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BladeWorker said:
Focus on the job. Give yourself that feeling of independence and confidence that come with employment gained and the means to pursue other goals that make your life more complete - if it's not reading, maybe it's developing killer biceps and a six-pack, or travelling to random small towns just for shits and giggles.

Rome wasn't built in a day. Focus.
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That is what I've been doing. I've been trying to find a job, or better my skills to help get a job primarily. I haven't really done much about girls, other than think of them when I see them at the gym or read about them in this thread or someplace else.

I only have one good job lead though, I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that it might pan out. If not, then it's back to the drawing board.
 
border said:
Willpower is not a question -- I have no trouble getting up and running. It's just pretty difficult to exercise when you're both dehydrated from alcohol and breathing poorly due to cigarettes.

I'd like to be able to exercise after work but it's probably not safe for me to run around the neighborhood past 10 PM. I'm contemplating joining a 24-hour gym just so I'll have something to do late at night besides sit at home or go out drinking. I really don't like working out in gyms though, so we'll see.
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There are ways to do cardio in your home, even without equipment.
 
My problem with working out in a gym is just that it's boring (though I guess I'm mildly self conscious as well). Working out at home doesn't really solve the major problem. I like running just because the scenery's always changing and you're more motivated to push yourself.
 
border said:
My problem with working out in a gym is just that it's boring (though I guess I'm mildly self conscious as well). Working out at home doesn't really solve the major problem. I like running just because the scenery's always changing and you're more motivated to push yourself.
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Doesn't sound like will power isn't a problem after all.

You can watch tv, listen to music or listen to podcasts while exercising at home or in the gym. If that's not enough to get you through it, not to mention the actual benefits of exercising, I dunno what will.
 
I'm not sure why you'd question my willpower just because I like to exercise in a particular manner. I just don't like sitting in one room doing stuff. I like my sense of progress to be tied to an actual distance traveled rather than a reading on an odometer. I like to turn to my left and look out at the river as I'm running along its shore, rather than turn to my left and see some other sweaty dude.
 
Well the purpose of exercise is to get fit, not to enjoy the scenery. If that's not enough for you, then I'd say there is a willpower or motivation problem.
 
the gym is a tool for self improvement, not a hang out place nor a place to pick up chicks. go in and do work.

still time to get that 6 pack before summer :cool:
 
shibby said:
Out of curiosity Combine, have you read the book " How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie?
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This is the most useful book I've ever read. If you don't like reading download the audiobook, just get to know this amazing work.
 
demon said:
Well the purpose of exercise is to get fit, not to enjoy the scenery. If that's not enough for you, then I'd say there is a willpower or motivation problem.
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Not entirely sure on that one. Exericse can be enjoyable in and of itself. It doesn't have to be a chore, and shouldn't be if you're doing it right.

If the guy wants to run, then run, or play squash, or tennis, or row, or bike, or carry sandbags up a hill, whatever. Doing the hamster on a treadmill can be totally avoided. I hate the treadmill too (though I don't mind the rowing machine).

I agree that if it's treadmill or nothing, then treadmill is the way to go.
 
Just went on a coffee date with this girl I like. We just talked and talked, and it was awesome. Went back to her place, talked more, listened to music. Kissed her goodbye (well, made out). I'm happy :)
 
I just set up an account on a dating site, saw a profile on there from a very nice girl, 28. I need help with my opening mail without sounding like a douche or ending up in her trash mail.



For the dating pros on GAF, how do i approach her in my first contact? This girl sounds really cool
 
whitehawk said:
Just went on a coffee date with this girl I like. We just talked and talked, and it was awesome. Went back to her place, talked more, listened to music. Kissed her goodbye (well, made out). I'm happy :)
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Don't fuck it up this time, bro. Make her work for you and don't go all puppy dog clingy on her.

Hopefully that girl before was a one time thing.
 
wow, surprise! for those who remember the last page anyway.

that girl from the dating site i was exchanging msgs with did respond to my insane rant. she told me she wasnt comfortable with exchanging phone numbers because of an incident last year but that we could chat on aim. works for me. i think ill be able to keep myself in check from here on out.

actually im chatting with a second girl who hinted at meeting up this weekend. so ive been doing something right.
 
whitehawk said:
Just went on a coffee date with this girl I like. We just talked and talked, and it was awesome. Went back to her place, talked more, listened to music. Kissed her goodbye (well, made out). I'm happy :)
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and this is awesome. good for you.
 
