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[The_Inquisitor]

Dude, I've only skimmed this thread but every time I see your avatar I stop and read. You are fucking harsh.:lol

He has a point. Constant texting makes you look desperate. I disagree about not initiating a text with women period. It's ok to text them everyone ONCE in a while to check up on them. The trick is to initiate conversations less than 50% of the time.

Also throw your generic weather talk the texts the hell out. Try to catch girls off guard in texts. If they say they look ugly today don't be a fucking puppy and tell them that they are beautiful every single time. Make a play on those kind of texts. I usually will do things along the lines of "It's ok, I am having a bad hair day myself," or "I look like a cave man today with my beard."

Yeah it may seem stupid. But you know what that does? It opens a avenue to something called a CONVERSATION. If you just tell them no you're always pretty every time, the most they are going to be able to say is "oh thanks" and then you are left with dead silence. Doing these things leads a lot of girls to tell me I am funny, which is good because chicks like guys who make them laugh obviously.

Comments like above will usually net you a compliment by a lady. The more she is complimenting you, the more interested she is most likely to get. That then leads to asking her how her day is and you can move on from there.

I may be crazy though.

 

[Nome]

He has a point. Constant texting makes you look desperate. I disagree about not initiating a text with women period. It's ok to text them everyone ONCE in a while to check up on them. The trick is to initiate conversations less than 50% of the time.

Also throw your generic weather talk the texts the hell out. Try to catch girls off guard in texts. If they say they look ugly today don't be a fucking puppy and tell them that they are beautiful every single time. Make a play on those kind of texts. I usually will do things along the lines of "It's ok, I am having a bad hair day myself," or "I look like a cave man today with my beard."

Yeah it may seem stupid. But you know what that does? It opens a avenue to something called a CONVERSATION. If you just tell them no you're always pretty every time, the most they are going to be able to say is "oh thanks" and then you are left with dead silence. Doing these things leads a lot of girls to tell me I am funny, which is good because chicks like guys who make them laugh obviously.

Comments like above will usually net you a compliment by a lady. The more she is complimenting you, the more interested she is most likely to get. That then leads to asking her how her day is and you can move on from there.

I may be crazy though.

Great advice here. Even if you want to be the nice guy and open up to someone, the last thing you want to do usually is to show her your hand. Play it slow, be a bit coy, and work it slowly.

It's also good to talk to someone IRL, but texting and talking online is still good to start with since you can think about what you say for as long as you want.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Combine]

I feel like this is the whole thread summed up in a single bullet point.

Everyone: stop texting women. They text you, and you only respond if it's absolutely necessary, and when you do, it's concise and hopefully cocky/funny. I don't see this advice being followed though, since it's been posted about 50 times already.

Also, why the fuck would you call tomorrow if she hasn't responded to your text?

Heh, I'm the opposite. I don't do any texting at all.

Please let me hear voice over phone, thanks.

 

[Spiko]

Plenty of people are happy in their current relationship until they meet someone new, at which point they believe they are unhappy in their current relationship. What this tells you is that said person does not know herself very well and doesn't know what she wants. If you don't mind that she's experimenting and being her subject, more power to you I suppose.

It's fun to make things up. Do you have anything to back that up what so ever? No? Didn't think so. People who are happy with their realtionships don't jump ship at the drop of a hat.

 

[Nome]

It's fun to make things up. Do you have anything to back that up what so ever? No? Didn't think so. People who are happy with their realtionships don't jump ship at the drop of a hat.

Experience and common sense.
If Uncharted is the first game you play, then you'd be happy with it until Uncharted 2 comes along.

EDIT:
I suppose a better analogy would be MGS1 --> MGS2 :lol

 

[Pulgo1]

Why so many fatties on OKCupid!

That shit is useless

But they're.... easy?

 

[EzLink]

hectorse, you are the man. Between giving me advice in this thread and giving me advice in the fitness thread, when I actually do get laid I'll have to send you a fruit basket or some shit since you're encouragement will be partially responsible

good advice

You know, I might as well try this. And hopefully if I do it right, like you said, even if she doesn't want the same thing she probably won't throw me under the bus and never talk to me again. And if she does, that just means she was a bitch in the first place

Thanks dude. I'll try to kino this week

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Mr.City]

Why so many fatties on OKCupid!

That shit is useless

Met my current gf through OkCupid. She's pretty laid back and into some kinky stuff. It's been working out pretty well. Although, I will say that real life is always going to be better.

 

[Aesius]

Hahahaha holy shit GAF what have I done?

I decided to rekindle a friendship with my ex for the past week or so since I genuinely missed the friendship we shared even when dating. She has a new boyfriend these days and I honestly was just looking for friendship.

