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[Gaaraz]

Feel bad/lame for asking this, but what the hell. Any tips for the actual date please?

Even when actually meeting her, I'm going to make sure I'm there early (and probably try to get a quick drink in to calm my nerves a little!) but like, should I be waiting around and checking for her to arrive, would it look bad/immature if I just sat near the bar and messing about on my phone? Also the actual initial meeting, like do you do anything other than just say hello? Kissing on the cheek or something seems potentially very lame and too continental, a brief handshake or something is formal and gay. Just worried cos you know, first impressions and that!

Also during the actual date, is it the done thing to actually talk about the site she messaged me on? Like the funny way in which we ended up speaking, or the messages she sent, or how she finds the site or w/e? (don't worry, I'll avoid the terrible "So, what's a nice girl like you doing on a dating site?" line!). Ty again GAF

 

[Mecha_Infantry]

Ok, so I'll give you guys a brief rundown

-About Feburary a nice American (I'm British) girl starts at work and I fall for her
-We go out with my friends, and stay over at someone's house but she says nothing is going to ever happen and I'm OK with that
-We then go out, again as friends but then starts talking to 2 other guys. I flip out and leave early like a bitch. We don't talk for a little while at work or socially and I act quite like a dick around her. I get over her by saying she isn't actually all that nice and what not...
-At the yearly company party she comes up to me and starts talking and we chill for most of the day just talking just as friends
-Fast forward to last week and she tells me she wants to kiss me. Then Monday just gone, after work we kiss, passionately...like full on, then we make out at the train station and secretly at work for most of the week and we got each other off on the phone a few times. Now she saying she wants me, and her feelings have changed since I first asked her out. She says that I've grown on her and her life situation was messing up her mind and she wasn't thinking clearly
-Friday she is home alone, and is inviting me over, so after all this time we're finally gonna sleep together

But my feelings that kept me away from her when she rejected me are still strong, so at the moment I'm not even sure if I have a thing for anyway. But fuck, pussy is pussy right??

 

[Willectro]

Feel bad/lame for asking this, but what the hell. Any tips for the actual date please?

Even when actually meeting her, I'm going to make sure I'm there early (and probably try to get a quick drink in to calm my nerves a little!) but like, should I be waiting around and checking for her to arrive, would it look bad/immature if I just sat near the bar and messing about on my phone? Also the actual initial meeting, like do you do anything other than just say hello? Kissing on the cheek or something seems potentially very lame and too continental, a brief handshake or something is formal and gay. Just worried cos you know, first impressions and that!

Also during the actual date, is it the done thing to actually talk about the site she messaged me on? Like the funny way in which we ended up speaking, or the messages she sent, or how she finds the site or w/e? (don't worry, I'll avoid the terrible "So, what's a nice girl like you doing on a dating site?" line!). Ty again GAF

You just need to relax. Sounds like you are meeting at a bar? If you get a plan in your head about how the date is going to go, then it will fuck up for sure. You just have to go with the flow. If this girl really is the one (which I don't want to seem pessimistic, but chances are she won't be right for you, I've read it's about 1 in 100 odds) then you won't have a problem talking to her and the date will just flow. Like I said, dating is a numbers game. The more dates you go on, the higher the chance of meeting the right girl. Also you have to completely drop the mentality that 'This has to go perfect' or 'I need this girl' or 'This is the last girl in town'. All that shit just gets you nervous and will fuck you over. Don't drink to calm your nerves. If you are going to do that, you might as well just start picking girls up clubs and shit. Finally, you don't want to act like she is doing you a favor by showing up. Oh and let her do the talking. GL

 

[practice02]

Feel bad/lame for asking this, but what the hell. Any tips for the actual date please?

Even when actually meeting her, I'm going to make sure I'm there early (and probably try to get a quick drink in to calm my nerves a little!) but like, should I be waiting around and checking for her to arrive, would it look bad/immature if I just sat near the bar and messing about on my phone? Also the actual initial meeting, like do you do anything other than just say hello? Kissing on the cheek or something seems potentially very lame and too continental, a brief handshake or something is formal and gay. Just worried cos you know, first impressions and that!

