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Usually, it's bad idea since if it goes boom, you still got to see the person the next day at work or quit. If it's on and off, it might be different.
 
It's a seasonal job. Go for it. When I worked at King's Island fucking everyone in that god damn place dated each other. At one point I dumped my one supervisor and I started dating the other one. Funny as fuck times.
 
will52 said:
What is GAF's overall opinion of hooking up with co-workers? This case is a golf course that I've worked at on and off for 3 years seasonally.
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How many times are we going to have to answer this question?

No. Bad idea.
 
Mr.City said:
Usually, it's bad idea since if it goes boom, you still got to see the person the next day at work or quit. If it's on and off, it might be different.
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It's an even worse idea because if things go bad she can claim sexual harassment, and then you get fired. If you don't care about losing the job, then go ahead I guess.
 
will52 said:
What is GAF's overall opinion of hooking up with co-workers? This case is a golf course that I've worked at on and off for 3 years seasonally.
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Go for it. If it ends bad, just quit. Or wait til the other person quits.
 
Well this girl I like, I was just talking to her best friend. She let me know that yes she likes me, but she doesn't think she's ready for a big commitment (what do you know, exactly what the girl told me). Still this is good, to know that she likes me. I'm hanging out with her thursday, and I feel like I should let her make the first move. We've already made out a couple time so the ice has been broken. Well I'm having a party next weekend, maybe I'll make a move then.

Sometimes I wish girls were direct. It's very confusing sometimes.
 
BladeWorker said:
It's not about you, it's about her not wanting to be a doormat to a guy who calls last minute to set up a date. Until you get into a routine where she can trust that you're not going to take advantage of "generosity" or are, at least, willing to offer it in equal parts yourself, expect that you'll probably have to schedule dates at least 48 hours in advance.

It's a silly rule in established relationships, but for girls trying to break old habits, there are worse things...


...Such as a girl who won't bother to dress up for a date (and yours does!). So hey, you got it pretty ok for now, dude.
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Thanks! I understand what she might be thinking a little better now. I really never saw it that way, but looking back, I can understand how she might be thinking that I'm trying to take advantage of her by doing so, by some of the things I've said/done.
 
So... one week after effectively being told we should be "just friends" I spend two nights at the girls place- complete with hand action to completion.

Mixed signals much?

Really not sure what to read into this one.
 
BladeWorker said:
Women who take hormone pills so they don't get pregnant when they have sex with you have made a sacrifice.

The pill has shown in scientific studies that it reduces risk of death in most women, but mostly because death at childbirth or during pregnancy is a factor counted in those tests.

On the other hand, these women are swallowing/applying/injecting/inserting hormones into themselves that make them more likely to gain and drop weight like nobody's business, throw them into moods like you wouldn't believe, intensify their headaches, and put them at an elevated risk for blood clots and stroke. And, if she doesn't take it at the same exact time (within about half an hour) every single day, her risk of pregnancy increases.

So sure, you may lose out because someone has stopped being attracted to the chemical scent you emit. But I'd say on balance, she's risking a great deal more.

Call us crazy if you must, but understand that when we go on the pill, we're not doing it because it makes us happy.
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I generally agree with much of what you have to say, but if I've found someone really amazing, who is truly amazed by me, is it really in either of our best interests to temporarily jeopardize our amazing connection, which we both may seriously regret someday, when there are other alternatives?

Not to me. I truly connect with someone, no pill. Don't like it, find a new boyfriend.

If you love your empowered reproductive freedom more than you love me, be happy with the choice that you have made.
 
Poimandres said:
So... one week after effectively being told we should be "just friends" I spend two nights at the girls place- complete with hand action to completion.

Mixed signals much?

Really not sure what to read into this one.
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So you masturbated???

Im so lost... Help computer!!
 
otake said:
now I can orgasm anywhere
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Poimandres said:
So... one week after effectively being told we should be "just friends" I spend two nights at the girls place- complete with hand action to completion.

Mixed signals much?

Really not sure what to read into this one.
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handies dont mean shit
 
So, when it rains, it pours. I think there's two girls who are into me, however they're both in the same acting company and they both go the same bar for Karaoke night.
 
Mr.City said:
So, when it rains, it pours. I think there's two girls who are into me, however they're both in the same acting company and they both go the same bar for Karaoke night.
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Pick which one you like most and ask her out. If that fails move onto the second one. If she brings up the other one just say you didn't know she liked you and would never have gone out with her friend had you known.
 
milanbaros said:
Pick which one you like most and ask her out. If that fails move onto the second one. If she brings up the other one just say you didn't know she liked you and would never have gone out with her friend had you known.
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This man has been around the block a few times :D
 
whitehawk said:
Well this girl I like, I was just talking to her best friend. She let me know that yes she likes me, but she doesn't think she's ready for a big commitment (what do you know, exactly what the girl told me). Still this is good, to know that she likes me. I'm hanging out with her thursday, and I feel like I should let her make the first move. We've already made out a couple time so the ice has been broken. Well I'm having a party next weekend, maybe I'll make a move then.

