Honest to God I tried this. I tried as hard as possible. I gave her more than 1 chance. I'd do everything fucking possible to make her happy with me (like the lovestruck fool I was) . I didn't run because I loved her with a bloody huge passion. And she did it again. You have any idea how that feels. To pour as much of your life into someone and have it broken over and over? If you do, then you know where I'm coming from. If not, I'm just trying to save a young man here from making the same mistake I did, its ether to the heart.
-
Hey Guest. Check out your NeoGAF Wrapped 2025 results here!
Girlfriend kissed her ex-boyfriend
- Thread starter peanutbutterlatte
- Start date
- Status
Honest to God I tried this. I tried as hard as possible. I gave her more than 1 chance. I'd do everything fucking possible to make her happy with me (like the lovestruck fool I was) . I didn't run because I loved her with a bloody huge passion. And she did it again. You have any idea how that feels. To pour as much of your life into someone and have it broken over and over? If you do, then you know where I'm coming from. If not, I'm just trying to save a young man here from making the same mistake I did, its ether to the heart.
Epsilon-delta
Banned
Lol, you all of all people shouldn't be talking. You should've taken your own advice and tried to win back the girl that you cheated on. So I guess you're not a man afterall and took the easy way out by going from monogamy to polyamorous to escape your emotional pain.
You're a joke kid.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Damn....
Was her effort to fix things genuine?
May sound like a stupid question, but how was your relationship with her after the first time she did it.
You don't fucking know anything about me or what I've been through. You don't know the pains and steps I took to make the life decisions I have.
NotTheGuyYouKill
Member
Wow.
giancarlo123x
Banned
This thread is getting interesting.
So in OP's shoes what would you do?
You have no right whatsoever to dictate "what a man does". There is no reason to think that OP's girlfriend will fuck her ex. Women aren't fucking computer whose behavior you can predict and map out. You seem to be projecting your own problems onto this guy, and want to ensure that he's as miserable as you are. OP has nothing to fight for. His girlfriend obviously knows not to kiss her ex again. And what do you mean by this?
Are you advocating domestic abuse? That's honestly what it sounds like, and that line makes the rest of your posts much more worrisome.
Epsilon-delta
Banned
Oh but it's ok for you to make assumptions about everyone else being clingy or jealous?
Ok buddy.
Ok buddy.
Doesn't mean you have to resort to the same shit she's doing.
Where did you pull that one from? Geez, the reading level is going down now too.
That's cool, and I don't dig personal slights, but you did say 'This thread is full of clingy, cynical jealous misanthropes'. You might want to think about that. You didn't call anyone out directly, but I'm not sure that makes your comment any better.
Edit:
Aah, shit. Now I feel bad for calling you out. My apologies.
Fornaximus
Member
Why is putting up with infidelity a sign of maturity to some of you people? What sort of terrible subservient roles have you assumed in your relationships?
I know exactly how you feel. all to well. but this is one of those life lessons you have to experience, because one wont listen to reasom without it. at least in this circumstance.
Ian
Banned
I honestly don't understand this. She did it once so she definitely won't do it again or even take it further? I think it's far more likely that she will.
And I am speaking from experience here.
Devolution
Member
There's a middle ground here with much more nuance that's getting lost in the shuffle.
You insulted a lot of people in the thread and now you're mad?
What the fuck are you talking about.
Epsilon-delta
Banned
You mean he?
Also, it's not like the same thing happens every time. People are different and we don't know jack shit about the girlfriend.
She. I am trans.
Telling a guy that he needs to "go into overdrive" and not "run away like a bitch", if his girlfriend cheats on him, is pretty fucking troubling.
I find what's more immature is having a concrete rule of "cheating = breakup." No circumstance is the same. People are different and they change.
Some of you need to read this spot thoroughly. Don't read the post again until you have googled the definition of the bolded. Can't believe how many think that this kind of situation is cut and dry. Have some respect ffs. The replies in here are embarrassing.
Its a parody of another post dude. Jesus.
skidoo800r
Member
Fucking rofl
Uh, I guess if you want to take it out of the context of the rest of his post? Sure?
His joke was you don't run from the relationship when they do something small like kiss so if they do something super big like fuck then you should go into overdrive and super not run away.
