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[paparazzo]

I'm not really looking for advice, but I'm also going through some weird friendship stuff.

So a month ago the girl I posted about previously (she doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now, just wants to be friends) says she wants to hang out soon, just as friends, and then quickly takes it back saying we should wait a bit longer until there's no more awkwardness. Then she says we shouldn't hang out alone, but with other friends so isn't too awkward. That was the last time we talked about hanging out, and we've since discussed our friendship here and there and I told her weeks ago that I'm definitely over those feelings that I had for her in the past. She's also said things like she's missed talking to me and values my friendship.

Well, recently an idiot co-worker has been trying to play matchmaker by telling both of us that the other wants to date each other. She texted me last weekend while she was at work and asked if I still had feelings for her, despite my telling her a while ago that I don't anymore. The fact that she had to ask me that question and trusted that co-worker (who's never been very trustworthy to begin with) over me tells me that she doesn't trust me anymore. Which is a shame, because I had been trying to reach her to see if she wants to hang out soon and wanted to be there for her as her mom is going to pass away soon. At this point, as hard as it is, I'm ready to just let our friendship die since she doesn't seem to care anymore.

 

[sammy]

The Skater, it's hard to tell but it sounds like this girl really likes you a lot but she's going through some tough times that are impossible to relate too. You've done the right thing in the situation I think, no need to put yourself into that emotional roller-coaster if you don't have to.
That doesn't mean that you can't let her know that you support her with what she's going through. And by supporting, I mean the whole range. She might need some people to tell her to move on once her sad times are over if she's too absorbed in depression. But it's a sad situation, she shouldn't be dating anyone probably for a long time but i can't relate to what she's going through.

 

[Exhumed]

The Skater, it's hard to tell but it sounds like this girl really likes you a lot but she's going through some tough times that are impossible to relate too. You've done the right thing in the situation I think, no need to put yourself into that emotional roller-coaster if you don't have to.
That doesn't mean that you can't let her know that you support her with what she's going through. And by supporting, I mean the whole range. She might need some people to tell her to move on once her sad times are over if she's too absorbed in depression. But it's a sad situation, she shouldn't be dating anyone probably for a long time but i can't relate to what she's going through.

While what sammy says is completely true beware of the following case. Girl who wants to just be friends and "doesn't want a man in her life because <insert excuse/scenario here>", yet ends up getting impregnated by some guy she just meets a week later. This is why its important to have no expectations and just go for the fun.

 

[whitehawk]

That's just your meaning. Throughout my teens, it meant making out.

Exactly. I'm 18.

 

[Eggo]

Exactly. I'm 18.

Yes, but we've established that it means different things to different people. If you use that term it's only going to cause confusion and more questions. Better to just say we made out or we had sex.

 

[practice02]

Yes, but we've established that it means different things to different people. If you use that term it's only going to cause confusion and more questions. Better to just say we made out or we had sex.

What do you say If you make out while having sex? I think we should call it "Visiting Mr. Tasty 2: Fire in the sky."

 

[Rubenov]

No :lol Gonna be taking things a litter slower I guess.

I think what you did wrong was that you had the "relationship talk". You know, made things official and all that. I usually just hang out, kiss, have sex without ever defining the relationship with the girl. Let her try to define that and worry about that. You just give her a good time, everything else takes care of itself.

 

[Combine]

So, me = head -> Desk x 50 or however many it takes for being completely incompetent.

I was at the Dentist's office today (wasn't even getting anything done, just accompanying a family member) and sitting in the Lobby just drawing in my sketchbook alone. In walks in a very cute girl and sits (not exactly) beside me. I think you can already guessed how this ends, but I barely even looked at her, and looking back on it, was clearly nervous as hell and even trying to avoid eye contact. I mean if I could even tell how nervous I was, there's no doubt she would have.

So, no eye contact, smiles, or hello, all that happened was my drawing arm got shaky and I messed up a sketch, lol.

No doubt in addition to my shyness, I also began thinking too much as usual. I believe I even did start thinking because of how cute she looked, she must be possibly underage, therefore I should not even look, let alone try to speak to her.

So, just another update in my hilarious journey. I guess this balances out the decent workout I had at the gym today.

 

[practice02]

So, me = head -> Desk x 50 or however many it takes for being completely incompetent.

