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bdizzle said:
Dude I´m not the friend. He´s just constantly talking about that and it sucks cuz I have problems too. And yeah I´ve seen her she looks way better without the glasses cuz they are really thick. Thx for your advice dude but I thought telling her that in a respectful way would be better. I mean you talk about 'hoes' and it seems you look down on women. Are you afraid to fall in love or something?
Reporting in. That girl replied. We've got a date. 
Details to be discussed.
I'm already thinking that it's not going to work out, though. I depend a lot on my confidence (as all guys do) and she's pretty intimidating. Obviously I'd like to be with confident girls, but I definitely do better with insecure ones. Hah.
Details to be discussed.I'm already thinking that it's not going to work out, though. I depend a lot on my confidence (as all guys do) and she's pretty intimidating. Obviously I'd like to be with confident girls, but I definitely do better with insecure ones. Hah.
Come on....bdizzle said:
Mike Works
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How is she intimidating?
Anticitizen One
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Pterion said:
I dont understand what you mean
JackWallabee
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Anticitizen One said:
they scour before they leave.
It's bullshit that sounds like good advice. I've known girls who during certain periods of their lives were definitely single, sometimes for rather significant lengths of time. And not because they aren't attractive enough to get a boyfriend. I understand the spirit of the advice, though....."monkeys swinging from branch to branch don't let go of the last one until they grab hold of a new one", etc etc.Anticitizen One said:
I can relate to that. I worked with a girl 1-2 years ago who was not only very beautiful with a fun and playful personality, but incredibly sharp, very well educated and musically talented, extremely confident and independent-minded, and had such an active life outside of work that I was embarrassed to even discuss my life with her. I would've liked to have dated her, I suppose, but goddamn would that have been an awkward match. Intimidating indeed.Socreges said:
I ran into her several weeks ago and she was more gorgeous than ever. motherfuck.
Mike Works
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Believe it or not, going out with someone who you think is more attractive than you is surprisingly easy and awesome.Socreges said:
Just remember- and this is not bullshit at all- that she finds you attractive. She wants to go on a date with you.
It doesn't matter if she barely finds you attractive enough, if she finds you equally attractive, or if she's in the same position as you and finds you more attractive. The bottom line is that there is attraction there for her.
So what do you do? You take her on a date. You be the same guy that talked her up at that BBQ and the same guy that had the confidence to ask her out.
Just make sure you show her that she's attractive to you when you're on your date. Really shouldn't be too hard if she's cute.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with a confident and strong woman. Those are good qualities. And if she's as hot as you say she is, then you've done well!
You've done everything right so far. Keep that positive mentality up and you'll be golden.
SpectreFire
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21 year old dating a 17 year old. Kosher or not?
She looks older than 17, sure as hell acts older. The girl has the lexicon of a college undergrad.
She looks older than 17, sure as hell acts older. The girl has the lexicon of a college undergrad.
SpectreFire
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Tristam said:
I'm in communications and *sigh*, I wish dearly that wasn't true.
whitehawk said:
I'm not going to lie. I'm definitely getting some of that weird vibe too. But at the same time, it's only a 4 year difference, which doesn't really mean much at all. If it was a 22 year old dating an 18 year old, few people would would blink twice, and if she was only a year older (18), none of this would even matter.
That one year different just seems illogically big in my head I guess.
She's pretty hot though, and is pretty into me. So, probably going to go for it. Why not right?
Poimandres
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SpectreFire said:
Totally fine.
I say go for it, and don't put any thought into whether it's "socially acceptable" or not. I dated an 18 year old for a little over a year when I was 23, and it was a relationship I look back on without regret.
Soon enough girls that age will be off limits for you- so enjoy while you can!
Houston3000
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The problem with dating someone as young as 17, to me, is their maturity level and general world experience. I know that sounds kind of haughty coming from a person who's only 24 but I have a hell of hard time even relating to my younger sister's 20 year-old friends. Thinking back to High School and remembering how the girls acted in 11th grade I can't imagine dating one now over a year after graduating college.