Well apparently her boyfriend reads texts from her phone. I had sent a text at 5:30am in the morning and reading it in the morning I realized it came off downright as if I was flirting with her. Of course her bf read the text. She called me the following day and I confirmed with her friendship was the only thing on my mind, and her bf had 0 to worry about.

Well after just texting to see how she has been the past few days, I get a text from her boyfriend along the following lines.

"Hey ***, this is her boyfriend. Apparently *** didnt get the point across that she doesnt appreciate you flirting with her. I don't mind her having a friendship with any guy by all means... but calm it down man... it's disrespectful."

My initial thought was possessive boyfriend to the max. However on further reflection it may be she is uncomfortable with me coming back into her life and has voiced concerns to her bf.

So in a non-dating age question that sort of is dating age related, how should I approach communicating with her that is more amiable. The last thing I want to do is stir up a honey pot for her. Honestly, if it is going to destroy what she has right now, then I honestly would just stop talking to her again, because she deserves to be happy with whoever she wants to be with.

I'd say you need to back off.

Sounds like both your ex and her new b/f want nothing to do with you, and you need to get the hint and leave them alone.

There is really no reason to ever maintain any sort of contact with an ex anyway. I never understood why people want to be friends with an ex. Unless it's a rare case of being a completely amicable separation and both parties still want to be friends, it never ever ever works out.

 

[Rayven_king]

tired as hell recovering from yesterdays party tell me gentlemen did I win (one in blue)

 

[JDSN]

Hahahaha holy shit GAF what have I done?

I decided to rekindle a friendship with my ex for the past week or so since I genuinely missed the friendship we shared even when dating. She has a new boyfriend these days and I honestly was just looking for friendship.

Well apparently her boyfriend reads texts from her phone. I had sent a text at 5:30am in the morning and reading it in the morning I realized it came off downright as if I was flirting with her. Of course her bf read the text. She called me the following day and I confirmed with her friendship was the only thing on my mind, and her bf had 0 to worry about.

Well after just texting to see how she has been the past few days, I get a text from her boyfriend along the following lines.

"Hey ***, this is her boyfriend. Apparently *** didnt get the point across that she doesnt appreciate you flirting with her. I don't mind her having a friendship with any guy by all means... but calm it down man... it's disrespectful."

My initial thought was possessive boyfriend to the max. However on further reflection it may be she is uncomfortable with me coming back into her life and has voiced concerns to her bf.

So in a non-dating age question that sort of is dating age related, how should I approach communicating with her that is more amiable. The last thing I want to do is stir up a honey pot for her. Honestly, if it is going to destroy what she has right now, then I honestly would just stop talking to her again, because she deserves to be happy with whoever she wants to be with.

You need back off, maybe you have good intentions but texting at 5Am says more about you than the message itself, it was pretty decent of the guy of telling you what he wanted to say in such a respectful manner, most people would have told you to fuck off.

 

[PumpkinPie]

tired as hell recovering from yesterdays party tell me gentlemen did I win (one in blue)

Not too shabby my man!

 

[The_Inquisitor]

You need back off, maybe you have good intentions but texting at 5Am says more about you than the message itself, it was pretty decent of the guy of telling you what he wanted to say in such a respectful manner, most people would have told you to fuck off.

Yeah fair enough. That's pretty much what I gleaned from it.

 

[VariantX04]

tired as hell recovering from yesterdays party tell me gentlemen did I win (one in blue)

My word!

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Dina]

and my axe

but not your spear of fire?

 

[Mr.City]

Well done!

 

[The_Inquisitor]

Skype is a powerful too. I began talking to this girl that is an acquaintance of my sister a week ago over skype. Not only did she admit she liked me today, but also told me she has to drive back to her house later this week, and she didnt have a problem stopping by my university for 2 hours in order for me to "show her around campus". Even better is that we both admitted we weren't looking for a serious relationship at the moment, and that we were fine that. If things began to get serious, we would consider becoming a couple.



She's a beautiful asian girl who happens to be dance minor. But the best part is that she laughs at my stupid jokes, and I always have a good time talking to her every day. It genuinely makes me and her happy. We'll see how things go.

 

[Link1110]

OK, I friended that one girl who may or may not be interested on Facebook. First thing she did is comment on one of my photos that its a nice picture. Is this a sign of any sort of interest remaining?

Of course, if there are to be any conversations between us, she's starting them.

 

[X-Burner]

Ok, so there's this girl that seems to have taken interest in me. Problem is, I fail when it comes to talking to girls. I've been reading through the past 60 or so pages and I've learned some new things, but when it comes down to talking in real life, i fail miserably.

I always mutter and my conversations are quite boring. I don't understand why i can easily talk to guys and befriend them, but when it comes down to talking to girls, i just can't. This is so frustrating to be honest.

