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[Scarecrow]

Next time try asking her to go for a drink together or something. You'll be able to freely have a conversation in a relaxed environment. That is, if she accepts to go with you. If she doesn't, well, then the interest isn't mutual and you've saved yourself alot of trouble and time.

sounds like a plan. I just have to think of some stuff to talk about. I don't want to go full nerd with comic book talk.

 

[Veritas_]

I did this to Julie Stoffer in the E3 press room on year. I *really* wanted to talk to her too. Oh well.

Hmmm.

I just have to think of some stuff to talk about. I don't want to go full nerd with comic book talk.

Go with some of the basics, "What are you studying, where are you from, interests, etc" try and branch off based on her replies. Try to get her to talk about herself, ask questions but keep it natural. No interrogations. Odds are you'll land on the right topic and could spend hours talking about it.

*thumbs up*

 

[Tenks]

I appreciate your advice, but I don't train like most people. I'm a skinny, hard working, 20 year old male. Fat and salt content doesn't concern me, getting bigger and stronger does. Your suggestion might be applicable to me 15 years from now.

To be fair I used to always pound a ton of seasame chicken with a bowl full of white rice a few hours before a workout. I haven't done it in a while but it was always my goto pre-workout meal.


Also dating a 25 year old chick at 42 officially puts you in the creep zone.

(42/2)+7 = 28. Which still seems kinda creepy.

 

[Beer Monkey]

Also dating a 25 year old chick at 42 officially puts you in the creep zone.

Unless I were a woman with a 25-year-old dude. RAWR.

 

[NeoUltima]

Thanks for the advice on the last page PumpkinPie, Dries, heidern, Mr Cola, Darkness, and Jesse Jane.

 

[Sealda]

Report from the bed with a sleeping girl lying next to me.


So i have known this girl for a couple of months, but only the last weeks and days we have gotten to know each other very well.
The story

I had asked her out for tonight and after our class ended we went home to my place to chill out before hitting a bar and then a restaurant. We had a great time at my place, the bar and then at the restaurant. I payed for the dinner and i really felt like everything went super smooth, we really laughed a lot and were enjoying ourselves. Well, after dinner she went home with me to sleep over at my place! Bingo!, i was not out for sexy time since this was our first date but i thought a kiss would be to expected at-least. So i put on a movie and we went to my bed to watch it. So i bend over to kiss her and bang! Friend-zoned. I was 90 % it was the perfect moment for a kiss, everything that had been built up for the last days and hours went up in smoke.

Turned out she had no idea we were on a date or that i was interested in her. Well, it also turned out that she had never had any boyfriend which i think is because she is very shy. During all these months i had thought she liked me, she always texted me and hanged out with me during classes etc.

We actually talked about the failed kiss and she realized that she had been naive but man this was a big self-confidence breaker for me. I really thought i had this one in my hand. i mean i really saw us together and not just having sexy time for the sake of it. I guess we will never meet again outside college classes. I mean, how could she not had understood that this was a freaking date and not some hanging out with a friend. I payed for the dinner, we had a drink before, i really tried to look my best and i even invited her to come and sleep at my place. She is lying beside me now sleeping, but she seems kind a shocked. I really feel stupid but i want your guys opinion. The fact that she has never had any boyfriend makes me suspicious that maybe she is a bit immature. We are both 20 for your information. How can i sleep with this hanging over me, this will take weeks or even months to heal.

 

[BladeWorker]

Report from the bed with a sleeping girl lying next to me.

The story

So i bend over to kiss her and bang! Friend-zoned. I was 90 % it was the perfect moment for a kiss, everything that had been built up for the last days and hours went up in smoke.

Turned out she had no idea we were on a date or that i was interested in her.

Speaking as a girl...she's an idiot. She either led you on intentionally, or she's just so clueless that, in her head, she's not really 20, she's closer to...12.

Nudge her awake, tell her it's time to go home. Help her get there if need be (stay classy, after all) then forget her, and move on to a chick with brains enough to know you're on a date when you're on a date.

 

[Sealda]

Speaking as a girl...she's an idiot. She either led you on intentionally, or she's just so clueless that, in her head, she's not really 20, she's closer to...12.

