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[Combine]

That's not true all the time. I become a really happy loving guy when I'm drunk. Although I do knew a few who get angry, but they are in the minority.I am sort of interested.

I had more bad experiences with the bad drunks than I've had with the good. Again, maybe I've just been unlucky and have kept meeting the wrong people.

Honestly, are you for real? This is starting to sound like the world's most elaborate trolling now. Seriously.

Mr.City has listened to enough of me to know it's the real deal. Sad as that is, and I really feel bad for the guy too for having put him through all that.

I'm gonna keep on trying though. I've never once said "fuck it! I quit it all!". I'll continue to pursue avenues that open up and such, and I'll also continue to try and work on the hate I have for myself and try to turn it around. Again, it's just so hard since I can't help but feel so often about how bad a person I am. It's amazing how toxic those thoughts are and how they can so easily debilitate you.

At the very least, lately I've been feeling better about working out and have also felt some inspiration return to my skill-building, which has been dormant for a while.

 

[BladeWorker]

Lol cake and pudding? And it tastes like pudding? Creamy pudding? You SURE you're not talking about penis?

I know, bdiz, try to contain your surprise.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Ultima_5]

I'm gonna keep on trying though. I've never once said "fuck it! I quit it all!". I'll continue to pursue avenues that open up and such, and I'll also continue to try and work on the hate I have for myself and try to turn it around.

I just wanted to say that you might not think that you've made much progress, but you should still be really proud for sticking this as long as you have. Changes take time, and I for one have always been impressed by your determination. You'll get everything worked out, just keep at it.

I also wanted to thank you for creating this girl-age thread. It's helped me alot reading the advice from bdizzle, hectorse, and countless others. Alot of the information I've read here I used and it helped me get my first girlfriend. Everyone in this thread means well, and that is something you don't see very often on the internet.

 

[BladeWorker]

Third, get a makeover. Modernize your style and strive to dress up all the time, you never know when you'll meet a cute chick and you'll wish you were wearing something that makes you look handsome, instead of your cargo shorts.

Yes, there's a reason why the cliches "women love a man in uniform", "clothes make the man", etc., exist.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[Bam Bam Baklava]

So let me throw one out there for you guys. Now I notice sometimes girls are into me when I'm out doing something but I don't really try approaching anyone because I know with almost absolute certainty that currently my situation could be seen as lame to downright pathetic. I have no immediate future prospects and I have cut all my social contacts right now because I knew their antics were eventually gonna land my ass in jail one night. So on day 2 any girls I actually introduce myself to will realize I am some 20 year old living with his parents, no job, no school (yet), and no social life (as explained above). How many of you would agree it would be better for me to get my act together before I try acting on girls?

 

[Mr.City]

So let me throw one out there for you guys. Now I notice sometimes girls are into me when I'm out doing something but I don't really try approaching anyone because I know with almost absolute certainty that currently my situation could be seen as lame to downright pathetic. I have no immediate future prospects and I have cut all my social contacts right now because I knew their antics were eventually gonna land my ass in jail one night. So on day 2 any girls I actually introduce myself to will realize I am some 20 year old living with his parents, no job, no school (yet), and no social life (as explained above). How many of you would agree it would be better for me to get my act together before I try acting on girls?

Are you going to present them with a resume when you meet them?

And here I thought I was a complete slob.
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You might of been and she just wanted to slob your knob anyway.

 

[Boogie]

A girl I went out to the movies with yesterday couldn't stop complimenting my look, specially my hair and my glasses.

Yes, my glasses

And here I thought I was a complete slob.

*shock*

The only times I get complimented on my "look" is when I'm not wearing my glasses. And then the women get their hopes up that I've made the permanent switch to contacts, rather than just having left my glasses in the car. :lol

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[-PXG-]

So let me throw one out there for you guys. Now I notice sometimes girls are into me when I'm out doing something but I don't really try approaching anyone because I know with almost absolute certainty that currently my situation could be seen as lame to downright pathetic. I have no immediate future prospects and I have cut all my social contacts right now because I knew their antics were eventually gonna land my ass in jail one night. So on day 2 any girls I actually introduce myself to will realize I am some 20 year old living with his parents, no job, no school (yet), and no social life (as explained above). How many of you would agree it would be better for me to get my act together before I try acting on girls?

