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Why is GAF so goddamn insecure and self-conscious?

Do you never go out of town for business or something? I will eat by myself no problem.

Seems like the biggest non-issue ever.
 
I'm a real sociable person. But I love to go to restaurants or bars by myself. I bring my vita or laptop and just chill while I'm getting great food and/or drinks
 
I personally don't see the problem with it at all. Sometimes you're on a business trip or you're waiting on something, you just want to eat the food there, your SO is doing something else, etc.
 
I once at a restaurant alone when I was out of town by myself. Wasn't awkward, talked to the waitress about Teen Titans, was completely normal.
 
It's no big deal.

I don't take head counts of the other tables every time I go out to eat so it doesn't bother me to eat alone.
 
I eat at the diner beneath my apartment all the time by myself because why the hell not? Especially if it's 3am and I'm hungry. Plus, I think the guy who works the night shift is funny as hell and we have crazy talks at that time. It's like a reading of GAF's OT section come to life and improvised. He's a great chap.

Anyway, most restaurants have bar-seating for people who are by themselves too. It's pretty common in my city (NYC). It certainly does not look out of place to see someone eating alone around here.
 
A wise man advised me to go once a year to a Michelin star restaurant alone, no book or distraction, and eat the best food and wine pairings - and reflect on life. It's an amazing experience.

Olive Garden? Hmmm. Not so sure. But eating out alone is not a crime.
 
Just did this yesterday and this thread is somewhat convenient.

Honestly, eating by yourself in a restaurant is fine and sometimes better as you can focus on the food rather than making a conversation with people.

Just wanted to eat out in a whim and since most of my family and friends are an hour away, why go through all that just for companion.
 
I have travelled specifically to some restaurants to try out what they were known for. There have been many times where I opt to watch movies alone since high school and I would choose to seat away from the audience.

My personal space is much more important than social norms, not that I show it explicitly.
 
I've eaten alone during my first few weeks of college in sit-down restaurants, but I've never seen a movie alone.

I wouldn't have a problem doing either, but now that I graduated and am married, I'd never have to.

Olive Garden does strike me as a strange place to eat alone, though, as it's more of a mid-range date/family place, but to each their own.
 
In my mid 20s, I discovered Vietnamese food. Most of my friends were adverse to trying new foods so I spent a lot of time eating Pho and Banh Hoi by my lonesome. Doesn't bother me at all now.
 
One of the best thing of watching a movie alone was being the only audience there. It was not even a deliberate attempt but it feels good to have the threater for yourself.

Everything runs for your sake.
 
It's a total non-issue. I've eaten by myself and I've certainly seen others eating by themselves and barely given them a second thought.
 
This topic has reminded me of the craziest thing about my own human social perception.

I absolutely could not eat alone in a restaurant in the place where I live. Can't do it. Too embarrassed or awkward. But if I'm travelling for work, I have no issue at all. 'Hey, you take singles?' 'Uh, sure I guess.' Am I'm happy as a lark. I never even mention the fact that I'm travelling alone and have no choice but to eat out alone - the mere fact that I know that puts my mind at rest and allows me to enjoy myself. No matter what the waiter/waitress thinks of me, I don't give a fuck, because I know why I'm there.

So why can't I do the same at home? Just convince myself it's normal? I don't know why, but I can't, and it makes me wonder.

Yep. I'm the same way man.
 
Maybe if there was a restaurant I really liked then I would. But I don't like paying high prices for food I can make myself for cheaper unless I'm out with friends.
 
FYI I mean more so like fancy restaurant type stuff. Cafes, fast food, bars, shit like iHop, yeah I know that's common. I just never saw it in a place like Olive Garden/Ruby Tuesday etc


I wanted to go to Red Lobster but at least the food was okay.

You've never seen someone eating by themselves and then you just called Olive Garden 'fancy'

Are you Dan Ryckert?
 
Used to eat at sit down restaurants alone a lot in NYC not so much now because nothing really worth going to within distance of my house. Favorite one was Curry-Ya and Fig and Olive
 
Why is GAF so goddamn insecure and self-conscious?

Do you never go out of town for business or something? I will eat by myself no problem.

Seems like the biggest non-issue ever.

Wow came in to post this. Look gaf most of you are going to be alone the rest of your lifes anyway just get used to it and stop worrying about doing everything alone.
 
I'll never understand the hangups people have about going to movies or a restaurant alone. You guys go to the bathroom alone, right? Right?
 
If ur self concious, go in business attire and play it off like ur traveling on business or somethin lmao
Or even better, hire someone off the street to act as a stand-in dining partner. It might end up costing a bit more but at least you won't have to experience the piercing looks of those who might shame you.
 
I've done it a few times, but only while in another city for meetings, and I'd always bring some paperwork with me so I didn't feel so conspicuous.