Also during the actual date, is it the done thing to actually talk about the site she messaged me on? Like the funny way in which we ended up speaking, or the messages she sent, or how she finds the site or w/e? (don't worry, I'll avoid the terrible "So, what's a nice girl like you doing on a dating site?" line!). Ty again GAF

1. sit at a table and wait for her read something have a ds whatever try to be as least pensive as you can be when you see her stand up and wave.
2.Don't invade her comfort zone right off the bat by trying to hug her or kiss her that's pretty weird.
3. You can talk about the weird people you have seen on the site and junk and you can make a little complement like " It was a relief seeing someone as normal as me on their" in reference to her, but I wouldn't dwell on it for to long.
Remember everything is about like bounding and making an experience that is just you and her. Focus on her and just have fun. Take her to place you know to keep it familiar, so you don't get thrown off your game.

 

[Solideliquid]

I've greeted all my online dates with a hug even on the first date. It's been fine. Then again I'm 30 and the majority of women I've seen are in my age group.

Not sure how early 20s folk like to greet each other these days. Damn kids ...

 

[SephCast]

Ok, so I'll give you guys a brief rundown

-About Feburary a nice American (I'm British) girl starts at work and I fall for her
-We go out with my friends, and stay over at someone's house but she says nothing is going to ever happen and I'm OK with that
-We then go out, again as friends but then starts talking to 2 other guys. I flip out and leave early like a bitch. We don't talk for a little while at work or socially and I act quite like a dick around her. I get over her by saying she isn't actually all that nice and what not...
-At the yearly company party she comes up to me and starts talking and we chill for most of the day just talking just as friends
-Fast forward to last week and she tells me she wants to kiss me. Then Monday just gone, after work we kiss, passionately...like full on, then we make out at the train station and secretly at work for most of the week and we got each other off on the phone a few times. Now she saying she wants me, and her feelings have changed since I first asked her out. She says that I've grown on her and her life situation was messing up her mind and she wasn't thinking clearly
-Friday she is home alone, and is inviting me over, so after all this time we're finally gonna sleep together

But my feelings that kept me away from her when she rejected me are still strong, so at the moment I'm not even sure if I have a thing for anyway. But fuck, pussy is pussy right??

You liked her before, but then bitched out about it. Just go for it.

 

[Mike Works]

1. sit at a table and wait for her read something have a ds whatever try to be as least pensive as you can be when you see her stand up and wave.
2.Don't invade her comfort zone right off the bat by trying to hug her or kiss her that's pretty weird.
3. You can talk about the weird people you have seen on the site and junk and you can make a little complement like " It was a relief seeing someone as normal as me on their" in reference to her, but I wouldn't dwell on it for to long.
Remember everything is about like bounding and making an experience that is just you and her. Focus on her and just have fun. Take her to place you know to keep it familiar, so you don't get thrown off your game.

Don't tell him to bring a DS to his first date please.

blizeH just smile when she approaches you. that's all you need to do.

 

[practice02]

Don't tell him to bring a DS to his first date please.

blizeH just smile when she approaches you. that's all you need to do.

I'm saying while he waits for her to look less like anxious obsessive creep.What is he supposed to show up early and burn a hole in the door staring at it?

 

[Wanace]

I'm saying while he waits for her to look less like anxious obsessive creep.What is he supposed to show up early and burn a hole in the door staring at it?

How about sitting at the bar/table or whatever with a drink/coffee in hand, reading a newspaper or making conversation with the bartender?

 

[practice02]

How about sitting at the bar/table or whatever with a drink/coffee in hand, reading a newspaper or making conversation with the bartender?

I said to do that as well. My point is for him to not look pensive.

 

[Dipper145]

Girl wants me to go out with her after work, would lead to kissing/making out/ possible sexual stuff, I know her parents aren't home.

However, the past week has been rough between us and I'm still pissed how she's treated me in the past week. I want to go because I'm a horny 20+ and my boner vision is blinding my thought. I have the next 5 hours to decide at least.