I think I'm a weirdo though. My first girlfriend was my age but every other girlfriend I had was older than me by a few years at least. Hell, the girl I've been pining for in this thread - the one that friend-zoned me after making out with me and keeping me blue-balled - is 32 :lol (7 1/2 years older)
I think I'm a weirdo though. My first girlfriend was my age but every other girlfriend I had was older than me by a few years at least. Hell, the girl I've been pining for in this thread - the one that friend-zoned me after making out with me and keeping me blue-balled - is 32 :lol (7 1/2 years older)
SpectreFire
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Houston3000 said:
Yeah, I know. Until now, I had a strict rule of not dating anyone under 18, as I pretty much find all teenagers just terribly annoying. But this one different struck me as different.
Hell, I know girls my age at university who are more airheaded than she is. It's the weirdest thing.
Got to thank the posters in this thread btw. Theres some basic tips (mainly touching and having some guts and going for it) that are so obvious yet helped me out a lot.
Got the third date with the girl tomorrow, I'm actually more nervous now then I was for the past two. I already know it's going to be awesome though, maybe that's why.
Got the third date with the girl tomorrow, I'm actually more nervous now then I was for the past two. I already know it's going to be awesome though, maybe that's why.
Mr.Squirrel
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:lol @ being afraid to fall in love. You sound like a chick who's watched way too many romantic comedies man.Max@GC said:
Smh @ being afraid to tell a chick "I don't like your glasses"
Both Inception and the subsequent sex were not as good as I had hoped, but still very fun. I guess you can't expect too much, as we did end up drinking from about 5PM onward. We talked about maintaining composure around each other at work, and had a number of laughs and stories before falling asleep. Good night.
A girl I was kinda seeing for a couple of weeks but then it all went fucked up just 'liked' one of my Facebook pics. It's just me in the pic and I'm certainly not doing anything interesting, but I'm like... idk, I should just ignore her right GAF? I'm tempted to message her for some reason.
robor
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Combine, I don't know if this will help but try to think more of it as having competence over confidence. Think of it as a survival mechanism, you CAN talk to women but WILL you?
It's time to embarrass yourself for a while, do as much as possible to get USED to talking to them, if you fuck up or say something stupid then just take mental notes of how they react to it etc.
It's time to embarrass yourself for a while, do as much as possible to get USED to talking to them, if you fuck up or say something stupid then just take mental notes of how they react to it etc.
what the hell is wrong with me gaf??!
This online chick, I keep talking to her. Not only that but things are escalating. We both really, really like each other at this point
And we only met two weeks ago
And she still lives 30 hours away!
I think maybe a lot of why I'm going about this in a way that is completely terrible for me (by continuing to entertain the idea of us somehow ending up together) is because I've never been in a relationship before, and hell, I've never even liked anyone before who has felt the same way about me. So that isn't helping, and neither is the fact that she is beautiful and she told me today she wishes I could kiss her
Fuck
Yes I know "Find someone else", "long distance relationships aren't worth it" etc. I know
I just need bdizzles "fuck dem bitches and hoes" mindset. I get attached waaay too easily!
This online chick, I keep talking to her. Not only that but things are escalating. We both really, really like each other at this point
And we only met two weeks ago
And she still lives 30 hours away!
I think maybe a lot of why I'm going about this in a way that is completely terrible for me (by continuing to entertain the idea of us somehow ending up together) is because I've never been in a relationship before, and hell, I've never even liked anyone before who has felt the same way about me. So that isn't helping, and neither is the fact that she is beautiful and she told me today she wishes I could kiss her
Fuck
Yes I know "Find someone else", "long distance relationships aren't worth it" etc. I know
I just need bdizzles "fuck dem bitches and hoes" mindset. I get attached waaay too easily!
practice02
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Their is no such thing as bad sex just terrible preformances.border said:
I don't believe it. You see a great movie and then have sex right afterward and you're complaining about it?border said:
I'm not sure I get what you mean. How does competence and confidence coincide? What do you mean "will you" in terms of talking to women?robor said:
I don't like being embarrassed as it brings up unpleasant memories. I'd like to not be that way, but I don't know what to do to make it go away.