Nudge her awake, tell her it's time to go home. Help her get there if need be (stay classy, after all) then forget her, and move on to a chick with brains enough to know you're on a date when you're on a date.

Yes, i feel kind of sorry for her because she was really clueless and now that i have heard about her life it seems like she did not have a good time in high school etc. I have tried to been classy, have tried to talk about it as much as possible since its still happening while tomorrow it will be archived and very awkward to bring up. I will not wake her up, because that would be kind of a douche "Hey, you wont sleep with me, well get the hell out here then". But yeah, i really regret that i jumped on this one. But feels very good to hear that i am not the idiot.

This is the second shy but cute girl i have dated its like i think i have found an unsharpened diamond but it always turns out that these girls have no reality check. Luckily this will be between me and her because we have no related friends.

 

[siddx]

Ive got an amusing tale that isn't really thread worthy...

So several years ago at the suggestion of a friend, I signed up for okcupid. After making my profile, I realized I didn't have any use for it since I picked up girls just fine irl.

So I ignored it, occasionaly recieving messages from random girls, most too homely or weird to respond to.

And then a little while back, I get 5 or 6 messages from different girls all at once. Not sure what the was about, but anyways, im ignore most of them...but two catch my eye. One of the two in particular is far more attractive than I'm used to seeing on that site. I respond to her message, we begin sending messages back and forth that get longer and more personal. We eventually move to email and facebook and all that nonsense.

Turns out she's a very cool girl, great sense of humor, very similar personality, fun to talk to, intelligent, and pretty. I've never bothered to use the internet for more than the occasional hook up...but this girl is really awesome, there is obvious chemistry, we live close to each other and she is very very obivously into me....

And then my buddy casually mentions to me that she looks just like my sister.

And now I can't unsee it.
She looks just like my god damn sister.
That is the last thing on earth, besides a parent, that I want to see when I look down at someone while having sex...god I hope it's just the pictures...

 

[paparazzo]

I do understand, it was the same for me and her. We were best friends, we developed feelings for each other and got intimate and that almost destroyed our friendship but we fought through it.

The same just happened to us between yesterday and today. Last night she texted me something about not choosing to date the other guy, which I found strange for her to be telling me this now, as I thought she had already broken it off with him earlier in the week. I couldn't contain myself and just kind of went off and told her why I was so frustrated not only with the way things ended, but how much it hurt to know she had just now decided not to date anybody. Turns out she did in fact break it off with the other guy right after she did with me and I felt pretty terrible for what I said to her, but there were some valid complaints I made, which she admitted to.

She texted me this afternoon, venting as much as I had, and she was pretty torn down from the things I said to her and ended up missing school because of it. I called her and we talked for an hour and I apologized multiple times and she was very understanding and forgave me. She told me it's ok and that she would be my friend and wants me to stop worrying about it. I really couldn't have asked for a better outcome after the mess we both made. She did say she thinks we should text each other less and I don't know if she'll want to see me outside work, but we'll get through that eventually.

 

[methos75]

The same just happened to us between yesterday and today. Last night she texted me something about not choosing to date the other guy, which I found strange for her to be telling me this now, as I thought she had already broken it off with him earlier in the week. I couldn't contain myself and just kind of went off and told her why I was so frustrated not only with the way things ended, but how much it hurt to know she had just now decided not to date anybody. Turns out she did in fact break it off with the other guy right after she did with me and I felt pretty terrible for what I said to her, but there were some valid complaints I made, which she admitted to.

She texted me this afternoon, venting as much as I had, and she was pretty torn down from the things I said to her and ended up missing school because of it. I called her and we talked for an hour and I apologized multiple times and she was very understanding and forgave me. She told me it's ok and that she would be my friend and wants me to stop worrying about it. I really couldn't have asked for a better outcome after the mess we both made. She did say she thinks we should text each other less and I don't know if she'll want to see me outside work, but we'll get through that eventually.

well that sucks, me and her really are still best friends and still do a lot together. Its cool now because we are both dating other people, and we all hang out together.

 

[jey_16]

So I go to a club meeting tonight, partially to maybe make some friends...but it is damn impossible to approach. If you see someone alone, they are always on a cellphone texting/facebooking. Fucking social media age makes it hard as hell for people like me to make new friends. Maybe I'm exaggerating the social media effect a bit but damn.

