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[Talonluck]

Genuine question, why didn't your wife tell them to fuck off long ago ?

My wife is too nice. She realizes and understands but just won't end the "friendship". My wife's parents also love her and are blind to the issues/are too nice. They have basically come to realize the friend is full of shit and they don't believe her so no harm in letting her rant I guess. If it was my friend that pulled this crap, that friendship would be over.

 

[always crazy bacon]

This so much. My wife's friend had done this crap to me since day 1 and it continues to this day after years of marriage. It's pure jealousy. She tried to get my wife to cancel the wedding the week of and claims I'm emotionally abusive which couldn't be further from the truth. She always tries to make my wife feel bad about not hanging out with her as much as she used to (hint we have a kid now who takes up all our time).

It's the most frustrating thing ever but as long as your GF realizes it's bullshit, you should be fine just ignoring her.

This was the example I was looking for. The friend in the OP is jealous that her playmate has been taken away. Has toxic views on gender roles and I'd be really interested on what she'd say if asked what a "Real woman" is.

 

[hiro_x]

She sounds like a spoiled brat. Fuck her.

Fuck her.

Hmmm.. Don't do this OP!

 

[RenegadeXV8]

My GFs best friend of 10+ years tried to pull this shit on her.

A constant barrage of "Why doesn't he buy you anything?" or "I don't understand why you have to spend your own money when you have a boyfriend".

They are no longer friends.

 

[Pein]

I mean you’re GF landed a doctor not to be shallow but bruh, you can land a whole lotta ass by introducing yourself as a Dr lol.

Anyway warning signs with your GF with that demanding gifts, as for the friend looks fade and I’m sure she’s just riding the wave of pro athletes before she gets replaced by another one of the countless girls they probably have on hand.

 

[NH Apache]

Seriously, this is like the easiest open and shut case. I'm surprised you would even bring this here.

She's an obvious idiot. Ignore the bitch. Your GF should identify that.

 

[platypotamus]

I love all of the people saying that this friend sucking is an indictment against his girlfriend as if none of you guys have shitty friends... maybe, for example, like people who would tell OP to fuck his girlfriend's friend, for some reason

 

[Byakuya769]

I love all of the people saying that this friend sucking is an indictment against his girlfriend as if none of you guys have shitty friends... maybe, for example, like people who would tell OP to fuck his girlfriend's friend, for some reason

I’ve never had any friends who badmouthed my significant other for something superficial while trying to set me up with other people. That’s pretty rare.

 

[thiscoldblack]

Show her who's boss by stealing the athlete away from her. Have him buy you a more expensive necklace, too.

The only true path to take here.

 

[Sunset Samurai]

Simply put it sounds like the friend is jealous. She sees that you guys have a great relationship without being materialistic. She's a gold digger who thinks materialistic things can replace love.

 

[JigglesBunny]

Been in this position before, as long as your girlfriend is mature enough to ignore the opinion of her friend, you’ll be fine.

People are weird. Some will like you, most won’t, this girl sounds like a vapid gold digger if your description is accurate. I’ve known plenty of guys and girls like her, their opinions are usually worth less than a grain of salt.

 

[Machina]

Sounds like the last bitch you should be worried about

 

[ThisGuy]

Honestly, your girl should be getting to a point where she's choosing you or her. And you should be getting to a point where you need to ask yourself if you're cool with your girl keeping a friend who shits on you and tries to set her up with taller, richer men.


Ignore people telling you to ignore her. Relationships are work, and you got to put that work in. Don't get lazy. Her friend is obviously putting work in on her.

 

[platypotamus]

I’ve never had any friends who badmouthed my significant other for something superficial while trying to set me up with other people. That’s pretty rare.

I don't get the read that she was trying to set the gf up, it seemed more like she was being dumb and competitive over who had the better dude

 

[VariantX]

She needs to worry about her own situation than continuously trying to mess around in yours. Don't pay that fool of a woman any mind.

 

[Mister Wilhelm]

I would talk to your girlfriend about her because her actions you told us about are rude and seem to be overstepping. Also, if I was your girlfriend, I really would not want to hang around another woman like that.

It's frankly quite alarming that your GF allows someone to talk about you like this, and that a woman like that is the kind of company she likes to keep.

 

[Aselith]

I mean what are you going to do? Choke her out?

All you can really do is continue the relationship and try not to let her get you down.

