Mercury Fred
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That's good.Saoh said:
Also, if it's a real thing between you two, the trust will grow and then maybe unprotected sex will be something you have to look forward to down the road.
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Gayming-Age: Ever considered having/had unprotected sex?
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Also, if it's a real thing between you two, the trust will grow and then maybe unprotected sex will be something you have to look forward to down the road.
Mercury Fred said:
Plus, frankly, it's not just your partner you're trusting, it's the last couple people they had sex with prior to being tested. and they people THEY had sex with prior to being tested, and so on. I mean, I'm not saying never consider it under any circumstances, it's definitely an enjoyable experience, but just be CAREFUL as heck about it.
Jugendstil
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This is a really tricky subject, because barebacking is something that has become increasingly fetishized by a segment of the gay community, especially as HIV meds become more advanced and HIV stops being seen as an automatic death sentence. While I feel very strongly about reducing the stigma surrounding being HIV+, there is a very fine line between hedonism and nihilism when it comes to embracing unsafe sexual practices. Is there a right answer? No. It's a choice that everyone makes for themselves, and it's sad but some people weigh their options and decide to make an unsafe and potentially self-destructive choice. It's something I've struggled with myself. The only thing you can do is look at the facts and know that using a condom drastically reduces your risk of transmission and if nothing else, provides you a certain peace of mind.
Father_Brain
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Saoh said:
For what? That you're in a relationship with someone more sexually experienced than you are? Nothing wrong with that, last I checked.
Father_Brain
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Saoh said:I know, it´s fine with me too but GAF could say "GO AND TEST EVERY GUY HE´S BEEN WITH. DON´T DO IT, NEVER!!!! HE´S NOT A VIRGIN" :lol
I don't think anyone here would suggest that. You're definitely overreacting.
Father_Brain said:
I am, but I never know what to expect from here. I have to say all the posts are very helpful and informative. color me surprised.
And if everything is done properly and discussed and we earn each other´s trust, the experience is something I could be looking forward in the future.
dustytruly
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to be completely honest... i would never trust someone enough to fuck me bareback after only 3 months... i'd wait a year... and get to know his friends and family...
so when you get infected with HIV you can tell all his friends and family what a douchebag liar he is
and if you don't contract HIV (i doubt you will... HIV isn't rampant among gays like everyone makes it out to be... (although from a gay to straight ratio.. i'm sure gays are more likely to have HIV)) then you'll have the benefit of knowing he's truthful and nice
but yeah... don't do it.. not after only 3 months... even if he says he hasn't been with anyone else and he's super clean and blah blah... people are good at lying about shit like this... (no pun intended)
so when you get infected with HIV you can tell all his friends and family what a douchebag liar he is
and if you don't contract HIV (i doubt you will... HIV isn't rampant among gays like everyone makes it out to be... (although from a gay to straight ratio.. i'm sure gays are more likely to have HIV)) then you'll have the benefit of knowing he's truthful and nice
but yeah... don't do it.. not after only 3 months... even if he says he hasn't been with anyone else and he's super clean and blah blah... people are good at lying about shit like this... (no pun intended)
Love To Love You Baby
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Mercury Fred said:
Do you trust me, Fred? :-\
dustytruly said:
I´ve already met his mom, dad and brother, uncles, aunts and some cousins. His best friend and other friends. And even two of his ex-bf (one of them happens to be my friend). but yeah, I´m not saying I´m gonna do this tomorrow, I wanna talk with him first, wait some more time, get tested and eventually decide.As I said, we´re committed to each other but I´m not gonna rush into things.
Mercury Fred
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But we hardly know each other.Love To Love You Baby said:
Alright, just stick it in me.
krypt0nian
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I'm putting it in your butt.
SnakeswithLasers
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How contagious is the AIDS anyway?
I mean, let's say you lay it into some dude who has AIDS and you do it unprotected. Are you like guaranteed to contract it?
Can you get AIDS if you're blood-brothers with someone?
I'm totally serious--my whole life it has been ZOMG AIDS IS THE MOST CONTAGIOUS THING EVAR--but is it REALLY?
I mean, let's say you lay it into some dude who has AIDS and you do it unprotected. Are you like guaranteed to contract it?
