.

Sucks, but I'm used to it. Can't wait to deal with more diet racism wherever I work.

Wow. While I won't rebut your point I'd say it depends on where you work. Demonstrable racism would be apocalyptic where I work.
 
People who post stuff like that these days should expect an it to come back eventually. Hell I'd expect they kinda do at this point. Maybe its a weird sexual thrill for them to post something stupid then get reprimanded for it.

Maybe thats the leap you need to make instead of expecting it to ruin his life.
 
Wow. While I won't rebut your point I'd say it depends on where you work. Demonstrable racism would be apocalyptic where I work.

Banana is right. I mentioned it on the bottom of the last page, but when I reported someone for this behavior, I faced retaliation until the day I resigned.
 
Unless somebody is advocating violence or criminality, going out of your way to fuck them over for an act of speech, even a shitty one, that may not even have anything to do with doing their job well is pretty low, if only for the collateral damage it could do to people that rely on them.
 
Unless somebody is advocating violence or criminality, going out of your way to fuck them over for an act of speech, even a shitty one, that may not even have anything to do with doing their job well is pretty low, if only for the collateral damage it could do to people that rely on them.

This. Sorry OP, I was with you unitl I read that you don't even work with the guy. Now I think your just self righteous.
 
Sorry for ditching the thread. I had to finish work, mow my lawn, and make dinner for my wife and I.

Sometimes empathy gives me powerful anxiety when I hurt others. Even if they're shitty people.

The support in this thread had been tremendous. I don't have an anger issue. Today was the hardest day of work I've had in several months. I lashed out, but still think racists should be held accountable.

This person's Facebook profile is completely public. I know him through a friend, and I think most of us add acquaintances to be nice.

I am a 911 operator and police and fire dispatcher. While it's true I'm not on scene, my job is incredibly stressful and today it was exceptionally so.

I thank all of you who showed support in this. It'll allow me to sleep tonight. I'll be here for a few hours if anyone has direct issues they want me to answer.

Some more support coming your way. Although I have witnessed it, I have never reported someone. But I 100% back you on this. If he wants to publicly post racist jokes, the public can do with it what they please. I hope he gets a stern warning or even fired.

Didn't read the entire thread but I hope this guy doesn't work with you as a dispatcher...
 
I wouldn't worry about it OP, as evidenced by this thread lots of people seem to sympathise with him. He'll be fine.
 
Racists are not productive, normal members of society and should not be treated as such.

They are social lepers. Cast them out once exposed.
 
Do I feel sorry when a racist posts racist garbage on Facebook and gets caught? No. Now would I have emailed HR? Probably. Of another workplace though? Eh.

This benefits black people he may have been in contact within his workplace. Don't be a fucking racist ON FACEBOOK THEN. How fucking hard is that?
 
Wait is this thread really full of fucking white people telling black people what fucking counts as racism? Fucking hell.

Diet racism is still racism you fucking wankers.
Edit: DP.
Also see my second post.
 
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