The girl i was dating awhile ago thought it was cute when I got excited about nes games... You never know what they'll find attractive lolCombine said:Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope.![]()
The girl i was dating awhile ago thought it was cute when I got excited about nes games... You never know what they'll find attractive lolCombine said:Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope.![]()
It's all about being secure in who you are as a man. If you'll just love, accept, and appreciate yourself; confidence will come naturally. And that, more than anything, is what will attract women to you. At that point you don't need game, you just have to sit back and be you.Combine said:Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope.![]()
bdizzle is that your answer for everything?bdizzle said:Kill her, dispose of the murder weapon, then frame someone else and keep the reward money. That's the only rational response to this situation.
practice02 said:bdizzle is that your answer for everything?
News flash girls like it when a man has hobbies interests and passion for something.bdizzle said:I represented for all gaffers across the globe lol. I want to reitterate something for all the dudes in this thread who think being nerdy is a bad thing. When the girl was at my place she saw the final fantasy wall scrolls I had on my bedroom wall. She saw the street fighter iv wall scroll on my bedroom wall. She saw all my video game stuff, my super Mario bros pajama pants, heard the SMB ringtone on my phone, even commented on how it's apparrent how much I love video games. She saw all my books, my certification plaques, and I told her how much I love computers. And guess what? She still likes me. If you guys would just accept yourselves for who you are, and not wear your "nerdiness" as a badge of shame, neither will the women in your life. It'll just be one of those things that they like about you.
Mr.City said:What the fuck is up with all this video game talk? If a chick likes a shitty movie or band, I don't flip out and kick her ass to the curb.
Combine said:Wow, that's incredibly inspiring. What a way to instill hope.![]()
bdizzle said:Pretty much. It always works man. IT ALWAYS WORKS!
News Flash people will like dumb shit that you don't.DTLIONS1013 said:I more or less did that once to a gf I had whose favorite band was Paramore
practice02 said:News Flash people will like dumb shit that you don't.
hectorse said:It means she is desperate for some penis
lolRafa=FedKilla said:Costanza if you are reading this thread, everyone is pulling for you!
Really I'm the douche and the guy who dumped a girl because she liked paramore isn't? really? also their are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.hectorse said:Why don't you stop being a douchebag? kkthnx
Puddles said:Turns out one of the dudes (a guy I don't know so well) said something that one of the girls really didn't like and fucked it up for all of us.
Puddles said:Come Saturday night, I see her in a bar (we had talked about meeting up and getting drinks, but hadn't made specific plans, but everyone in this town goes to the same bars anyway), and I go to talk to her, and she kinda brushes me off the whole time. Since it's happened twice now, I'm not going to give her a chance to do it a third time.
practice02 said:also their (sic) are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.
No, you have to kill someone first. First homicide, then public displays of nudity.Antagon said:But... shouldn't you just whip your dick out?
Lol WTF are you talking about? It has less to do with passions and hobbies and more to do with you accepting yourself and not being insecure.practice02 said:Really I'm the douche and the guy who dumped a girl because she liked paramore isn't? really? also their are studies based looking at what women consider attractive qualities in men that are not physical and hobbies and passion for something are both ranked high.
BladeWorker said:Good call to move on. Be aware, however, that there's a pretty good chance she's not thinking about what days and times are appropriate for hanging out with you as much as you think she is.
Dude, I'm sorry your ego took a bruising. Nonetheless, as you say, "we all do the same thing." My sympathy for you is therefore limited.Puddles said:I don't think she's "thinking about it" at all. It's just a really insulting friend-zone move. I guess we all do the same thing. For example, one of my best friends in this town is a chick who I can talk to about just about anything. I'll go get coffee with her or go see a movie with her any time. But if I spent all Friday or Saturday night hanging out with her, I'm going to feel like that was kind of a waste, because I'm not really attracted to her, and I'd rather be talking to a girl who I'd like to get with.
It's insulting in this case because I don't really think of myself as the kind of person who should be on the receiving end, especially not with her. I've seen the guy who she assumedly ended up going home with, and the dude is a total chump. I don't think he beats me in any area whatsoever except for sideways-cap-wearing, which he admittedly excels at. That's part of the reason I'm writing her off completely. I might be willing to keep her around as just a friend if she ditched me to hook up with a really cool, really good-looking dude, but brushing me off to get with a total chump? Can't respect that at all. Done and done.
Alcohol is just an amplifier for your current (or sometimes pervading, even if you feel happy when you start the bad shit starts to come up) mood/desires/feelings/etc. If you're not happy before you're drinking, you sure as shit won't be while you're intoxicated. Especially if your misgivings run deep like yours do. I wouldn't advise imbibing enough to get you into that state any time in the near future, man.Combine said:Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.
My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.
My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
I keep giving you the same advice but you just never seem to follow it. So please combine, LISTEN TO ME. Every morning when you wake up and see yourself in the mirror say "Damn you're sexy!" Do that whenever you see your reflection too. It may too a fewCombine said:Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.
My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.
My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
Combine said:Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.
My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.
My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
bdizzle said:I keep giving you the same advice but you just never seem to follow it. So please combine, LISTEN TO ME. Every morning when you wake up and see yourself in the mirror say "Damn you're sexy!" Do that whenever you see your reflection too. It may too a few
weeks/months but eventually you'll start to believe it and you won't have so many negative thoughts in your head. I know itworks because that's exactly what I did when I used to feel the way you feel about yourself. Also, just because you don't know anyone, doesn't mean you can't talk to them. Use those situations as practice. Even if you're just talking to a dude, just get used to having a conversation with people.
