GifGafIsTheBestGaf
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well look at the positive side on this, you dodged that bullet early before things got more serious with your gf and her family
good luck op
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Girlfriend's mom is racist. I leave.
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Sorry you had to go through that OP. dating someone with a racist family is never easy and even if you think you don't care about them, I still advise breaking it off because it'll wear down the relationship. I've been through it with every one of my previous girlfriend's and it sucks. Now I'm with a girl who's family loves me like a long lost son. Hell they love me more than my own family and I couldn't be any happier.
Man fuck them dude fucking cunts
scoobidoo112
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Or maybe everyone has elements within their family that are shameful (sexual abuse, physical violence, mental problems, members in jail, addicts, etc.) and it is really fucking tough to be in the middle of it. Could you just walk away from your family tomorrow because they did something terrible? Right, it isn't that easy.
Of course the mother is a horrible person, but let's not all just 'assume' that the daughter is a vile racist too and that her dating OP was a 'conspiracy'. No matter what, that women is still her mother and it should surprise nobody that the initial reaction is to defend her. That's not an excuse, it's the reality of the situation.
LordOfChaos
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My biggest bag of nope. Dump her like last weeks garbage. That's bullshit.
Edit: Oh, good, you did.
Did she want you to apologize because she was angry at you or did she want you to apologize, to smooth things over with her family, so she could keep seeing you? I know it probably doesn't seem like much of a difference, because in either scenario she's asking a lot to expect you to apologize after you've been insulted so terribly, but in the second scenario her intentions are at least better.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
the whole thing sounds absurd. ridiculous.
what was even the impetus for her to just call you anyway
edit: saw more of the context on page 2. still doesnt make much sense, but oh well, whatever. never talk to them again
what was even the impetus for her to just call you anyway
edit: saw more of the context on page 2. still doesnt make much sense, but oh well, whatever. never talk to them again
Cow Mengde
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That sucks OP. Look on the bright side, angry breakups are easy to get over. You'll bounce right back and find someone awesome soon enough.
One thing though, how did you guys manage to become a couple in the first place? I would imagine this girl would be influenced by her shitty family.
One thing though, how did you guys manage to become a couple in the first place? I would imagine this girl would be influenced by her shitty family.
BLACK AMERICAN PSYCHO
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I would never put myself in a position for this to happen in the first place but god damn man, that must have sucked. My friend went through something similar.
Miggytronz
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She's got to go.
Snowman Prophet of Doom
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If you just didn't talk about the problem, it would have gone away, OP. A meme with Morgan Freeman's face told me so.
neurosyphilis
Definitely not an STD, as I'm a pure.
I'm glad you cut her off like K CAMP. Some suckers would've actually apologized.
Ninja Scooter
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You mean your ex-girlfriend, right?
TimeEffect
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Damn, you added them on Facebook? How long did you know her?
No doubt they added you to snoop on your life. What's crazy is that they were all cool with you, which made you think they were normal, and then they go and do that.. is it because they figured you two were getting serious?
No doubt they added you to snoop on your life. What's crazy is that they were all cool with you, which made you think they were normal, and then they go and do that.. is it because they figured you two were getting serious?
Damn this is sooooo nice, my bf is like this too, seems we got lucky
psynergylover
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Wow man, I can't believe your girlfriend wanted YOU to apologize...Fuck that noise.
Wickerbasket
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Well, at least you found out before you got married.
That's some toxic shit and you're better off without it.
That's some toxic shit and you're better off without it.
Admiral Woofington
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The situation doesn't matter the fact the girlfriend didn't feel terrible and tell you they can go fuck themselves means she didn't care enough about you. I see you're breaking it off. Good show. Let them be racist together. Don't worry when they're in the minority in 2040 and complaining about how the country isn't great anymore or whatever we can laugh at the racists together.
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as per the theory of memetics people are not immune to cultural infections in brain - racism is basically a thought virus, a very successful one too
Messofanego
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Mom and ex-gf did you a favour early after just a couple of months of dating by being open about where they side. Wish you the best in further relationships.
DarkHeartedKill
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Telling you to apologize after they were bigoted dicks is moronic. She acts as if your actions were unmotivated and you just snapped, meanwhile it took like three times before you finally got fed up with their racist bullshit.
ginger ninja
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Even if gf isn't racist, this is for the best. Imagine if things got serious or you got married and than something like this happened. I would rather not be related to more racists/bigoted, I got enough of those in my family already.
Venus Van Dam
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Holy shit OP, I'm sorry you had to pass through this.
TheSpoiler
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Asking him to say sorry is total villainy though. That word is beyond vile and that lack of understanding would lead to more issues. It's one thing to be in the middle. The girlfriend was clearly not.
My mother and I just stopped talking to most of our family due to something they did. I even helped her move out within two days of the incident.
At the end of the day, family are just people. Doesn't make them any better any the average joe just because you happen to share genes with them.
Republic of Ezo
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Hard to believe this stuff still exists. Maybe I'm just insulated because I'm in NYC, but I feel like we should be past this stuff already in this day and age. Even my father who has some very bigoted/extreme positions (e.g. nuke Palestine, always taking the side of the cops in all of these police brutality cases) never had a problem with interracial relationships and in fact encouraged them.
OP you made the right move absolutely. If she's defending her mom on this one it's just not worth it and says a lot about her character in addition to her family's.
