WyndhamPrice
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Drealmcc0y said:I had my first sexual experience on saturday
It wasnt full sex, but im so proud of myself :lol
Am i still a virgin if we didnt have intercourse?
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DTLIONS1013
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Alright D23, Tenks and I will help you when you get to Columbus, unless the impossible happens and this girl you're talking about is the girl I'm currently seeing
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WyndhamPrice said:
This post is surreal in that it mirrors much of my life at the moment - I just came out of a 5 year+ relationship relatively recently too. The main difference is that the split with my ex was not good at all and we haven't spoken since...except for the one note she sent me saying she doesn't want to be in contact with me ever again (for some reason we're still friends on facebook though). I'm always impressed with people who manage to handle break ups in such a way that they stay friends with exes. Is there still sexual attraction when you see her or anything like that?
At the least I absolutely agree with you that it can be very rewarding to get out of a relationship that has run its course or gone stale. People and their circumstances inevitably change a great deal over the years, especially during adolescence, and when I realised after 5 years that the relationship and my feelings were not as strong as I thought they were, I made the tough decision to step outside of my comfort zone and finish things. It's all well and good to idolise the idea of a relationship and having a girlfriend but, as many people have said, it's not a way of fixing problems in your own life - as well as the benefits, a relationship often creates tons of new and unexpected problems.
This is my first post in this thread, so hello all, although I have enjoyed lurking here plenty and a lot of users have given out very good advice. It certainly beats the typical GAF counsel...
Well I wasn't exactly holding out for a true romantic relationship, but I'd at least like to have a sexual one since that puts meEggo said:
just a little closer to a romantic relationship.
We were never exclusive, and I'll try and keep seeing other people but I don't have a car so that makes it rather difficult.
So in your opinion it's not worth even talking about, just to clarify things? I'm not expecting to convince her over to my side, but I would kinda like to know if I'm on a time out or if I've been permanently benched. It'd make it a little easier to determine how to proceed. I think she's still a bit hung up on this girl that she liked that moved away, and it may just be a matter of letting that run it's course.
kame-sennin
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Tenks said:
Gay guys and lesbians are virgins for life?
Mike Works
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Drealmcc0y said:I had my first sexual experience on saturday
It wasnt full sex, but im so proud of myself :lol
DTLIONS1013
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D23 said:
Nope, Im not asain. Looks like were cool
Uhh ... wow .... just got a booty call from my ex like 5 minutes ago. She calls and goes "Want to have sex?" I was like .... "uhhh .... come over!'
She came over, we started making out, got naked in my bed .. I say "i need to put something on." She bailed on me! lol
She said what am I a whore?! (I never wore a condom when we were together) and she stormed out of the house upset. Fuck. I should have told her not to come here at all. She was pretty damn drunk. I'm an asshole. I caved. But I was not going to have sex with her without protection. She wasn't having it. Damn she felt good to be with in bed again, though.
She came over, we started making out, got naked in my bed .. I say "i need to put something on." She bailed on me! lol
She said what am I a whore?! (I never wore a condom when we were together) and she stormed out of the house upset. Fuck. I should have told her not to come here at all. She was pretty damn drunk. I'm an asshole. I caved. But I was not going to have sex with her without protection. She wasn't having it. Damn she felt good to be with in bed again, though.
Yea I definitely should have been more mature and told her not to come but it was so hard to resist (i still have feeling of my own, ya know). And I wasn't the one making the booty call, she was.
It was good that I saw her because it kind of reinforced why I left. She was wasted. It was a worknight, she was drunk driving. And her kid was home. Why is she not home with her son? Not someone I would want to have a future with. She has not contacted me since she left, no texts, IMs at work, phone call - nothing. I guess she feels embarassed. I asked her to stay over and sleep so she didn't drive home drunk but she flew out the door.
It was good that I saw her because it kind of reinforced why I left. She was wasted. It was a worknight, she was drunk driving. And her kid was home. Why is she not home with her son? Not someone I would want to have a future with. She has not contacted me since she left, no texts, IMs at work, phone call - nothing. I guess she feels embarassed. I asked her to stay over and sleep so she didn't drive home drunk but she flew out the door.