Any tips on how to approach people to, to just make friends, when you have basically no friends to begin with? I know for most of you this is laughable and you think it's common sense, but I have not often been exposed to many new people in my life. I'd rather not go into the life story as why I am how I am, but lets just say I can probably open up more to GAF than my own mom.

I wouldn't call myself shy necessarily, I have no problem with public speaking or talking if someone talks to me, I just can't make those 'friend' connections. I can't keep conversations, I got no problem talking if I have something to say. But my conversations rarely go beyond, for example, "what's your major?". Like how could I extend the conversation beyond talking about obvious general stuff like that? But of course if that did happen, eventually they would figure out I have no friends and thus they wouldn't want to be friends with me. I guess you could say I lack social skills. Surely you see the endless cycle I'm in. No skills no friends, no friends no way to build skill. FML

So...any tips/advice/motivation on how to approach/meet people to, to just make friends when you don't really have many current friend base to build off of?

Spoiler

damn this is embarrassing. That post is probably making me appear a lot more pathetic than I really am but w/e

i have been thinking about this a lot....i'm in exactly the same situation, i actually used to be quite sociable but after my mum died, i pulled back for a while and now i'm completely lost when it comes to meeting new people. I can actually hold up a decent conversation but getting there is the problem, basically no friends at the moment

atleast your making an effort in joining clubs etc. i'm on holidays from uni for a while and i cant imagine going to a club or bar alone....its a vicious cycle because if you don't go out, how the hell can you meet new people but how can you go out alone. I definitely agree that people are more likely to be interested in you when you already have some friends

its depressing.....i wish i knew what to do

 

[_Alkaline_]

Report from the bed with a sleeping girl lying next to me.


So i have known this girl for a couple of months, but only the last weeks and days we have gotten to know each other very well.
The story

I had asked her out for tonight and after our class ended we went home to my place to chill out before hitting a bar and then a restaurant. We had a great time at my place, the bar and then at the restaurant. I payed for the dinner and i really felt like everything went super smooth, we really laughed a lot and were enjoying ourselves. Well, after dinner she went home with me to sleep over at my place! Bingo!, i was not out for sexy time since this was our first date but i thought a kiss would be to expected at-least. So i put on a movie and we went to my bed to watch it. So i bend over to kiss her and bang! Friend-zoned. I was 90 % it was the perfect moment for a kiss, everything that had been built up for the last days and hours went up in smoke.

Turned out she had no idea we were on a date or that i was interested in her. Well, it also turned out that she had never had any boyfriend which i think is because she is very shy. During all these months i had thought she liked me, she always texted me and hanged out with me during classes etc.

We actually talked about the failed kiss and she realized that she had been naive but man this was a big self-confidence breaker for me. I really thought i had this one in my hand. i mean i really saw us together and not just having sexy time for the sake of it. I guess we will never meet again outside college classes. I mean, how could she not had understood that this was a freaking date and not some hanging out with a friend. I payed for the dinner, we had a drink before, i really tried to look my best and i even invited her to come and sleep at my place. She is lying beside me now sleeping, but she seems kind a shocked. I really feel stupid but i want your guys opinion. The fact that she has never had any boyfriend makes me suspicious that maybe she is a bit immature. We are both 20 for your information. How can i sleep with this hanging over me, this will take weeks or even months to heal.

As blade said, this girl is not worth it. Either she's cruel and led you on the whole time (getting a free meal out of it as well) or she is just incredibly stupid and immature for a 20 year old.

It's obvious that she is not attracted to you, but she should have indicated this to you before the date. Otherwise she was just stringing you along.

 

[Eggo]

Report from the bed with a sleeping girl lying next to me.


So i have known this girl for a couple of months, but only the last weeks and days we have gotten to know each other very well.
The story

Just curious, were you kino-ing her before the attempted kiss? Holding hands, arm around her waist/shoulder, light touch on the knee?

 

[BladeWorker]

Yes, i feel kind of sorry for her because she was really clueless and now that i have heard about her life it seems like she did not have a good time in high school etc. I have tried to been classy, have tried to talk about it as much as possible since its still happening while tomorrow it will be archived and very awkward to bring up. I will not wake her up, because that would be kind of a douche "Hey, you wont sleep with me, well get the hell out here then". But yeah, i really regret that i jumped on this one. But feels very good to hear that i am not the idiot.