OP you made the right move absolutely. If she's defending her mom on this one it's just not worth it and says a lot about her character in addition to her family's.
Kabuki Quantum Lover
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There was no other call to make outside of the one you made. It was the right one.
TouchMyBox
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To be fair, it's pretty suspicious of you that your lawn has a racial identity, I would be weary too.
Cut all ties and never look back
jhmtehgamr20xx
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She was dating you for the wrong reasons. You're better off without her or her family especially. Just time to move on dude.
And, well, they'll get theirs someday. Karma's a true bitch.
indeed.
And, well, they'll get theirs someday. Karma's a true bitch.
Appears the girlfriend literally did jack shit to defend her man and sided with her mother. There was no reason she couldn't stick by her boyfriend in this case, the mother literally went on a racist tirade for no good reason at all; the daughter had no stake in sticking up for her mother other than "well, maybe they aren't that wrong."
It is tough being in the middle of it. OPs ex obviously failed to rise above it and she is paying the consequences.
As another poster stated, it doesn't fucking matter that her mom and sister are her family. Their behavior is unacceptable in modern society and defending that shit is not a good look, at all.
Yes, I could.
You don't defend your parents calling people racist terms. Or racism period.
Polioliolio
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Bizarre and sad. Just stay far away from these people (for your sake, if that isn't clear)
Sorry to hear it OP, shit like this is sooo fucking stupid. I can't claim to know what it is like being on the receiving end but still, I can't abide with it.
Living in Texas has subjected me to many racist fucks over the years. It's hilarious how these pricks think because I am white that it is perfectly fine to spout their nonsense to me as though I agree. Professionally I have had to bite my tongue many times although I have snapped a couple of times...
First time (I am an electrician by trade) I was 18 and was trimming out a house (installing lights, outlets etc during new construction) and the home owner stopped by to check on progress. For whatever reason the building foreman proceeded to tell us all about how great of a guy the owner was- big time Christian, superintendent of the local school district yada yada. Then I heard that word come out of the owner's mouth. I flew off the handle and went into a mini tirade. When asked by my boss what happened (of course my boss was informed lol) I told him and that was that. Don't think we did work for that builder again
Next time was weird, fast forward 10 or so years and now I'm doing service work. At the time I had a black helper and we go to this German lady's house. Had a bad feeling after calling her on the phone to confirm she was home, knew she was going to be difficult to deal with. After performing various tasks for her and dealing with her nut job ass I notice she is walking around plugging her nose spraying air freshener saying "stinky fucking nigger"... I was like 0_o I told my helper to go outside and wait for me, I was gonna collect from her and GTFO. As I am doing this she is still banging on about how it is her house and she shouldn't have to deal with "stinking fucking niggers" in her house...
Utterly disgusting, reprehensible, typical uneducated trash-
...wat
TheGreatDirector
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Sorry to hear it OP, shit like this is sooo fucking stupid. I can't claim to know what it is like being on the receiving end but still, I can't abide with it.
Living in Texas has subjected me to many racist fucks over the years. It's hilarious how these pricks think because I am white that it is perfectly fine to spout their nonsense to me as though I agree. Professionally I have had to bite my tongue many times although I have snapped a couple of times...
First time (I am an electrician by trade) I was 18 and was trimming out a house (installing lights, outlets etc during new construction) and the home owner stopped by to check on progress. For whatever reason the building foreman proceeded to tell us all about how great of a guy the owner was- big time Christian, superintendent of the local school district yada yada. Then I heard that word come out of the owner's mouth. I flew off the handle and went into a mini tirade. When asked by my boss what happened (of course my boss was informed lol) I told him and that was that. Don't think we did work for that builder again
Next time was weird, fast forward 10 or so years and now I'm doing service work. At the time I had a black helper and we go to this German lady's house. Had a bad feeling after calling her on the phone to confirm she was home, knew she was going to be difficult to deal with. After performing various tasks for her and dealing with her nut job ass I notice she is walking around plugging her nose spraying air freshener saying "stinky fucking nigger"... I was like 0_o I told my helper to go outside and wait for me, I was gonna collect from her and GTFO. As I am doing this she is still banging on about how it is her house and she shouldn't have to deal with "stinking fucking niggers" in her house...
She was married to a black guy.
Got back to the shop and my boss asked what happened and if Vodrick did in fact "stink" (he didn't, I'm sure he smelled like he had been working all day, crawling around in attics and such). I told him what happened and that we should not do work for her any more (she was a long time customer, 10+ years) as I knew the next time I had to deal with her I would more than likely lose my shit. He agreed... but then some time later sent me back. This time I had a white helper and I held my tongue at first but after listening to her crap for a while I started to get belligerent with her, to the point that she threatened to get her gun and shoot me. I made sure I never had to deal with her again
Ain't nobody got time for that shit.
A woman in an interracial relationships spouts racist insults. We live in such a strange world.
You could. My then-girlfiend, now wife could (and did).
It not so easy for everyone, however. Especially if this girl is just 18, like the OP said. She may not be in the position to provide for herself, and it doesn't sound like their relationship was in place yet where she could just move in with him until she could.
Without know what her support network or level of independence is, I cannot fault her for not just dropping her fmaily for this incident. She loses me however, when she asked for an apology, as though the OP was in the wrong here somehow. Fuck off with that noise.
I'm guessing she thought her husband was one of the ''good ones''.
Silent Chief
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Then the mom is happy. No need to apologize.
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