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blizeH said:Asking stuff like that sounds really daunting, although compared to the other idea it's actually not that bad at all
"I bet someone like you gets hit on all the time working here, right?"
Something like that? :| (sorry, I am fucking useless though!)
No.
Starchasing
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The Orange said:
i think he is right
Ditch the 'someone like'? 
It's something that ims feels like it'd be really awkward to say, not sure why, but I'll give it a go and just hope I can actually show my face in that shop again ;p
(edit) just managed to pull off some pretty incredible Facebook stalkage (don't worry I'm not going to add her!!) but I will say I'm not feeling it much at all now - I guess on the plus side I'll be less intimidated by her!
It's something that ims feels like it'd be really awkward to say, not sure why, but I'll give it a go and just hope I can actually show my face in that shop again ;p
(edit) just managed to pull off some pretty incredible Facebook stalkage (don't worry I'm not going to add her!!) but I will say I'm not feeling it much at all now - I guess on the plus side I'll be less intimidated by her!
So a major crush of mine in middle school(still really cute and we are both just getting out of college) has contacted me saying she's been "noticing" a boy on campus and when she recently saw my facebook she realized it was most likely me... This is probably because I lost like a hundred pounds the last couple of years. I remember seeing her on campus but she didn't really seem to remember/recognize me so maybe what she is saying is true.
So uhh... I haven't replied to her message yet.... I kind of have a general idea how to go about this but are there any general guidelines/advice you guys would have for how not to fuck this up?
So uhh... I haven't replied to her message yet.... I kind of have a general idea how to go about this but are there any general guidelines/advice you guys would have for how not to fuck this up?
Hydranockz
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Combine said:
"That's just what Jesus said sir!"
Starchasing
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Combine said:
im sorry but i beleive that you need a good spanking... pitying you wont help you... thats what i think...
So not sure where I'm at with this girl I've been seeing. Only been two dates, she took a raincheck on the third which was supposed to be on Thursday. But she texted me right after the second date and seemed very interested so I'm confused. I texted her once yesterday and we talked for a little while. I'm thinking I better wait for her to initiate something this week as I've contacted her the last few times.
Seafood? Better get a breath mint afterwards.
Puddles said:
Seafood? Better get a breath mint afterwards.
DTLIONS1013
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I read this thread alot but I rarely post because I dont usually have any major problems. Anyway I met this girl, shes really nice, cute, shes into soccer and video games(my two main interests), she texts/calls me every day, she even gives me tickets to MLS games since she works for a local radio station. Problem is, shes 22 and I'm 17. If she was my age I would think she's interested, but I can't understand why she would be because of the age difference. Even if she is I think I would have a hard time making a move in a girl 5 years older than me. Any suggestions?
JackWallabee
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PoliceCop said:
dude, stfu. what is your point? stop trying to insult the guy under the guise of "i have good intentions." played out.
Well guys, I have a date this coming Saturday. First date in about two years, and strangely, I'm not nervous at all. I think I just realized that if it doesn't work out, oh well, more fish in the sea and all that jazz. I've known this girl for about a year now and recently we just decided to take it a step further and see what happens.
Got some plans, gonna go mini-golfing, then dinner, then a movie. Sounds good, right? Oh wait, except that the movie is...Twilight. God dammit. But whatever, I'll turn in a man card just to get out there again.
Got some plans, gonna go mini-golfing, then dinner, then a movie. Sounds good, right? Oh wait, except that the movie is...Twilight. God dammit. But whatever, I'll turn in a man card just to get out there again.
DTLIONS1013
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Einbroch said:
Sounds long for a first date
Well we've been out a few times as friends so I'm not too concerned with the length or conversation getting stale, and the dinner is actually at the mini-golf place, so yeah. Just one of those hot-dog/hamburger grills.DTLIONS1013 said:
And she really wants to see that damn movie.
DTLIONS1013
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Einbroch said:
Ah, that should be fine then, good luck with the movie though, glad I havn't been pressured into that yet
First off, I had a great day today, talked to a couple girls, one had a boyfriend unfortunately that I was playing a pick up game of soccer with. But come on I had to talk to the only cute girl on the sidelines. I also talked with the other girl who was playing with us who was around my age. Then I talked to another couple girls working at an ice cream place. I'm determined on going back to the ice cream girl and asking her for her number one day. I didn't want to ask for it on her first day while my friend was there with me. So after all that good stuff..
Getting involved with a girl who has a boyfriend still isn't a good idea right? At least she's not just into me again cause she's desperately afraid of being alone. Or she just wants to make sure I want to date her before she leaves him (probably the latter). I still don't know if I really like her or not cause she has some things to explain, and we're going to have a talk over coffee next week (cause im having surgery this week).
I didn't even know she still had a boyfriend until tonight. She's definitely going to ask me if I still like her, what do I say to that? I don't want to come off as if I'm waiting or was waiting for her or something, because I'm definitely not/wasn't. I'm not sure if this is a good idea like I might tell her she's a horrible person or something...
Getting involved with a girl who has a boyfriend still isn't a good idea right? At least she's not just into me again cause she's desperately afraid of being alone. Or she just wants to make sure I want to date her before she leaves him (probably the latter). I still don't know if I really like her or not cause she has some things to explain, and we're going to have a talk over coffee next week (cause im having surgery this week).
I didn't even know she still had a boyfriend until tonight. She's definitely going to ask me if I still like her, what do I say to that? I don't want to come off as if I'm waiting or was waiting for her or something, because I'm definitely not/wasn't. I'm not sure if this is a good idea like I might tell her she's a horrible person or something...
blizeH said:Asking stuff like that sounds really daunting, although compared to the other idea it's actually not that bad at all
"I bet someone like you gets hit on all the time working here, right?"
