Interfectum
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This. Whether she keeps the baby or not irrelevant. The thread title should read "Ex-GF is pregnant, she's keeping it, I don't care either way as it's not mine."
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GF is pregnant, she's keeping it. (Abortion thread?)
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This. Whether she keeps the baby or not irrelevant. The thread title should read "Ex-GF is pregnant, she's keeping it, I don't care either way as it's not mine."
A lot of people view abortion as murder and, even if you disagree, it's hard to fault them for thinking that ending the progression of what would become a human life, is wrong. You must be willing to admit that, even if logical under the circumstances, plenty of people wouldn't want to commit murder.
I mean, if someone had a gun to your head and said: "You have to kill [insert other person], or I'll make your life and the lives of all your family exponentially harder, forever" it might be logical to kill that other person, but many people would understandably refuse. This is the scenario that your ex-girlfriend feels she is in.
It's not that hard to understand, if you try.
andthebeatgoeson
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Maybe he just wants to take advantage of that sweet no condom sex with a just-pregnant chick. Can't get pregnant twice, right?
Shia_Labeouf
Banned
Well, we already know she's willing to bang an ex. Get in there, OP.
LegendofJoe
Member
2nd Trimester baby, then bail after that.
This line made me crack up. The OP must be new to dating. Very few women are honest about the amount of guys they're fucking, as if it matters in the first place.
Drilbit777
Member
Bail out and let her give the kid for adoption. At least she should give that kid a chance at a good life with parents that can financially support it then live in poverty.
Read my post. I said never mind, i read it wrong the first time. Kinda weird to tell somebody to read when you didn't read lol.
Vicetrailia
Banned
Well some people will be waiting an awfully long time (early 30s) before they have children, and some will find that unacceptable. People should be good parents above all else, and that doesn't mean waiting until you have the ideal financial means to do so. But, a shitload of people will be bad parents regardless. People have less children these days simply because they can't afford it, so there's a more sound deterrent. But having one? People are going to do what they do.
entremet
Member
This thread has to be a troll.
Mossybrew
Banned
Perfect.
Being poor is still a life worth living. I also thing you are making this judgement from your perspective. I have famy that lived/live in what would be considered far more poor environments than people below the poverty line in the U.S. They don't feel their lives are a waste or some sort of doom sentence.
ZackieChan
Member
Yeah, a couple months doesn't mean exactly 8 weeks. Some real numbers would be helpful.
But if the child has three or four siblings, their parents have a lot less of their (already limited) time and financial resources to spend on them.
Ninja Scooter
Member
Bail the fuck out OP. This girl has got a lot of emotional baggage and a lot of things she is probably going to need to work out before getting in another relationship. Finding a new BF should be the last thing on her priority list.
LegendofJoe
Member
Word of advice to the uninitiated - once you have two kids you are officially outnumbered. And they get smarter and smarter everyday. It's awesome to see but it gets crazy from time to time. That said the kid isn't yours OP and she clearly has trouble making rational decisions so don't stick around. Find someone that has their business in order and stay with them long enough to know them really well before you decide to have children together, And then enjoy the ride, I am loving everyday of it.
Ganzlinger
Member
You have two options:
1. Bail
2. Out
1. Bail
2. Out
As someone who has been through three miscarages and now has 2 kids, its never as simple as some IDIOT men make it sound when they say have an abortion.
That is a person you are killing.
When I was younger I didn't have an opinion either way, I really wish people could be smarter and not make babies rather than killing them when they do.
It is sad that as humans we are physically able to produce life before we are mentally ready.
That is a person you are killing.
When I was younger I didn't have an opinion either way, I really wish people could be smarter and not make babies rather than killing them when they do.
It is sad that as humans we are physically able to produce life before we are mentally ready.
and here we go . gif
enanogrande
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I just want to say, xxracerxx you the real MVP for that first-post edit. Helped a lot.
bone_and_sinew
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Mighty Chin
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Everybody get off OP's back. He's clearly a smart dude, he's reads NeoGAF and watches YouTube Videos.
sooperkool
Member
Not your kid. Not your girl. Not your Problem. Not your concern.
PenDynasty
Member
Ahh the glorious cuckold thread.
Legit having trouble understanding the reasoning here...
1) She's no longer your gf.
2) It's not your kid.
3) ???
4) Concern over her keeping it.
I guess granted you're still friends you might be looking out for her financial well-being granted her single status and recent issues, but the way you've described the situation almost sounds like you're planning on being around in a fuller capacity relative to the kid...?
1) She's no longer your gf.
2) It's not your kid.
3) ???
4) Concern over her keeping it.
I guess granted you're still friends you might be looking out for her financial well-being granted her single status and recent issues, but the way you've described the situation almost sounds like you're planning on being around in a fuller capacity relative to the kid...?
Dynamite Shikoku
Congratulations, you really deserve it!
That's her decision. You broke up? Leave her alone.
The Purple Pill
Member
OP, you know what to do.
It's of course her choice to keep the child and all, but it's not your problem to fix her mistakes.
It's of course her choice to keep the child and all, but it's not your problem to fix her mistakes.
1. You guys are broken up
2. It's not your kid
3. Why does this thread even exist?
It's clearly her choice and you have basically nothing to do with it at this point. I get that you care to some degree, you wouldn't have posted about it otherwise. But if she doesn't want an abortion, that's up to her, logical or otherwise.
Edit: You beat me to making basically the exact same post.
2. It's not your kid
3. Why does this thread even exist?
It's clearly her choice and you have basically nothing to do with it at this point. I get that you care to some degree, you wouldn't have posted about it otherwise. But if she doesn't want an abortion, that's up to her, logical or otherwise.
Edit: You beat me to making basically the exact same post.
The real hurt person here is her current child and (if) she decides to keep it, her next. Because those people had no choice in this manner. They are innocent and at the whim of their mothers poor mistakes. And now you have decided to become a part of a host of bad decisions that will continue.
In her personality? Such as having a baby with a alcoholic? Why is her cheating on you and getting pregnant again a stray from the norm, when you can clearly see its precisely what any decent person would be able to predict?
I know i know, you wont listen because you are into her and you will ride this til it goes even worse. Good luck
Vincent Alexander
Member
Bail.
Mr Fahrenheit
Member
What I was going to say. What's the hang up here?
Tinfoilhatsron
Banned
Christ use the word former dude.
Major red flags, as has been mentioned. Bail quickly. Don't put yourself in a harsh situation (bad baby daddy, bad decisions, two kids) for years to come. You would be quite literally doing another man's time and money, burning your youth away, and you don't even know her well enough to say she's worth it. My money is on no.
I dated a woman with two kids who she had with an alcoholic loser ex. Like others have said, she will always have a connection to that man because of the children. She would tell me should was no longer talking to him, he was kind of abusive, but would sneak out and do all sorts of things for him like drive him places and pick up food and deliver it. She was at his beck and call. I was really into her but I couldn't have a relationship with him too.
Good luck OP. Unless you feel like this girl is the one and you know she feels the same way about you, I would get out while you can because you are in for a real mess. A kid to raise that is not yours is the best case scenario, a mother leaving you for her ex or sneaking around with him the worst case scenario, especially if you start to feel like that kid's father.
Good luck OP. Unless you feel like this girl is the one and you know she feels the same way about you, I would get out while you can because you are in for a real mess. A kid to raise that is not yours is the best case scenario, a mother leaving you for her ex or sneaking around with him the worst case scenario, especially if you start to feel like that kid's father.
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