Sounds like someone who hates themselves and has no self respect.
I feel so sorry for you.
we know his gf spends time with her ex alone. we know she texts him. she knows her bf wont look into any sort of infidelity suspicion. us old people know where this is going. we lived it. she has zero respect for op. zero.
What's that?
NotTheGuyYouKill
Member
You make it sound like a drug.
OP, your girl is about to fall into the downward spiral.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Bullshit @ the bolded. No reason at all? None, Zero? Sneaking off to meet with an ex she admits she still has feelings for isn't a reason? The sneaking alone isn't a reason? Returning a kiss isn't a reason? Still having feelings for a person that she broke up with 4 years ago isn't a reason?
Listen, OP can choose. But let's not pretend the concern for sexual infidelity is completely unwarranted.
Coffee Dog
Banned
Isnt that just the non abbreviated NTR? So just cuckolding I thnk.
Devolution
Member
I'd be more concerned with the feelings than physical touching tbh. It's one thing to just fuck someone just because but feelings for said person? Much more threatening to the relationship for me.
Fornaximus
Member
I'd say it's a fair response judging by the information OP has provided. She didn't just drunkenly hook up with some random guy she met at a club. She has an emotional connection with this person, and has very likely done a lot more than "kissed him back" given the circumstances. There's a point where you can either drag this out until you both hate each other, or cut your losses early and each find someone better.
Yes, I've lived it too, this doesn't change the fact that all signs lead down the same road. Anyone who thinks otherwise is an old fool.
And here are some wise words, which is saying a lot since I try to disagree with Devo when I can
I'm glad to hear that, but that doesn't negate the fact that you think OP should destroy his relationship because of a kiss. And you have no right at all to say "what a man does". That's so laughably archaic that I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to take another one of your posts seriously.
Sure, that's fine. I advise break up due to the following circumstance
They've been together 4 years
If they'd been together a few months, or maybe a year and she went for an ex? Ok, some lingering feelings.
But goddamn lingering feelings after 4 years with you? Seems to indicate she's getting tired of the relationship and after all these years still holds a flame for the ex. That makes me think that she is really considering going back with her ex.
Could I be wrong? Well of course, none of us are mind readers. But certain behaviors and actions can indicate a greater likelihood of certain outcomes and you need to weight how comfortable you are with these increased odds.
For instance. Let's say she'd never kissed her ex. Let's say she'd never remained in contact at all! From the OP's perspective, is it reasonable to ever think she'd randomly connect with her ex and kiss? No...not really. But keeping in contact, admitting to feelings for an ex 4 years into your relationship (which is what's really going on when you say you're still thinking about a guy/gal) and kissing them, which to many people is a major physical act...well suddenly it is not as unreasonable to believe anything can happen between those two. So the question is, how does one react?
Its perfectly reasonable to break things off.
I advocate breaking things off based on what has been communicated. IF SHE IS A KEEPER, and she truly loves the OP...then she'll take the ending of the relationship as a sign to win him back. If not, if she just goes back to the ex...then she wasn't worth it.
Same thing happened to me, pretty much. Her ex basically guilted her into talking to him - talking about health problems etc. They dated for 4 years so those feels obviously never completely go away. Anyway; she started trying to help him (told her it was a bad idea) and they ended up kissing. She came to me the next day crying and saying sorry etc; she hasn't spoken/seen him since.
In this situation; I forgave her. She was quite obviously manipulated by him and trying his hardest to garner sympathy because of the situation he was in.
2 years on, and we've never been stronger.
Some of you guys seem really immature when it comes to relationships. Nothing is cut and dry or black and white.
In this situation; I forgave her. She was quite obviously manipulated by him and trying his hardest to garner sympathy because of the situation he was in.
2 years on, and we've never been stronger.
Some of you guys seem really immature when it comes to relationships. Nothing is cut and dry or black and white.
Epsilon-delta
Banned
Exactly and this is coming from a woman, and there are plenty of studies to back this up.
Would it matter if she drunkenly did it or not? The fact that she came clean almost immediately and has complied to fix the relationship shows to me she may deserve a second chance. You don't throw out a 4 year relationship because of a stupid sense of self-inflation.
Exactly. If you truly want to be with someone; that blip doesn't define your relationship - in the end, it makes it stronger.
- Status