I was at the Dentist's office today (wasn't even getting anything done, just accompanying a family member) and sitting in the Lobby just drawing in my sketchbook alone. In walks in a very cute girl and sits (not exactly) beside me. I think you can already guessed how this ends, but I barely even looked at her, and looking back on it, was clearly nervous as hell and even trying to avoid eye contact. I mean if I could even tell how nervous I was, there's no doubt she would have.

So, no eye contact, smiles, or hello, all that happened was my drawing arm got shaky and I messed up a sketch, lol.

No doubt in addition to my shyness, I also began thinking too much as usual. I believe I even did start thinking because of how cute she looked, she must be possibly underage, therefore I should not even look, let alone try to speak to her.

So, just another update in my hilarious journey. I guess this balances out the decent workout I had at the gym today.

Were you drawing anime like characters and post a picture of how old the girl looked. In my minds eye I'm picturing like dakota fanning, based on how weird you feel about it. I can't Imagine feeling to bad about checking out like a really built 17 year old.

 

[Johnlenham]

Oh.. I was goona be all like nice fuckin shirt lol
Yeah I posted my new gf in the gf forum and my stupid face is in there lol

WHAT! You look NOTHING like I was expecting :lol
I have nothing constructive to contribute other than I was right, the girl I deleted from my FB for being annoying found me in the club Saturday, explained to her friend how I had been bottled (pint glass got smashed into my face) and showed off the mark on my face to her,said laters and then vanished for the rest of the night :lol

 

[Falch]

So, me = head -> Desk x 50 or however many it takes for being completely incompetent.

I was at the Dentist's office today (wasn't even getting anything done, just accompanying a family member) and sitting in the Lobby just drawing in my sketchbook alone. In walks in a very cute girl and sits (not exactly) beside me. I think you can already guessed how this ends, but I barely even looked at her, and looking back on it, was clearly nervous as hell and even trying to avoid eye contact. I mean if I could even tell how nervous I was, there's no doubt she would have.

So, no eye contact, smiles, or hello, all that happened was my drawing arm got shaky and I messed up a sketch, lol.

No doubt in addition to my shyness, I also began thinking too much as usual. I believe I even did start thinking because of how cute she looked, she must be possibly underage, therefore I should not even look, let alone try to speak to her.

So, just another update in my hilarious journey. I guess this balances out the decent workout I had at the gym today.

America's obsession with under/overage is getting ridiculous if you're really starting to think this. Girls these days dress to look much older than they are, so what if you find an potentially underage girl hot?

 

[y2dvd]

*Semi-long story*
Went to the movies with my coworker last night. One slight blunder I think I made was when I was buying 1 large drink, the cashier handed me one straw, probably thinking we were a couple, so I asked my coworker if she would like a separate straw. I know, minor detail, but I think sharing a straw would've slightly sent a stronger message.

Nothing special during the movies. I had the popcorn position to where she would graze my shoulder reaching out for it. I didn't do it intentionally but she didn't seem to mind. During a sad scene, I pretended to cry and covered my face with my hands and laid my head on her shoulders. She laughed and played along by caressing my head.

After the movies, I asked if she wanted to grab a beer. This girl is an early bird so I had to promise we were only going to have one. She agreed and we went to the bar across the building. We ended up having 3 beers and a shot each; the bartender was so buzz he gave each of us 2 beers and a shot on the house. So, at the end of the night, I only paid $4 and got 6 beers and 2 shots outta it! I often teased her, causing her to punch me in the arm or if I told a joke, I would put my arms around her or my hands on her shoulder and laughed, doing that whole kino thingy.

There was some guy sitting alone left of us. I can only imagine he was a GAFer trying out tips from this thread lol. He kept glancing our way hoping we would include him in the conversation. Eventually, he butted in. The whole time I was thinking, "Go away. I'm trying to game here!" but then I thought maybe this really was a GAFer and I wanted him to succeed in socializing. :lol

After the bar, I walked my coworker to her car. Half way there, I told her I was a banshee (forgot to mention we saw Avatar) and she had to climb my back so that I could carry her the rest of the way. She was relunctant at first but I blocked her path until she got on. She finally did, but I had to take a few detours to her car, zigzagging across the parking lot all the while pretending to dump her in a puddle or jumping small bushes. She was loving it.

She message me later on to be sure I got home safe and we chatted a bit before calling it a night.

She thanked me earlier this morning and told me she had a lot of fun and she felt like a kid again.

