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[-PXG-]

What's consider "normal" varies from person to person. It just depends where you are at in life and how you view it. You are not wrong in your views in that going up to somebody without any sort of context is a violation to you. Its how you see the world.

For people that do approach women, the woman is the context if that makes any sense.



The problem is majority of men put women on a high pedal stool right from the get go which automatically makes them inferior in their mind. This obviously leads to fear, intimidation, lack of self-worth etc.

When it comes to getting in touch with the "inner cave man" most people simply have lost it due to years of social conditioning. It'll take a lot of effort to revive it, which for a lot of men are afraid of doing because it'll bring up other deep issues.

It also doesn't help that a lot of men are simply clueless when it comes to social interactions with poor body language and simply poor "inner game".

You're also right in that you only have one life, so you might as well make sure you get the most out of it. Nobody wants to be in the their later years wondering "what if I said hello to this girl...?"

This is crucial and what a lot of guys don't get. You can say and do all of the "right" things, but look and sound awkward at the same time. Body language, tone, timing, physical interaction and having a general air of confidence is key. Women sense that shit like a shark smells blood in water. Everything you do should be deliberate. Know what you want to accomplish and do it with little or without hesitation. They're really good at sensing doubt, uncertainty and low self esteem. Fear of being eliminated will present itself in your speech and actions. If you're not careful, your fears will become a self fulfilled prophecy, thus, resulting in rejection.

Basically, if you pay attention to what you're doing and speak and act with conviction, on the most part, you should be alright.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

I seen a super cute girl today at the store. Was trying to psych myself up to say hi at least but in classic Eraldo fashion, I chickened out....my composure sucks too, I always start to sweat uncontrolably and just look lame.

It's weird, I have a fight coming up in January and not worried at all, I can get in a ring/cage and fight no problem, but when it comes to talking to a girl it's like the complete opposite, I like seize up in fear.

Break the ice by punching her in the face, then ask for her number.

 

[Veelk]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

 

[EraldoCoil]

Break the ice by punching her in the face, then ask for her number.

lmfao :lol

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

Sounds like something you tell your psychiatrist the first time you meet them rather than what you tell a girl to hit it off.

 

[Mike Works]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

That is not the right approach.

 

[-PXG-]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

Save thought provoking conversations for later down the road. First dates are about testing the waters, not blowing your mental, spiritual and philosophical loads prematurely. As lame as it seems, the "superficial" shit is a necessary component for any kind of social interaction. It's the most basic ice breaker. Don't ever think your game is hot enough to skip it.

 

[SmokeMaxX]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

Uh that's not something to approach a girl with... that's more of a "once you're in a relationship" type thing...

But hey, if you can pull it off go for it. (Thing is, if you have to ask, you probably can't pull it off).

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

You wouldn't happen to be the crown of sonnets dude by any chance?

 

[-PXG-]

You wouldn't happen to be the crown of sonnets dude by any chance?

Oh, you went there :lol

 

[HappyBivouac]

The problem is majority of men put women on a high pedal stool right from the get go which automatically makes them inferior in their mind. This obviously leads to fear, intimidation, lack of self-worth etc.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1hC0nIagH4

 

[vitaminwateryum]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

Holy sweet mackerel, why would you tell a girl that you barely know about your dreams? Keep in mind that you're going to be in the middle of class, not on the couch of your first therapy session.

Just realized were on the last page of this thread, new OT soon D:

Sounds like something you tell your psychiatrist the first time you meet them rather than what you tell a girl to hit it off.

I see I was beaten to the psychiatrist line :lol

 

[norinrad]

Sounds like something you tell your psychiatrist the first time you meet them rather than what you tell a girl to hit it off.

:lol :lol :lol :lol my thoughts exactly

 

[HappyBivouac]

Okay, I'm making my game plan for asking out that girl tomorrow, and someone suggested to me that what I came up with might not be the best course of action.

My goal is to make a good, interesting conversation with the girl, so I was hoping to open up with a dream I had last night. Long story short, the dream was about me waking up to a perfect life basically. I had a beautiful girlfriend, people loved me, all was right with the world, etc. I immediately suspected that it was a dream that I was having, so I started doing these little experiments. I would flip a coin a hundred times, and each time it would come up heads, until someone asked what I was doing and explained, and that was the first time it came up tails. Anyway, I eventually woke up, and after recollecting the dream, I was confused. I was in paradise....why was my first and only instinct to run away?