D23 said:
So all her friends hate you yet you're convinced she's going to accept you back with open arms? Daaaaaaaamn. I better make sure to have a fifth of liquor ready for you.
Though it would have been very mnightshamalyaman.jpg if she was actually someone in this thread's girlfriend.
Went to see my therapist today. I have been seeing her for several years now. She is great. I honestly don't know what I would do without her these days.
You guys may find this strange but I used to go see her WITH my ex. When she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder I wanted to go with her to the sessions so I could learn more about her disorder. My ex then started seeing her weekly on her own. My therapist today basically implied that my ex was not entirely honest with me and "there are things that she knows that she cannot tell me."
I think she probably cheated on me
You guys may find this strange but I used to go see her WITH my ex. When she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder I wanted to go with her to the sessions so I could learn more about her disorder. My ex then started seeing her weekly on her own. My therapist today basically implied that my ex was not entirely honest with me and "there are things that she knows that she cannot tell me."
I think she probably cheated on me
Aesius
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JB1981 said:Went to see my therapist today. I have been seeing her for several years now. She is great. I honestly don't know what I would do without her these days.
You guys may find this strange but I used to go see her WITH my ex. When she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder I wanted to go with her to the sessions so I could learn more about her disorder. My ex then started seeing her weekly on her own. My therapist today basically implied that my ex was not entirely honest with me and "there are things that she knows that she cannot tell me."
I think she probably cheated on me
Might want to get checked for STDs as well.
Eggo said:
I completely agree. It isn't just people with multiple partners that are at increased risk of STDs. That is the nature of communicable diseases; increasing the number of connections at any node (person) can drastically increase the total number of carriers, and a huge number of people get STDs as a result of unfaithful partners.
What your therapist said is somewhat of a breach of confidentiality; she may have been hinting at you that there is some risk you were unaware of.
Girlfriend just rang, saying she did ketamine tonight - I'm kinda glad she was honest, but seriously what the fuck is it with students?? Don't know if I want to be with someone who's into that kinda shit.
I said at the time i was cool with it but quickly sent her a text shortly after saying I wasn't, I'm actually quite anti drugs (and so are my mates - my best friends brother got quite messed up by them) and I don't want to be involved in that :/ fucks sake
I said at the time i was cool with it but quickly sent her a text shortly after saying I wasn't, I'm actually quite anti drugs (and so are my mates - my best friends brother got quite messed up by them) and I don't want to be involved in that :/ fucks sake
I'm not sure it goes into dating-age, but definitely in girl-age :lol
So I was taking bus from the university on wednesday, and there was this cute girl I wanted to approach in my usually failing (in usa) manner, but as it turned out, she lost her ticket and had no money, so she was arguing with bus driver and he finally agreed to take her to the town where I live, but she was going much further and needed to change like 4 or 5 more buses. So after we got to my town and got off the bus, I approached her and asked if she needed help. She told me that she needs 10 dollars to get home, and that she will definitely return them, took my number, game me her number, we chatted a little bit before I had to catch local bus to my house and before I left I gave her $20 and she said that she'll be in my university on friday again and will return the money and that we absolutely need to hang out and she will call me whenever she gets there. She seemed really happy I helped her and excited to meet again.
Fast-forward to today*, i received no call from her. I have her number, but I don't want to be called creepy stalker again, so I need an advice on how to handle this whole issue, since she is really cute and seemed into alternative culture, while 99% of girls in my university are really ugly, listen only to lady gaga and read only twillight. If she doesn't want to go to date with me anymore, at least I want my money back, damnit :lol
*Today the weather was incredibly bad and public transportation was even worse, I barely made it even though I had to take only 2 buses, so it's entirely possible that she just didn't get here at all.