This wasn't really a hook up story. I guess it was more of a successful night out socializing story that I hope some people here can find useful. =)

 

[practice02]

What he said

And that's pretty much how it's done all he would need to do would be set up a date for the weekend and he is in like Flint.

 

[Combine]

Were you drawing anime like characters and post a picture of how old the girl looked. In my minds eye I'm picturing like dakota fanning, based on how weird you feel about it. I can't Imagine feeling to bad about checking out like a really built 17 year old.

My drawing skills are not anything to brag about. Since I didn't get that good a look at her to remember things well, I couldn't possibly draw anything close to resembling what she might look like :lol She was texting most of the time anyway so her head was down.

America's obsession with under/overage is getting ridiculous if you're really starting to think this. Girls these days dress to look much older than they are, so what if you find an potentially underage girl hot?

Well, I'm 29, if she does happen to be under 18, that really really does not bode well or look good at all.

 

[practice02]

My drawing skills are not anything to brag about. Since I didn't get that good a look at her to remember things well, I couldn't possibly draw anything close to resembling what she might look like :lol She was texting most of the time anyway so her head was down.

Well, I'm 29, if she does happen to be under 18, that really really does not bode well or look good at all.

I'm not saying draw a picture I'm saying post a picture of someone she looks kinduh like.

 

[Combine]

I'm not saying draw a picture I'm saying post a picture of someone she looks kinduh like.

I can barely remember her now, not to mention I'm terrible with comparing people to each other anyway. I don't see what the point of it would be.

 

[paparazzo]

The Skater, it's hard to tell but it sounds like this girl really likes you a lot but she's going through some tough times that are impossible to relate too. You've done the right thing in the situation I think, no need to put yourself into that emotional roller-coaster if you don't have to.
That doesn't mean that you can't let her know that you support her with what she's going through. And by supporting, I mean the whole range. She might need some people to tell her to move on once her sad times are over if she's too absorbed in depression. But it's a sad situation, she shouldn't be dating anyone probably for a long time but i can't relate to what she's going through.

Maybe, but it feels more like she's pushing me away than anything else. She actually told me she doesn't want to a relationship at least a month before she found out about her mom's condition. I've told her I'm here for her if she ever wants to talk about it. I don't get the feeling she and her mother are very close as she doesn't live with her and sees her only occasionally and doesn't seem too thrilled to have to spend time with her before she dies. She's been keeping busy as usual, focusing on school as well as hanging out with her friends a lot, and just seems to be content away from me. I hate to seem like a jealous bastard, but it's been nearly three months since we last saw each other outside work and if she valued my friendship, then she would want more than for me to be just some occasional texting buddy.

While what sammy says is completely true beware of the following case. Girl who wants to just be friends and "doesn't want a man in her life because <insert excuse/scenario here>", yet ends up getting impregnated by some guy she just meets a week later. This is why its important to have no expectations and just go for the fun.

Yeah, I'm finding it harder and harder to trust her anymore because she seems to be rather wishy washy on things and doesn't always mean everything she says, which she admitted to.

 

[practice02]

I can barely remember her now, not to mention I'm terrible with comparing people to each other anyway. I don't see what the point of it would be.

I'm just curious I mean Iwould remember the face of a girl that was so cute she made me shake. Shake so much I would mess up a drawing. Just sayin'.....

 

[Combine]

I'm just curious I mean Iwould remember the face of a girl that was so cute she made me shake. Shake so much I would mess up a drawing. Just sayin'.....

Any girl I somehow deem "cute" will make me shake if they're close to me, especially sitting on the same lounge sofa. That's just the way I react to them. Especially because I was also drawing at the same time. Was maybe worried she'd glance at it and see how crappy it is.

 

[practice02]

Any girl I somehow deem "cute" will make me shake if they're close to me, especially sitting on the same lounge sofa. That's just the way I react to them. Especially because I was also drawing at the same time. Was maybe worried she'd glance at it and see how crappy it is.

At least you don't puke right?

 

[clav]

Any girl I somehow deem "cute" will make me shake if they're close to me, especially sitting on the same lounge sofa. That's just the way I react to them. Especially because I was also drawing at the same time. Was maybe worried she'd glance at it and see how crappy it is.

It makes every guy shake to variant degrees.

It's just as a matter of you're man enough to mind your own business.

 

[Combine]

Well, I definitely cannot be accused of not minding my own business in that situation. Aside from the few extraordinarily brief glaces to see that she was cute and then was texting, I simply kept to myself and continued to sketch, again, with a shaky hand, lol.

