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Going to a Concert by Yourself...Forever Alone :(

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I've been to a few gigs on my own. Met a whole new circle of friends because of one,who I still visit regularly (they live in a different city)

I also took a 4 day break away to Paris on my own and went to a concert. I actually enjoyed the experience having some time to myself, going to cafes just to read a book or whatever. I'd do it again out of preference rather than necessity.

This.

Hey man, listen. You just said earlier that most of your friends are hiphopheads. You could end up meeting up with folks at the show that are cool, expand your friends circle, and BAM! Next time you go to another rock concert, you'll have folks that you can go to the next show with.
Win.
 
I wanted to go to a movie theme symphony night and I couldn't get any of my friends to go, even tho I could get the tix cheaper through my cello teacher who plays in the orchastra. Then I debated even going since I'd have to go alone and feel odd about it.

I decided to go. My teach had the tix at the front reception, I walked into this thick crowd of people I didn't know and suddenly bam there was my old music teach who taught me piano. I also ended up getting to know the couple next to me and damn if the show wasn't awesome, especially when they played the credits to SW.

So my advice is go. It is your life, your decisions, and your friends are just an outside sourse of pressure. Let us know how the concert goes.
 
I went to the latest Radiohead tour by myself and didn't really see any problem with it. The people around me were really into the band and I had a great time chatting with them before and after the show.

I've never really understood the packs of 20 people thing. 9 times out of 10 any group over 2-3 people is annoying as shit because they won't stop talking, yelling, etc. during the music
What sort of concert are you going to where you can hear what people are saying around you during the music?
 
Yeah, I live about 15 mins walking from the place and I couldn't just miss Slayer playing. It's gonna be awesome. :)

I used to live in Wood Green! So it's coming back to my old turf! When you see me, say hello!

I will go by myself, going to buy my tickets tonight! Fuck it, I'll go alone!

Thanks for the advice GAF, you got my excited and it's 2 months away!
 
I did this once (a rap gig, nobody liked the artist or knew him enough to come) and instead of going to the front row to listen and dance or whatever, I just chilled at the back with my glass of beer, I could see and hear just fine from where I was.


But it's still better to do it with friends.
 
I've been going to concerts alone for a while because none of my friends really like the music that I listen to. I don't really mind doing it, I'd prefer going with friends but I don't want to drag people into a concert that they probably won't enjoy. It's not like I go to a concert to socialize.
 
I saw Manic Street Preachers by myself a couple years ago. They hadn't been in Seattle for 10+ years so there was no way I was missing it. Wife didn't want to go and none of my friends know who they are. Had a great time.
 
I saw Manic Street Preachers by myself a couple years ago. They hadn't been in Seattle for 10+ years so there was no way I was missing it. Wife didn't want to go and none of my friends know who they are. Had a great time.

I heard the NA tour they did was amazing. Sucks that I missed it.

Edit: nothing wrong with doing activities by yourself. You just have to enjoy your own company and let yourself go.
 
I don't see why it would be a problem unless you felt so self-conscious that you wouldn't be able to enjoy yourself.
 
Some of my best experiences at concert have been when I went alone. I hardly ever actually go alone, but sometimes my friends will go off to a corner to chat or go to a different show (if at a festival).

Being alone allows me to get way more into the music, for whatever reason.
 
I don't see why it would be a problem unless you felt so self-conscious that you wouldn't be able to enjoy yourself.

Not self conscious, just that I've never been to a metal concert before, let alone to a concert by myself! I can handle myself perfectly fine if it gets too crazy, but just not really a person who has done a lot of social stuff by my self
 
I saw Manic Street Preachers by myself a couple years ago. They hadn't been in Seattle for 10+ years so there was no way I was missing it. Wife didn't want to go and none of my friends know who they are. Had a great time.

I didn't go to this because I had no one to go with; my concert bro backed out.