 

[practice02]

Girl wants me to go out with her after work, would lead to kissing/making out/ possible sexual stuff, I know her parents aren't home.

However, the past week has been rough between us and I'm still pissed how she's treated me in the past week. I want to go because I'm a horny 20+ and my boner vision is blinding my thought. I have the next 5 hours to decide at least.

Elaborate.

 

[Dartastic]

Time for my girl age advice time. I've started dating this girl. She's nice. We have a decent time together. We're kinda different though, and we've hung out like 6 times, hooked up multiple times, etc. Whatever. Thing is, I'm not feeling it that much, or at least I'm not sure I am. But I do enjoy my time with her. I just am not too sure that this would have a long term future. Also, I haven't had a steady partner or even a short fling for a while, so it might be nice to just enjoy what's going on. I'm not sure if I even can be about someone right now, as I'm not quite content with my own life right now. Should I just keep this thing going and just relax and have a good time? I'm thinking that's what I should do, but... yea.

 

[practice02]

Time for my girl age advice time. I've started dating this girl. She's nice. We have a decent time together. We're kinda different though, and we've hung out like 6 times, hooked up multiple times, etc. Whatever. Thing is, I'm not feeling it that much, or at least I'm not sure I am. But I do enjoy my time with her. I just am not too sure that this would have a long term future. Also, I haven't had a steady partner or even a short fling for a while, so it might be nice to just enjoy what's going on. I'm not sure if I even can be about someone right now, as I'm not quite content with my own life right now. Should I just keep this thing going and just relax and have a good time? I'm thinking that's what I should do, but... yea.

HAve fun just don't commit yourself if your not feeling it. Don't go telling her she is the sun and the moon if you don't believe it.

 

[Dartastic]

HAve fun just don't commit yourself if your not feeling it. Don't go telling her she is the sun and the moon if you don't believe it.

I've never been really one for dating multiple chicks at the same time either, so yeah. I would never lie to someone like that, just all "I love you baby" but I kinda feel weird about dating multiple people. I dunno. I'll just relax and enjoy the ride, and see what happens, prolly. Go with the gut.

 

[vocab]

Time for my girl age advice time. I've started dating this girl. She's nice. We have a decent time together. We're kinda different though, and we've hung out like 6 times, hooked up multiple times, etc. Whatever. Thing is, I'm not feeling it that much, or at least I'm not sure I am. But I do enjoy my time with her. I just am not too sure that this would have a long term future. Also, I haven't had a steady partner or even a short fling for a while, so it might be nice to just enjoy what's going on. I'm not sure if I even can be about someone right now, as I'm not quite content with my own life right now. Should I just keep this thing going and just relax and have a good time? I'm thinking that's what I should do, but... yea.

Ya, relax, and keep it going as long as possible. I'm about to enter a certain situation like that my self with a friend, and I honestly am still trying to get a career going before I commit to a "real" relationship with someone.

 

[Gaaraz]

Cheers guys, lotsa good advice! ^ I'll probably just get there early anyway, and have a little bit to drink (sorry will!) and just mess about on GAF or something on my phone until she arrives as to not look too weird playing games or w/e

One thing though, I've arranged to meet her, but I don't think it's too easy for her to get there; would it be a bad idea to ring/text her tomorrow and ask if she wants a lift?

Also, I'm still having second thoughts, my confidence just took a right hammering tonight when I went out, went over to speak to a nice girl (I was nervous as hell) but despite the fact she was over here on a trip (amazing talking point!) I still had moments of not knowing wtf to say, so after 30 minutes or so before there were any awkward silences I said I hope she has a nice time here and made my excuses and left. Sunday is going to be that tenfold, I'm dreading it!

 

[Dipper145]

Elaborate.

We went out one time in the rain to some store, she didn't like my driving and was bitching the whole time. She didn't get over it at all. Started talking to her ex-boyfriend and ignored me, but every night would talk to me saying how she missed me and was lonely or something.