 

[clav]

Well, I definitely cannot be accused of not minding my own business in that situation. Aside from the few extraordinarily brief glaces to see that she was cute and then was texting, I simply kept to myself and continued to sketch, again, with a shaky hand, lol.

Haha. It's definitely hard to keep your cool.

You're allowed to look. Looking is free. It doesn't cost anything monetary-wise.

A lot of guys naturally start looking at girls like trophies. If you find yourself doing that, you can take the opportunity to start a conversation.

 

[Beer Monkey]

Any girl I somehow deem "cute" will make me shake if they're close to me, especially sitting on the same lounge sofa. That's just the way I react to them. Especially because I was also drawing at the same time. Was maybe worried she'd glance at it and see how crappy it is.

I blush sometimes. Was out with a girl that I was seeing and she introduced me to a friend that I was so attracted to that I felt my face turn beet red. That's when I realized I was dating the wrong person.

 

[DualShadow]

I blush sometimes. Was out with a girl that I was seeing and she introduced me to a friend that I was so attracted to that I felt my face turn beet red. That's when I realized I was dating the wrong person.

:lol :lol

 

[Beer Monkey]

:lol :lol

The chick I was with at the time was certainly very attractive and interesting, but just not at that level that really blows my mind. Time to raise my standards; I can't waste my dating time on the wrong women. Dating too many women in my favorite neighborhood is already putting me at risk of getting a manwhore reputation there, so at least in that part of town I need to focus on the cream of the crop and emphasize quality over volume.

 

[Link1110]

I blush sometimes. Was out with a girl that I was seeing and she introduced me to a friend that I was so attracted to that I felt my face turn beet red. That's when I realized I was dating the wrong person.

Got you beat there, I blushed yesterday in Japanese class, during an exercise saying you like something, I made up like a live confession for the name the teacher made up.

 

[DualShadow]

The chick I was with at the time was certainly very attractive and interesting, but just not at that level that really blows my mind. Time to raise my standards; I can't waste my dating time on the wrong women. Dating too many women in my favorite neighborhood is already putting me at risk of getting a manwhore reputation there, so at least in that part of town I need to focus on the cream of the crop and emphasize quality over volume.

Sounds like a man with a plan

 

[sammy]

Dating too many women in my favorite neighborhood is already putting me at risk of getting a manwhore reputation there, so at least in that part of town I need to focus on the cream of the crop and emphasize quality over volume.

That's a reputation you can easily turn in your favor if you're sexually confident. not implying you can't, but if you CAN make a girl truly orgasm she's going to tell all her friends about it and they will all not only be happy for her but think very highly of you (This is coming from very personal experience).
It's true that most girls give up and accept that they aren't going to find a sexually confident male that can give them what they need (orgasm/fantasy), this is why almost half the marriages in this country end in women seeking sexual experiences and affairs outside of their husband. They're looking for something.

I'm using this as a shameless excuse to blather on about girl parts... so sorry in advance :lol
When it comes to the female orgasm it all breaks down like this:
Women submit to male leaders. Think of it maybe like dancing, something that's built on a tradition of the male leading the female.
If you are shut off from your own desires, if you can't admit to your own fantasies, if you think the things you want out of sex are "not normal" or "evil" you end up digging yourself into a hole.
Not being confident in your sexual desires will cause a women to SHUT HERS OFF ten fold completely censoring any information you could find about what she needs. You just may turn an absolute freak of a girl into someone who accepts a boring/vanilla intimacy until she can find another branch to go swing on.

and let me tell you, some girls have some pretty fucked up needs. it's awesome. But you're only going to get them to talk about them if you talk about yours first like "oh, I'm a guy it's just what I want. You must have fetishes too girl??"

I rarely ever sleep with a girl as soon as I possibly can. Instead I take as many heavy-petting sessions as I need to figure a girl's buttons out first. And hey, guess what, sometimes I can't figure 'em out!! But it's okay, it's not like they're going to tell me how they work --- because honestly they don't know either.
But I find with many girls it doesn't take much to get them to squirt. First a girl has to be comfortable with the fact that she's urinating on herself, but you can move things into the shower or grab a towel and let them know it's perfectly natural. you can find tips on the internet on how to hook your fingers inside of her, I find either getting her to flex her lower abdominal or you push down on it with a tiny bit of pressure works too. find her tolerance, and slowly get more and more violent with your fingers tugging away. The more she gets this the easier it will become for her and she will think you're Zeus descended from the heavens. Other than communication, it's really just practice practice practice.
it's something i got pretty good at after some tries, but i still suck at the "approaching a stranger" part : /