This is the second shy but cute girl i have dated its like i think i have found an unsharpened diamond but it always turns out that these girls have no reality check. Luckily this will be between me and her because we have no related friends.

Yeah, don't bother with pity or trying to give girls like that a reality check. They won't hear you. It's up to her girlfriends to do the proverbial smack upside the head there.

In the meantime, start looking at why you're going after the "shy, cute" girls instead of the ones who are able to carry out a conversation without blushing (so to speak).

 

[Hyams]

EDIT: Actually, never mind.


In other news, thanks for the thread. It's been great reading, and has given me great advice. Keep it up, y'all.

And Combine: keep going. I am now emotionally invested in you getting laid.

 

[BladeWorker]

'sup guys. Awesome thread.

I appear to have friend zoned myself by talking and joking about sex with the girl. I wasn't even aware this was possible. Thought she was interested in me, until she described me as her gay friend.

She's quite a conservative person, but I managed to get her to open herself up to me sexually (talking about it, not physically), which I assumed was a step in the right direction, until she said that this meant we couldn't be anything more than friends, and thus I was like a gay friend to her.

Wasn't emotionally invested in the whole thing, so it's not a big blow - I'm more amused by the whole situation than anything, really.

Any suggestions on how to proceed, or even if I should?

The talk should match the physical. Flirtation matches with a touch to the arm, a hold of the hand. Dating goes along with some snog. Etc.

If all you do is talk without follow up, then she stops assuming you want to get in her pants. And then you're on the yellow brick road to friendzone.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Hyams]

The talk should match the physical. Flirtation matches with a touch to the arm, a hold of the hand. Dating goes along with some snog. Etc.

If all you do is talk without follow up, then she stops assuming you want to get in her pants. And then you're on the yellow brick road to friendzone.

Clearly my editing skills have failed me. :lol


Oh well, thanks for the advice, man.

 

[_Alkaline_]

Clearly my editing skills have failed me. :lol


Oh well, thanks for the advice, miss.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Darkatomz]

wait

MIND BLOWN

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Sealda]

As blade said, this girl is not worth it. Either she's cruel and led you on the whole time (getting a free meal out of it as well) or she is just incredibly stupid and immature for a 20 year old.

It's obvious that she is not attracted to you, but she should have indicated this to you before the date. Otherwise she was just stringing you along.

She is the latter. By the way i have now followed her to the train. I woke her up and said in-disguise "Leave, i cannot sleep when your in my bed".


I doubt she has even been in love in anyone and i am questioning wether or not she is even attracted to men, at-least not me. Maybe her own ethnicity (korean) but she said no to wether or not she liked korean guys. I am thinking her body maybe never produced enough hormones to produce sex-lust. She mumbled something about not wanting to be in a relationship just to be in it. I mean, maybe she has not even kissed a guy, i think she has not.

She said before stepping onto the metro: "Next time ill pay for the dinner". "Yeah sure + (and in my mind: NOT!)" i said. But yeah, she is cute and charming, great chemistry but what do you do. She had her chance because i have been really nice to her, helped her get to know other people in our class. The reason i even started talking to her was because she seemed lonely. I should have known better. Its like 05.30 in the morning here, should be said.

 

[Hato-kun]

wat

Junior attempt at comedy?

 

[PumpkinPie]

At least you know where you stand, you don't want to get strung along by a girl who isn't interested any more than you already have. Time to move on to someone new I guess.

 

[Rayven_king]

well my ego's just gone sky high

I just got this girl to admit she wants to fuck me feels so good now to back her into a corner on when she wants to come to my house :lol

 

[Ultima_5]

Here's a little story I got to tell...

Prologue:
There was this girl I knew back in high school that I had a crush on but I never told her or anything (I was really shy. Awkward teen years and what not). We were kind of friends and talked to each other in classes but never did anything out side of school. Anyway she graduated and went to college out of state (she's a grade above me). A year later, I graduate and make a facebook to stay in touch with people from high school, and we become fb friends. We start talking in chat and texting (we haven't talked since she graduated so more than a year). Around october, she tells me how she can't keep going to her out of state school due to expenses, and she is transferring to the same school I am going to (!). So of course I am incredibly excited, and start being more flirtatious and what not. I plan on seeing how well we get along in person, and possibly becoming more than friends.