I dunno we have a longer history, but basically I feel like she's just using me for attention and caring while she's in fights with her ex-boyfriend. I have like zero trust in anyone. I like this girl, but I don't want to get too attached cause it will probably end badly. She says she likes me a lot, but sometimes I just don't buy it. She just got in a huge fight with her ex-bf last night and now she's back all over me. This just reinforces my whole, she's only into me when he's not into her.

I dunno... We'll see.. If I can get my friend to come with me I'll go.

 

[Spirit3]

Gaf is so clever. You warned everyone this shit happens and up and behold, it's about to happen to me. Long story short, girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago, we tried the friends thing, I cut all contact a few weeks back and am moving on. Been hanging out with a good chick friend, not sure if anything is there but we are having fun so all is great right?

Ex texts me last night with a general comment as if we had never stopped talking.

I raged.

 

[Ultima_5]

Gaf is so clever. You warned everyone this shit happens and up and behold, it's about to happen to me. Long story short, girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago, we tried the friends thing, I cut all contact a few weeks back and am moving on. Been hanging out with a good chick friend, not sure if anything is there but we are having fun so all is great right?

Ex texts me last night with a general comment as if we had never stopped talking.

I raged.

I havent talked to my exgf in about 3 months. When I was on vacation at the beach, she texted me saying "hey whats up?" and i responded "i touched clam today" (which i did), she texted back "FUCK YOU" and i didn't respond...

avoid exgfs at all cost. even if they wanna talk (though mine was actually crazy)

 

[gutter_trash]

the place where I have the most fail are the first emails

the mind goes blank and the usual boring lines come out and for sure to no avail nothing happens

WTF do you write about in the 1st emails to not sound boring average guy or an autobiographer?

I havent talked to my exgf in about 3 months. When I was on vacation at the beach, she texted me saying "hey whats up?" and i responded "i touched clam today" (which i did), she texted back "FUCK YOU" and i didn't respond...

avoid exgfs at all cost. even if they wanna talk (though mine was actually crazy)

EXs have NOTHING to offer you,

friends and family offer wisdom, protection, bond

EXs offer nothing but grief, memories (that you want to forget), rehash old failed arguments.
the only good EXs are the ones who have something to offer, either like SEX or a service like Hair Salon or someshit.
but most EXs are nothing but grief.. delete contact, delete pictures, throw away momentos.. forgetaboutit

 

[Willectro]

Don't tell him to bring a DS to his first date please.

blizeH just smile when she approaches you. that's all you need to do.

Exactly. If the girl entered and witnessed you sitting at a table playing DS, she isn't going to be very impressed. Don't even mention video games on any date. I thought shit like this obvious but I guess not. I'm glad some guys think shit like this is ok, makes it easier for the rest of us. :lol Just go to the fucking place on time and unless she is some scumbag that always runs late for shit, you won't have very long to wait.

 

[ant_]

I haven't followed this thread at all, and it's turned into a plethora of people getting help. I have a question though - Did Combine ever get a girl?

 

[AmericanNinja]

I haven't followed this thread at all, and it's turned into a plethora of people getting help. I have a question though - Did Combine ever get a girl?

i dont think so.

 

[Exilexc]

i dont think so.

Of course not he might be taking advice from people who don't
know what they are talking about.. This thread has become pathetic.

 

[News Bot]

Bit of a simple question... does anyone know of any good (or more accurately, better) places to actually meet women etc? I feel like I've hit the bottom of a fountain in terms of potential booty. Literally every girl I know (and I know an extreme amount) sort of just doesn't cut it. :lol All the girls I could potentially get into currently all have some major glaring issue or other that puts me off immediately. Getting kind of frustrated with it now. Any tips? I haven't been "on the hunt" for quite a while now, and its always nice to try something new.

 

[Mike Works]

Of course not he might be taking advice from people

and that's the point in your sentence where i realized you haven't been reading this thread

edit: i'm only half joking, but to dismiss all advice in this thread because ONLY WOMENLESS LOSERS POST ON A SITE ABOUT VIDEOGAMES is asinine.