I think this is somewhat thought provoking and interesting. The other person said I was retarded (perhaps not without merit) and should stick to simple things, so that the girl doesn't feel intimidated, preferably something with humor. I'd really prefer to talk about this rather than more superficial shit that means nothing (It's one of the many reasons I became a shut in for all these years to begin with), but if you guys really insist that it's not the right approach, I will rethink what I am going to do.

See, the thing is that pretty much all the info we have is that this is a girl you are attracted to. With such a general view of things it's no wonder GAF is making fun of you and saying it'll never work. It could work with a certain type of girl who is attracted to thoughtful guys, but with girls in general it would be coming on a bit strong.

In the case of a girl I just broke up with yet don't regret a moment of the amazing 3.5 year relationship, we broke the ice initially by talking about each other's dreams, psychology, ghosts, and a lot of very personal things. Neither of us is crazy, I just daresay we weren't as shallow as most when it comes to the dating thing.

In general I'm usually turned off by girls who just want to talk shallow, superficial stuff. I've gotten on just fine. Just use your judgment. If you like this girl enough you should have a decent idea of what she's like, so think about what would engage her rather than intimidate her. Put yourself in her shoes as best as you can, though this can be hard because when you fawn over someone you tend to create a warped image of their personality.

In general do what flows naturally for you. Some girls will be into it, others won't. Each rejection is added power. Don't take too much stock in the "don't talk about that are you crazy" stuff that gaf loves so much.

 

[Veelk]

See, the thing is that pretty much all the info we have is that this is a girl you are attracted to. With such a general view of things it's no wonder GAF is making fun of you and saying it'll never work. It could work with a certain type of girl who is attracted to thoughtful guys, but with girls in general it would be coming on a bit strong.

In the case of a girl I just broke up with yet don't regret a moment of the amazing 3.5 year relationship, we broke the ice initially by talking about each other's dreams, psychology, ghosts, and a lot of very personal things. Neither of us is crazy, I just daresay we weren't as shallow as most when it comes to the dating thing.

In general I'm usually turned off by girls who just want to talk shallow, superficial stuff. I've gotten on just fine. Just use your judgment. If you like this girl enough you should have a decent idea of what she's like, so think about what would engage her rather than intimidate her. Put yourself in her shoes as best as you can, though this can be hard because when you fawn over someone you tend to create a warped image of their personality.

In general do what flows naturally for you. Some girls will be into it, others won't. Each rejection is added power. Don't take too much stock in the "don't talk about that are you crazy" stuff that gaf loves so much.

Since I don't know the girl that much myself, I guess it would. All I really know is that she is a huge music fan, goes to concerts (both subjects I know next to nothing about) and that she also likes to analyze books and movies (subjects I do know about, but she hasn't stated particular interest in any one in particular, and I didn't ask as she seemed to be more passionate about music and figured it'd be better for her to do the talking). So, in this case, if it would come off as a bit much to girls in general, it may probably come off as a bit much to her as well. I'm not exactly in love with this girl like you seemed to presume, I don't know her that much, but I just really don't care for small talk about stuff I simply have no interest in. It's such an awkward little state where nothing you say means anything and you don't really learn anything about a person. I'm trying to get to the part where I learn something about her, and I really don't want to bother with this small talk phase that just seems worthless to me, but it clearly isn't.

So, then what the hell SHOULD I start off with. I'm so fucking terrible at small talk that it's laughable. I know, I know, it gets better with practice, but I want this girl. She's probably the hottest girl I've seen at this school. There must be some way to make the conversation flow better.

As for the rest of gaf, you all have more experience than I do, so I take your quips and advice alike with good humor and give each one thought. I do think that the right kind of girl would accept this thoughtful approach, but I will agree to take the less risky route. Funny you mention sonnets though. I am in a class that touched upon sonnets and stuff recently. Not that there's any relation between the dream and stuff, since we're not talking about that, but just a funny little coincidence.

