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Combine said:
Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope. :)
The girl i was dating awhile ago thought it was cute when I got excited about nes games... You never know what they'll find attractive lol
 
Combine said:
Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope. :)
It's all about being secure in who you are as a man. If you'll just love, accept, and appreciate yourself; confidence will come naturally. And that, more than anything, is what will attract women to you. At that point you don't need game, you just have to sit back and be you.
 
Any normal girl is not turned off by a guy that likes video games. It would be like if you were turned off by a girl who liked fashion. In-fact a lot of girls kind of like video games, they may not have any knowledge of current ones or even be inclined to to learn much about them but girls know boys play video games - it's ingrained into their mind at an early age. Everyone of my ex's and flings would watch me play video games or usually even met me at school where I'd talk to friends about games. Don't be ashamed about it, just don't expect to have a meaningful conversation about them unless she's into it as well... just like you wouldn't expect to have a meaningful conversation about the latest episode of Project Runway when she brings that up.

Obviously if you're obsessed with them it'd probably be a turn off but that can be said about anything.
 
What the fuck is up with all this video game talk? If a chick likes a shitty movie or band, I don't flip out and kick her ass to the curb.
 
bdizzle said:
I represented for all gaffers across the globe lol. I want to reitterate something for all the dudes in this thread who think being nerdy is a bad thing. When the girl was at my place she saw the final fantasy wall scrolls I had on my bedroom wall. She saw the street fighter iv wall scroll on my bedroom wall. She saw all my video game stuff, my super Mario bros pajama pants, heard the SMB ringtone on my phone, even commented on how it's apparrent how much I love video games. She saw all my books, my certification plaques, and I told her how much I love computers. And guess what? She still likes me. If you guys would just accept yourselves for who you are, and not wear your "nerdiness" as a badge of shame, neither will the women in your life. It'll just be one of those things that they like about you.
News flash girls like it when a man has hobbies interests and passion for something.
 
Mr.City said:
What the fuck is up with all this video game talk? If a chick likes a shitty movie or band, I don't flip out and kick her ass to the curb.

I more or less did that once to a gf I had whose favorite band was Paramore
 
Combine said:
Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope. :)

Being able to love and accept yourself is the most important key to success not only with women, but in life.

This is why we are so hard on you when you start talking down on yourself.
 
hectorse said:
It means she is desperate for some penis


That's what I wanted to hear! :D

So let me ask you guys something. That violin player I talked to this past Friday said she has a boyfriend but I'd still like to get her number/facebook etc.. Would I be wrong in doing this? I want to do this more as practice if that makes sense.
 
hectorse said:
Why don't you stop being a douchebag? kkthnx
Really I'm the douche and the guy who dumped a girl because she liked paramore isn't? really? also their are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.
 
Just decided to cut off one of the girls I've posted about before.

Last week she texted me a bunch of times, and we ended up going running together. Afterwards we went out to a bar and had a great time, and we had made plans to hang out on the weekend.

Come Saturday night, I see her in a bar (we had talked about meeting up and getting drinks, but hadn't made specific plans, but everyone in this town goes to the same bars anyway), and I go to talk to her, and she kinda brushes me off the whole time. Since it's happened twice now, I'm not going to give her a chance to do it a third time.

She's basically giving me the "You're cool enough to spend my Thursday evenings and Sunday afternoons with, but I'll be damned if I'm going to waste a Saturday night on you" message. One of the most insulting things to be on the receiving end of. In this scenario the girl is basically telling you that you're the male equivalent of a fat chick. Fuck that. I deleted her number and hid her on facebook. I didn't unfriend her though, because we have a lot of mutual friends and I don't want her to talk to them about it.


After that I met up with some friends and we all started talking to some Korean chicks. There were four of us and four of them, and we fanned out and tried to take them down one on one. I was doing really well, and I thought everyone else was too. The whole group was looking solid. Then all of a sudden, one of them got up and left, and then they all got up and left.

Turns out one of the dudes (a guy I don't know so well) said something that one of the girls really didn't like and fucked it up for all of us.

Oh well, bad luck that night, but I'm going to handle things next weekend.
 
Puddles said:
Turns out one of the dudes (a guy I don't know so well) said something that one of the girls really didn't like and fucked it up for all of us.