By hanging out/ going out with them, you've already checked one thing off the list. That being "having no social life".

Everything else you mentioned is completely irrevelant and should have no effect and should not dictate how you interact with other people, in this case, girls.

Go out. Have fun. What do you have to lose?

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[industrian]

Third, get a makeover.

Not that I need it or anything because I'm comfortable in the skin I'm in, but I find the whole "makeover" suggestion ironic because I'm just about to go out now to get a haircut. No biggie you might think. Wrong. I've had long hair now for 6 years (last proper haircut was 7 years ago - last trim was Nov 2007) and I've decided to go short hair again. I'm probably going to go from metalhead to guido in one fell swoop but who gives a fuck?

 

[Combine]

I just wanted to say that you might not think that you've made much progress, but you should still be really proud for sticking this as long as you have. Changes take time, and I for one have always been impressed by your determination. You'll get everything worked out, just keep at it.

I also wanted to thank you for creating this girl-age thread. It's helped me alot reading the advice from bdizzle, hectorse, and countless others. Alot of the information I've read here I used and it helped me get my first girlfriend. Everyone in this thread means well, and that is something you don't see very often on the internet.

Thank you, that really really means a lot. I'm also so glad that you were able to use the advice here to get your own girl. How old were you by the way?

I really need to find a way to stop thinking that because I'm about 30 and have never had a relationship at all, there's no way any girl will want one with me knowing that. I either got to believe there must be one girl out there who wouldn't mind. Or I gotta figure out a way to make sure I don't give off that signal. Obviously as I currently am, I definitely give off bad signals about what kind of person I am. That's something I have to correct somehow. I suppose bdizzle's advice to keep telling myself good things is as good as any.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[whitehawk]

So let me throw one out there for you guys. Now I notice sometimes girls are into me when I'm out doing something but I don't really try approaching anyone because I know with almost absolute certainty that currently my situation could be seen as lame to downright pathetic. I have no immediate future prospects and I have cut all my social contacts right now because I knew their antics were eventually gonna land my ass in jail one night. So on day 2 any girls I actually introduce myself to will realize I am some 20 year old living with his parents, no job, no school (yet), and no social life (as explained above). How many of you would agree it would be better for me to get my act together before I try acting on girls?

Dude you are 20. I'm 18 and I wouldn't be all that surprised if I were living with my parents in 2 years. Hell my brother is almost 24 and still lives with us, but he's still been able to get a girlfriend last year.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Okay so let me bring up a recent situation. So I run into this girl right and she made this casual observation to initiate conversation and I commented on on what she said so that part took care of itself but as she was leaving she gave me like this 1.5 second window of opportunity to transition into asking for her info and I froze with no clue. Obviously she walked away as I basically had this look on my face like "I give up". Any transition suggestions?

 

[SephCast]

Thank you, that really really means a lot. I'm also so glad that you were able to use the advice here to get your own girl. How old were you by the way?

I really need to find a way to stop thinking that because I'm about 30 and have never had a relationship at all, there's no way any girl will want one with me knowing that. I either got to believe there must be one girl out there who wouldn't mind. Or I gotta figure out a way to make sure I don't give off that signal. Obviously as I currently am, I definitely give off bad signals about what kind of person I am. That's something I have to correct somehow. I suppose bdizzle's advice to keep telling myself good things is as good as any.

I would also like to thank you, Combine, for making this thread. It's truly made an actual difference in my life, and I'm finally starting to get my lovelife back in track. Frankly, the thread has helped motivate and change my whole outlook on life. I try to get out there and do more things now. I'm not 100% where I want to be, but it's a start.

Also, when you get a girl, you don't have to divulge every single thing about you right away. That's not how it works.

Okay so let me bring up a recent situation. So I run into this girl right and she made this casual observation to initiate conversation and I commented on on what she said so that part took care of itself but as she was leaving she gave me like this 1.5 second window of opportunity to transition into asking for her info and I froze with no clue. Obviously she walked away as I basically had this look on my face like "I give up". Any transition suggestions?

Transition suggestions? "Hey, I've gotta get going, but do you want to go grab some coffee later?"

 

[industrian]

Long hair is super difficult to pull off. Unless you are getting mad props for your long hair already, wear it shortish (not boot cut though) and save millions on hair products.