 

[sammy]

I've met the most awesome girl lately and we click like fucking magic.... lesson learned:

patience and self-improvement

I've settled in the past for girls that had no respect for me, simply because I get lonely (guys are a lonely lot.) I rushed too fast into any woman who could make me feel the slightest bit wanted and put them way up high on that pedestal.
Taking a few years off of the relationship thing and focusing on dating (and being extremely picky) has helped me to understand that I need a very specific type of woman in my life.

 

[Shawsie64]

I've met the most awesome girl lately and we click like fucking magic.... lesson learned:

patience and self-improvement

I've settled in the past for girls that had no respect for me, simply because I get lonely (guys are a lonely lot.) I rushed too fast into any woman who could make me feel the slightest bit wanted and put them way up high on that pedestal.
Taking a few years off of the relationship thing and focusing on dating (and being extremely picky) has helped me to understand that I need a very specific type of woman in my life.

Good work man im trying to do the same at the moment..

 

[Danielsan]

Anyone seen Danielsan? I'm worried, haven't heard from him since his last date collapsed

Dude I'm alive and kicking. If you want to see me and the girl who recently crushed my heart. See the post new pics of yourself thread. :lol

I've decided that I'm going to give the whole dating scene a rest for a while. Need to get other shit sorted out and climb my way out of this minor depression. I've taken too much of a beating this year, and that last girl was the final straw. Taking a break until next year, unless something crosses my path unexpectedly.

 

[norinrad]

Dude I'm alive and kicking. If you want to see me and the girl who recently crushed my heart. See the post new pics of yourself thread. :lol

I've decided that I'm going to give the whole dating scene a rest for a while. Need to get other shit sorted out and climb my way out of this minor depression. I've taken too much of a beating this year, and that last girl was the final straw. Taking a break until next year, unless something crosses my path unexpectedly.

Don't worry about it, take it easy.

After 17 rejections, i woke up to my surprise to see 2 mails from the dating site i put a profile on. One is super cute and we have a date on Saturday. I wasn't that impress with the other lady so i haven't replied to her yet. Could you believe that? I'm actually choosing who i want to go out with. I never thought that could happen to me but it has. Can't wait to see her. And all i did was give up besides the counting of how many times i've been rejected

:lol :lol :lol

 

[Danielsan]

Don't worry about it, take it easy.

After 17 rejections, i woke up to my surprise to see 2 mails from the dating site i put a profile on. One is super cute and we have a date on Saturday. I wasn't that impress with the other lady so i haven't replied to her yet. Could you believe that? I'm actually choosing who i want to go out with. I never thought that could happen to me but it has. Can't wait to see her. And all i did was give up besides the counting of how many times i've been rejected

:lol :lol :lol

Nice man! If you already aren't feeling the second girl then simply don't go for it. It's a waste of time for the both of you. Hopefully saturday will go splendidly.

There actually still is a really good looking girl who told me to contact her if things didn't work out with this last girl. But I'm just not feeling up for it right now. The two women before this one weren't so bad, it sucked but it's not like a I felt a sense of love for them. This last girl though... christ she got me good.

 

[scoot3r]

Don't worry about it, take it easy.

After 17 rejections, i woke up to my surprise to see 2 mails from the dating site i put a profile on. One is super cute and we have a date on Saturday. I wasn't that impress with the other lady so i haven't replied to her yet. Could you believe that? I'm actually choosing who i want to go out with. I never thought that could happen to me but it has. Can't wait to see her. And all i did was give up besides the counting of how many times i've been rejected

:lol :lol :lol

Grats mate! Good luck

 

[-PXG-]

Don't worry about it, take it easy.

After 17 rejections, i woke up to my surprise to see 2 mails from the dating site i put a profile on. One is super cute and we have a date on Saturday. I wasn't that impress with the other lady so i haven't replied to her yet. Could you believe that? I'm actually choosing who i want to go out with. I never thought that could happen to me but it has. Can't wait to see her. And all i did was give up besides the counting of how many times i've been rejected

:lol :lol :lol

Be excited, but don't fantasize or get your hopes up too much. Also, don't forget don't that the whole dating/ relationship thing is a numbers game. Every failure and rejection is a learning experience. It's a gradual progression of increasing your chances of success. With every girl you meet, date, kiss and sleep with, you'll get a better understanding of yourself and what kind of girls you like and which ones will like you.