There's always one dude like that.
 
Puddles said:
Come Saturday night, I see her in a bar (we had talked about meeting up and getting drinks, but hadn't made specific plans, but everyone in this town goes to the same bars anyway), and I go to talk to her, and she kinda brushes me off the whole time. Since it's happened twice now, I'm not going to give her a chance to do it a third time.

Good call to move on. Be aware, however, that there's a pretty good chance she's not thinking about what days and times are appropriate for hanging out with you as much as you think she is.
 
practice02 said:
also their (sic) are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.

Yes, because we like to know that the person we're spending time with wants to do something with his life, and won't spend all his spare time clinging to our hip. Or wallet.
 
practice02 said:
Really I'm the douche and the guy who dumped a girl because she liked paramore isn't? really? also their are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.
Lol WTF are you talking about? It has less to do with passions and hobbies and more to do with you accepting yourself and not being insecure.
 
BladeWorker said:
Good call to move on. Be aware, however, that there's a pretty good chance she's not thinking about what days and times are appropriate for hanging out with you as much as you think she is.

I don't think she's "thinking about it" at all. It's just a really insulting friend-zone move. I guess we all do the same thing. For example, one of my best friends in this town is a chick who I can talk to about just about anything. I'll go get coffee with her or go see a movie with her any time. But if I spent all Friday or Saturday night hanging out with her, I'm going to feel like that was kind of a waste, because I'm not really attracted to her, and I'd rather be talking to a girl who I'd like to get with.

It's insulting in this case because I don't really think of myself as the kind of person who should be on the receiving end, especially not with her. I've seen the guy who she assumedly ended up going home with, and the dude is a total chump. I don't think he beats me in any area whatsoever except for sideways-cap-wearing, which he admittedly excels at. That's part of the reason I'm writing her off completely. I might be willing to keep her around as just a friend if she ditched me to hook up with a really cool, really good-looking dude, but brushing me off to get with a total chump? Can't respect that at all. Done and done.
 
Puddles said:
I don't think she's "thinking about it" at all. It's just a really insulting friend-zone move. I guess we all do the same thing. For example, one of my best friends in this town is a chick who I can talk to about just about anything. I'll go get coffee with her or go see a movie with her any time. But if I spent all Friday or Saturday night hanging out with her, I'm going to feel like that was kind of a waste, because I'm not really attracted to her, and I'd rather be talking to a girl who I'd like to get with.

It's insulting in this case because I don't really think of myself as the kind of person who should be on the receiving end, especially not with her. I've seen the guy who she assumedly ended up going home with, and the dude is a total chump. I don't think he beats me in any area whatsoever except for sideways-cap-wearing, which he admittedly excels at. That's part of the reason I'm writing her off completely. I might be willing to keep her around as just a friend if she ditched me to hook up with a really cool, really good-looking dude, but brushing me off to get with a total chump? Can't respect that at all. Done and done.
Dude, I'm sorry your ego took a bruising. Nonetheless, as you say, "we all do the same thing." My sympathy for you is therefore limited.
 
Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.

My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
 
Combine said:
Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.

My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
Alcohol is just an amplifier for your current (or sometimes pervading, even if you feel happy when you start the bad shit starts to come up) mood/desires/feelings/etc. If you're not happy before you're drinking, you sure as shit won't be while you're intoxicated. Especially if your misgivings run deep like yours do. I wouldn't advise imbibing enough to get you into that state any time in the near future, man.
 
Combine said:
Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.

My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
I keep giving you the same advice but you just never seem to follow it. So please combine, LISTEN TO ME. Every morning when you wake up and see yourself in the mirror say "Damn you're sexy!" Do that whenever you see your reflection too. It may too a few
weeks/months but eventually you'll start to believe it and you won't have so many negative thoughts in your head. I know itworks because that's exactly what I did when I used to feel the way you feel about yourself. Also, just because you don't know anyone, doesn't mean you can't talk to them. Use those situations as practice. Even if you're just talking to a dude, just get used to having a conversation with people.

You only have one shot on this planet to have the kind of life you want. You better make the fucking best of it man, because before you know you're time will have passed and you'll have nothing to show for it. Life is short man, take some chances. You never know you might end up falling into an orgy or some shit.
 