So I was taking bus from the university on wednesday, and there was this cute girl I wanted to approach in my usually failing (in usa) manner, but as it turned out, she lost her ticket and had no money, so she was arguing with bus driver and he finally agreed to take her to the town where I live, but she was going much further and needed to change like 4 or 5 more buses. So after we got to my town and got off the bus, I approached her and asked if she needed help. She told me that she needs 10 dollars to get home, and that she will definitely return them, took my number, game me her number, we chatted a little bit before I had to catch local bus to my house and before I left I gave her $20 and she said that she'll be in my university on friday again and will return the money and that we absolutely need to hang out and she will call me whenever she gets there. She seemed really happy I helped her and excited to meet again.
Fast-forward to today*, i received no call from her. I have her number, but I don't want to be called creepy stalker again, so I need an advice on how to handle this whole issue, since she is really cute and seemed into alternative culture, while 99% of girls in my university are really ugly, listen only to lady gaga and read only twillight. If she doesn't want to go to date with me anymore, at least I want my money back, damnit :lol
*Today the weather was incredibly bad and public transportation was even worse, I barely made it even though I had to take only 2 buses, so it's entirely possible that she just didn't get here at all.
Consider that money gone. Chalk it up as a lesson learned. If she calls to return it, be surprised and happy that she did. If you call her up and ask for your $20 back, you're not going to look good and your chances of getting a date or that money are zero.Lich_King said:
Blize,
College is where people experiment. What did you think was going to happen? She was going to lock herself in a library and act like a nun in a convent?
GAF what do I done do about the cute girl at Uni who frequently throws glances at me/I frequently throw glances at? I just dunno how/what kind of move to make. I've been single for 3 months and having the occasional hookup at a parties, but I'm looking for something more...stable? I dunno, I just have a feeling about this girl :lol
It's been a while since I posted in here
It's been a while since I posted in here
Mike Works
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Is your university in fucking Atlantis or something? Jesus that sounds like a chore to get to.Lich_King said:
She's already experimented with drugs before though, idk, I thought maybe she was over that, but obviously not 
She has a kinda weird "drugs are better for you than alcohol" mentality which I'm not sure about, even though she's probably right in most cases. Fear of the unknown on my behalf maybe. I'm sure to 95% of guys it wouldn't be an issue, but to me it kinda really is, oh well, I'll get over it.
She has a kinda weird "drugs are better for you than alcohol" mentality which I'm not sure about, even though she's probably right in most cases. Fear of the unknown on my behalf maybe. I'm sure to 95% of guys it wouldn't be an issue, but to me it kinda really is, oh well, I'll get over it.DualShadow
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blize don't worry mate you're not the only one anit-drugs, I'm fully againest it as well.
Hell I've turned down chicks because they smoke :lol Can't stand the smell of it.
To each their own etc etc.
Hell I've turned down chicks because they smoke :lol Can't stand the smell of it.
To each their own etc etc.
Hah, I think it was on our first date I told her I wouldn't date anyone who smoked!
She just sent me a super awesome text actually, so I'm a lot happier about it now. She's really level headed about it which is good, I trust her not to do crazy levels or get hooked on the stuff, but she also said if I'm really uncomfortable about it she'll promise not to do anything else... idk, just the fact she's offered makes me a lot happier about it. So yeah, good times!
She just sent me a super awesome text actually, so I'm a lot happier about it now. She's really level headed about it which is good, I trust her not to do crazy levels or get hooked on the stuff, but she also said if I'm really uncomfortable about it she'll promise not to do anything else... idk, just the fact she's offered makes me a lot happier about it. So yeah, good times!
Rocket Scientist
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Lich_King, she'll most likely return the money, I wouldn't worry about it. Have some faith in humanity, people! If she doesn't, you have a legitimate reason to ask for the money back of course.
blizeH, might want to try and stop overreacting and letting things affect your mood so easily (in negative and positive ways...). It's not healthy man. It's ok to feel like she's doing something wrong, but the first thing you thought of was ''insta-bail''. If that's what you're going to think every time she does something you don't agree with, you're in for a fun ride dude.
blizeH, might want to try and stop overreacting and letting things affect your mood so easily (in negative and positive ways...). It's not healthy man. It's ok to feel like she's doing something wrong, but the first thing you thought of was ''insta-bail''. If that's what you're going to think every time she does something you don't agree with, you're in for a fun ride dude.