 

[Beer Monkey]

That's a reputation you can easily turn in your favor if you're sexually confident. not implying you can't, but if you CAN make a girl truly orgasm she's going to tell all her friends about it and they will all not only be happy for her but think very highly of you

Meh. These are girls in their 30s that are wanting to settle down. They fall crazy in love with me and start to envision a long-term future together and then I break their hearts (sure, I try to let them down as easily as possible but they still end up hurt). Now I'm the guy who hurt their friend, and they don't want to go out with me and make their friend mad, plus they don't trust my motives. Sure, sometimes I go out with girls that are happy with a short-term relationship and great sex, but most of the ones I am with lately want more, or decide they want more once they get to know me.

 

[whitehawk]

I think what you did wrong was that you had the "relationship talk". You know, made things official and all that. I usually just hang out, kiss, have sex without ever defining the relationship with the girl. Let her try to define that and worry about that. You just give her a good time, everything else takes care of itself.

Well I wasn't going to mention it, but she mentioned it first. I've spent my whole life being indirect, I thought it was time for a change. So far so good. I will take it slower, but still.

 

[sammy]

Meh. These are girls in their 30s that are wanting to settle down. They fall crazy in love with me and start to envision a long-term future together and then I break their hearts (sure, I try to let them down as easily as possible but they still end up hurt). Now I'm the guy who hurt their friend, and they don't want to go out with me and make their friend mad, plus they don't trust my motives. Sure, sometimes I go out with girls that are happy with a short-term relationship and great sex, but most of the ones I am with lately want more, or decide they want more once they get to know me.

that is complicated, it would be nice if the women accepted that you were in dating mode. It sounds like they get pretty frighteningly attached to you and expect a lot while you're still enjoying yourself. I'd run too haha, it sucks that these women can't see that maybe you're looking for your perfect match and us guys don't always get all the options in the world so we take whoever we can get to know. perhaps you should be filling us in on exactly how these older girls work 'cause i'm bored/frustrated of girls in their early 20's

I've never dated a girl that pressed the subject of LONG LONG term stuff like this, so i can't really understand. but it sounds frustrating, and i can lose attraction to a girl that chases me but most girls my age do absolutely no chasing of any kind because they don't have to. But i don't think you should feel like a badguy for just wanting play the field, because all these girls have done the same i would bet.
maybe it is time to find a new neighborhood like you say

 

[Rubenov]

Well I wasn't going to mention it, but she mentioned it first. I've spent my whole life being indirect, I thought it was time for a change. So far so good. I will take it slower, but still.

Sometimes it's good to be direct in showing that you like them, as in moving agressively in a physical manner. It's when you start talking about "I like you", and we should be boyfriend/girlfriend that things may get awkward.

By taking it slower, I hope you mean less serious talk. As in "we are boyfriend/girlfriend and we are dating". You should still try to kiss her / arouse her sensually when you are with her. This part is important, girlfriend or not. If you don't push these buttons, she will find someone that will.

 

[whitehawk]

Sometimes it's good to be direct in showing that you like them, as in moving agressively in a physical manner. It's when you start talking about "I like you", and we should be boyfriend/girlfriend that things may get awkward.

By taking it slower, I hope you mean less serious talk. As in "we are boyfriend/girlfriend and we are dating". You should still try to kiss her / arouse her sensually when you are with her. This part is important, girlfriend or not. If you don't push these buttons, she will find someone that will.

Good advice, that's pretty much my plan. I really like this girl, so I hope I don't mess it up. But again, she mentioned being my girlfriend first, only reason I brought it up again. =/

 

[whitehawk]

You guys don't even understand how depressed I am right now. I though everything was going great, and then at this party as we head home my "girlfriend" talks to me about how we took it too fast, and that she doesn't know me well enough to be in a relationship. WELL THAT IS WHY WE ARE DATING!!! To get to know each other better. Honestly, I'm so confused. She is saying stuff like this, but then still moving from her old spot to sit next to me in the one class we have to together. The idea we talked about was to be just friends for now, get to know each other better and see where it goes.