Combine said:
Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.

My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.

You're making excuses for yourself there bro. Stop it. So what if you don't know anyone? How is that stopping you from having fun and talking to some peoples? You don't need friends around to have fun, all you need is yourself.
 
bdizzle said:
I keep giving you the same advice but you just never seem to follow it. So please combine, LISTEN TO ME. Every morning when you wake up and see yourself in the mirror say "Damn you're sexy!" Do that whenever you see your reflection too. It may too a few
weeks/months but eventually you'll start to believe it and you won't have so many negative thoughts in your head. I know itworks because that's exactly what I did when I used to feel the way you feel about yourself. Also, just because you don't know anyone, doesn't mean you can't talk to them. Use those situations as practice. Even if you're just talking to a dude, just get used to having a conversation with people.

You only have one shot on this planet to have the kind of life you want. You better make the fucking best of it man, because before you know you're time will have passed and you'll have nothing to show for it. Life is short man, take some chances. You never know you might end up falling into an orgy or some shit.

God I wish I could see you actually give this advice IRL. It must be entertaining as hell.
 
hectorse said:
Ah I know what you are talking about.

The answer to that kind of behavior is having a shit ton more fun than her and show it in her face. A little bit obvious, yes, but it works. She'll want to be a part of it.

Yeah, that'll probably happen naturally. Her social circle is a joke compared to mine. But... she's a somewhat attractive girl, and so just about any guy in this down would do her, and apparently a lot of them do. =(

Such a disappointment. I thought she was really amazing when I first met her. Didn't really know about her typical weekend exploits at the time though.
 
If I had the money I would go out to California force him to socialize. It would be a lot like that scene from Saving Silverman.
 
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
 
Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.

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Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break.
:lol :lol I don't know why but that made me laugh so hard. But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.

Edit: Isn't it a bit soon for a Coleman gif?
 
Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
Avoiding calling them bitches and drippy sluts helps, too.
 
Combine said:
My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

Well, I can understand the first part of this paragraph. Alcohol is a depressant after all. There's been many a time when I have tended to withdraw from a gathering and observe from a distance, alone with my thoughts.

Err, can't say I can match the second part though. I don't think I'm attractive, but I am more likely to fight the urge to flex in front of any mirror I come across than I am to get down on myself, thinking I'm ugly. :lol

That being said, I do think I have ugly-ass teeth and am generally very self-conscious when trying to smile. I tend to keep my ugly-ass mouth closed when I'm getting my picture taken. :lol
 
BladeWorker said:
Avoiding calling them bitches and drippy sluts helps, too.

Damn! No wonder she doesn't return my calls...

Edit: I think Combine should post his picture here. We need to help him get his swerve on.
 
Combine, I went through the thread and we need you to go back to this point:

Oh wow! While at work just now, I was sitting on a sofa in the hallway and a rather cute girl walked past. And would you believe it? I did indeed maintain eye contact with her the whole time (even when she looked back) and smiled. And she smiled back! (though she turned her head down at the same time. Dunno what that means, but I thought it was cute) Wow!

Heh, ok, so it's probably not a big deal for most people. But it felt really really good. Especially since she wasn't so bad looking either.

Wow, thanks for all the props guys! I honestly did feel something change about me once that occured, I dunno if I can put it into words, but, well, I guess I just felt better about myself. :)

Some backgroud. This girl was a complete stranger (if I have seen her before, I didn't remember) as she does not work in the same office/company I do but probably in one of the adjacent ones (unless she was just a visitor). I'm not too sure I remember her appearance exactly now but I probably would if I saw her again I think.

At the very very least though, I think I now definitely feel more confident with eye-contact, or at least I know it can work. Obviously I ain't gonna set myself up thinking every eye-contact will go so well, but at least now I have something to point to to say "hey, it worked".

Too bad she was only in sight for a few seconds, if she had lingered I might have gotten the courage to say something. Oh well, there's always another time.

Start back at square one. Start telling yourself your awesome, start making eye contact, and start trying to have a conversation with anyone and everyone you meet. If you fail, let us know and we can adjust it to make things work better for you.