It's not getting shaved off. I'd look like I was 17 again if I did that (I shaved my head from 2000-2003).

And I wore the hair well. Something about being 6'7", muscular and into metal I suppose.

And my long hair has been part of my character since... well six fucking years. Think back to what you were doing this time in 2004.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[whitehawk]

hectorse you aren't ugly at ALL :lol

It's not getting shaved off. I'd look like I was 17 again if I did that (I shaved my head from 2000-2003).

And I wore the hair well. Something about being 6'7", muscular and into metal I suppose.

And my long hair has been part of my character since... well six fucking years. Think back to what you were doing this time in 2004.

try it. A friend of mine used to have long hair (well past the shoulders) and he just cut it so it's about halfway down his neck. Looks good if you ask me.

Also short hair doesn't mean you'll be a guido lol. I have short hair and I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Mr.City]

I had no idea you were 40, Hec.

 

[industrian]

try it. A friend of mine used to have long hair (well past the shoulders) and he just cut it so it's about halfway down his neck. Looks good if you ask me.

Also short hair doesn't mean you'll be a guido lol. I have short hair and I wouldn't have it any other way.

A few months ago I was just going to be content with another trim. But - again - six years. Time for a change in style.

Google image search for "Richard Kruspe" and that's basically the style I want. Semi-guidoy.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[whitehawk]

A few months ago I was just going to be content with another trim. But - again - six years. Time for a change in style.

Google image search for "Richard Kruspe" and that's basically the style I want. Semi-guidoy.

Don't do like him. That style can work, but this guy doesn't pull it off. Deryck Whibley from Sum41 does however.

 

[industrian]

He plays guitar in Rammstein man. :| Respect the spikes.

And don't worry. With this haircut comes a full promise that when I fully recover from DVT and start working out again I won't become Full Guido and walk around all popped collar and Tapout shirts and shit.

 

[BronzeWolf]

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[industrian]

Is that:

A) Instructions to check out said website?
B) The implication that a haircut will make me a douchebag?
C) The implication that a haircut will make me a douchebag who lands a hot girl?

 

[whitehawk]

http://hotchickswithdouchebags.com/

 

[industrian]

So A then.

Strange, I thought it was more about the way a dude acted than his physical appearance.

 

[SephCast]

So something I've noticed about me and my personality is something I'd like to call the Hype Machine.

I get hyped up over upcoming things, games, movies, tv shows, etc. I get really really hyped up over these things. I end up discussing them a ton, eagerly awaiting, and just getting really really hyped up.

I found that this happens to me with girls a lot too. When I'm in a good situation with a girl, I start hyping stuff up for myself, and start talking to other people about it. This is basically the same as putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Well, from now on, the Hype Machine, for females, is gone. It's off. It's shut down. I'm not going to put any more girls on a pedestal. It's really the downfall. They're just girls. No need to get overhyped, because then it'll just disappoint. Just take things as they go.

 

[Puddles]

To be honest, nothing. At least, nothing that I derive confidence from. I'm not an athlete, artist, musician, etc. The only thing that gives me an edge is that I am a good conversationalist and can be witty. The combination of which has landed me a few chicks, but I want to be able to get girls when I want - not when they happen to fall in my lap (or vagina first onto my dick).

I'm like the best writer I know, and I haven't been able to land a writers' group chick with that. I rock the guitar, and it hasn't gotten me any girls. I've only ever gotten laid by being cool, funny and confident on a given night. Having talents is extremely overrated. Unless you're in the top, top bracket talent-wise, you're not going to have chicks climbing on your jock. Those guys who play the guitar at a party/at the beach and get a lot of girls would probably get just as many girls even if they didn't play the guitar.

 

[industrian]

I'm back from getting my hair amputated. Man the back of my head feels cold. Short hair is a weird strange place that has a different language and gravitational level. That and I just bought the first hair gel in my life since like 2002.

I'm sure that once my sideburns and soul patch grow back it'll get back to normal. Even with long hair a facial-hair-less face looked weird on me.

I found that this happens to me with girls a lot too. When I'm in a good situation with a girl, I start hyping stuff up for myself, and start talking to other people about it. This is basically the same as putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Well, from now on, the Hype Machine, for females, is gone. It's off. It's shut down. I'm not going to put any more girls on a pedestal. It's really the downfall. They're just girls. No need to get overhyped, because then it'll just disappoint. Just take things as they go.