Drealmcc0y said:I had my first sexual experience on saturday
It wasnt full sex, but im so proud of myself :lol
Am i still a virgin if we didnt have intercourse?
Real Answer: Yes...and even more so now if you thought you had sex but didn't. How long have you been on the internet?
Pretend Answer (because pretending is fun): No, the stork will be by shortly to inform you that you should have worn a condom.
JB1981 said:
ummmm....I'm pretty sure it's the other way around. The correct answer is yes, she is a whore because she would rather increase the chances of having a child she is clearly not mature enough to take responsibility for in exchange for added sensitivity. You shouldn't feel bad because you want to avoid that situation and still have some recreational fun. Clearly, that was her intention too. She didn't say, "Hey I'm drunk, want to have a baby?,"did she?
To Blize: First, alcohol is a drug. Second, Ketamine isn't exactly a drug someone usually impulsively consumes. It isn't rare, but it sure as fuck isn't all that common either. There is nothing wrong with being morally objected to taking drugs of any sort, let alone "special K". Pot is one thing, alcohol is another, but Ketamine is a good indicator that she has more than just a passing interest in getting fucked up. In a legal setting, it is used to treat humans and animals as an anesthetic. Also, it's used in war zones in an emergency situations. I will unfairly list three scenarios for you about someone I don't know at all: She is easily influenced and didn't know what she was getting herself into. She has a drug problem. Or, she was in a not-so-casual firefight on campus. I'd say the first or second, or both. I've done my fair share of drugs too and I'm not proud of it nor do I regret it, but like me I'm willing to bet that even a sizable portion of male college students would have some concern or outright disapproval if their girlfriend wanted to be a quasi-schizophrenic for a few hours.
Drealmcc0y
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She give me head among other stuff, I was hoping I wouldnt be labeled a virgin anymore, thats all.crops55 said:
Not that it really matters anyway.
Edit: We could have had full sex, but I stopped it cuz we were both really drunk.
Starting to wonder if that was a mistake, or if I did the right thing. :lol
Drealmcc0y said:
I was just joking man. Even if you're still a virgin it doesn't change the experience. Labels only matter to the people who are afraid of being labeled. You like this girl (maybe), you got head, you had an enjoyable sexual experience. Here is my point: when you were getting head what were you thinking? Were you thinking damn this feels fucking amazing, or were you thinking I wonder if this makes me a non-virgin?
And you stopped for a reason. You did the right thing. If you really like her, you don't want to have sex completely wasted for the first time, not to mention your first time ever. I can identify with that my friend.
Drealmcc0y
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crops55 said:
It was a holiday fling, im never going to see her again.
Infact another girl was laying next to me in bed, who was really, really fit, but was too drunk and sick to do anything :lol (My first time could have been a threesome, FUCK!).
The head was pretty good though i think, it was a bit of a blur.
Drealmcc0y said:
Are you sure it was head? Haha, just kidding....but not really. Of course it was good. Even the worst head is better than Jergens and imagination.
And if you don't know if you have had sex with one girl, how would you know if you have with two? Do you want to have sex or do you want a cool story to tell to your friends?
Drealmcc0y
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crops55 said:
Wut?
Scythian Empire
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About 4 years ago I moved from London to a very quit part of England (Canterbury, Kent). I was 14 at the time and the first week I moved down things were looking great. I was in school and there were a couple of girls who were interested in me. I dated them both at some point during the first year but things never worked out. (Haha I know I was 15 and obviously that's too young for any of you to give a shit, however...) Ever since then I have found literally no one that interests me. There were a couple of hopeful girls over the years but they turned out to be bitches so no luck there.