Last Week: My friends and I move into our dorms on saturday, and she moves in on sunday. She keeps texting me about how we need to hang out, and eventually we do so on monday. We end up walking around campus and then go out for pizza. Everything seems to go well. The next day we have class, and I send her a text asking how classes are going. She responds a few hours later and mentions how she has to think about something. Three or so hours after that, she sends me a text saying "Don't hate me, but I am transferring to a different school" (a school back in the town where we went to highschool). Keep in mind, she's been here for maybe 3 full days. I tell her how i feel its a rash decision, but it's her life and she can do what she wants et cetera.

Epilogue: I haven't talked to her since that day, and I doubt I will for another few months. It's not that I'm angry or anything, but I think she fells bad.

Summary: High school crush transfers to the same college I'm attending, and I get excited about the possibility of a relationship developing. After 3 days after moving in, she is transferring to a smaller, shittier school back back in the same town we went to high school at. I know I did nothing wrong, but It's still an awkward situation involving a girl and I need a place to vent... thanks for reading

 

[Ace 8095]

Went to a small party a roommate and my cousin last night. It was a pretty good party with quite a few single girls available. I talked to nearly everyone there, but focused specifically on the girls. I talked to this one cute girl for a few minutes, and was then introduced to her cute friends. A little while later they were dancing by themselves, so I joined them. I had a good time as dancing with 4 girls usually indicates, and went to talk to some more people. Here’s where it starts to go downhill.

My cousin is bad with women. Not bad in the sense that he's afraid to talk to them, he's just always a drunken asshole when he does. I'm sure you've all meet the guy that needs to get liquored up before he has the confidence to talk to girls. But by that time he's already too drunk to carry on any intelligent conversation, starts to become a real asshole, and is on a constant quest for the girl’s number. This is my cousin, and he actually ran the 2 girls I was interested in off last night. I was pretty pissed.

Luckily the two girls sent me friend requests on facebook this morning, so I'm going to try and initiate some follow up with them. I've got to do something about my cousin though. He's the exact opposite of how I want to behave when I go out, and I can't deal with his immaturity much longer.


On a different note my best friend’s girlfriend just broke up with him after 3.5 years and he's devastated. He's trying to hide his emotions, but I know this is the worst he's ever felt. I've never been in a long relationship, but can someone who has give me some advice on how to help him out. Today we're going to watch Tarantino movies and eat 70sbig, but I want to provide some emotional support directly to the problem.

 

[Beer Monkey]

A friend hit on a hot lone chick in a bar and got her number and a very enthusiastic response. I play internet detective for him and find her facebooking an hour earlier about a big fight with he husband...oops she said she was single.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Xun]

God dammit.

At the pub an insanely beautiful girl approached me, she wished to know who I was and I introduced myself to her.

My friends were leaving, and I decided to go with them since she was briefly speaking with someone else.

What the fuck is wrong with me, jesus christ.

I'll never let this go.

 

[Ultima_5]

Fuck her before she leaves

Well she did just send me a text asking if I was upset... and I do visit home quite often...

 

[fmcato]

Ok, time for my dilemma:

I'm still dating the girl from 1st November, and things have gone awesome.

Still, I'm starting to feel burned by what I consider a lack of touch on her part: she regularly drops her ex and later flings into conversations. It's been 3 days in a row now, and in totally unexpected contexts:

Saturday:
Me - So that Comedian is good, his accent from X region is hilarious.
Her - Oh, that guy I dated for a year was from there too!
Me - (blanks out, pause)... A-hah.
Her - Errr... but he was boring as hell. All the whole time talking about politics and stuff, blah blah blah

Sunday:
Me - That girl friend of mine failed the admission for X job, she's feeling quite down.
Her - My ex applied too (he cheated on her like fucking 8 years ago), he also failed. I wonder if he ever got around for that... I always told him he should have studied further, blah blah blah.
Me - (Looking out the window) Hmmm...
Her - Ehm... What's up?
Me - You know, I've already told you getting your past relationships into a conversation puts me off.
Her - Ah, sorry.