That was my downfall in my failing getting a relationship in Korea. It's in my nature to always think two steps ahead but now I just don't give a fuck. There's plenty of fish in the sea so just whip out your worm and splash it around for a while and see what fish gets it's mouth around it first.

I'm like the best writer I know, and I haven't been able to land a writers' group chick with that. I rock the guitar, and it hasn't gotten me any girls. I've only ever gotten laid by being cool, funny and confident on a given night. Having talents is extremely overrated. Unless you're in the top, top bracket talent-wise, you're not going to have chicks climbing on your jock. Those guys who play the guitar at a party/at the beach and get a lot of girls would probably get just as many girls even if they didn't play the guitar.

Those "top bracket talents" are on par with the "top bracket talent" of having a bank balance with 5 or more figures.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

So let me throw one out there for you guys. Now I notice sometimes girls are into me when I'm out doing something but I don't really try approaching anyone because I know with almost absolute certainty that currently my situation could be seen as lame to downright pathetic. I have no immediate future prospects and I have cut all my social contacts right now because I knew their antics were eventually gonna land my ass in jail one night. So on day 2 any girls I actually introduce myself to will realize I am some 20 year old living with his parents, no job, no school (yet), and no social life (as explained above). How many of you would agree it would be better for me to get my act together before I try acting on girls?

My cousin is 28, no job, no prospects, not in school, 2 kids by 2 different women, lives at home, and gets a whole lot of girls.

Personally, I wouldn't do it because 1) I think women would distract me from getting my shit together, and 2) I'm not sure I'm THAT fucking confident :lol

It's all about confidence. If your confident, you'll be able to attract women. Some might even offer to take care of you.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Thank you, that really really means a lot. I'm also so glad that you were able to use the advice here to get your own girl. How old were you by the way?

I really need to find a way to stop thinking that because I'm about 30 and have never had a relationship at all, there's no way any girl will want one with me knowing that. I either got to believe there must be one girl out there who wouldn't mind. Or I gotta figure out a way to make sure I don't give off that signal. Obviously as I currently am, I definitely give off bad signals about what kind of person I am. That's something I have to correct somehow. I suppose bdizzle's advice to keep telling myself good things is as good as any.

STOP.....PUTTING.....YOURSELF....DOWN!

Okay so let me bring up a recent situation. So I run into this girl right and she made this casual observation to initiate conversation and I commented on on what she said so that part took care of itself but as she was leaving she gave me like this 1.5 second window of opportunity to transition into asking for her info and I froze with no clue. Obviously she walked away as I basically had this look on my face like "I give up". Any transition suggestions?

You know what the best transition in the world is? BITCH GIVE ME YOUR DAMN NUMBER!

Or some variation of that. Next try it out, it might work.

YAY PIC TIME!

Was proud of myself that night. I walked in (100% sober) and left (100% shitfaced). Plus it was a club that I ALWAYS strike out at, and did pretty well that night. And yes my shirt is salmon. FUCKING SALMON. That's when I realized that I should have been a pimp instead of an IT guy. I'm wearing a salmon shirt!!!

 

[Puddles]

That last post I made has got me thinking. I must be doing something wrong with my overall attitude or the kind of presence I project when I play my guitar in public. Generally, when I play at a party or something, no one really cares. On the other hand, I've seen lots of people who are significantly worse players manage to keep a whole room interested and get girls flirting with them and shit. Maybe I'm playing the wrong songs. I should start learning some Oasis covers or something.

 

[valparaiso]

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu--

fugly fuckbuddy wanted to meet in a cafe "just for some coffee", because she's "really tired", and i agreed. fuck me

 

[Aurora]

Bail the fuck out!

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Make sure you bring tampons just in case she needs some.

 

[Mr.City]

STOP.....PUTTING.....YOURSELF....DOWN!



You know what the best transition in the world is? BITCH GIVE ME YOUR DAMN NUMBER!

Or some variation of that. Next try it out, it might work.



YAY PIC TIME!

Was proud of myself that night. I walked in (100% sober) and left (100% shitfaced). Plus it was a club that I ALWAYS strike out at, and did pretty well that night. And yes my shirt is salmon. FUCKING SALMON. That's when I realized that I should have been a pimp instead of an IT guy. I'm wearing a salmon shirt!!!