And Combine, I'm 100% serious when I give you this offer. I can take a 3 day weekend, fly out to wherever you live, and help you overcome some of your problems. It won't cost you a penny, I just don't want you to stay stuck in this rut you're in forever. Like I've said, I've been there, and I know it sucks, but I also know how to change yourself and get out of it.

MiDNiGHTS said:
God I wish I could see you actually give this advice IRL. It must be entertaining as hell.

Telling yourself "You're sexy" in the mirror was the most awkward thing I did for the first 3 or 4 weeks. I kept wanting to stop because I felt like a total fucking idiot, but I didn't. And eventually after a while, I started believing my own bullshit and realizing, hey, I'm not that bad looking. Then it was easier for me to actually work on the shit I didn't like about myself.
 
Mr.City said:
:lol :lol I don't know why but that made me laugh so hard. But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.

Edit: Isn't it a bit soon for a Coleman gif?

I'm trying to honor the man I assure you.
 
Mr.City said:
Edit: I think Combine should post his picture here. We need to help him get his swerve on.

I disagree. GAF can be ruthless.* Maybe he can post pics in PM to certain individuals he trusts, but otherwise, I don't see the need.

*I say this as the man who was told he looked like Bob Saget when I posted a thread of pics asking GAF how old I look. :lol
 
bdizzle said:
Telling yourself "You're sexy" in the mirror was the most awkward thing I did for the first 3 or 4 weeks. I kept wanting to stop because I felt like a total fucking idiot, but I didn't. And eventually after a while, I started believing my own bullshit and realizing, hey, I'm not that bad looking. Then it was easier for me to actually work on the shit I didn't like about myself.

Ladies do this too. Even the naturally hawt ones have to tell themselves they're sexy (at least) occasionally.
 
Combine said:
Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.

My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.

My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.

with all due respect, how do you expect to meet someone new in your life if you dont talk to strangers?
 
bdizzle said:
And Combine, I'm 100% serious when I give you this offer. I can take a 3 day weekend, fly out to wherever you live, and help you overcome some of your problems. It won't cost you a penny, I just don't want you to stay stuck in this rut you're in forever. Like I've said, I've been there, and I know it sucks, but I also know how to change yourself and get out of it.
This is why I love GAF.
 
Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.


This had me in tears. Seriously funny shit.
 
Pinko Marx said:
You're making excuses for yourself there bro. Stop it. So what if you don't know anyone? How is that stopping you from having fun and talking to some peoples? You don't need friends around to have fun, all you need is yourself.
How the hell are you supposed to talk to these people if you don't even know them? I was listening for some, any opportunity that might be a means to try and converse, but they were always talking about their own stories and such, not even subjects really, just talking about what this guy did that day or what they're doing tomorrow and stuff. It's not really stuff I can just jump in on especially being a total and complete stranger.
Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
City answered this for me.
Mr.City said:
But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.
Well, that was the case, and I can't imagine it wouldn't be the same way since people get even more aggressive as they get older, and especially when they drink too.
bdizzle said:
Combine, I went through the thread and we need you to go back to this point...

Telling yourself "You're sexy" in the mirror was the most awkward thing I did for the first 3 or 4 weeks. I kept wanting to stop because I felt like a total fucking idiot, but I didn't. And eventually after a while, I started believing my own bullshit and realizing, hey, I'm not that bad looking. Then it was easier for me to actually work on the shit I didn't like about myself.
Heh, I remember back, that was in the good old days when I was employed and had some self worth attached to it. Getting shit-canned pretty much fucked me over to hell in all aspects of that.

I have in the past tried the "you're sexy" routine. And yeah, it's laughable when you start it out and see yourself in the mirror and think of the absurdity of it. I suppose, if you keep doing it for months, especially if I can workout at the same time, maybe some transformation can take place in that period.
J.M.Reyes said:
with all due respect, how do you expect to meet someone new in your life if you dont talk to strangers?
I don't know, but I can't imagine just going up to them out of the blue and start babbling away would be a way to help out, especially when I really couldn't think of anything to say.

Oh, and I'm not posting a pic here. PM's maybe, maybe, if I feel I can trust. Some have gotten them.
 
Tenks said:
Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.

classic GAF moment.
 
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