On another note, I joined the toastmasters club I visited these past two weeks. For some reason I'm not feeling any "feelings of dread" when the possibility eventuality of speaking in front of these people will come up. I'm wondering if this group will really be of help as the environment is completely structured and there's no chance of negative reinforcement. Which is of course, the exact opposite of a relationship or being out in a social situation, usually.
Lagspike_exe
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So, I hanged out with a friend, his girlfriend and a friend of theirs earlier today. And now I got a message from my friend asking "Soooo, how do you like [insert the girl's name]?". -_-
Shit's intense, I almost hooked up with ANOTHER of his extremely close friends last year in this same fucking time. The issue here is that the last one was hot, this one is not... Oh, God, I have no idea whatsoever what to respond because I know I'm going to feel bad about it...
Edit: I do not expect/want a response to this, just needed to vent...
Shit's intense, I almost hooked up with ANOTHER of his extremely close friends last year in this same fucking time. The issue here is that the last one was hot, this one is not... Oh, God, I have no idea whatsoever what to respond because I know I'm going to feel bad about it...
Edit: I do not expect/want a response to this, just needed to vent...
@ EzLink - get on a plane.
Go and see her, only then will you know, you'll either save yourself a lot of time in the future and move on to find someone more suitable, or it could be the best thing you ever do.
Or, alternatively carry on, let it fizzle out and regret forever that you never met her
Go and see her, only then will you know, you'll either save yourself a lot of time in the future and move on to find someone more suitable, or it could be the best thing you ever do.
Or, alternatively carry on, let it fizzle out and regret forever that you never met her
These are decidedly not things I wanted to hearblizeH said:@ EzLink - get on a plane.
Go and see her, only then will you know, you'll either save yourself a lot of time in the future and move on to find someone more suitable, or it could be the best thing you ever do.
Or, alternatively carry on, let it fizzle out and regret forever that you never met her
I'm 20. I'm broke. I have two and a half years of college left. I'm JUST going away to a university next month. Now is not the time for me to get involved in a relationship with somebody 30 goddam hours away.
Pretend I do buy an airplane ticket and go out there for a week to see her. And pretend things go amazingly well. Then what? I still have to come back home. I wouldn't be able to move until after college anyway. And even then, doesn't everybody agree that its really fucking stupid to move to a place for the sole purpose of being with a chick? What if the relationship ends up not working out?
But you are right. If I don't meet her then I will always wonder. Especially since I've been 100% up front and honest with her about every aspect of me, and she continues to like me for who I am anyway. She doesn't care about looks either. It's wonderful
Ffffuuuuuu
I am never using omegel again
The Orange
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EzLink said:
You're in too invested in this already, but just keep in mind that these online far away "connections" are more or less illusions enabled by the online and far away aspects of them. Idealising a person who is practically unreachable in this way gives you an excuse not to focus on attempting to get out there and find someone "real".
SpectreFire
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MMaRsu said:
This. Fuck that shit.
Once you hit college, you'll be thinking to yourself, "Why the fuck did I go so crazy over this mediocre broad?"
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
Lol sometimes I wonder if you're trolling me or if you're serious.Max@GC said:
And I don't look down on women, I look down on everyone
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
Damn, is the game that fucked up that yall traveling for pussy?whitehawk said:
Hmm, now see for me, if this happened, I'd be very suspicious. Of course, that's just my nature, but I'm wondering, have you seen this girl in real life and know she's good looking? Or are you just going off of internet pics? For all you know, this could be some crazy woman using fake pictures to lure you into a trap.whitehawk said:
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