I'm noticing a theme where we don't smile.

 

[Ultima_5]

Thank you, that really really means a lot. I'm also so glad that you were able to use the advice here to get your own girl. How old were you by the way?

I really need to find a way to stop thinking that because I'm about 30 and have never had a relationship at all, there's no way any girl will want one with me knowing that. I either got to believe there must be one girl out there who wouldn't mind. Or I gotta figure out a way to make sure I don't give off that signal. Obviously as I currently am, I definitely give off bad signals about what kind of person I am. That's something I have to correct somehow. I suppose bdizzle's advice to keep telling myself good things is as good as any.

I was 19. I also didn't let her know that it was my first relationship. When ever she would ask me about past relationships, i would just say I saw a few girls, but nothing serious (I considered this a white lie, because I didn't want her to be weirded out about being my first gf. Once I was actually in the relationship, I told her she was my first serious girlfriend.)

 

[InfiniteNine]

We're posting pictures now? So tell me guys can I get a cute glasses wearing girl? o:

 

[valparaiso]

Make sure you bring tampons just in case she needs some.

ololol.

Spoiler

bastard

i got played big time, she waited until i'd said i could see her this afternoon to drop the bomb on me.

i'm pretty sure her girlfriends have been telling her to "make me earn it" when she met them this weekend. well guess what: you weigh ten million pounds, what works for them won't necessarily work for you.

i'm thinking of telling her straight up that i don't think it's a good idea for us to see each other if we're not gonna fuck, but there's probably a better way to handle this? in any case, further meetings in public are absolutely out of the question :$

 

[practice02]

So something I've noticed about me and my personality is something I'd like to call the Hype Machine.

I get hyped up over upcoming things, games, movies, tv shows, etc. I get really really hyped up over these things. I end up discussing them a ton, eagerly awaiting, and just getting really really hyped up.

I found that this happens to me with girls a lot too. When I'm in a good situation with a girl, I start hyping stuff up for myself, and start talking to other people about it. This is basically the same as putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Well, from now on, the Hype Machine, for females, is gone. It's off. It's shut down. I'm not going to put any more girls on a pedestal. It's really the downfall. They're just girls. No need to get overhyped, because then it'll just disappoint. Just take things as they go.

That sounds more like you aren't playing it cool. Putting pussy on a pedestal is more like you buying everything and shaving your beard if the girl doesn't like it. You worshipping the pussy like it was the Ark of the Covenant, when pussy makes up 50% of the human population. You can get excited you just need to work on letting your excitement out slowly rather then all at once. You are on the right track.

We're posting pictures now? So tell me guys can I get a cute glasses wearing girl? o:

IS that how you dress all the time or are you just in casual attire? Do we really want to start breaking down some type of dating dress code?

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

I'm noticing a theme where we don't smile.

Playa's don't smile :|

 

[InfiniteNine]

IS that how you dress all the time or are you just in casual attire? Do we really want to start breaking down some type of dating dress code?

Yes. >: To be fair I haven't bought any new clothes since I graduated from High School.

 

[Wanace]

We're posting pictures now? So tell me guys can I get a cute glasses wearing girl? o:

You look like the kinda guy I'd like to hang out with :lol Yeah I think you'd easily get a cute glasses wearing chick.

I do fine out there, and I'm definitely no looker! Although I am tall and thin, which helps.

 

[AFreak]

It's not getting shaved off. I'd look like I was 17 again if I did that (I shaved my head from 2000-2003).

And I wore the hair well. Something about being 6'7", muscular and into metal I suppose.

And my long hair has been part of my character since... well six fucking years. Think back to what you were doing this time in 2004.

I was going to high school and beating off. now im in china and beating off.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

I was going to high school and beating off. now im in china and beating off.

:lol :lol :lol :lol

 

[practice02]

Yes. >: To be fair I haven't bought any new clothes since I graduated from High School.

I've got the same flannel bud, it's no big deal. Just remember you get what you give. IF you aren't looking sharp you not going to pull in girls that look sharp. I recommend when you get a chance pick up a few outfits for going out. UrbanOutffiters sales racks have nice clothes, H&M, and oddly enough Target has really nice clothes all on the cheap. Just something to keep in mind. But all that is superficial if you like yourself someone will like you.