 

[Ninja_Hawk]

Ok, so there's this girl that seems to have taken interest in me. Problem is, I fail when it comes to talking to girls. I've been reading through the past 60 or so pages and I've learned some new things, but when it comes down to talking in real life, i fail miserably.

I always mutter and my conversations are quite boring. I don't understand why i can easily talk to guys and befriend them, but when it comes down to talking to girls, i just can't. This is so frustrating to be honest.

Sit down, grab a notepad and jot down some questions. Practice having a conversation by yourself; what you would say. Most importantly in the moment of an actual conversation, just let it happen, you say one thing, she responds, a conversation starts and you will get into the flow of things, don't worry about the conversation, just go with it, you'll get it.

 

[cbox]

Ok, so there's this girl that seems to have taken interest in me. Problem is, I fail when it comes to talking to girls. I've been reading through the past 60 or so pages and I've learned some new things, but when it comes down to talking in real life, i fail miserably.

I always mutter and my conversations are quite boring. I don't understand why i can easily talk to guys and befriend them, but when it comes down to talking to girls, i just can't. This is so frustrating to be honest.

Girls are human too buddy, treat them like so.

 

[Ultima_5]

OK, I friended that one girl who may or may not be interested on Facebook. First thing she did is comment on one of my photos that its a nice picture. Is this a sign of any sort of interest remaining?

Of course, if there are to be any conversations between us, she's starting them.

Probably not. Alot of people do that kind of stuff initially. If she's still commenting after a few days/weeks then she's interested.

Ok, so there's this girl that seems to have taken interest in me. Problem is, I fail when it comes to talking to girls. I've been reading through the past 60 or so pages and I've learned some new things, but when it comes down to talking in real life, i fail miserably.

I always mutter and my conversations are quite boring. I don't understand why i can easily talk to guys and befriend them, but when it comes down to talking to girls, i just can't. This is so frustrating to be honest.

I've learned that shorter is better. At least initially, and until you've gotten better and used to talking to them. Also, if she's interested, she'll probably find your nervousness cute and what not. Thats generally what I aim for.

 

[Rayven_king]

Ok, so there's this girl that seems to have taken interest in me. Problem is, I fail when it comes to talking to girls. I've been reading through the past 60 or so pages and I've learned some new things, but when it comes down to talking in real life, i fail miserably.

I always mutter and my conversations are quite boring. I don't understand why i can easily talk to guys and befriend them, but when it comes down to talking to girls, i just can't. This is so frustrating to be honest.

its the same thing really,guys like games/sports and all that other shit so its easy gain common ground on something to chat about, bring up something that they might be into thats not too hard find that kind of info either, she might be wearing a shirt with her favourite band "hey thats a dope shirt, its good to see another #i#nsert band name## fan in here, this night just got better". Boom easy entry, It really could be anything take that girl I posted, did'nt know what she'd be like I wasn't even paying attention then I heard her phone ring she had a wutang ring tone hey I like hiphop I guess she does too,thats was my entry point and I ran with it.

 

[Beer Monkey]

I added a chick I was dating once to Facebook and it was a total mistake. Since then I never add them, it adds a layer of mystery and it lays out that just because you are dating doesn't mean that you don't have your own separate lives. Let them wonder about what is going on in your life and be curious about it. Plus you avoid the whole awkward thing of whether to define that you are 'in a relationship' with each other. Only consider adding them if you eventually become very serious and exclusive in real life.

 

[coopolon]

I added a chick I was dating once to Facebook and it was a total mistake. Since then I never add them, it adds a layer of mystery and it lays out that just because you are dating doesn't mean that you don't have your own separate lives. Let them wonder about what is going on in your life and be curious about it. Plus you avoid the whole awkward thing of whether to define that you are 'in a relationship' with each other. Only consider adding them if you eventually become very serious and exclusive in real life.

So if they friend request you do you say no?

 

[red shoe paul]

I added my ex-girlfriend on Facebook awhile ago. She never updates or whatever, but she sometimes leaves dumb comments on my photos that I just delete immediately. I'm thinking about just removing her.

 

[Beer Monkey]

So if they friend request you do you say no?

Yup.

 

[Argyle]

I added a chick I was dating once to Facebook and it was a total mistake. Since then I never add them, it adds a layer of mystery and it lays out that just because you are dating doesn't mean that you don't have your own separate lives. Let them wonder about what is going on in your life and be curious about it. Plus you avoid the whole awkward thing of whether to define that you are 'in a relationship' with each other. Only consider adding them if you eventually become very serious and exclusive in real life.