You can play one hand, five, ten, twenty, a hundred hands and still lose. But if you play your cards right, and are somewhat lucky, you'll win. You can do all of the right things, and I mean everything to the tee, and still have a girl reject you. It's not you, it's her. Perhaps you don't have enough in common. You're not her type. Or she just isn't looking for a relationship. Don't take it too personally. Don't assume there is anything wrong with you, unless you actually fucked something up. Remember, women aren't perfect. Don't ever put pussy on a pedestal. They make just as many mistakes as we make. They're trying to figure things out too. And believe me, it's really not that hard to talk to a woman. They're human beings, just like you and me. They have breasts and vaginas...big deal.

So if you don't have a winning hand, it's not necessarily your fault....blame the dealer :lol

 

[norinrad]

heh I'm a bit excited, i will just have fun, be myself and see where it goes, but am not going to let myself be Daniel-sand :lol :lol :lol

Date in on Saturday which is cool

 

[-PXG-]

heh I'm a bit excited, i will just have fun, be myself and see where it goes, but am not going to let myself be Daniel-sand :lol :lol :lol

Date in on Saturday which is cool

Now that's the perfect attitude. Go get her player.

 

[djtiesto]

Alright kiry, here are some notes (in bold) on your profile:




If you have any questions about any of that, feel free to ask.

I realize this was a few days ago, but I know you do check up on this thread a bit, Mike... but was wondering why he shouldn't mention gaming and anime in his profile? If those are his interests, why try to hide them?

 

[-PXG-]

I decided to have a little fun and make my own 360 achievement/ PS3 trophy list. Enjoy GAF:

Numbers game (5pt/bronze) - get a girl's number

Wine and dine (5pt/bronze) - take a girl out on a date

Sloppy seconds (5pt/bronze) - take the same girl out on another date

Ewww! Cooties! (5pt/bronze) - give or recieve your first kiss (cheek doesn't count)

Thar she blowz! (10pt/silver) - recieve your first blowjob

Deflowered (25pt/silver) - lose your virginity (both of you must reach climax)

Escape teh friendzone (15pt/silver) - ask a girl to be your girlfriend (she must say yes)

Go getter (20pt/silver)- kiss a girl on the first date (cheek doesn't count)

Player (30pt/silver) - makeout with a girl on the first date

Mack Daddy (40pt/silver) - suck on a girl's tits and/or finger her pussy on the first date

Fuckin' boss (90pt/silver) recieve a blowjob on the first date

YOU ARE THE MAN!!! (150pt/gold) - fuck a girl on the first date

Man whore (100pt/gold) - have sex with three or more different girls in one week

Perfect 10 (100pt/gold) - have sex with a girl who is considered a "perfect 10"

Look ma, no condom! (100pt/gold) - have sex without a condom and NOT contract an STD AND NOT get the girl pregnant

F.H.U.T.A (100pt/gold) - perform anal sex on a girl

Three's Company (100 pt/gold) - have a threesome with two other girls

Alpha male (100pt/platinum) - complete every task

DLC:

Spa treatment (50pt/silver) - ejaculate on a girl's face

It tastes like chicken! (50pt/silver) - have a girl swallow your semen

All you can eat buffet (50pt/gold) - have sex with at least 10 differerent girls of varying races, ethnicities, nationalities, ect

M.I.L.F. hunter (50pt/gold) - have sex with a MILF

Watergate (50pt/silver) - while recieving a blowjob, have a girl deepthroat your cock

DLC 2:

Creampie (50pt/silver) - give a girl a creampie

Iron Man - (50 pt/silver) have a sex session with a girl thats lasts more than 1 hour

Jimmy McMillan (50pt/silver) - forget breakfast lunch and dinner; have sex with one girl at least 3 times within a 24 hour period

Superman (50pt/gold) - have a sex session with a girl that lasts more than 2 hours

Lance Amrstrong (50pt/gold) - have sex with one girl at least 6 times within a 24 hour period

DLC 3:

Feels good man (50pt/gold) - ejaculate inside a girl and NOT get her pregnant

Interracial porn star (50pt/silver) - have sex with one girl of another race, at least 3 times in one week

Prison shower (50pt/silver) - have anal sex with a girl without any lube (no toys are allowed either)