 

[Mike Works]

Bit of a simple question... does anyone know of any good (or more accurately, better) places to actually meet women etc? I feel like I've hit the bottom of a fountain in terms of potential booty. Literally every girl I know (and I know an extreme amount) sort of just doesn't cut it. :lol All the girls I could potentially get into currently all have some major glaring issue or other that puts me off immediately. Getting kind of frustrated with it now. Any tips? I haven't been "on the hunt" for quite a while now, and its always nice to try something new.

What city do you live in?

 

[vocab]

major glaring issue or other that puts me off immediately.

lol like what? Everybody has flaws man.

 

[whitehawk]

I havent talked to my exgf in about 3 months. When I was on vacation at the beach, she texted me saying "hey whats up?" and i responded "i touched clam today" (which i did), she texted back "FUCK YOU" and i didn't respond...

avoid exgfs at all cost. even if they wanna talk (though mine was actually crazy)

:lol

 

[News Bot]

What city do you live in?

Belfast, Northern Ireland. =P

lol like what? Everybody has flaws man.

I realize that. :lol They're just not the kind of people you could possibly have a relationship with, before slicing your own dick off and renouncing Satan before throwing yourself off a bridge.

I dunno, the quality of people I'm used to lately leaves quite a lot to be desired. :lol Precisely why I need to meet new people. :/

 

[Coeliacus]

I'm really not in with the 'don't waste time with your ex' crowd... I was going out with my ex for 6 years and we have too many mutual friends.

...still, phone conversation today ended in a couple of texts that was basically 'shots fired' sort of deal. I feel guilty as hell because I know I was the arse all the way. Shit is getting too intense again for a 'friendship,' so I'll let it blow over for a few days and maybe suggest we leave it for a while and maybe change the game up a bit... basically don't rely on me to answer my phone when I'm binging on Starcraft 2. :lol

I really need to make some new friends and getting this social thing swinging again, but playing too many games again these days.

 

[bizatch]

a fat chick is into me. Doesnt have a particularly nice face or personality, but Im feeling desperate. Am I shallow for not getting the deed done, or just stupid?

 

[EzLink]

a fat chick is into me. Doesnt have a particularly nice face or personality, but Im feeling desperate. Am I shallow for not getting the deed done, or just stupid?

Man, I've only made out with one chick in my life. And it was a terrible decision

I was at work and a friend invited me over to drink afterwards, I said sure and jokingly asked "hey, you don't happen to have any desperate friends that would make out with me do you?" (yes i know at this point that self degradation is not a quality to possess if you want to attract ladies)

"Actually dude, there is this really cute blonde chick I know with really big boobs that would probably be up for that"
"Uh... really?"
"Yeah let me see what she's up to!"

[texts her, gets response]

"Dude she is down. I told her to wear a top where her boobs will be hanging out too lol"
"Uh.... can you like show her a picture of me first or something so she knows what she's getting herself into?"
"Nah dude it will be fine"

Spoiler

HINT IF THIS HAPPENS TO YOU IT IS A RED FLAG

I am excited as FUCK as I leave work to change and get ready. I had 19 years of pent up sexual frustration that I was going to be unleashing on a cute blonde with big cans. Oh HELL yes

Basically to skip the horrible parts, her boobs were so big because there were about 8 lbs of lard in each one. And I was so desperate I made out with her for half an hour anyway

The next day I was so disgusted at myself I sent her an email telling her it was a huge mistake and that I was sorry, but that I never wanted to talk to her again

Still waiting on my redemption from that night... grrr

College starts in six days though. I am going to aggressively apply all of the advice I've learned from this thread and elsewhere and hopefully have some good luck. Plus I've lost 45 lbs in the past year. Still got a gut and man boobs, but overweight guys can still get action from attractive girls right?

 

[bizatch]

Still got a gut and man boobs, but overweight guys can still get action from attractive girls right?

Well you see fat guys with hot chicks all the time.