Anyway I'm almost 18 now and I was thinking it's about time to really try and do something otherwise by the time I hit Uni I'll be shit at the whole dating thing. However the other night at a house party there was a girl who I'd never seen before who looked pretty interesting to me. Any normal person would have gone over and talked to her but as being the shy boy with no confidence I had to get wasted before I could strike up a conversation. We started talking, and she was showing me some music while her friend was throwing up into a bucket haha. My mate kept telling me to make a move but I kept freezing up and thinking about it too much. She left the party and I thought "That's it, I've fucked it up". But I added her on Facebook just for the hell of it and to see how she was. We exchanged messages for over a week, just chatting about normal stuff like music and college, and I thought I'd invite her out to this popular Indie gig in town for a laugh. We exchanged numbers and arranged to meet at some point of the evening. 10 minutes after I arrived she found me and started talking to me straight away. She had loads of her friends there but she was just talking to me and my mate for the whole evening. I wanted to make a move again but loads of my drunk friends kept coming over and interrupting. Eventually before she left I just decided to take a chance and go for it. We kissed for a bit, but then she had to go because the whole place got shut down because of a fight haha. Bit of a surreal evening but this is the first time I've enjoyed spending time with someone for a very long time. The only thing is I don't know where to take it from here... I really want to keep her interested but I just don't know what the next step is.
Sorry for the unnecessarily long post but I thought a bit of background knowledge might be helpful? Haha most of you wont care because of how young I am but I really don't know where to take it from here.
Anyway I'm almost 18 now and I was thinking it's about time to really try and do something otherwise by the time I hit Uni I'll be shit at the whole dating thing. However the other night at a house party there was a girl who I'd never seen before who looked pretty interesting to me. Any normal person would have gone over and talked to her but as being the shy boy with no confidence I had to get wasted before I could strike up a conversation. We started talking, and she was showing me some music while her friend was throwing up into a bucket haha. My mate kept telling me to make a move but I kept freezing up and thinking about it too much. She left the party and I thought "That's it, I've fucked it up". But I added her on Facebook just for the hell of it and to see how she was. We exchanged messages for over a week, just chatting about normal stuff like music and college, and I thought I'd invite her out to this popular Indie gig in town for a laugh. We exchanged numbers and arranged to meet at some point of the evening. 10 minutes after I arrived she found me and started talking to me straight away. She had loads of her friends there but she was just talking to me and my mate for the whole evening. I wanted to make a move again but loads of my drunk friends kept coming over and interrupting. Eventually before she left I just decided to take a chance and go for it. We kissed for a bit, but then she had to go because the whole place got shut down because of a fight haha. Bit of a surreal evening but this is the first time I've enjoyed spending time with someone for a very long time. The only thing is I don't know where to take it from here... I really want to keep her interested but I just don't know what the next step is.
Sorry for the unnecessarily long post but I thought a bit of background knowledge might be helpful? Haha most of you wont care because of how young I am but I really don't know where to take it from here.
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Ummm, how old are you?Drealmcc0y said:
Do so. I'm about to enter into the third year of uni and I'm unsure how I'll react to freshers week.Scythian Empire said:
I haven't really gained too much confidence over the summer, so I'm slightly concerned when it starts back up again. At the end of last year I was getting much better at socialising, but the summer has somewhat put me back to square one again. I can only assume it's because I'm not leaving my comfort zone?
I'm great speaking to someone (I think :lol), but I still find it somewhat hard to approach a girl/ask for their number. I assume I'd just ask the person I'd approach what course they're on and take it from there?
Also what uni are you going to? I'm assuming one in Canterbury?
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Ask/take her out on a date?Scythian Empire said:
Eggo said:
I actually don't mind my money gone, I usually help people even if know I'm not going to get anything back, but this time I was kind of surprised by her attitude, so was hoping for a call.
Mike Works said:
Well, I live 30 miles away, she lives about 100 miles away. I used to live on campus, but it's my final semester and I don't need to be around a lot, and as I understood, she is not even going here, but she just got a job on campus and was looking for an apartment near university that day.
She's 20, and after actually bothering to read up on it I'm not sure it is 'hard drugs', certainly not like I thought it was anyhow... we spoke about it on the phone for ages last night, and some texts from her today have made me realise that it probably isn't worth worrying about.JB1981 said:
And yet I think Rocket is maybe right, idk.
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