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Nah, you totally can. Wry smile, show a little embarrassment; most girls will get exactly where you're going and you'll share a giggle. Depends on the girl. But I've seen lots of nervous guys take this approach, lean into their anxiety, and the girls appreciate the effort they're making. Doesn't mean they're always interested, but it lets you point straight at the elephant in the room and chuckle about it, rather than having poorly concealed social awkwardness come off as weird creepiness.
The problem with this is that by using the word creepy, you just planted a huge negative connotation right off the bat. The first adjective you tie yourself to is creepy, and as they say, first impressions count. If you're good looking, charming or very good at joking around, you can work past this, but it's plain not a good idea.

However, if you wanted to signal your anxiety in a friendly way, I'd say it's perfectly fine to use neutral words, like admitting how nervous you are. Still, it's best to try your best to appear confident. If they see your nervousness, they'll appreciate your effort to put on that courageous face.
 
Just remember not asking her out is the same as you getting rejected. The only small difference is the ego if she says no and that negative feeling for a short time. Always keep that in mind. Not asking = her saying no. So you have nothing to do lose other than awkward looks if she says no for a brief period.

I would flirt here and there with her and then do it when at some point it's just the two of you. I don't normally overthink things like this and can usually see if someone is interesting based on body language and way they talk specifically at you. I was a dumbass in high school just like yourself. Didn't care what girls thought of me in college and it worked a hell lot better. Good luck.

EDIT: As usual I posted after reading the first 4 posts, thought this might be one of those I'm thinking about it for 12 pages while never doing it. You're not a bitch. Congrats btw.
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

Glad things seem to be working out for you, but how did a coffee meet-up get planned if you didn't "ask her out" yet?
 
What's the worst that could happen? She says ''no''.

Your life won't be any worse because of that, in fact it can open up new opportunities! (other women)

And if she says ''yes'', well....

edit: lol, I'm a bit late haha
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

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You -"Hey, do you want to go to a BBQ this weekend?"

Her - "What bbq, who's is it?"

You - "....Where i put my MEAT IN YOUR GRILL!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA"

Her - "You're stupid - laughs"

You - "You know im joking, but seriously, would you like to grab some lunch this weekend?"

BREAK HER DOWN AND THEN SWOOP IN FOR THE ALLEY OOP!!!!!!!!!!

This does not work and do not try this. She will call you a PERV and then proceed to get on her knees and take you to the high roads of Valhalla.
 
Creepy is one of the worst things you can call a guy, no way you want to call yourself creepy when trying to ask a girl out. Like, creepy is immeasurably worse than "asshole."
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

Just make sure it's not Ivan's Childhood, that would kill the mood.
 
Creepy is one of the worst things you can call a guy, no way you want to call yourself creepy when trying to ask a girl out. Like, creepy is immeasurably worse than "asshole."

Seriously, wtf am I reading in this thread. I can't believe there are people advocating for this. It's not endearing, it's labeling yourself creepy. Terrible idea.
 
Best advice is to be as straightforward as possible.

"Do you want to see (insert movie here) with me on Friday night?"

not

"Hey, would you like to go out sometime?"
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

I'm glad to hear it worked out!

Don't listen to this lonely boy.

I give the best advice!
 
Ok so hey its me that annoying son of a bitch but hey you all are smart I hope. So Im 17 so im a typical high school dumbass and all and I like this one girl. Shes a very nice girl and treats me well and I want to ask her out but I freak out like no other(i got terrible anxiety). What should I do Gaf?

Just go for it, if she says no, it's ok. There are unlimited people to ask out.
 
more balls than i had at 17

actually more balls than i have now, i'm having a helluva hard time asking my ex-coworker if she wants to go to a wedding with me
 
Congrats, and thanks for the update. It's nice when OP's actually come back and updat, especially when the actually use the good advice and it works.
 
If anyone needs context basically I just asked her if she wanted to meet up since we havent see each other since may and we are pretty good friends. She said yes so we met at the coffee place I was talking about, and after we chat for like an hour i asked her before we both left.
Theres the context.
 