Kool-Aid (50pt/gold) eat a girl out while she is on her period

That time of the month (50pt/silver) - have sex with a girl while she is on her period

DLC 4:


Daily grind (50pt/gold) - have sex with a different girl, for every day of the week, for one week

Sex machine (50pt/gold) - make a girl climax at least 5 times in a single sex session (session must not exceed 1 hour)

Automatic teller machine (50pt/gold) - have a girl perform ass to mouth

Goldilocks (50pt/silver) - fuck a girl in every room of her house or apartment

Bon appetite (50pt/silver) - consume some kind of odd food (not whipped cream, strawberries or chocolate syrup) while having sex with a girl

 

[NIGHT-]

God damn I can't believe a abnormal case of a limp dick wrecked my chances with an awesome girl. I don't understand why she acted so cool about it the other night but she hasn't contacted me at all since( which is unusual cause she usually text the hell out of me all day long) I guess that's life though. Just sucks cause we got along REALLY well before that.

 

[Danielsan]

I realize this was a few days ago, but I know you do check up on this thread a bit, Mike... but was wondering why he shouldn't mention gaming and anime in his profile? If those are his interests, why try to hide them?

Better to ease someone in to those kind of interests? Women might initially be turned off which may not be the case when you show that you are a normal healthy social being.

heh I'm a bit excited, i will just have fun, be myself and see where it goes, but am not going to let myself be Daniel-sand :lol :lol :lol

Date in on Saturday which is cool

Great. Now I've become a verb that implies failure. :lol

 

[EzLink]

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[Rocket Scientist]

I decided to have a little fun and make my own Xbox 360 inspired achievements. Enjoy GAF:

:lol Funny. This is Girl/Dating Age: Where to begin, though. How about adding things like:

Oh hai there (5pt) - Say Hi to a stranger while making eye contact.

Creeper alert! (5pt) - Hold eye contact for longer than 3 seconds.

A new challenger approaches (10pt) - Get her name.

And I approve of adding ''Daniel-san'd'' to Webster's Dictionary.

 

[-PXG-]

:lol Funny. This is Girl/Dating Age: Where to begin, though. How about adding things like:



And I approve of adding ''Daniel-san'd'' to Webster's Dictionary.

:lol

I added some more "DLC" chevos too.

 

[Mike Works]

I realize this was a few days ago, but I know you do check up on this thread a bit, Mike... but was wondering why he shouldn't mention gaming and anime in his profile? If those are his interests, why try to hide them?

When a girl pictures a guy who really likes videogames- enough to mention it on his dating site profile- she's most likely going to picture one of two people: an anti-social, lonely, introverted nerd (or) your typical call of duty, madden-loving fratboy who would rather play another level than do the dishes.

It's not really fair, but it's a stigma.

Now me personally, I love videogames. I think I mentioned this earlier in the thread, but whenever I've brought a girl home and she's seen my consoles (Wii, PS3, iPhone, etc), most of them will make a small comment like, "Oh, you like videogames?" That's when I feel is a good time to address it; you've already made an impression on the girl- she's already judged you based on the time you've spent together up to that point, on the things you've talked about, etc. That's why I feel you should be selective as to what you put on your dating profile, because that's her first impression of you. If you go and tell her you love videogames on your profile, then she might be scared off, and when she comes over and sees your TV and a billion consoles, it could heighten her levels of worry.

When I've brought a girl over and she's said, "Oh, you like videogames," I've simply replied, "Yeah I play them every now and then when I want to just relax. So what movie do you want to watch?"

I'm not advocating denying that you like videogames. You just have to be aware of how you- a total stranger- are presenting yourself to a new person.

I did this (strategy) with my current girlfriend, and now I've got her playing my nerdy games (Twilight Princess on Wii and Game Dev Story on iPhone) and reading my nerdy books (A Song of Ice and Fire- fantasy). Sucker.

 

[norinrad]

I mentioned on my profile I like to play the PS3 and The Wii, also mentioned i read mostly comic books. Mentioned my favorite movies being Blade Runner, Big Trouble in Little China, Masters of the Universe etc. Basically i described myself as honest as i could be. I figured those who liked me would mail and and those who viewed me as a grown ass man who reads comics and plays video games would ignore me. But i knew i could live with that. I also mentioned my occupation which is being an IT guy. Heh i was surprised to see many women have viewed my profile, 2 eventually ended up sending me a nice mail that they would like to get to know me. The others that rejected me, well i mailed them myself and probably screwed up along the way hence the rejections :lol

A lady friend told me a while ago not to worry and that the women who are interested in me would find me on there. I think she was on to something.