But honestly, I'm confused as fuck. One second we're making out, she's all over me, and then within a few days she feels "we're going to fast". God dammit.


auuughghhhg,adf

 

[thekad]

You guys don't even understand how depressed I am right now. I though everything was going great, and then at this party as we head home my "girlfriend" talks to me about how we took it too fast, and that she doesn't know me well enough to be in a relationship. WELL THAT IS WHY WE ARE DATING!!! To get to know each other better. Honestly, I'm so confused. She is saying stuff like this, but then still moving from her old spot to sit next to me in the one class we have to together. The idea we talked about was to be just friends for now, get to know each other better and see where it goes.

But honestly, I'm confused as fuck. One second we're making out, she's all over me, and then within a few days she feels "we're going to fast". God dammit.


auuughghhhg,adf

Now you're free to fuck around. Good luck.

 

[Argyle]

You guys don't even understand how depressed I am right now. I though everything was going great, and then at this party as we head home my "girlfriend" talks to me about how we took it too fast, and that she doesn't know me well enough to be in a relationship. WELL THAT IS WHY WE ARE DATING!!! To get to know each other better. Honestly, I'm so confused. She is saying stuff like this, but then still moving from her old spot to sit next to me in the one class we have to together. The idea we talked about was to be just friends for now, get to know each other better and see where it goes.

But honestly, I'm confused as fuck. One second we're making out, she's all over me, and then within a few days she feels "we're going to fast". God dammit.


auuughghhhg,adf

Sorry dude. To be fair a bunch of people in this thread tried to warn you about this (was it Eggo who said something about waking up in Vegas with a ring on your finger?)...you can't rush things and I wouldn't consider a girl you went on a couple of dates with to be your girlfriend. Dating, yes...as you said yourself...so hopefully lesson learned...

 

[AFreak]

You guys don't even understand how depressed I am right now. I though everything was going great, and then at this party as we head home my "girlfriend" talks to me about how we took it too fast, and that she doesn't know me well enough to be in a relationship. WELL THAT IS WHY WE ARE DATING!!! To get to know each other better. Honestly, I'm so confused. She is saying stuff like this, but then still moving from her old spot to sit next to me in the one class we have to together. The idea we talked about was to be just friends for now, get to know each other better and see where it goes.

But honestly, I'm confused as fuck. One second we're making out, she's all over me, and then within a few days she feels "we're going to fast". God dammit.


auuughghhhg,adf

Sorry to hear that, but look on the bright side. All the money you are saving on this chick can't be set aside for GafIsland.

So, how much can i put you down for?

 

[whitehawk]

Ya, I got ahead of myself. Honestly, much like GAF, I'm not too experienced with relationships. I dunno. It's kind of confusing though, our plan was to sit together in the one class we had together so we could get to know each other better, which happened thursday. But she still wants to sit next to me and get to know me better. I'm can't tell if she's completely breaking it off, or truly wants to take it really slow.

Also I was a little drunk during my last post, sorry about that.

 

[kaskade]

Ya, I got ahead of myself. Honestly, much like GAF, I'm not too experienced with relationships. I dunno. It's kind of confusing though, our plan was to sit together in the one class we had together so we could get to know each other better, which happened thursday. But she still wants to sit next to me and get to know me better. I'm can't tell if she's completely breaking it off, or truly wants to take it really slow.

Also I was a little drunk during my last post, sorry about that.

Maybe she isn't completely sure what she wants either. If you think you really do like her I would say just take it slow. If she still wants to see you she probably has some attraction to you. If she keeps giving you the mixed signals I would either stay away or ask her straight up what she's doing.

 

[Rubenov]

Ya, I got ahead of myself. Honestly, much like GAF, I'm not too experienced with relationships. I dunno. It's kind of confusing though, our plan was to sit together in the one class we had together so we could get to know each other better, which happened thursday. But she still wants to sit next to me and get to know me better. I'm can't tell if she's completely breaking it off, or truly wants to take it really slow.

Also I was a little drunk during my last post, sorry about that.

She just want to take it slow. Do that. Don't set your hopes to high, but keep talking to her normally like you would do to a friend. Eventually, she may come around. Play it cool, don't mention anything about boyfriend/girlfriend again --> stupid shit.

 

[grap3fruitman]

please be understanding that your situation is somewhat unique within the thread.

Really? Did you read the OP?

If you like a woman, just talk her, the worse she could say is NO

My issue is not with women saying "no," I'm all too familiar with "no." I'm scared of "yes." If I get a "no," I know what happens. If I somehow got a "yes," I wouldn't know what to do and that scares the fucking shit out of me.