You see, women, just like men, look for value in a potential mate. This value can come up in three ways. 1. being superficially attractive (money) 2. being physically attractive (sick body) 3. being mentally attractive (funny, confident). You need atleast one of these value enhancers in order to attract a woman. The more the better.

Its the same for us really. If you see a hot girl, thats enough for her to seem attractive. If you see a hot girl with a personality, then she is even more attractive. A hot girl with personality and money? Goddamn son, thats a keeper!

Being that I am not rich, I am working on the other two points. I am going to be hitting the gym everyday once school starts for me next month. I will also be working hard and going to the library everyday.

 

[ReiGun]

I feel like I should be following this thread more. My love life is the only area of my life I have made little if any progress in in the last year, and it's the only one I have no idea how to navigate. lol

 

[Salsa]

Well you see fat guys with hot chicks all the time.

That girl is not hot.

But i agree with everything else.

 

[bizatch]

That girl is not hot.

But i agree with everything else.

Agreed, though it was the only picture I could find on google in short notice. Originally it had a macro on it that said "How to spot a rich guy" :lol

 

[Gaaraz]

I'm superficially attractive, not physically unattractive but my fucking god do I ever fail on the last one

And yeah, cheers again Will, to be honest I'd be concious enough of even playing a game on my iPhone whilst waiting, but I don't think he was really getting at that - and I think his point that doing *something* (anything!) is better than just sitting there and staring at the door waiting for her to arrive.

But all of this talk here about this, and it might not come to it - should I give her a call/text asking if she wants picking up? (she doesn't drive and doesn't really know where it is!). Also tempted to change plans and go bowling or something, I'm so screwed if we just go somewhere to chat.

 

[Combine]

Another night out, but the outcome was no different. Friday's don't seem to do well for me. I hope that Saturday turns out better. Didn't even get one conversation going tonight. Even tried wearing new fitting pants and shirt, but I guess, that stuff never really works.

 

[Shaneus]

Wearing new clothes, what are you expecting to "work"?

 

[Combine]

Wearing new clothes, what are you expecting to "work"?

No clue, it was an aimless shot in the dark, which pretty much sums up my routine and why most people here are now pissed off at me. All I do is look around, and I'm not even sure what I'm looking for.

I guess I go out to try and feel and be normal.

 

[Old Lace]

So, there's this girl I'm really close to. She lives 500 miles away. When we talk online our conversations are great. But in person we're a lot quieter and our conversations aren't as deep. She doesn't understand why and neither do I. But it's a major sticking point.

 

[Shaneus]

No clue, it was an aimless shot in the dark, which pretty much sums up my routine and why most people here are now pissed off at me. All I do is look around, and I'm not even sure what I'm looking for.

I guess I go out to try and feel and be normal.

A few things you should have learned:
* People won't just come up and talk to you. You have to talk to them, regardless of what you're wearing.
* You dress up to look and feel awesome. That's the only way that dressing well will reflect on your social interactions... you look good, you feel good and feel confident. That's it. There's nothing you can wear that will magically make people initiate conversations with you.

I think the reason people are pissed off is because they're suggesting things for you to do and why you should do them but you still think they're a shot in the dark. I'm sure it would've been mentioned before here that the reason you should try to look good is to build confidence in yourself, not to look good for other people. I know that whenever I go out to a bar or club, I dress well to impress myself, not others. If you can't do that then you need to stop worrying about girl-age and worry about self-age.

 

[bizatch]

So, there's this girl I'm really close to. She lives 500 miles away. When we talk online our conversations are great. But in person we're a lot quieter and our conversations aren't as deep. She doesn't understand why and neither do I. But it's a major sticking point.

Online and in person conversations are totally different. Its probably cause you have more time to think of what you are going to say. I would recommend just talking to her more by phone when you are not talking in person.

I dress well to impress myself, not others. If you can't do that then you need to stop worrying about girl-age and worry about self-age.

Seconded. Make sure you feel confident before going into the club/bar scene. Especially if you are going by yourself. Otherwise, do not go. It will make you feel worse.