 

[Enco]

I agree with that video games aren't always the best association.

I'm not a fan of dating sites though. Far too much hassle for what you get out of it. Never been on one and don't intend on being on one. That's just me though.

 

[y2dvd]

Love the Achievements unlocked idea. :lol

I never bothered with Achievements on any game though. ;[

 

[Danielsan]

I mentioned on my profile I like to play the PS3 and The Wii, also mentioned i read mostly comic books. Mentioned my favorite movies being Blade Runner, Big Trouble in Little China, Masters of the Universe etc. Basically i described myself as honest as i could be. I figured those who liked me would mail and and those who viewed me as a grown ass man who reads comics and plays video games would ignore me. But i knew i could live with that. I also mentioned my occupation which is being an IT guy. Heh i was surprised to see many women have viewed my profile, 2 eventually ended up sending me a nice mail that they would like to get to know me. The others that rejected me, well i mailed them myself and probably screwed up along the way hence the rejections :lol

A lady friend told me a while ago not to worry and that the women who are interested in me would find me on there. I think she was on to something.

Hold the phone. Those 17 rejections are women you haven't met in person? :lol

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Since I don't know the girl that much myself, I guess it would. All I really know is that she is a huge music fan, goes to concerts (both subjects I know next to nothing about) and that she also likes to analyze books and movies (subjects I do know about, but she hasn't stated particular interest in any one in particular, and I didn't ask as she seemed to be more passionate about music and figured it'd be better for her to do the talking). So, in this case, if it would come off as a bit much to girls in general, it may probably come off as a bit much to her as well. I'm not exactly in love with this girl like you seemed to presume, I don't know her that much, but I just really don't care for small talk about stuff I simply have no interest in. It's such an awkward little state where nothing you say means anything and you don't really learn anything about a person. I'm trying to get to the part where I learn something about her, and I really don't want to bother with this small talk phase that just seems worthless to me, but it clearly isn't.

So, then what the hell SHOULD I start off with. I'm so fucking terrible at small talk that it's laughable. I know, I know, it gets better with practice, but I want this girl. She's probably the hottest girl I've seen at this school. There must be some way to make the conversation flow better.

As for the rest of gaf, you all have more experience than I do, so I take your quips and advice alike with good humor and give each one thought. I do think that the right kind of girl would accept this thoughtful approach, but I will agree to take the less risky route. Funny you mention sonnets though. I am in a class that touched upon sonnets and stuff recently. Not that there's any relation between the dream and stuff, since we're not talking about that, but just a funny little coincidence.

So talking to a random girl is a social no no for you, but telling a chick you barely know something protected under doctor/patient confidentiality is fine?

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

I decided to have a little fun and make my own 360 achievement/ PS3 trophy list. Enjoy GAF:

:lol holy shit I love it. Still haven't had a 3 some yet, that's the only one keeping me from my platinum dating age trophy!

Edit: WTF@ some of those acheivements lol. Who the hell is going around eating bitches out while on their period :lol

 

[norinrad]

Hold the phone. Those 17 rejections are women you haven't met in person? :lol

WTF did you even read what i wrote a few threads back? I said i have been rejected by 17 this year, 4 in person and the rest through dating sites :lol

 

[SmokeMaxX]

Edit: WTF@ some of those acheivements lol. Who the hell is going around eating bitches out while on their period :lol

Achievement unlocked.

...In my defense, I didn't know :lol

 

[castlegar]

Quick one: Finally jumped on the Online Dating wagon, and got around to talking with one girl in particular. She gave me her # and we're planning on going for drinks on Sunday or around there, but I'm not sure what kind of communication I should keep up in between that (Sunday's a ways away). I was hesitant to send a random 'what's up' text since we haven't actually met, and now that we've got phone numbers I don't think messaging on the site is worth anything.

What's the call, GAF?