Can you get AIDS if you're blood-brothers with someone?
I'm totally serious--my whole life it has been ZOMG AIDS IS THE MOST CONTAGIOUS THING EVAR--but is it REALLY?
Father_Brain
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SnakeswithLasers said:
Not sure what the odds are, but when HIV is transmitted by anal sex, I believe it's usually in the other direction (pitcher to catcher). Doesn't make that safe, though.
Mecha_Infantry
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Did NOT see that this is for the gayming age 
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SnakeswithLasers
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Saoh said:
I mean, I'm sure you CAN, I'm just wondering if the transmission is really, "BAM! You've got AIDS!" Or if it is more of just a possibility.
SnakeswithLasers
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HolyStar said:
I'd never even considered putting alcohol up my ass.
that´s twistedKibblesBits
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Some people out there enjoy alcohol enemas...ick.
Bare sex is incredibly dangerous, you should wait much much longer and then decide when you feel you know enough about him and how much you care for each other. The risks outweigh the benefits.
The benefits being how amazing it feels. But don't do it! No really! Don't.
Even though it feels. so. awesome.
Bare sex is incredibly dangerous, you should wait much much longer and then decide when you feel you know enough about him and how much you care for each other. The risks outweigh the benefits.
The benefits being how amazing it feels. But don't do it! No really! Don't.
Even though it feels. so. awesome.
KibblesBits
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Saoh said:
it feels good, but it's bad for you! what's so confusing about that? :lol
KibblesBits
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Liquid said:
Guys, get vaccinated for Hep. It's recommended for gay menfolk.
courage201
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If ur in a monogamous relationship-- and u know that ur bfs not a douchebag, then I say go for it--- just get both parties tested first before starting-- u dont know his history nor he knows yours.
Greatness Gone
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This. Fucking crazy barebacking fools.Teh Hamburglar said:
It's already been said but just get tested. If he checks out and you're comfortable with it, go for it. After not using condoms with my girlfriend for over a year, having to use them for about 2 months while she was switching birth control sucked. Also, your ass is really not that fragile OR dirty. Granted you should just generally be cautious, but it's not like you're gonna tear the entire way as soon as you get it in, nor are you going to get a UTI or hepatitis or some shit (pun not intended). If you're REALLY that concerned, just hop in the shower afterwards. I would get in the shower regardless, but I have a genital piercing (which is already healed, just a precaution).
At the very least, the two of you should get tested. i've gone bareback and frankly, once you eliminate the risk of HIV it's way too tempting not to go bareback all the time. Anal's more boutique than de rigeur for me, but condoms are more of a hindrance with anal than with [straight] vanilla sex.
Also, i guess it's worth asking here given the context, but how do i ask for a hepatitis A vaccination? i'm assuming i just ask my doctor. i know it's recommended for trips abroad to certain regions so i know it's not too exotic a request.
Also, i guess it's worth asking here given the context, but how do i ask for a hepatitis A vaccination? i'm assuming i just ask my doctor. i know it's recommended for trips abroad to certain regions so i know it's not too exotic a request.
The nay-sayers don't surprise me one bit. We've been inundated with this idea for years that there's nothing remotely worthwhile to bareback sex in the gay community, as the risk supposedly outweighs any "perceived" benefit.demonix69 said:
More to the point, OP, your boyfriend may be trying to use this as some sort of litmus test to how much you trust him. Nothing says "I totally trust how faithful you are to me" like gambling with STDs to some people.
Door2Dawn said:
Well jeez, the bottom has to douche first. I wouldn't want poo all over my dick, covered or not.
Anyway, there's probably no way I'd ever have unprotected butt sex unless it was after YEARS of commitment. Maybe not even then. Most gay dudes are just way too shady and ignorant. I've heard the whole "durr, I'm clean because I don't swallow" line out of a lot of guys. Which is why even oral is out of the question.
Terrell said:
yeah, some people see the act as the ultimate proof of trust but not me. i see it as a sexual act of a different kind, that could be good and joyful if done properly, he better not give me the "don't you trust me?" crap. i couldn't be selfish enough to change the condition of his health/life.
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