And I changed the topic.

Today, by phone:
Me - So my father started dating my mother when he was 19 and she was 15, I jokingly told her he was a cradle robber (or whatever it's like in English) and she laughed and told me she was quite mature for her age, hah hah
Her - But there's nothing wrong with that!
Me - I agree, but today people are quite touchy about that. I guess those were other times.
Her - Oh, still happens. I made out with that guy who was 21 when I was 16.
Me - ...
Her - Ah, was only one night, it was cool back then cause he was older but nowadays I look back and think he was still immature...
Me - Yeah, right. Anyway I must take care of some things now, as I said I'll phone you to meet when I'm free.
Her - See you!

So GAF: I'm too touchy or what? We are almost 3 months together and we've gone already about our prior relationships (hers: 1 serious, 5 flings - Me: 1 serious, 2 flings) and I'm okay with both of us having our love experiences. But I don't like to constantly bring mine up in conversations, neither to hear hers daily... but she does! And I've told her already I don't feel right about that (more or less by the time she'd gone over the cheating of her ex for 2 times in a week).

Am I hearing alarm bells or am I acting too insecure?

Gonna go out with her now, will gladly read answers, both serious and hilarious/insulting.

 

[Az]

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Even though I understand your frustration, it might be that she is just too honest. Most of the times when you talk to your current partner and it reminds you of some ex you keep it to yourself. You should be worried if she kept on metioning the same guy, over and over again.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

God dammit.

At the pub an insanely beautiful girl approached me, she wished to know who I was and I introduced myself to her.

My friends were leaving, and I decided to go with them since she was briefly speaking with someone else.

What the fuck is wrong with me, jesus christ.

I'll never let this go.

You played it right. You'll see her again just when you've forgotten about her, and she'll be intrigued at how you just let her go when other men stuck to her.

 

[fmcato]

Even though I understand your frustration, it might be that she is just too honest. Most of the times when you talk to your current partner and it reminds you of some ex you keep it to yourself. You should be worried if she kept on metioning the same guy, over and over again.

Yeah, that's more or less it. We've been honest to each other since we want things to work out, and I trust her and stuff. But still it gets me in a bad mood.

Thankfully, it looks like she just remembers previous guys cause of random things. Which is normal, I remember certain girl whenever we pass by a house she used to live in... but I shut up about it even if I already told her once, goddamit!

I think I'll just continue to let it show whenever she makes that, so she finally gets the point:
Mentioning previous dicks = putting me off.

 

[Az]

Went to a small party a roommate and my cousin last night. It was a pretty good party with quite a few single girls available. I talked to nearly everyone there, but focused specifically on the girls. I talked to this one cute girl for a few minutes, and was then introduced to her cute friends. A little while later they were dancing by themselves, so I joined them. I had a good time as dancing with 4 girls usually indicates, and went to talk to some more people. Here’s where it starts to go downhill.

My cousin is bad with women. Not bad in the sense that he's afraid to talk to them, he's just always a drunken asshole when he does. I'm sure you've all meet the guy that needs to get liquored up before he has the confidence to talk to girls. But by that time he's already too drunk to carry on any intelligent conversation, starts to become a real asshole, and is on a constant quest for the girl’s number. This is my cousin, and he actually ran the 2 girls I was interested in off last night. I was pretty pissed.

Luckily the two girls sent me friend requests on facebook this morning, so I'm going to try and initiate some follow up with them. I've got to do something about my cousin though. He's the exact opposite of how I want to behave when I go out, and I can't deal with his immaturity much longer.


On a different note my best friend’s girlfriend just broke up with him after 3.5 years and he's devastated. He's trying to hide his emotions, but I know this is the worst he's ever felt. I've never been in a long relationship, but can someone who has give me some advice on how to help him out. Today we're going to watch Tarantino movies and eat 70sbig, but I want to provide some emotional support directly to the problem.

First thing I would do is tell him to cut the shit out. And don't let him talk you down and deny it, just make sure he understands that cock blocking is not cool. If that doesn't work, the only way to solve it is to limit your time with him.