This. See also "why you don't use IM when you start dating someone" (same deal, since now she sees when you are on the computer...) and "why you don't have long text message conversations when you start dating someone..." (personally I think you should not be so accessible)

In the early stages, try to save it for setting up dates in real life...leave the conversation for when you are out on a date with her...

 

[Mike Works]

So if they friend request you do you say no?

Yes, every time.

Just make sure you talk to her and tell her why.

 

[demon]

Yes, every time.

Just make sure you talk to her and tell her why.

So how exactly does this conversation go?

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Rayven_king]

 

[Combine]

What sucks is of course that every girl that does have a decent looking body (or at least makes the effort to pretend they do) is one that probably gets 100+ messages a day and such. It'd be impossible to compete over that.

It's amazing that I've put money down on match.com and have barely used it. For some reason I just never seem to be able to try. I now have such a negative impression of online dating that I think most girls who use it are either gold-diggers or liars.

And of course the fact that I've never gotten anywhere with it and no one has messaged me back.

 

[BastardTrees]

What sucks is of course that every girl that does have a decent looking body (or at least makes the effort to pretend they do) is one that probably gets 100+ messages a day and such. It'd be impossible to compete over that.

It's amazing that I've put money down on match.com and have barely used it. For some reason I just never seem to be able to try. I now have such a negative impression of online dating that I think most girls who use it are either gold-diggers or liars.

And of course the fact that I've never gotten anywhere with it and no one has messaged me back.

the last sentence is true and I think I'm just gonna let friends and family introduce me to a nice girl.

online dating it's like terrible.

 

[MoxManiac]

Do you guys disclose your income in your dating profile? Just curious.

 

[Blader]

What sucks is of course that every girl that does have a decent looking body (or at least makes the effort to pretend they do) is one that probably gets 100+ messages a day and such. It'd be impossible to compete over that.

It's amazing that I've put money down on match.com and have barely used it. For some reason I just never seem to be able to try. I now have such a negative impression of online dating that I think most girls who use it are either gold-diggers or liars.

And of course the fact that I've never gotten anywhere with it and no one has messaged me back.

Ever consider that the two bolded may be connected?

 

[Rayven_king]

the last sentence is true and I think I'm just gonna let friends and family introduce me to a nice girl.

online dating it's like terrible.

you made the right decision

 

[Combine]

Ever consider that the two bolded may be connected?

I said I barely used it and did some messaging, but the outcome was the same. And I also was using other sites too like OKC. What I meant by "never gotten anywhere with it", "it" was referring to online dating in total.

No, I don't ever disclose income. That stuff is private. Not that I have any income right now anyways.

 

[Trident]

so

many

fatties

on

OKCupid

Why do I keep going to that site?

cause you loooooove the fatties

 

[Beer Monkey]

I said I barely used it and did some messaging, but the outcome was the same. And I also was using other sites too like OKC. What I meant by "never gotten anywhere with it", "it" was referring to online dating in total.

No, I don't ever disclose income. That stuff is private. Not that I have any income right now anyways.

The hot interesting women can smell the poverty on you. That's why you aren't succeeding.

I don't post my income but I make it clear that I have a successful career in software development.

 

[Mike Works]

The hot interesting women can smell the poverty on you. That's why you aren't succeeding.

combine isn't succeeding for numerous reasons, but i don't think this is one of them.

you don't need money to get attractive women.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[atxDUTCH]

need GAF's advice:

How do i get closer to a quiet girl?
I feel like i'm good in social situations, and have had my fair share of girlyfriends. But this girl is incredibly pretty and super quiet, which kind of intimidates me because I feel like I'm coming on way to strong.

She's legitimately intelligent too, which is impossible to find, so I'm pretty much ready to jump through hoops for her.

domo

 

[Mr.City]

Jumps hoops for her? You're fucked already, and not in the good way.

 

[atxDUTCH]

Jumps hoops for her? You're fucked already, and not in the good way.

how so?

 

[Stairs]

need GAF's advice:

How do i get closer to a quiet girl?
I feel like i'm good in social situations, and have had my fair share of girlyfriends. But this girl is incredibly pretty and super quiet, which kind of intimidates me because I feel like I'm coming on way to strong.

She's legitimately intelligent too, which is impossible to find, so I'm pretty much ready to jump through hoops for her.

domo

That's probably not a wise thing to say.

 

[BladeWorker]

need GAF's advice:

How do i get closer to a quiet girl?
I feel like i'm good in social situations, and have had my fair share of girlyfriends. But this girl is incredibly pretty and super quiet, which kind of intimidates me because I feel like I'm coming on way to strong.

She's legitimately intelligent too, which is impossible to find, so I'm pretty much ready to jump through hoops for her.

domo

Engage her in conversation. Once you get her talking, then flirt.