I haven't held a girl's hand either, and I'm 22.

ITT people that don't know a thing about girls, give advice on how to get girls.

Hey grape I´m not trying to piss you off or something but have you considered psychotherapy? The things you describe remind me of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder

Makes sense but it'd probably be a little too easy to blame something on disorder and use that as a crutch or an excuse, wouldn't you agree?

I was trying to avoid this topic but fuck it; flame on.

 

[Jayge]

Really? Did you read the OP?


My issue is not with women saying "no," I'm all too familiar with "no." I'm scared of "yes." If I get a "no," I know what happens. If I somehow got a "yes," I wouldn't know what to do and that scares the fucking shit out of me.


ITT people that don't know a thing about girls, give advice on how to get girls.


Makes sense but it'd probably be a little too easy to blame something on disorder and use that as a crutch or an excuse, wouldn't you agree?

I was trying to avoid this topic but fuck it; flame on.

How is that any different than what you're doing already, except in psychotherapy you'd be paying someone to devote blocks of their time singularly to offering you professional advice or assistance with a clear goal of helping yourself get past whatever the thing is in your mind that seems to be limiting you (as opposed to, no offense guys, dudes on the internet who pick up a lot of women)? Not necessarily saying you have that particular disorder or that being diagnosed with a disorder will make everything better but I think it's much easier to get stuff out there in front of you clearly and deal with it when you're aware of what's going on in your head. Most people can't get that kind of perspective on themselves without a fuckload of introspection and thought.

 

[Trident]

Really? Did you read the OP?


My issue is not with women saying "no," I'm all too familiar with "no." I'm scared of "yes." If I get a "no," I know what happens. If I somehow got a "yes," I wouldn't know what to do and that scares the fucking shit out of me.


ITT people that don't know a thing about girls, give advice on how to get girls.


Makes sense but it'd probably be a little too easy to blame something on disorder and use that as a crutch or an excuse, wouldn't you agree?

I was trying to avoid this topic but fuck it; flame on.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=20056857&postcount=7288

 

[PEZIX]

Ya, I got ahead of myself. Honestly, much like GAF, I'm not too experienced with relationships. I dunno. It's kind of confusing though, our plan was to sit together in the one class we had together so we could get to know each other better, which happened thursday. But she still wants to sit next to me and get to know me better. I'm can't tell if she's completely breaking it off, or truly wants to take it really slow.

Also I was a little drunk during my last post, sorry about that.

whitehawk.... I need your address, its time for a lil pezix intervention, ill have this bitch wetin her secrets for you once im thru :lol

 

[whitehawk]

whitehawk.... I need your address, its time for a lil pezix intervention, ill have this bitch wetin her secrets for you once im thru :lol

:lol :lol

You are one of my favourite posters.

 

[Combine]

lol, I found PEZIX's picture in the "post your gf" thread and he's totally not what I expected (I kinda feel bad saying that too). I guess I was sort of expecting bdizzle. :lol (I feel bad for saying that one too).

But he certainly does have a hot gf, so no one can accuse him of not knowing what he's talking about. Even if he talks in some kinda strange dialect.

 

[Emma99]

whitehawk.... I need your address, its time for a lil pezix intervention, ill have this bitch wetin her secrets for you once im thru :lol

:lol

 

[chicko1983]

whitehawk.... I need your address, its time for a lil pezix intervention, ill have this bitch wetin her secrets for you once im thru :lol

HE'S BACK!!!!!!!! Missed your comments Pezix!

Whitehawk, I would still continue to be friends with her. Don't ignore her or snub her in class, if she still wants to sit with you, she must still want to talk to you at least and be friends.

You sound like me in many ways, I always get ahead of myself and that ends up scaring the girl away. One think I have learnt from this thread though is I need to restrain myself a little bit more.

 

[chicko1983]

lol, I found PEZIX's picture in the "post your gf" thread and he's totally not what I expected (I kinda feel bad saying that too). I guess I was sort of expecting bdizzle. :lol (I feel bad for saying that one too).

But he certainly does have a hot gf, so no one can accuse him of not knowing what he's talking about. Even if he talks in some kinda strange dialect.

Yeah, Pezix doesn't look like what I expected but damn his gf is hot!

I always had a picture of Leon from Curb in my head cause he is a massive player and talks like Pezix.

Pezix brings the ruckus to the ladiez!