Regarding your best friend, the only thing you can do is spend as much time as you can with him. My current wife and I split up couple of years ago (before I was married) after I bought a house and engaged her, and it killed me. The only good things I remember from those months were my buddies cheering me up and not leaving any time for me to be miserable.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Ok, time for my dilemma:

I'm still dating the girl from 1st November, and things have gone awesome.

Still, I'm starting to feel burned by what I consider a lack of touch on her part: she regularly drops her ex and later flings into conversations. It's been 3 days in a row now, and in totally unexpected contexts:

Saturday:
Me - So that Comedian is good, his accent from X region is hilarious.
Her - Oh, that guy I dated for a year was from there too!
Me - (blanks out, pause)... A-hah.
Her - Errr... but he was boring as hell. All the whole time talking about politics and stuff, blah blah blah

Sunday:
Me - That girl friend of mine failed the admission for X job, she's feeling quite down.
Her - My ex applied too (he cheated on her like fucking 8 years ago), he also failed. I wonder if he ever got around for that... I always told him he should have studied further, blah blah blah.
Me - (Looking out the window) Hmmm...
Her - Ehm... What's up?
Me - You know, I've already told you getting your past relationships into a conversation puts me off.
Her - Ah, sorry.

And I changed the topic.

Today, by phone:
Me - So my father started dating my mother when he was 19 and she was 15, I jokingly told her he was a cradle robber (or whatever it's like in English) and she laughed and told me she was quite mature for her age, hah hah
Her - But there's nothing wrong with that!
Me - I agree, but today people are quite touchy about that. I guess those were other times.
Her - Oh, still happens. I made out with that guy who was 21 when I was 16.
Me - ...
Her - Ah, was only one night, it was cool back then cause he was older but nowadays I look back and think he was still immature...
Me - Yeah, right. Anyway I must take care of some things now, as I said I'll phone you to meet when I'm free.
Her - See you!

So GAF: I'm too touchy or what? We are almost 3 months together and we've gone already about our prior relationships (hers: 1 serious, 5 flings - Me: 1 serious, 2 flings) and I'm okay with both of us having our love experiences. But I don't like to constantly bring mine up in conversations, neither to hear hers daily... but she does! And I've told her already I don't feel right about that (more or less by the time she'd gone over the cheating of her ex for 2 times in a week).

Am I hearing alarm bells or am I acting too insecure?

Gonna go out with her now, will gladly read answers, both serious and hilarious/insulting.

IMO....
1) you're acting insecure. why does hearing about it bother you? get to the bottom of that question and you'll understand you're insecurity

Spoiler

you're girl (is she your gf?) has fucked other guys before. prolly swallowed, had all kinda dick in her mouth, prolly been t-bagged a couple times before. get over it!

2) tell your broad "look bitch either stop bringing up past relationships to me cuz it's disrespectful, or take your funky ass somewhere else. you gotta be willing to walk away if you feel disrespected.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[y2dvd]

So the bisexual girl I've been kinda seeing hinted that she wants to do a threesome. She said she wouldn't mind having another girl, but the stipulation is in the future it will have to involve another guy. She said it in a half-jokingly way, but I told her there's no way I'd have another guy around. She played it off like the whole threesome talk was a joke, but I know she still wants to do it.

GAF, would you have a threesome (2 girls and yourself) with a girl you don't feel too strongly about if it means sharing her with another dude in the future?

Maybe I could just have it with another girl and then just break it off afterwards. XD

 

[DY_nasty]

So the bisexual girl I've been kinda seeing hinted that she wants to do a threesome. She said she wouldn't mind having another girl, but the stipulation is in the future it will have to involve another guy. She said it in a half-jokingly way, but I told her there's no way I'd have another guy around. She played it off like the whole threesome talk was a joke, but I know she still wants to do it.

GAF, would you have a threesome (2 girls and yourself) with a girl you don't feel too strongly about if it means sharing her with another dude in the future?

Maybe I could just have it with another girl and then just break it off afterwards. XD

I used to date an openly bi-sexual girl. *The real kind, not the drunk college chick that just loves to make out and party kind*

The situation you're talking about... Its not a small issue and its gotta be addressed pretty quick - if you want a serious relationship with her.