 

[Owari]

My SO had a friend like that. They stopped talking to them. That’s what a good SO should do, without you bringing it up. The fact she’s entertaining her friends ideas means you should probably hit the gym bro.

 

[Polioliolio]

she hangs out with a trash person. if she doesn't realize it eventually you will probably need to move on

Probably something like this. All you can do is ignore that trash person though.

 

[Oxn]

It's frankly quite alarming that your GF allows someone to talk about you like this, and that a woman like that is the kind of company she likes to keep.

Yea for real. Even if she really values her as a friend knowing how she feels, she could atleast say to her "i understand how you feel, but can you stop bringing up this subject? Its disrespectful to my SO".

 

[BlueTsunami]

Sounds like shes trying to pull your SO into her empty existence. Misery loves company and it comes in many forms.

 

[shaneo632]

Your GF's friend sounds like a fucking cunt. I'd probably be a bit worried if my partner didn't call them on their shit and just took it, but it sounds like you two have a cool thing going.

And introducing her to other guys? That's straight up disrespectful. Jesus.

EDIT: OK reading other posts your GF is also giving red flags. Abort abort.

 

[Byakuya769]

I don't get the read that she was trying to set the gf up, it seemed more like she was being dumb and competitive over who had the better dude

“she also has occasionally tried introducing other guys to my GF...”

She’s all in on hating OP.

 

[IsntChrisL]

Yes, I've had that problem. The real issue isn't that this stupid chick doesn't like you, it's that your girlfriend likes her. That friend is going to be in your girl's ear constantly talking shit about you in some way or another. I don't have a solution other than try to steer your gf away from her. Because it's not likely this girl is going to warm up to you any time soon.

After reading the rest of your replies: fuck that chick. Seriously. She's toxic to your relationship and your girl's personality. Don't try to win her over. Going out of your way to impress a bitch like her is a fool's errand.

 

[Oxn]

Everytime i read a relationship thread, i always wonder, why is there no communication?

 

[Zugma]

If the description of this friend is accurate, you should be less concerned about why she doesn't like you, and more concerned about why your girlfriend is keeping company like this. Neither I, nor my girlfriend (or anyone's SO, for that matter) would keep friends that held such little respect for relationship with each other.

 

[DaytimeWhiskey]

I always find it funny to see a thread like "Cam Newton disrespects journalist" with everyone piling on him like he deserves but then come into a thread like this and see "bitch" or "c**t" being in like half of the posts

Everytime i read a relationship thread, i always wonder, why is there no communication?

Because for some reason people will talk to anyone about a problem except the person they should be talking to about it

 

[platypotamus]

“she also has occasionally tried introducing other guys to my GF...”

She’s all in on hating OP.

I admit to having missed that line, but I still think many of the reactions have been pretty excessive

 

[Ristifer]

I feel this is relevant.

 

[mr2xxx]

Your GF needs to put her in her place because that shits toxic for a relationship.

 

[GameAddict411]

She sounds like a terrible person to me. Material things and how tall a person is, is the least thing I worry about in partner. But it could also be said is that this woman could have been raised to think this way, as it was pretty common for women to marry men based on material needs in the past even in the west. You still haven't answered why is your GF hanging around a person like this? Not only she seems pretty awful to me, your GF seems to be alright with her badmouthing you in an undeserving way(if you were an asshole you would probably deserve that though).

 

[jwk94]

As long as your gf doesn't take this friend seriously, you have nothing to worry about.

 

[snickothemule]

Manlet thread detect....oh wait this ain't the misc.

Who gives a shit what some chick your not fucking thinks.

 

[MugiwaraCole]

Fuck her.

Interpret that how you will.

 

[Sai-kun]

sucks, man, but there's really not much you can/need to do. her friend is her friend and she's gonna be psycho until your GF has enough of her. my gf had a friend who was cool to my face most of the time but ended up telling my gf that i was mentally abusing her and all this other crazy shit. some people just don't like seeing their friends in happy places, weirdly enough.

 

[Shambala]

FTB

 

[jwk94]

I’m worried this will happen. The other day my GF started complaining that I needed to buy her a gift if she were to “make the effort” to come over to my place, and that she wouldn’t spend a penny while staying with me.