Sometimes I wish girls were direct. It's very confusing sometimes.
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God dammit stop fooling yourself. If a girl is into you she will date you. Stop taking what she says for face value. With all people, and paramount for girls, actions scream.

Now I don't know the backstory. You're in high school, right? That adds another dynamic of complete and absolute immaturity to the pot that I've forgotten how to deal with. Have you asked her out? Did she turn you down? I don't know if this is a new girl or the same one.
 
Poimandres said:
Well... they must mean something right? It's not like everyday friends sit around giving each other handies all the time :lol
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When I get home I'll send links to some NSFW stuff in a PM that will make you rethink that statement.
 
I keep getting played, losing my faith in the female gender :lol

Why won't engaged, married, and committed girls let you know about their status 'till weeks after you've gotten to know them!?? I get so sick of being strung along wasting my time because they want attention that their men won't give 'em... The worst is imagining someday being engaged to some broad who goes out of her way to avoid stating her relationship status with new guys.

ehhh, it's so tedious. If I sit down with a brand new neutral person, I usually know within 10 - 20 minutes all about their significant other. But I keep meeting girls that seem interested (hell some even buy ME drinks) and flirtatious that are willing to get to know me. Well they're interested in getting whatever good vibe from me for weeks before I ask them out, then they drop the truth on me about who they belong to.
 
sammy said:
Why won't engaged, married, and committed girls let you know about their status 'till weeks after you've gotten to know them!?? I get so sick of being strung along wasting my time because they want attention that their men won't give 'em... The worst is imagining someday being engaged to some broad who goes out of her way to avoid stating her relationship status with new guys.
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You answered your own question.
 
that whole conversation a page back about how stupid men can be when it comes to fucking without condoms was fucking hilarious :lol

i consider myself to be a pretty smart guy in general, but god damnit if that isn't fucking true. i was at this girl's house a few months back, no condoms, just there to watch a movie. it turns out her (only) TV is in her bedroom, which I was not aware of. so the entire time i'm thinking, "okay, if something happens, make sure it stops at oral, do NOT be stupid."

so of course things progressed and progressed, and eventually she's completely naked, bending over, ass in the air, looking back at me with this innocent look on her face.

logic is an accessible virtue in the absence of pussy.
 
sammy said:
I keep getting played, losing my faith in the female gender :lol

Why won't engaged, married, and committed girls let you know about their status 'till weeks after you've gotten to know them!?? I get so sick of being strung along wasting my time because they want attention that their men won't give 'em... The worst is imagining someday being engaged to some broad who goes out of her way to avoid stating her relationship status with new guys.

ehhh, it's so tedious. If I sit down with a brand new neutral person, I usually know within 10 - 20 minutes all about their significant other. But I keep meeting girls that seem interested (hell some even buy ME drinks) and flirtatious that are willing to get to know me. Well they're interested in getting whatever good vibe from me for weeks before I ask them out, then they drop the truth on me about who they belong to.
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You can get there in 5-30 minutes, if you play it right. You say you're getting good vibes but it sounds like you're stretching things out too long. Someone else is going to grab their attention and you'll be yesterdays news. Somewhere in your interaction, you should find out a common interest, and if things are going well and it's time to wrap things up, just be direct.

"Are you single? Cool give me your number! I'll call you in a few days, we should go check out that _____."
"Are you single? That's too bad, you seem pretty cool!" Smile, excuse yourself politely.
 
practice02 said:
I'm just going to say what everyone is thinking only High schoolers are satisfied with handies.
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What high schooler is satisfied with a hand-job? Fuck, if you're going that far, you might as well just get a blow-job. It's stupid.
 
The "date" on Sunday went well, we crashed on a friends sofa (he was a bit creepy, saying he wants to add her to facebook, commenting on her body WHILST I WAS THERE) and had some nice pillow talk, but I didn't initiate anything...but she invited me to her house on Thursday and she's going to cook me a meal :)
 
Mike Works said:
that whole conversation a page back about how stupid men can be when it comes to fucking without condoms was fucking hilarious :lol

i consider myself to be a pretty smart guy in general, but god damnit if that isn't fucking true. i was at this girl's house a few months back, no condoms, just there to watch a movie. it turns out her (only) TV is in her bedroom, which I was not aware of. so the entire time i'm thinking, "okay, if something happens, make sure it stops at oral, do NOT be stupid."

so of course things progressed and progressed, and eventually she's completely naked, bending over, ass in the air, looking back at me with this innocent look on her face.

logic is an accessible virtue in the absence of pussy.
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Yup, I've had way way too much unprotected sex for this very reason. There have even been times when I brought a condom but the girl tells me she doesn't like them, she's on birth control, it's all good. And I think, for about a split second, no, I should use it anyways. And then i proceed to go balls deep without one. Its incredibly stupid, especially since I had an std scare a few years back, and I've gotten someone pregnant before despite her being on birth control...but damnit rational thought is not in the room in these situations.
 
