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GF's friend doesn't like me

You're a doctor and that's not good enough financially? Lol what. She sounds like a terrible person.
 
It was one my wife's friend's birthday the other day and she told me to wish her a happy bday. I did, but I called her by her sister's name by mistake. hasn't spoken to me since.

Another friend of hers was showing me a picture of her boyfriend and I said, "Wow! I literally saw a guy who looked just like him standing in line in front of me at the airport yesterday!" She had been suspicious of him for a while, this prompted a fight and they broke up.

Another friend was telling me about her police training and how it really made her sore. I suggested she get a massage. She said, "Are you trying to say you want to massage me or something!?''

My life turns into Curb Your Enthusiasm sometimes.
 
The sad truth is that not everyone is going to like you.

The best you can do is be polite to this woman when it's required and ignore her when it's not.
 
That girl needs a reality check. Based on what you have said, she's the type that would expect the opposite sex to pay for everything for her, in other words, she wants everything handed to her just because she's a feminist who was clearly raised wrong.

She's not your gf, so ignore her but also be weary of her because your gf hangs out with her, she may influence her to act/do certain things.

Regardless if you're into your residency right now or making actual physician $$$ that girl doesn't need to be in either of your lives.
 
Her best friend has a man with his head on straight. She's jealous of her, but insists on taking it out on you. Probably lowkey wants to fuck you just to ruin the relationship.
 
I feel very bad for anyone who comes into contact with this little girl. It's even sadder for her.

I hope she is capable of growing up.
 
If you have been in a fantastic long term relationship with your gf and not shit talked any of her friends at this point, then I admire the hell out of your restraint. How long have you been together?
 
Incitemaybe said:
I feel very bad for anyone who comes into contact with this little girl. It's even sadder for her.

I hope she is capable of growing up.
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For all the women like her, there are more than enough men who are happy to play her game. She'll be fine until she gets a little older and loses her looks.
 
Just bide your time and wait for the right moment...something like where she accidently electrocutes herself and stops breathing then you swoop in and give her CPR and save her life and impress the hell out of everyone, then she HAS to accept you as "one of the good ones!"
 
basically, you like your GF's friend? That's the vibe i'm getting from the OP. Nothing you've posted implies that she has any sway over your GF, so I'm guessing you subconsciously want your GF's friend...?
 
Some here are really eager for others to just abandon their relationships asap

If your gf doesn't get influenced by it, let it be for now. If she does or her "friend" becomes a dealbreaker for you, you'll have to talk with her about her "friend".
 
You need the check ya gf. She should be checking her friend when she talks about you like that..
But your a doctor and I'm just a FedEx manager so what the hell do I know.
 
Since you and your GF talked about this OP then for now I guess just keep on enjoying life. If your GF starts demanding gifts for spending time with you again then thats when you have to take a hard look and just cut that drama out. When you're in a relationship shit like this needs to be ironed out by either couple so if she isn't willing to cut that toxicity from her life then you may have to cut her out of yours.
 
The fact that your girlfriend maintains a close friendship with someone like that should set off alarm bells IMO.

I would get out now.
 
Your Entertainer said:
Has anybody ever had any experience with a SOs close friend disliking you?

I'm in a fantastic, long-term serious relationship with my GF. However, one of her close friends does not like me. The friend's much younger than everybody else. I got a cold vibe from her while in person initially, and my suspicions were confirmed after talking to my GF recently. To put it simply, her reasons are superficial (imo of course). I'm not tall enough (guys must be 6'2 or taller according to her, she's like 5'3" btw). I'm also not rich enough. The other day, while my gf was with her, she was hanging out with a mid 30s professional athlete who was driving them around around in his exotic car and bought her a $700 necklace while out. She told my gf "see, this is what a REAL man does!". Apparently, me being a resident physician (but 100k+ in debt and making a resident's salary) isn't enough, and I need to be spending "nearly every penny I have" spoiling my GF. LOL.

How should I handle this situation? Should I be concerned? I'm just worried as she has my GF's ear all the time being one of her closest friends; she also has occasionally tried introducing other guys to my GF. Apparently, she talks about this to my GF constantly, criticizing her for exerting any effort whatsoever. This came as a shock to me. All of her other friends/classmates love me. My GF and I split things very well, talk about things like adults, and have a great relationship. And yes I treat her like a queen. I don't want to criticize my GF's friend in front of her too harshly, nor try to tell her who she should and shouldn't be hanging out with.
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Did he buy the necklace for the friend or your GF?
 
If your GF can't see what a shitty person her friend is and you feel like she might actually be persuaded, then you wouldn't want to be dating her anyways.

You either trust her or you don't.
 
NastyBook said:
Her best friend has a man with his head on straight. She's jealous of her, but insists on taking it out on you. Probably lowkey wants to fuck you just to ruin the relationship.
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This so much. My wife's friend had done this crap to me since day 1 and it continues to this day after years of marriage. It's pure jealousy. She tried to get my wife to cancel the wedding the week of and claims I'm emotionally abusive which couldn't be further from the truth. She always tries to make my wife feel bad about not hanging out with her as much as she used to (hint we have a kid now who takes up all our time).

It's the most frustrating thing ever but as long as your GF realizes it's bullshit, you should be fine just ignoring her.
 
Sounds like an opportunity to determine whether your gf has an internal or external locus of control. Just talk to ur gf nicely about it and if she feels flustered about the drama, complement her that she is in control of herself, "don't let my opinions of her and her opinions of me dictate what you ultimately feel"
 
Talonluck said:
This so much. My wife's friend had done this crap to me since day 1 and it continues to this day after years of marriage. It's pure jealousy. She tried to get my wife to cancel the wedding the week of and claims I'm emotionally abusive which couldn't be further from the truth. She always tries to make my wife feel bad about not hanging out with her as much as she used to (hint we have a kid now who takes up all our time).

It's the most frustrating thing ever but as long as your GF realizes it's bullshit, you should be fine just ignoring her.
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Genuine question, why didn't your wife tell them to fuck off long ago ?
 
Why the fuck are they still friends? OP, how would you feel if your best friend was constantly shitting on your GF? You’d tell that guy to fuck off wouldn’t you? Why doesn’t your GF? This girl sounds toxic.
 
Considering your GF seems to be relaying this to you, why haven't you asked her opinion on this already? That seems like the next natural talking point.
 
xaosslug said:
basically, you like your GF's friend? That's the vibe i'm getting from the OP. Nothing you've posted implies that she has any sway over your GF, so I'm guessing you subconsciously want your GF's friend...?
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Not even sure how you got that out of the OP post.

I'm also firmly in the camp that the friend does not want to hit the OP. Some people are just garbage, and she probably feels embarrassed that her good friend that she hangs out with is dating a broke doctor. Just another gold digger.
 
xaosslug said:
basically, you like your GF's friend? That's the vibe i'm getting from the OP. Nothing you've posted implies that she has any sway over your GF, so I'm guessing you subconsciously want your GF's friend...?
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????????

Are you the Super High School Level Clairvoyant?
 
Your Entertainer said:
I’m worried this will happen. The other day my GF started complaining that I needed to buy her a gift if she were to “make the effort” to come over to my place, and that she wouldn’t spend a penny while staying with me.

I was floored. My GF later apologized profusely, and told me about her friend as above. Consequently, she had been hanging out with her friend like every day that week. Made sense as it was very, very unlike her to say that. Hearing it was frustrating. My GF begged me to please snap her out of it if she acts like that again. She’s usually extremely fair, laid back and reasonable, but it seems like a close friends influence can be very powerful if unchecked.
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