Ugh. They're never coming back, are they :(
 
Eh who really cares. Just go. Even when I go to a concert with friends we end up getting separated in the crowd and just meet back up at the car when it's over. I go to restaurants/movies alone too. Best way to watch a movie/enjoy a good meal.
 
I didn't go to Roger Waters The Wall here at the O2 Arena because none of my friends wanted to go... :( I should have gone, it was probably my last opportunity to see Pink Floyd (or at least part of it) live. This is going to stay with me forever...
 
Just about every concert I've been to in the last few years, I've had to go to alone. I'm 20 years old, but I seem to be the only person in my circle of friends who has any freedom. So, Freezepop, I Fight Dragons, X Japan, Video Games Live, various indie gaming bands, geek based DJ's, Lollapalooza twice. All alone.
 
I never made it a habit of going to gigs alone, but I would do it when I had to, i.e. nobody I knew could/would to go, but it was a band I was unwilling to miss.

I used to go to the movies alone a lot, before I met my wife. It started when I was going to see the first LotR movie with my friend; we had dinner first and he was looking at the paper. He saw an ad for LotR and he said "Holy shit, it's three hours long? Fuck that." He refused to go. So I just went alone later. I worked at Universal, so when I wanted to see something I'd just take a golf cart up to the rear entrance to Citywalk. The only time I regretted going alone was when I saw The Ring.
 
If a show is general admission, even if I went with a few friends, I tend to wander off by myself.

Bottom line: no one cares, and neither should you.
 
Not really the same, but I went to a soccer game by myself (my friends: "LOL soccer, Ima go watch the Leafs lose 10 games instead"). It was a ton of fun, the people around me were very nice and I enjoyed myself.
 
I go to concerts alone, quite a bit.

But I also don't have a crippling fear of introducing myself to new people.
 
I'm going to a festival on my own in October, although one taking place in a concert hall instead of a field. I have really bad social anxiety, but I just figured I can either not go and regret it or just fucking get on with it and feel like I've accomplished something.

Also, you will get to see Melvins live supporting Slayer if its the ATP show, the best band ever :D
 
The trick to going to a concert alone is arriving late enough so you miss the opening sets, but early enough so that the main act hasn't started yet.

Then you hit up the bar, have a few drinks and by the time you're done finishing your gin and tonic, the band starts. Work your way up to the middle, enjoy your time and then leave.

:D

One time I went and stayed for the whole thing and intermissions were the worst. It'd be 30 min. of my on cell phone. ;___; alone
 
Just go. No one is going to notice you're alone at a crowded concert.

I go to the movies alone and plenty of other stuff alone and I'm a very self-conscious, anxious, paranoid person. So go and have fun.
 
I'm going to see Alice Cooper/Maiden by myself this summer.

It just wasn't worth coaxing friends/family to go. I can usually get somebody to go, but it's just not worth it. I honestly think I will enjoy the show more instead of worrying about how much pain my cohort is in.

The silver lining to this, besides not having to listen to bitching, is you ALWAYS get a better seat by just buying one ticket.
 
Listen, if you REALLY can't handle going to shit by yourself.... Act like a reviewer taking notes at a few events and realize nobody gives a shit.

Then throw your notepad at someone and scream "I'M FREE"
 
I see some movies alone when friends don't want to go. It was awkward at first, but now I kind of enjoy it.
 
I went alone to the MTV awards when it was held in Liverpool purely because I win one ticket so thought, what the hell. Ain't as bad as you think, met a group of people there and had fun!
 
Back when I was in college, my roomates and I were going to have a huge halloween party. We had already purchased all the kegs and other stuff for the party. Anyway, on our way back from picking up material for our costumes, I see on the marquee that Damage Plan was playing that night. I said, "Change of plans, boys", no one bites, even my gf at the time. So I went alone to watch, not but eight feet away, my favortie guitarist play. I went back to the party with my ears ringing and had a great night overall. Two months later, some asshole shots Dimebag in the head.