(I know I should probably just text her, but for all I know that's against online dating etiquette )

Many thanks

 

[Danielsan]

WTF did you even read what i wrote a few threads back? I said i have been rejected by 17 this year, 4 in person and the rest through dating sites :lol

Dude my memory is like Swiss cheese. Filled with holes.
Anywho, dating site rejections don't even count in my book unless you've met them in person. Getting a "not interested" reply really shouldn't phase anyone. The 4 in person are definitely harsh of course. Seriously hope you won't get Danielsan'd on Saturday. :lol

 

[JumpJeff84]

Quick one: Finally jumped on the Online Dating wagon, and got around to talking with one girl in particular. She gave me her # and we're planning on going for drinks on Sunday or around there, but I'm not sure what kind of communication I should keep up in between that (Sunday's a ways away). I was hesitant to send a random 'what's up' text since we haven't actually met, and now that we've got phone numbers I don't think messaging on the site is worth anything.

What's the call, GAF?

(I know I should probably just text her, but for all I know that's against online dating etiquette )

Many thanks

Send her a text on Saturday night to confirm. That's it. Save it for the date. If you guys get along in person, then you can worry about how often and what format to communicate in.

 

[HappyBivouac]

I realize this was a few days ago, but I know you do check up on this thread a bit, Mike... but was wondering why he shouldn't mention gaming and anime in his profile? If those are his interests, why try to hide them?

bcuz thos tings r 4 nerdz duh lol

Most of gaf has the mentality of an eighth grader when it comes to things like this. I guess it depends on what you're aiming for, though.

 

[Xun]

Nearly time for someone to make a new thread guys!

 

[WyndhamPrice]

I vote for the next thread subtitle to be "A Thread of Sonnets" or "A Combined Effort"

edit: holy shit this thread has nearly 1,000,000 views, haha

 

[kiryogi]

I've met the most awesome girl lately and we click like fucking magic.... lesson learned:

patience and self-improvement

I've settled in the past for girls that had no respect for me, simply because I get lonely (guys are a lonely lot.) I rushed too fast into any woman who could make me feel the slightest bit wanted and put them way up high on that pedestal.
Taking a few years off of the relationship thing and focusing on dating (and being extremely picky) has helped me to understand that I need a very specific type of woman in my life.

I've finally realized this too with my recent experience. I look back at the past and wow, it was pretty bad back then. But now I know what I want and that in itself is some new level of understanding that I can really appreciate.

Mike: Damn your advice is awesome :lol I'll throw those things out my interests pile on PoF. I took it out of my profile description before, but not out of the list.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Achievement unlocked.

...In my defense, I didn't know :lol

Lol I'd quote your avatar, but I'm on my cell

 

[Veelk]

it's like the universe at large is orchestrating one giant cockblock for me.

Last week she was absent from class, so I couldn't ask her out. Now she was incredibly sick with strep throat, so I didn't want to bother her with dating and stuff when she was feeling so down. Or maybe this was a point of vulnerability where I should have struck?

On the plus side, I earned some nice guy points, however much those may be worth, by wishing her well and promising to help her on her assignment because she didn't do it for today. She'll bring it in Wednesday, and I'll help then...except on Wednesday we are going to the library, which means that we may not sit next to each other, unless I specifically go early and try to find a seat next to her. Would that be...idk, creepy, to follow her around and insist on sitting next to her? I mean, I have a reason (need to do the aforementioned paper) and we have become acquaintances at this point. I just need to work up the testicles to ask her out now.

So talking to a random girl is a social no no for you, but telling a chick you barely know something protected under doctor/patient confidentiality is fine?

It's not exactly any sort of secret, and it doesn't really reflect anything in me right now. It's just a dream I had. Sure, I think about stuff like the value of truth vs happiness alot, but this is not in any way a secret for me. I'd gladly talk about this stuff to anyone. I was assuming the psychologist thing was a joke. Do you seriously never talk to anyone about your contemplations of the universe?

 

[Danielsan]

I'm such a twat. I can't even keep a promise to myself. :lol
Started chatting on msn again with one of the girls whom I had blown off to make way for my previous failure.
Not sure if it will lead anywhere, or if I want it to, but at least I forgot about being depressed for a bit. I'm also beginning to suspect that I'm highly unstable emotionally. I should get that looked at sometime. :lol