Mecha_Infantry said:
The "date" on Sunday went well, we crashed on a friends sofa (he was a bit creepy, saying he wants to add her to facebook, commenting on her body WHILST I WAS THERE) and had some nice pillow talk, but I didn't initiate anything...but she invited me to her house on Thursday and she's going to cook me a meal :)
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I'm proud boy, you are in. Did you sleep on the same couch and snuggle?
 
practice02 said:
I'm proud boy, you are in. Did you sleep on the same couch and snuggle?
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Haha, well I was sleeping on her bum but then I started to snore really badly (so bad she had to put her ipod on) and she rolled over to the underneath part of the pullout couch :lol
 
practice02 said:
I'm just going to say what everyone is thinking only High schoolers are satisfied with handies.
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A girl started giving me one once and asked how it felt. I told her I could do that shit myself and moved her head into position. Don't be afraid to remediate the situation, gentlemen.
 
Mecha_Infantry said:
Haha, well I was sleeping on her bum but then I started to snore really badly (so bad she had to put her ipod on) and she rolled over to the underneath part of the pullout couch :lol
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I assume you were drinking that evening no concerns of a beer fart to the face?
 
sammy said:
I keep getting played, losing my faith in the female gender :lol

Why won't engaged, married, and committed girls let you know about their status 'till weeks after you've gotten to know them!?? I get so sick of being strung along wasting my time because they want attention that their men won't give 'em... The worst is imagining someday being engaged to some broad who goes out of her way to avoid stating her relationship status with new guys.

ehhh, it's so tedious. If I sit down with a brand new neutral person, I usually know within 10 - 20 minutes all about their significant other. But I keep meeting girls that seem interested (hell some even buy ME drinks) and flirtatious that are willing to get to know me. Well they're interested in getting whatever good vibe from me for weeks before I ask them out, then they drop the truth on me about who they belong to.
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Ironic that you dislike having your time wasted, but you spend weeks before making a romantic overture. Look at it from the girl's perspective. If she's a catch, why should she wait weeks for your balls to drop when she's constantly being hit on by other guys? You're wasting her time as much as the other way around. It's not hard to set the tone for an encounter as more than just friendly banter from the get-go.
 
Eggo said:
Ironic that you dislike having your time wasted.
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indeed, this I think I've come to terms with with. There's no fear of rejection, i just want to know the girl is sane 'cause i've been with some batshit fucking crazy ones that aim to hurt physically as well as mentally. but what's the use me trying to fashion a friendship first, people can change overnight 3 weeks of flirt is no indication of her future crazy. if a chick's gonna go mean on me i'm just going to bolt
 
sammy said:
indeed, this I think I've come to terms with with. There's no fear of rejection, i just want to know the girl is sane 'cause i've been with some batshit fucking crazy ones that aim to hurt physically as well as mentally. but what's the use me trying to fashion a friendship first, people can change overnight 3 weeks of flirt is no indication of her future crazy. if a chick's gonna go mean on me i'm just going to bolt
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I believe the first 9 months of a relationship are where you put your best food forward. After that trial period, the real person tends to come out. If you're a slob, you start being messier. Maybe she doesn't put on makeup or take care of herself as much any more. Maybe you stop doing spontaneous, romantic things. The facade tends to come down by then, so you know what a person is really like. This is also why I don't understand people who get married within months of meeting each other. You haven't seen the real person yet.
 
Eggo said:
I believe the first 9 months of a relationship are where you put your best food forward. After that trial period, the real person tends to come out. If you're a slob, you start being messier. Maybe she doesn't put on makeup or take care of herself as much any more. Maybe you stop doing spontaneous, romantic things. The facade tends to come down by then, so you know what a person is really like. This is also why I don't understand people who get married within months of meeting each other. You haven't seen the real person yet.
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Mother fucking truth right here! Been through enough to know this!
 
sammy said:
indeed, this I think I've come to terms with with. There's no fear of rejection, i just want to know the girl is sane 'cause i've been with some batshit fucking crazy ones that aim to hurt physically as well as mentally. but what's the use me trying to fashion a friendship first, people can change overnight 3 weeks of flirt is no indication of her future crazy. if a chick's gonna go mean on me i'm just going to bolt
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Sounds like you have a solid plan.
 
I told my girlfriend her superpubes are clogging up her shower drain and she got mad at me :D


I have no idea what a superpube is I just made it up. She got offended.
 
y2dvd said:
Why did it stop at handies WTF?!?!
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Given that I was told less than a week earlier we should be "friends", and because I'd previously been denied access down south with her I didn't want to push my luck.

Plenty of time for these things.... it's a slow build scenario.

It was quite satisfying.
 
Ok. Looking for some tips. A girl I know is now single. I've known her for a while and we're good friends. Of course I do have feelings for her but I'm not sure how to go about it considering I'm pretty sure i'm deep in the friend zone. Any tips?
 
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