Pro-tip: Alcohol is a great confidence booster. Just don't get too drunk!

 

[`Moe Joe.]

Man, I've only made out with one chick in my life. And it was a terrible decision

I was at work and a friend invited me over to drink afterwards, I said sure and jokingly asked "hey, you don't happen to have any desperate friends that would make out with me do you?" (yes i know at this point that self degradation is not a quality to possess if you want to attract ladies)

"Actually dude, there is this really cute blonde chick I know with really big boobs that would probably be up for that"
"Uh... really?"
"Yeah let me see what she's up to!"

[texts her, gets response]

"Dude she is down. I told her to wear a top where her boobs will be hanging out too lol"
"Uh.... can you like show her a picture of me first or something so she knows what she's getting herself into?"
"Nah dude it will be fine"

Spoiler

HINT IF THIS HAPPENS TO YOU IT IS A RED FLAG

I am excited as FUCK as I leave work to change and get ready. I had 19 years of pent up sexual frustration that I was going to be unleashing on a cute blonde with big cans. Oh HELL yes

Basically to skip the horrible parts, her boobs were so big because there were about 8 lbs of lard in each one. And I was so desperate I made out with her for half an hour anyway

The next day I was so disgusted at myself I sent her an email telling her it was a huge mistake and that I was sorry, but that I never wanted to talk to her again

Still waiting on my redemption from that night... grrr

College starts in six days though. I am going to aggressively apply all of the advice I've learned from this thread and elsewhere and hopefully have some good luck. Plus I've lost 45 lbs in the past year. Still got a gut and man boobs, but overweight guys can still get action from attractive girls right?

Chill bro.

I've had horrendous cases of harnessing beer-goggles and you just have to learn to get over it.

Gene Simmons once said something along the lines of "You can't eat Chicken Parmigiana
every night - sometimes you have to settle for Mcdonald's."

 

[whitehawk]

Another night out, but the outcome was no different. Friday's don't seem to do well for me. I hope that Saturday turns out better. Didn't even get one conversation going tonight. Even tried wearing new fitting pants and shirt, but I guess, that stuff never really works.

Here's some good advice. Don't be afraid to go and talk to someone else, being afraid that they don't want to talk to you. You are just waiting for someone to come up and talk to you right? Well guess what, they are in the same position as you. Sometimes people will go to you, but you can't rely on that.

 

[norinrad]

Belfast, Northern Ireland.

Time to move down to CORK.

 

[Blader]

So I met this girl a long while ago, we started hanging out, yada yada yada, and I totally fell for her. I don't think I've ever been so head over heels for a girl before, or had a girl feel about me the way she does. I mean, it's kismet! I still can't believe I found someone like her.

She graduated college this year (she's a year older than me). She didn't know what she wanted to do, but she's moving back home at the end of the summer and has always wanted to travel after college; we both talked about that, it's something she loves (and something I'd do too, without a second thought, given the opportunity), but didn't think or know if she'd able to do it, esp. for financial reasons.

Now she has gotten an opportunity to do that. She's moving. To another country.

Fuck, man. I can't stop her, right? I mean, I fucking want to, but I can't and wouldn't and won't.

It just fucking sucks. I'm so happy for her because she's had it really rough lately and I know this is something she has absolutely wanted to do for longer than I've known her, but at the same time, I'm so pissed (at myself? at her? at life? I don't know) that this is happening.

I'm not really looking for advice here (is there any to give? :lol), I just needed to get this off my chest. /livejournal-age


tl;dr -Girl I'm in love with is following her dream and moving away to a different country; I'm happy for her but heartbroken.

 

[Max@GC]

[drunk] so a girl i was interested in told me she has a new bf and that he takes her just as she is bla bla bla...well i think it was an innuendo regarding that she told me a couple of weeks before she had her new bf 'oh damn I´m a bit fat but i already lost some weight' ...and after a while I said yeah you lost some weight and i like it just to comfort her. what the fuck should i learn from that? i have no fucking clue...[/drunk]