Otherwise, FHUTA x 2 3some ftw. Don't bother trying to ride the fence either. You'll just waste your time and she'll be unaffected because compared to you, she's got twice as many fish in the sea.

 

[Xun]

God dammit.

At the pub an insanely beautiful girl approached me, she wished to know who I was and I introduced myself to her.

My friends were leaving, and I decided to go with them since she was briefly speaking with someone else.

What the fuck is wrong with me, jesus christ.

I'll never let this go.

You played it right. You'll see her again just when you've forgotten about her, and she'll be intrigued at how you just let her go when other men stuck to her.

Yeah I hope so.

I go to the pub a fair bit, so there's a strong chance I'll see her again (though I've never noticed her there before).

But the fact she approached me has already boosted my confidence up, so that's a plus I guess.

 

[jamesinclair]

Re: Guy who got dumped after 3.5 years. He's going to be hurting today, tomorrow, 3 months from now and maybe even a year from now. How to help....don't bring up the girl, not even to diss her. Try to distract him. Be a good wingman.


Re: Threesomes. They're relationship busters because most (but not all) girls develop jealousy issues after it. "You were looking at her more than me" etc etc.I think girls secretly dream that during a threesome you'll focus 100% on her and make the other girl cry.

 

[Beer Monkey]

Went out with 26 year old last night (not 25 as I thought). Told her that GAF says it's creepy for a guy in his 40s to date women in their 20s. :lol

Her laughing response was that she's been married, traveled the world, lived abroad, and that she finds guys her age to have not experienced much of life and that she doesn't have as interesting of conversations with them as with someone like me.

 

[Wiseblade]

I was kind of hoping I'd never be posting in this thread...

I'm wondering if player-GAF could give me some advice on how to get from introduction -> conversation? Basically, I'm confident enough to introduce myself to a girl, but after that things tend to fall apart. I'm pretty confident about everything that follows, it's just getting into a conversation that I struggle with.

 

[Jayge]

Went out with 26 year old last night (not 25 as I thought). Told her that GAF says it's creepy for a guy in his 40s to date women in their 20s. :lol

Her laughing response was that she's been married, traveled the world, lived abroad, and that she finds guys her age to have not experienced much of life and that she doesn't have as interesting of conversations with them as with someone like me.

You told her that an internet forum with a thread about how to build confidence/talk to girls said that your date was going to be creepy *simply based on your age* without considering how much creepier that made it? I assume you were more tactful than that but the idea of it made me :lol

 

[Beer Monkey]

You told her that an internet forum with a thread about how to build confidence/talk to girls said that your date was going to be creepy *simply based on your age* without considering how much creepier that made it? I assume you were more tactful than that but the idea of it made me :lol

Heh, no, it fit into the conversation better than that (she was talking about what her family thinks about her dating older guys when we were talking about general family meddling in our lives) and I didn't mention that the nature of the thread is helping young guys with confidence issues or even that the whole 40s/20s creepy thing was specifically about me. "some guys in a forum I belong to think...". She also pointed out the whole cougar thing and how much of the opposite situation she sees lately.

 

[Exhumed]

Wow

Never went off on a girl like that before! I talked to flaky girl. Not so much as talked but as completely pwned her and told her what I truly thought about her. Yup, I'm never having sex with that girl but I felt so relieved

Did the same myself on saturday evening. Basically told her to "lose my number as she wont be needing it". After some insults being thrown my way, told her to fuck off and that was that. Got about 10 messages afterwards and an apology the next morning but I'm done with that shit. Feels good knowing I was able to walk away, despite several of my friends completely dissaproving. Too bad she acted so sweet around them but they don't see the evil side like I had. Perception is a blessing, yet can be a total bitch. :lol

 

[jamesinclair]

Heh, no, it fit into the conversation better than that (she was talking about what her family thinks about her dating older guys when we were talking about general family meddling in our lives) and I didn't mention that the nature of the thread is helping young guys with confidence issues or even that the whole 40s/20s creepy thing was specifically about me. "some guys in a forum I belong to think...". She also pointed out the whole cougar thing and how much of the opposite situation she sees lately.

Girl/Dating Age: Where to begin?
Rule # 1: Do not mention that you frequent an online forum.
Rule #2: Do not even hint that you could possibly ever think about frequenting an online gaming forum.