You only have one shot on this planet to have the kind of life you want. You better make the fucking best of it man, because before you know you're time will have passed and you'll have nothing to show for it. Life is short man, take some chances. You never know you might end up falling into an orgy or some shit.
hectorse said:Ah I know what you are talking about.
The answer to that kind of behavior is having a shit ton more fun than her and show it in her face. A little bit obvious, yes, but it works. She'll want to be a part of it.
Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
:lol :lol I don't know why but that made me laugh so hard. But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break.
Avoiding calling them bitches and drippy sluts helps, too.Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
Combine said:My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.
BladeWorker said:Avoiding calling them bitches and drippy sluts helps, too.
Oh wow! While at work just now, I was sitting on a sofa in the hallway and a rather cute girl walked past. And would you believe it? I did indeed maintain eye contact with her the whole time (even when she looked back) and smiled. And she smiled back! (though she turned her head down at the same time. Dunno what that means, but I thought it was cute) Wow!
Heh, ok, so it's probably not a big deal for most people. But it felt really really good. Especially since she wasn't so bad looking either.
Wow, thanks for all the props guys! I honestly did feel something change about me once that occured, I dunno if I can put it into words, but, well, I guess I just felt better about myself.
Some backgroud. This girl was a complete stranger (if I have seen her before, I didn't remember) as she does not work in the same office/company I do but probably in one of the adjacent ones (unless she was just a visitor). I'm not too sure I remember her appearance exactly now but I probably would if I saw her again I think.
At the very very least though, I think I now definitely feel more confident with eye-contact, or at least I know it can work. Obviously I ain't gonna set myself up thinking every eye-contact will go so well, but at least now I have something to point to to say "hey, it worked".
Too bad she was only in sight for a few seconds, if she had lingered I might have gotten the courage to say something. Oh well, there's always another time.
MiDNiGHTS said:God I wish I could see you actually give this advice IRL. It must be entertaining as hell.
Mr.City said::lol :lol I don't know why but that made me laugh so hard. But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.
Edit: Isn't it a bit soon for a Coleman gif?
Mr.City said:Edit: I think Combine should post his picture here. We need to help him get his swerve on.
bdizzle said:Telling yourself "You're sexy" in the mirror was the most awkward thing I did for the first 3 or 4 weeks. I kept wanting to stop because I felt like a total fucking idiot, but I didn't. And eventually after a while, I started believing my own bullshit and realizing, hey, I'm not that bad looking. Then it was easier for me to actually work on the shit I didn't like about myself.
Combine said:Well, I ended up going to a house party for the first time in like, well, I can't remember. It was a nice atmosphere and all, I was enjoying myself. I didn't really converse with anyone though since I didn't really know anyone there, and only managed to share some back and forth with a few of my brother's friends. Almost all the girls there from what I can tell were either married or in relationships too.
My problem is I keep getting depressed after drinking a lot, then I end up in the corner or some other outside place just listening to the conversations. Also, every time I see my reflection in the mirror or a window I just seem to start hating what I see and think I'm incredibly ugly, so much so that even the fat people look more attractive than I do.
My brother is awesome though, some of his acquaintances are setting him up with a girl. It's great to have friends who help you like that.
This is why I love GAF.bdizzle said:And Combine, I'm 100% serious when I give you this offer. I can take a 3 day weekend, fly out to wherever you live, and help you overcome some of your problems. It won't cost you a penny, I just don't want you to stay stuck in this rut you're in forever. Like I've said, I've been there, and I know it sucks, but I also know how to change yourself and get out of it.
Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
How the hell are you supposed to talk to these people if you don't even know them? I was listening for some, any opportunity that might be a means to try and converse, but they were always talking about their own stories and such, not even subjects really, just talking about what this guy did that day or what they're doing tomorrow and stuff. It's not really stuff I can just jump in on especially being a total and complete stranger.Pinko Marx said:You're making excuses for yourself there bro. Stop it. So what if you don't know anyone? How is that stopping you from having fun and talking to some peoples? You don't need friends around to have fun, all you need is yourself.
City answered this for me.Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
Well, that was the case, and I can't imagine it wouldn't be the same way since people get even more aggressive as they get older, and especially when they drink too.Mr.City said:But seriously, Combine believes that everyone is out to beat the fuck out of him when he goes outside, no joke. I've talked to Combine outside this thread and he seriously believes that the abuse he has received in high school is the standard behavior for the outside world.
Heh, I remember back, that was in the good old days when I was employed and had some self worth attached to it. Getting shit-canned pretty much fucked me over to hell in all aspects of that.bdizzle said:Combine, I went through the thread and we need you to go back to this point...
Telling yourself "You're sexy" in the mirror was the most awkward thing I did for the first 3 or 4 weeks. I kept wanting to stop because I felt like a total fucking idiot, but I didn't. And eventually after a while, I started believing my own bullshit and realizing, hey, I'm not that bad looking. Then it was easier for me to actually work on the shit I didn't like about myself.
I don't know, but I can't imagine just going up to them out of the blue and start babbling away would be a way to help out, especially when I really couldn't think of anything to say.J.M.Reyes said:with all due respect, how do you expect to meet someone new in your life if you dont talk to strangers?
Tenks said:Why the fuck does it matter if these chicks have a husband/boyfriend?? You think homeslice is gunna run up and deck your face because you're TALKING to them? Give me a god damned break. Talking to chicks takes practice, so start on the least threatening kind: the one you don't need to worry about snagging. That way if you fuck up you haven't fucked up a potential vagina to wreck. Also, ALERT ALERT, bitches have friends. You say your brother gets hooked up well maybe these drippy sluts have friends who have equally warm vaginas who want your dickcock shoved deep and long in their baby hole? I'm mean, shit man fuck man you just need to TALK with people.
J.M.Reyes said:classic GAF moment.