Lol I love this thread.
Nope, I have fucked for the sole purpose of getting my dick wet and I never talked to her ever again afterwards.
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Girlfriend kissed her ex-boyfriend
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Lol I love this thread.
Nope, I have fucked for the sole purpose of getting my dick wet and I never talked to her ever again afterwards.
You'd be surprised.
Heh, not always.
Yeah, it'd be different if she didn't kiss back, didn't have feelings, didn't keep the meeting a secret, and he wasn't her ex but that's not the case here. Her telling you doesn't change any of that. My rule of thumb for relationships is that if you're in a monogamous relationship and you're willing to cheat or are interested in someone else, don't stay in the relationship. It's just out of respect for the person you're with.
Lol
ahahaha okay, I was sad now I'm laughing.
LMAO. God speeds sir.
Devolution
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Some fucking is solely about getting off with both parties not feeling anything otherwise.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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What is it telling of exactly?
No, but sometimes people can take care of their sexual urges without any love or that non sense. Also, I'm sure that prostitutes have so many feelings towards all of their clients. Get out of her with this fallacy.
That a lot of people on here are untrusting, don't know much about relationships, or got burned once and expect the same to always happen.
How do you define emotional fidelity, though? The line between "friend" and "crush" is easily blurred.
Yes fucking involves feelings but they don't have to be feelings for the other party. They can be for completely selfish reasons
Yeah, but sexy robots so it's all good.
I've actually fucked my way through feelings of revulsion before. It wasn't easy, but sometimes you just gotta get down and dirty.
Devolution
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You define it by being honest upfront otherwise you're playing with fire.
phillipgessert
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Crushing is not really emotional. Or anyway, not in the way that is most dangerous—because it is not reciprocal, and doesn't deal much in 'closeness'.
Presumably, he wanted to fuck her and she said no. She chose not to go any father, and then admitted to her boyfriend what happened.
peanutbutterlatte
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SmokyDave: The Ambiguous Early Years
Devolution
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This too. Finding someone attractive =/= having feelings for past exes.
What do you mean by this?
Devolution
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I think it's pretty simple. "My ex is back in the picture and I never had proper closure with him" is steps above "my ex just moved in and kissed me, by they way I've been in contact with him recently."
Also catching feels for an ex 4 years into a new relationship is bad news.
Epsilon-delta
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Eh, I don't agree with the last sentence. That's sounds like straight up victim blaming. It shouldn't take an indiscretion for her to tell him what he's lacking. She should have been forthright and honest from the get go and told him what he is doing wrong in the relationship. Communications is key here.
We all can't be mind readers.
Would you be okay if your spouse fucked somebody else? I'm not being rhetorical, I'm just curious. I would be equally devastated if my spouse told me she was in love with somebody else as I would if she had an affair.
Dunno why it's so hard to believe that many people mix fucking with feeling. In fact I'd say I know tons more people where this is the case than not
I don't think Devolution is denying that, but as things stand it'd still be beneficial to both parties.
I wonder if she feels anything for him, though. It seems like he just went in for the kiss and she kissed him back. I doubt she was thinking about any kind of future she could have with the ex.
freenudemacusers
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Like married sex, for instance.
Devolution
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I didn't say it was his fault but he can find out her reasons and learn either way. Some people are just terrible at communicating what they want. He can head this off at the pass with a new girlfriend.
I'd be more devastated by an act of indiscretion motivated by love than lust.
I'd advise you to edit that geezer. Made me giggle, but I think it might be taken the wrong way by a mod.
Wait, married people have sex?!
I need to wake the missus up.
Devolution
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Except he's establishing that everyone does. It's on him to realize that not everyone does.
And I on the other hand know tons more people where it is the other way.
Epsilon-delta
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Ah ok.
I prefer smoky Dave: the furry years
If you're in a monogamous relationship, either kind of cheating is your partner's way of saying that they don't find you adequate. Either they want to fuck somebody more than you, or they want to be with somebody more than you.
Devolution
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This is where I completely disagree. If a guy moved in for a kiss on me that I didn't want he's getting pushed away.
I frankly disagree. There is being with someone because they're hot and there is being with someone because they provide some kind of emotional support I don't. The latter is much more of a problem.
Hahahahaahaa... Sorry, no.
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sorry, didn't mean to be glib but do you have feelings for your hand when you jerk it? sometimes getting off is just getting off.
If we had set rules for an open relationship? Yes, of course she could fuck someone (question not to me but anyone answering should be good for you). It goes both ways, if thats the rules we set then either of us could go elsewhere for sexual urges, sometimes new skin is really all you need. The emotional attachments are the real important part of a relationship.
Epsilon-delta
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I see what you're saying and I agree.
Never had a friend with benefits I presume?
Commander Jameson
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This still sounds like you think it was the OP's fault, at least in some part. Maybe not your intention, but that's how it comes out.
freenudemacusers
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Only once a year.
Wolf Dawgz
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What do people define emotional cheating as? I'm curious.
Man, I haven't even started shipping that DVD yet, you pirate.
Eh, fuck it. I'll save it 'til Xmas.
peanutbutterlatte
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I don't think she has feelings for him, especially given how she said she will never see him again.
Both fair statements but lets not pretend that for many there isn't a line between sex and feelings
Is there some ritual involved?
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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How does it show that? You're an untrusting person if you get cheated on? I think you're reading way too deep into it if that's all you get from people saying dump her.
Probably involves a lot of grunting, complaining and sleeping.
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