I was floored. My GF later apologized profusely, and told me about her friend as above. Consequently, she had been hanging out with her friend like every day that week. Made sense as it was very, very unlike her to say that. Hearing it was frustrating. My GF begged me to please snap her out of it if she acts like that again. She’s usually extremely fair, laid back and reasonable, but it seems like a close friends influence can be very powerful if unchecked.

Didn't see this. Yeah I'd break up with your gf.

 

[BobLoblaw]

Simply do not give a fuck. You do you.

Late, but this. How have you not already run out of fucks?

 

[Gunslinger]

Her friend is not your gf your good. Unless you developing feelings for her......

 

[Magni]

I'd be concerned why your girlfriend has such a "friend" in the first place

I think your bigger concern should be why your SO is fraternising with someone who constantly badmouths you and is introducing her to different men but ok

Why the fuck are they still friends? OP, how would you feel if your best friend was constantly shitting on your GF? You’d tell that guy to fuck off wouldn’t you? Why doesn’t your GF? This girl sounds toxic.

If the description of this friend is accurate, you should be less concerned about why she doesn't like you, and more concerned about why your girlfriend is keeping company like this. Neither I, nor my girlfriend (or anyone's SO, for that matter) would keep friends that held such little respect for relationship with each other.

Why?

 

[Cipherr]

I’m worried this will happen. The other day my GF started complaining that I needed to buy her a gift if she were to “make the effort” to come over to my place, and that she wouldn’t spend a penny while staying with me.

I was floored. My GF later apologized profusely, and told me about her friend as above. Consequently, she had been hanging out with her friend like every day that week. Made sense as it was very, very unlike her to say that. Hearing it was frustrating. My GF begged me to please snap her out of it if she acts like that again. She’s usually extremely fair, laid back and reasonable, but it seems like a close friends influence can be very powerful if unchecked.

Wow.... I mean, give her a chance to snap out of it. ALL of us have had experiences with bad influences, so its not fair to sort of burn your GF for this single outburst.

But its completely fair for you to worry a little bit considering that. You have quite a bit going for yourself from the sounds of it. To be honest, this probably doesnt help, but she has more to be worried about after that outburst than you do.

That 'chasing a rich ballplayer' shit is for the birds; it doesn't last, and the window and percentage of pulling it off is low. She will MASSIVELY regret it if she falls into that trap with her young naive friend.

 

[SquirrelWide]

Echo all the above about the friend.

Also, being north of 6'2" isn't all it's cracked up to be. We just kind of sigh when we don't fit into stuff. And by stuff I mean everything. (am 6'7")

 

[Count Dookkake]

Next time it's just the 3 of you, wait for your GF to leave the room.

Then ask the friend "Can your man do this?" and fart at her.

When GF returns, deny everything.

Do this every time.

 

[Bill R Boggess]

Her friend sounds like a superficial idiot and vapid to boot.

Also, I wouldn’t worry about the wealthy athlete; that guy will probably be broke by the time he’s thirty-five.

Meanwhile, you’ll still be a doctor.

 

[SaviorX]

No to derail, but doesn't anyone have friends that are somewhat the opposite of them?

Not a relationship as toxic as OPs appears to be, but more of a Yin/Yang type deal?

 

[illusionspark]

Does she also think that men should be aggressive and violent? Maybe she'd be impressed by your manliness if you knock out some of her teeth.

 

[platypotamus]

Does she also think that men should be aggressive and violent? Maybe she'd be impressed by your manliness if you knock out some of her teeth.

WTF is wrong with you?

 

[TheRealCanadianBros.]

Next time it's just the 3 of you, wait for your GF to leave the room.

Then ask the friend "Can your man do this?" and fart at her.

When GF returns, deny everything.

Do this every time.

Listen to this OP. Trust me, it works. Bonus points if your GF's friend is into it.

In all seriousness, keep an eye on the way your GF is acting, bro because it might get to the point that she will have to choose.

Kinda related: Years back I had an ex, her sister + her friend had her ear. The two of them were super toxic. Would talk shit about me, felt i wasn't good enough for her cause i didnt spend every cent on my ex. It got to the point where the sister and friend were trying to get her to hook up with random dudes. Things didnt end well between us to say the least.

Your sitch may yield a different outcome though, just be careful is all.

 

[joelseph]

Here's what you do: Everyone goes out drinking together, you get smashed and say something inappropriate to the friend, huge fallout ensues, you may come out okay in the end.

 

[Caramello]

Get out now dude.