Broseybrose said:
wow, surprise! for those who remember the last page anyway.

that girl from the dating site i was exchanging msgs with did respond to my insane rant. she told me she wasnt comfortable with exchanging phone numbers because of an incident last year but that we could chat on aim. works for me. i think ill be able to keep myself in check from here on out.

actually im chatting with a second girl who hinted at meeting up this weekend. so ive been doing something right.
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good work mate and well done to whitehawk as well.
 
Norwegian Wood said:
I just set up an account on a dating site, saw a profile on there from a very nice girl, 28. I need help with my opening mail without sounding like a douche or ending up in her trash mail.



For the dating pros on GAF, how do i approach her in my first contact? This girl sounds really cool
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well id start with hey, how are you. and mention s omething in her profile that interested you about her. I met a woman on a dating site about 3 weeks ago we had 2 dates thi week and its going good so far. But def dont just say"YER HAWT" make it more personal
 
Recently broke up with a girl because she has this thing with relationships that makes her down and unhappy, even though she evidently loves me. What should I do lol?
 
border said:
I'm not sure why you'd question my willpower just because I like to exercise in a particular manner. I just don't like sitting in one room doing stuff. I like my sense of progress to be tied to an actual distance traveled rather than a reading on an odometer. I like to turn to my left and look out at the river as I'm running along its shore, rather than turn to my left and see some other sweaty dude.
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Drive somewhere where it IS safe. And jog?
 
border said:
I'm not sure why you'd question my willpower just because I like to exercise in a particular manner. I just don't like sitting in one room doing stuff. I like my sense of progress to be tied to an actual distance traveled rather than a reading on an odometer. I like to turn to my left and look out at the river as I'm running along its shore, rather than turn to my left and see some other sweaty dude.
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You should start lifting some weights too. I never ever find that boring. I can barely last 10 minutes on a treadmill.
 
WJD said:
Don't fuck it up this time, bro. Make her work for you and don't go all puppy dog clingy on her.

Hopefully that girl before was a one time thing.
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Oh believe me, I won't make the same mistake. I really like this girl. :)

Funny thing though, my "ex" ended up coming over for a while. I guess you could say it was a little awkward. :lol
 
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic encounter.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
 
SpectreFire said:
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic moment.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
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Glad it worked for you, just hope it stays that way.
 
SpectreFire said:
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic encounter.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
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Good luck with that. My ex and I started that and already she is saying things like she wants it to be exclusive and that I can't hit on other girls. :lol :lol :lol Does she not know what friends w/ benefits means?
 
The_Inquisitor said:
Good luck with that. My ex and I started that and already she is saying things like she wants it to be exclusive and that I can't hit on other girls. :lol :lol :lol Does she not know what friends w/ benefits means?
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Yep, like I said, it goes pretty well for the couple of weeks/months and then stuff starts to change. Maybe he'll get lucky though.
 
SpectreFire said:
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic encounter.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
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won't work out. have fun with the sex, though!
 
News Bot said:
Recently broke up with a girl because she has this thing with relationships that makes her down and unhappy, even though she evidently loves me. What should I do lol?
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Prolly means that ho hates stickin to one dick... Man fuck that shit yo, You dont need that negative shit in yo life anyways

Plus how the hell does it make sense.. "I love you but im unhappy?"

Bitch is prolly smokin crack/ or poll and just joshin your chain cuz girls can be psycho like dat at times, trust me Ive dealt wit em.. You just use those kinds for random booty and then dip the fuck out.

Plus gives you the opportunity to go out and get some posi-pussy :lol
 
SpectreFire said:
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic encounter.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
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Bullshit. You might not, but I guarantee she does. You keep pointing out how the whole thing felt to you, but you have no idea what she's thinking about the situation.

Tread carefully. I don't think I need to remind you of the fact that situations like this almost never work out.
 
SpectreFire said:
So to update on my 'friends with benefits story', we had a long talk last night and this morning we went for it.

It turned out to be a pretty good decision. We had absolutely no romantic feelings for each other whatsoever. As I pointed out to her, it didn't really feel like two friends having sex, more like two friends playing tennis, but naked... and not playing tennis. It felt pretty platonic, and doesn't feel like it'll affect our friend dynamic in the least bit. Between the giggles and the constant joking, it felt more like just a stress reliever than an intimate romantic encounter.

I think we're going to keep going with this.
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GLuck man had this going with a femal aquaintance before the current woman showed up. All was well before she called me one night saying she was developing feelings and i proceeded to bail. Its a train wreck waiting to happen but the ride is damn fun
 
SpectreFire said:
more like two friends playing tennis, but naked
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this is what i will tell my children during the talk
Incognito said:
won't work out. have fun with the sex, though!
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also true. just stay close to the 'no feelings' rule any it won't end in fire. soon as one of you has feelings for the other it HAS to end-- no question. that is, unless, it's mutual; in that case you'll start dating

only other outcome of it ending is that one of you meets another person you actually have feelings for. either way be very open on both ends to prevent emotional damage
 
at the moment im 25 and living at home with my parents without a job. Should I even bother asking a girl out or should I work to improve my condition before I attempt?
 