Similarly, I know people will go to the movies by themselves, but I don't know if I could do that.
I do this 90% of the time I go to the movies, which is often. If I want to see a movie and nobody wants to go, why would I wait? Not like I'm talking to whoever I'm with while the movie is on.

As for going to a restaurant alone, I've also done it a few times but not often. I don't see anything wrong with it. Sometimes you just want to relax and enjoy a meal by yourself.
 
it depends on the person or restaurant, maybe some fancy restaurants (Red Lobster?) it will be a bit more embarrassing going alone :P

but there is nothing wrong with it.
 
OP. I'm going to freak you out.

Yesterday I ate at a restaurant by myself AND I went and saw a movie by myself.

History's greatest monster.
 
It's not that unusual, I've seen plenty of people eating alone over the years. We have a retired doctor who comes in every Sunday afternoon. His wife died a few years back so he comes in for a chat and gets himself a good meal.
 
Why is GAF so goddamn insecure and self-conscious?

Do you never go out of town for business or something? I will eat by myself no problem.

Seems like the biggest non-issue ever.

Yeah, seems like everyone is so insecure about ever doing a normally "social" activity alone. I don't think it's only GAF though. People are really caught up in what other people think of them and how they are perceived by others. Thus these questions.

I've had busy days where I want to sit down and eat to take a break and go get food by myself before. Or if I'm just craving something specific and can't find anyone to go or just don't care to find someone else. It's not a big deal.
 
Nothing wrong with it. Probably more a problem with having to reaffirm your existence through small interactions with other people at all times of the day.

Sometimes you want to do shit alone, that includes eating.
What if he had a craving for fake italian food?
What if he had a coupon for that specific moment?
What if he had no friends?
What if he had a million friends and simply did not want to invite them?
What if he ran away from his wife and kids and wanted to eat alone for a change?
What if he was having one of these days!?

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Stop worrying about random strangers enjoying their peace and quiet or going about their business without a reaffirming entourage of douche bags at their side and eat your stale bread sticks OP.
 
Out of interest how old are you OP? Or do you just not go to restaurants very often? Not having a go, I just find it really surprising that you've never seen this before. I do prefer to eat with friends but I've done it on my own many times when travelling or even when I just fancy treating myself on the way home from work or something. It's no different from shopping for clothes on your own, or going to the park to read a book, or going to the gym, or the cinema, or basically anything...
 
I've eaten alone at restaurants many times and have never felt odd about it. I was hungry and the establishment's function was to deliver me food. Sometimes while traveling I don't have the luxury of setting up specific social dining plans. Some people worry too much about what other people think and societal norms to the point of crippling their daily activities.
 
Done it whenever I just wanted to eat something I liked from the restaurant. It doesn't happen too often but I don't really mind, I just use my phone and text my friends and browse GAF :P
 
I travel for work a bit out of town and usually eat alone at bars/restaurants. It's happened more this year than previously and while is a bit awkward at first but you get used to it. I usually take a kindle and just read at the table.

Also otherwise you're usually just stuck in a hotel for the night so it's good to get out of the room!

One thing that is a bit of a hassle when you're eating alone, is going to the toilet - as you have to (in the sort of places I eat) take your jacket/kindle etc with you (in case they're stolen) and so it can seem like you've finished and the serving staff will sometimes clear your table before you get back!
 
Similarly, I know people will go to the movies by themselves, but I don't know if I could do that.

I don't understand why this is even slightly weird. Needing another person - or a group of people - to sit with you in a darkened room where you can't make eye contact and talking is discouraged seems like the weird thing to me.
 
I've done this several times. Sometimes I come home a little later in the morning and there's no lunch left for me, so I go to restaurant. Never saw it as a "weird" thing. :\
 
I hadn't thought about it until I read this thread, but in my head the point of a restaurant isn't the food. Which now that I've typed it looks dumb; but growing up we only ate out on special occasions. The point of a restaurant is to eat with other people, and it's an opportunity to talk and celebrate and stuff. So I wouldn't go to a restaurant alone for the exact same reason I don't drink alcohol alone. There'd be no point. If I'm travelling I'll just get a super market meal deal. Much cheaper. I'm much more comfortable going to a a movie alone because that's sitting quietly in the dark; not precisely a shared experience in the same way as a dinner out is.

Oddly, doesn't apply to cafes. Sitting in a cafe with a book drinking my coffee feels perfectly natural. But not restaurants. Weird.
 
I went to go see Age of Ultron by myself. At 2 in the afternoon on a weekday. It was pretty awesome actually. Pretty empty theater, no one talking or texting, no crying babies.

Eating by myself I've never done, at least not at a proper restaurant. I could probably do it, but only by sitting at the bar. Getting a table on my own would be a little awkward, I think.
 
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