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Girl Age: Letting Her Down Easy?
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PedroLumpy
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ProudClod said:
Alright nevermind how simple it is. The point is still the same, all you have to do is answer her question. Then you've been straight and up front with what you're about, and she can make her call as to if that's what she wants.
Asking girls for a wait-and-see (or even a NSA relationship) really isn't that terrifying. At the most, you'll be turned away. You never wanted a relationship -- at that point -- anyway, so you've lost nothing.PedroLumpy said:
Being honest in what you want from someone else is crucial because it allows you to be honest with yourself as well. Don't want to get stuck in a relationship too soon, or at all? Then make your voice heard so that you don't waste your and their time.
The Last Wizard
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what's with girls nowadays wanting to be bi, I have no problems with sexual orientation but it seems like they are trying too damn hard
The Last Wizard
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there aren't people who really do that to puppies rightmissbreedsiddx said:
shintoki said:
YOU CAN USE THIS OP!!! Tell her you want a serious relationship but ONLY if she is willing to commit as well and stop munching the carpet. When she says "no I don't want to do that", you can use it as an excuse to exit gracefully. Of course, if she goes the other way, you'll be married and have 4 kids inside of a year.
soundahfekz said:
Isn't hooking up equal to sex? I dunno what you young kids call it these days.
Magnus said:
People have tried to "convert" me. I then realized that sexuality is not a mix and matchable.
It just means we fooled around. It could imply sex, but in my situation, it didn't.
Haha, that's the catch though. As some people in this thread have suggested, she might just be saying some things without actually meaning it. Everyone knows that straight guys love lesbians. She might just be saying that shit for purposes of seduction or something.
You're right. Not even because of the moral implications of dishonesty. Although that matters to me as well. It's the best way to fix this situation. So that's what I'm going to do. Next time I see her, I'll tell her flat out. Currently, I don't want a relationship. I don't want all the baggage that comes with a relationship. But I am interested in her. She can take it or leave it.
yankeeforever2
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Do not have actually sex with this girl, I repeat do not, if she's this clingy from making out imagine the worst.
ForzaItalia
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ProudClod said:
Run...this is only the start of something scary:lol
SouthernDragon
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She's sending mixed messages
bail
bail
yankeeforever2 said:
Although I see where you're coming from, what if I make it abundantly clear that I am NOT interested in a relationship, and she still wants to fuck me? It would be immoral to lead her on for my own selfish intentions. But if she knows that I might only be a "fling", and still wants to fuck me, is that so terrible?
SouthernDragon
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She'll want to hook you first, and then use the sex as a reason to develop something more.
Don't be a fool.
Don't be a fool.
yankeeforever2
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Well the way you put it she can't take a hint that you don't want it, unless you convince her its just a fling, sex will just make it seem more serious to her. If you convince her its a fling for fun, go for it.ProudClod said:
Masta_Killah
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Be upfront. Tell her you dont want a relationship at the moment. Tell her she's cool but you're just not looking for one. Tell her you want to fuck around, since your still young and shit. It's a win-win since you'll either have a fuck buddy, or you've put her off so much she no longer wants to talk to you. 
shanshan310
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ProudClod said:
well, no. But if thats all your looking for at the moment tell her! Don't commit to a serious relationship just yet, especially if the girl expects you to but has said she isn't going to do the same.
WTF with these Girl-Age threads? Here is how you handle relationships with women when you want them to end: Put them on extinction. Tell them it's over/not going anywhere, accept the "good-bye hug" if she gets all sappy, then don't talk to them, don't call, don't take their calls or respond to emails. It works out best for both parties.
So, I was going to see her again, tell her I'm not interested in a relationship, and go from there. I've changed my mind. I'm not going to see her again. Holy fuck.
I haven't seen her since that night, and she's been sending bi-hourly text messages. I was sort of fine with that, until she said something like "You're going to leave me for the next girl, because they are easier" (out of FUCKING NOWHERE). Not only does it not make any fucking sense (considering, if I told her to come over right now, she'd drop whatever the fuck she was doing, and get on the first bus here), but it has the implication that I'm a dick who goes for easy girls. That, and me "leaving" her could only be achieved if we were together -- meaning she thinks we are.