Ace 8095 said:
This is the most useful book I've ever read. If you don't like reading download the audiobook, just get to know this amazing work.
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ha im actually reading this book right now. Alot of it is common sense but it def has made me more aware on how to deal with people.
 
Anticitizen One said:
at the moment im 25 and living at home with my parents without a job. Should I even bother asking a girl out or should I work to improve my condition before I attempt?
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there's no problem with dating at any point in your life, unless you are already committed to someone else or loaded with emotional baggage

just be sure you don't make it your central focus or you'll come on way too strong when approaching or getting to know a girl
PEZIX said:
Prolly means that ho hates stickin to one dick... Man fuck that shit yo, You dont need that negative shit in yo life anyways

Plus how the hell does it make sense.. "I love you but im unhappy?"

Bitch is prolly smokin crack/ or poll and just joshin your chain cuz girls can be psycho like dat at times, trust me Ive dealt wit em.. You just use those kinds for random booty and then dip the fuck out.

Plus gives you the opportunity to go out and get some posi-pussy :lol
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oh my GOD what :lol
 
Went out with a girl 6 times. She was looking for something more then a fling so things were moving a little slower then normal. Last date we're making out, she takes off her shirt and I go for the bra later. She stops me saying she's not ready, we go back to making out for awhile. At the end of our date we make plans for later and she blows me off right before we're supposed to meet up. We reschedule and she does the same thing. So many socially inept bitches on dating sites. :lol
 
Dragoon X Omega said:
Thanks for the info.

However, I do have another question that I forgot to mention in my last post.

On last Monday I saw her with a guy on a table but I wasn't sure if it's her friend or boyfriend. I saw her looking at me and then I looked down and walked away because I felt bummed and I have feelings for her and don't want to feel rejected. Remember that happened on Monday thought. I also I have Asperger's Disorder which can confuse my thoughts like, for example: I see her with someone and my brain thinks it's her boyfriend.

Today, I finally got her number since we chatted a lot. My biggest question is... how can I ask her out as a friend. I don't want to scare her away.

Thanks.

Sorry for confusing :/
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Well here's the update:

I told her what's she doing this weekend and she said

"I'm going to the movie with my boyfriend, what about you?"

my whole feeling for her was crushed, I had a little feeling for her since beginning of spring semester.

Oh well

Freakin' thing sucks!
 
So this girl I was thinking of asking out this weekend is apperantly throwing a party on friday and it seems like everyones invited. I'm debating if I should go or not but heres a few things to note:

-The girl I like recently broke up with her BF (as I discussed in the other girl-age thread)
-It's going to be mostly under 21 girls drinking
-I have a couple of bad teeth that I am planning to get fixed but it could pose a problem if a girl wants to makeout

so should I go??
 
Darkness said:
Went out with a girl 6 times. She was looking for something more then a fling so things were moving a little slower then normal. Last date we're making out, she takes off her shirt and I go for the bra later. She stops me saying she's not ready, we go back to making out for awhile. At the end of our date we make plans for later and she blows me off right before we're supposed to meet up. We reschedule and she does the same thing. So many socially inept bitches on dating sites. :lol
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At least you are meeting them, they don't even reply my mails though i can see they have read them.

I'm beginning to feel like am slowly falling into an abyss. I mean being alone is okay and all but at some point a man needs someone to wake up next. Most guys/girls have an imperfect relationship with their SO's but at least they have someone. I rather have someone bitching at me every now and then than coming home and hearing the sound of my hair fall on the floor:lol
 
This is not a good sign. I was trying to do something different this weekend. Go out with my family to take a walk in the hills. I thought it'd be good to try and do some kind of outdoor activity to maybe get a bit better at being outdoors.

Well, as soon as I get there, I get hit by a huge wave of allergies and it totally winds me. This is odd because I haven't had allergies in years. But anyway, just that one little thing caused me to become completely withdrawn and antagonistic towards the whole experience.

It also reaffirmed that I'm not a good conversationalist, even with my own family, because no real back and forth conversation took place at all. Sure there was the one off question "you feeling ok" and stuff like that, but that was all.

Whats depressing is that if I can't even get through a little outdoor activity like a small walk in the hills, then what kind of girl (especially an active one in physical health) would bother putting up with me?

Speaking of which, it was also very depressing seeing so many young couples walking around so happily, and knowing I missed out on that.
 
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