Biggest non-regret of my life, the others can't say the same. If you want to do something don't let some vague idea of a social stigma hold you back, you may not have that chance again.
 
I went to see Jeff Mangum last night, alone. Naturally I invited my friends first, with the general reactions being 'who's that?' or 'why does his voice suck lol?'.

It was one of the most intense and beautiful musical experiences i've ever had had the privilege of attending. I arrived an hour early and got talking with some others in the queue. A wonderful night was had, and I would have regretted it deeply had I not gone.

I'm seeing Radiohead alone in October and I can't wait. After all, you're there for the music.
 
i went to a NIN concert by myself after all my friends who liked the band moved away. at first I felt like a loser cause everyone else had at least 1 friend with them, but by the time the music started I didn't give a shit anymore. plus, I didn't have to worry about keeping track of anyone and could do my own thing and leave as soon as i wanted.
 
I went to a NIN concert alone, stayed in a nice hotel. Got liquored up before the show, drank with people next me. Nobody cares you're there alone, you're watching a damn concert.

EDIT: TheMan, you're my kinda dude. Let's get drunk and fight people.
 
i went to a NIN concert by myself after all my friends who liked the band moved away. at first I felt like a loser cause everyone else had at least 1 friend with them, but by the time the music started I didn't give a shit anymore. plus, I didn't have to worry about keeping track of anyone and could do my own thing and leave as soon as i wanted.

best part of going alone
 
I go to concerts alone occasionally. Most recently, I saw Fleet Foxes alone. In never bothers me since I tend to become mesmerized by the music so I don't really feel like chatting anyways.
 
only show i went to by myself was deadmau5 in vegas, and thats because my friends lost their tickets to a pick pocket walking down the strip. They found their tickets on the ground and joined me half way through.
 
I didn't go to this because I had no one to go with; my concert bro backed out.

Ugh. They're never coming back, are they :(

I kinda doubt it. When they were here in 1999, it was a 21+ show and I was only 18. Fast forward to 2009 and they play the exact same venue, but this time I'm 28 so there's no problem. Great show, really glad I went by myself.
 
I've done it a few times before. Mainly since it's usually a band that only I like out of my group of friends and I couldn't be an asshole and force someone who doesn't even like the band to go with me. If they've never heard of said group, i'd give them a few tracks to listen to and if they like it then cool, if not then whatever.

Besides once the bands start playing it's like you forget everything else and just focus on the music.

Yeah it's probably a lot funner to go with friends but it's not a huge deal to me.
 
Can't you find some fellow Slayer fans to meet up with on a Slayer message board or something? Are there Slayer message boards?
 
I went to a concert alone last month and I must say it wasn't bad at all.

It felt quite refreshing actually, so don't fret!

In the past I didn't bother to go to concerts if I couldn't find anyone to go with, but now I've learnt to just go for it.
 
I do it quite a lot in the last few years since friends have moved, etc, and at first I was apprehensive but have found that doing things on my own suits me perfectly. I never have to worry about anything other than myself, I don't have to worry about how much 'friend a' has drunk or how 'friend b' is acting like a dick or where 'friend c' has disappeared to.

This extends to most things I do now, I just enjoy being alone and watching the world do it's thing and doing it at my own pace. I've been surprised how much I enjoy this approach as in the past I'd never have done things (concerts, holidays, etc) alone but since I've started I've found I prefer it.
 
At a concert alone right now haha. Ive done it before at a smaller show , right now it feels a bit weird but hey no one really gives a shit and as long as I get a good view I'll try to not let it bother me.

Also won't try to pull out my phone for the rest of the night.
 
I've gone to 2 concerts alone. Company of Thieves. If was my first 2 times seeing them and I wasn't going to not go just because no one was available to hang. I love that fuckin band.
 
A concert is ALL about the music. If it's something you really want to see, then go and enjoy.

Obviously having friends with you is preferrable, but it should not be a deal breaker.
 
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