Bailing the FUCK out.
I haven't seen her since that night, and she's been sending bi-hourly text messages. I was sort of fine with that, until she said something like "You're going to leave me for the next girl, because they are easier" (out of FUCKING NOWHERE). Not only does it not make any fucking sense (considering, if I told her to come over right now, she'd drop whatever the fuck she was doing, and get on the first bus here), but it has the implication that I'm a dick who goes for easy girls. That, and me "leaving" her could only be achieved if we were together -- meaning she thinks we are.
Bailing the FUCK out.
SapientWolf
Trucker Sexologist
So MarkMan is more of a man man?MarkMan said:
joeblackisback
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ProudClod said:
more like filled with sand you mean
J-Roderton
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No such thing bro.
universalmind
Member
ProudClod said:
Ask her to marry you.
systemfehler
Member
I would say go for it and get a taste of uhm ... her and if it doesn't feel right after a few weeks bail out. It is like with food you never have eaten before - try it first and spit it out if you don't like it but don't refuse to eat at all :lol
Seriously college, university IS the time to fool around, break hearts and get your heart broken.
Seriously college, university IS the time to fool around, break hearts and get your heart broken.
Mr.Squirrel
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Update for those that give a fuck:
On Monday(ish), I told her I didn't want a relationship. She seemed crushed. She didn't really text me or anything for the whole day. Then, something happened. One of her friends probably told her not to give up, because on Tuesday, she started texting me non-stop. I ignored all of her texts. I didn't respond AT ALL. But they kept coming, and coming, and coming.
"Why can't we be fuck buddies then?"
"Honestly, I don't think you should flat out say no. You should see how things go first"
etc. etc. etc.
Thursday was pubnight at my uni. I heard from a few friends that she wasn't coming, so I decided that it was safe for me to go. A few joints and a pitcher later, I'm talking to a few friends in the courtyard, having a good time, forgetting about everything that happened just a short week earlier.
Then, as if I was in some surreal nightmare, I see a familiar and frightening silhouette in the corner of my eye. As the silhouette advances towards me, my peripheral vision gets clearer, and clearer... Until I can make out who the person is. It's her. I stop talking mid-sentence. My jaw hanging inches from the floor. My mind is racing. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. I stand petrified for another 40 seconds. She's poking me. Repeating my name.
I finally turn towards her and say, "I... Have to go... Talk to a friend."
I turn around and walk. Into the building. Into the hallway. Around the corner. I break into a sprint and don't stop until I think I'm safe. Apparently, I was somehow convinced that she was chasing me. I wouldn't put it past her though.
I ran into some friends, we went to a bar, then ended up crashing at someone's residence. I haven't heard from her since that night. It's been 3 days. Success? I THINK SO!
On Monday(ish), I told her I didn't want a relationship. She seemed crushed. She didn't really text me or anything for the whole day. Then, something happened. One of her friends probably told her not to give up, because on Tuesday, she started texting me non-stop. I ignored all of her texts. I didn't respond AT ALL. But they kept coming, and coming, and coming.
"Why can't we be fuck buddies then?"
"Honestly, I don't think you should flat out say no. You should see how things go first"
etc. etc. etc.
Thursday was pubnight at my uni. I heard from a few friends that she wasn't coming, so I decided that it was safe for me to go. A few joints and a pitcher later, I'm talking to a few friends in the courtyard, having a good time, forgetting about everything that happened just a short week earlier.
Then, as if I was in some surreal nightmare, I see a familiar and frightening silhouette in the corner of my eye. As the silhouette advances towards me, my peripheral vision gets clearer, and clearer... Until I can make out who the person is. It's her. I stop talking mid-sentence. My jaw hanging inches from the floor. My mind is racing. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. I stand petrified for another 40 seconds. She's poking me. Repeating my name.
I finally turn towards her and say, "I... Have to go... Talk to a friend."
I turn around and walk. Into the building. Into the hallway. Around the corner. I break into a sprint and don't stop until I think I'm safe. Apparently, I was somehow convinced that she was chasing me. I wouldn't put it past her though.
I ran into some friends, we went to a bar, then ended up crashing at someone's residence. I haven't heard from her since that night. It's been 3 days. Success? I THINK SO!
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