Something like that? :| (sorry, I am fucking useless though!)
That's weak man. Its so plain.
Any decent looking girl gets hit on all the time.
Do something with a bit more creativity similar to what Solideliquid suggested.
And stop putting yourself down.
Cheers, but by doing something like that I'd only be setting myself up for a fall I think. It's only recently I've got back into the habit of actually even being able to hold a conversation with hot girls ('pussy on a pedestal' mentality) and being honest, I'm not a particularly interesting person anyway, so maybe I just need to lower my expectations and targets a bit
I almost still like the idea of asking for a pen & writing down my number, but there's a very fine line between it working, and it just looking really fucking creepy!
I almost still like the idea of asking for a pen & writing down my number, but there's a very fine line between it working, and it just looking really fucking creepy!
Solideliquid
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blizeH said:Cheers, but by doing something like that I'd only be setting myself up for a fall I think. It's only recently I've got back into the habit of actually even being able to hold a conversation with hot girls ('pussy on a pedestal' mentality) and being honest, I'm not a particularly interesting person anyway, so maybe I just need to lower my expectations and targets a bit
I almost still like the idea of asking for a pen & writing down my number, but there's a very fine line between it working, and it just looking really fucking creepy!
Don't ask a girl for a pen to write down your number. Girls like a guy to have a certain amount of confidence. She won't go for you if she feels you're weak, she may even feel you aren't putting enough effort into asking her and that she's not worth it to you.
It's better to feel like you're being pushy, rather than being too sheepish. Being shy and seemingly weak/low in confidence is way worse than being a little pushy. Don't think too much about her feelings and just go for it. You need to make her latch on. She won't let go if you do.
Yeah you're right Solid, cheers.
idk, I seem to go around in cycles (almost ala Combine!) where one moment I'll surprise myself by doing something and it'll give me a real confidence boost, then the sudden realisation sinks in that actually I'm not confident, not creative, not pushy, and not just able to go for it, and I'm actually worse than being back to square one again!
idk, I seem to go around in cycles (almost ala Combine!) where one moment I'll surprise myself by doing something and it'll give me a real confidence boost, then the sudden realisation sinks in that actually I'm not confident, not creative, not pushy, and not just able to go for it, and I'm actually worse than being back to square one again!
Solideliquid
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blizeH said:Yeah you're right Solid, cheers.
idk, I seem to go around in cycles (almost ala Combine!) where one moment I'll surprise myself by doing something and it'll give me a real confidence boost, then the sudden realisation sinks in that actually I'm not confident, not creative, not pushy, and not just able to go for it, and I'm actually worse than being back to square one again!
You're afraid of that sting you'll feel if you get rejected. It's a tough thing to get over. You have to realize you have a lot to offer someone, but even if you are alone you have a lot to offer the world as well as yourself.
So if you get rejected, you can fall back on that. That way, if you get rejected it's not that big a deal and life moves on.
Fair points again thanks (although I may need to have a think on exactly this thing you're on about having 'a lot to offer' someone is 
) but I don't think it's the fear of rejection that's bothering me, just that I'd feel really concious.
Like, your suggestion is a great one, but you need a fuck load of confidence to be able to pull that off; it's a fine line between getting these things horribly wrong and brilliantly right - it's all in the delivery I guess
) but I don't think it's the fear of rejection that's bothering me, just that I'd feel really concious.Like, your suggestion is a great one, but you need a fuck load of confidence to be able to pull that off; it's a fine line between getting these things horribly wrong and brilliantly right - it's all in the delivery I guess
Starchasing
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Antagon said:
you can try.... if she says no, i still have a bf i have to dump him first then she is a good person.
Starchasing
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Antagon said:
you can be getting to know some one else meanwhile
practice02
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Darren870 said:
Just need to vent for a sec
I mentioned I met a girl on omegle a couple pages back. We are still talking a ton, and this morning she asked me if she thought it was possible if we would ever go on a date. Basically if she didn't live 30 hours away I would be in a relationship with a fuck awesome chick right now. Goddam you world, you and your shitty shit!
plane.jpg?
I wish, but I'm a piss poor college student that won't be financially independent or stable for another four years, by which point all of this will be irrelevant
SERIOUSLY GODDAMMIT
I mentioned I met a girl on omegle a couple pages back. We are still talking a ton, and this morning she asked me if she thought it was possible if we would ever go on a date. Basically if she didn't live 30 hours away I would be in a relationship with a fuck awesome chick right now. Goddam you world, you and your shitty shit!
plane.jpg?
I wish, but I'm a piss poor college student that won't be financially independent or stable for another four years, by which point all of this will be irrelevant
SERIOUSLY GODDAMMIT
Hydranockz
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30 hours... flying?EzLink said:
practice02
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You know what the answer is get over it and find someone closer.EzLink said:
Hydranockz
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Distance can work thoughEzLink said:Yeah
First time in my life though that a girl I really like also likes me too. Hoo-fucking-ray. Goddammit
practice02
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If you found one, more exist trust me.EzLink said:Yeah
First time in my life though that a girl I really like also likes me too. Hoo-fucking-ray. Goddammit
I know they aren't really happy together, but I'll still feel bad about breaking them apart. Actually thats a lie. I won't really, because it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.blizeH said:
I wouldn't really be dating her until she broke up with her boyfriend anyway. We're just having a talk about stuff over coffee.
Hydranockz
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Be the shoulder to cry on dude. Chicks dig having more girl friends.Dipper145 said:
I jest.
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