I just asked her if she wanted to gey some coffee she said she didnt have plans so she said sure i mean we are good friends.

I think what he was getting at is that you inadvertently asked her out before you asked her out by inviting her to coffee. You shouldn't have gotten worked up about it because you had already done it.
 
Oh your right, what the hell i just realized that.

See how easy it is? You're a natural.

Next piece of advice now that you're headed for get-together/date #2. Don't sweat it if it doesn't go any further than that. You're (both) 17. There are a ton of awesome girls out there waiting to be asked out. If you or her aren't feeling it after this one, it's not the end of the world.
 
See how easy it is? You're a natural.

Next piece of advice now that you're headed for get-together/date #2. Don't sweat it if it doesn't go any further than that. You're (both) 17. There are a ton of awesome girls out there waiting to be asked out. If you or her aren't feeling it after this one, it's not the end of the world.
Got it ill be fine if it doesnt work out i mean unless i die or something I got a lot mlre chances.
 
The problem with this is that by using the word creepy, you just planted a huge negative connotation right off the bat. The first adjective you tie yourself to is creepy, and as they say, first impressions count. If you're good looking, charming or very good at joking around, you can work past this, but it's plain not a good idea.

However, if you wanted to signal your anxiety in a friendly way, I'd say it's perfectly fine to use neutral words, like admitting how nervous you are. Still, it's best to try your best to appear confident. If they see your nervousness, they'll appreciate your effort to put on that courageous face.

This is super interesting to see these reactions in the thread. Maybe you're right - I forget the exact words I've seen work for my anxious friends; it's quite possible I inserted creepy erroneously.
 
Ok so hey its me that annoying son of a bitch but hey you all are smart I hope. So Im 17 so im a typical high school dumbass and all and I like this one girl. Shes a very nice girl and treats me well and I want to ask her out but I freak out like no other(i got terrible anxiety). What should I do Gaf?

Just be direct. Ask her out. If she says no, you'll be bummed for a little while and then you can find a new crush.
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!
Nice. Congrats!
 
If you ever ask a girl out for drinks and she declines, never say "you owe me this."

I've seen it. It's epic cringe. Be polite, be honest, and don't make a big deal out of it either way. Just have fun and learn from it and maybe something good will happen!

Good on you for getting a second though!
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

Way to go!
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

Good job! :)
 
Use your anxiety if you can't control it:

"Hey, I'm sorry, I get that I probably look super creepy right now...but I was wondering if you'd like to go out together some time. For coffee or something."

Being nervous is okay. Just don't lack confidence in yourself as a human being. Remeber that there are plenty of objectively amazing people you would never date for a variety of reasons, and know that if she's not into you as more than a friend, it says nothing about you as a person. Good luck!

Don't tell her you look creepy, and don't apologize. Be confident and firm when you ask her.

Don't just walk up and ask her either, she's nice you you so she's your friend right? Just chat with her as normal and when you are going to part ways ask if she would like to meet for coffee on the weekend.


Edit: oh he already did it . Good job op
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

You have truly evolved.
 
Well Gaf so I met up with her at that one coffee pastry place I was talkong about I was nervous as hell and was sweating like no other cause I never done this before. So we met up and got our coffee and pastries and we had like an hour conversation about how our summers going, plans, etc. It was a great time I seriously enjoyed it and right before we departed I asked her. In my mind I said fuck it, its now or never and she could tell I had something important to ask. To my surprise i said it without hesitation and after a few moments she responded. To my surprise she said yes(thank god) and we are going on another date to the movies next week. Well Gaf thank you very much you made this bitch able to gain confidence and do it. Raichus out Peace!

Nice work, man!
 
Do the following:

- Talk with a resonate voice; so from your chest, not your throat
- Be fun, not clownish or cocky
- Convince yourself her response (rejection of acceptance) is irrelevant, because it is (there are plenty of other girls out there), this will also increase your confidence.

They will be more receptive than that self-doubting devil on your shoulder wants you to believe.
 
It's easy as pie, man. You walk up, look her straight in the eyes, and say, "Baby, you and me's going on a date."
 
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