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Had a fight in a club. Did I overreact?
- Thread starter Myoclonic Jerk
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Your wife sounds like trouble. She obviously knows you have a penchant for fighting, and she probably enjoys leading men on to see your reaction.
While I think it would be ideal to be able to let your wife fend off the hounds on her own, I don't think you overreacted. At the same time, your actions were probably more aggressive than you thought they were, given the alcohol, loud music, and dim lighting.
While I think it would be ideal to be able to let your wife fend off the hounds on her own, I don't think you overreacted. At the same time, your actions were probably more aggressive than you thought they were, given the alcohol, loud music, and dim lighting.
RoninChaos
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If another man touched my wife I'd break his hand. and I don't think that's overreacting.
freenudemacusers
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even a shoulder? in a crowded room? without knowing what's going on? what if she dropped a dollar and he's just returning it?
yeah, that's kind of overreacting braheim
Kung Fu Jedi
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While I think the OP sounds like a complete tool bag, I have to agree with those that are saying it's still okay to go out to clubs, even when you hit 30 and are married with kids. Why is it not okay for those in that situation to still have some fun from time to time and go out to a club with friends for drinking and dancing?
For clarity sake, I'm not married, don't have kids, and I'm well over 30. I also rarely go to clubs, but I don't think there is any reason for others to not do so if they enjoy it. Granted, it becomes tougher when you're a parent and you get older, but I don't see anything wrong with it.
Now, going to a club, acting like a total douche, getting into fights, etc., is not exactly something I'd endorse. At a certain age you should learn to control yourself a bit more and not be so immature and insecure.
For clarity sake, I'm not married, don't have kids, and I'm well over 30. I also rarely go to clubs, but I don't think there is any reason for others to not do so if they enjoy it. Granted, it becomes tougher when you're a parent and you get older, but I don't see anything wrong with it.
Now, going to a club, acting like a total douche, getting into fights, etc., is not exactly something I'd endorse. At a certain age you should learn to control yourself a bit more and not be so immature and insecure.
ChuyMasta
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I'm not talking about the OP, I am talking about going to a night club to have a good time with your wife.
The older person I go with, it's my fiance's co worker. He is also married and with kids well in their 20's. He knows places I wasn't aware of. Like, a restaurant/bar that "turns" into a night club at 10:30pm. We went there, ate, had some drinks, then stayed for the dance and additional drinks. This dude is great to talk with and I like how he shares his cocktail knowledge.
Now, going back to the OP, I've seen my fiance getting asked to dance so many times when we go to those places. I go get her a drink, and sometimes I just watch. She rejected 3 dudes in the time it took me to get a couple of Long Islands. YOU HAVE to lean over the person to talk in there and I don't mind someone touching her, OMG, shoulder.
The most intrusive dude I've dealt with acted surprised when I was handing over the drink to my lady. He had the balls to ask ME to dance with her. I just said, dude, it's her call. She respectfully declined. The guy tapped me in the shoulder as he walked away saying: You are a lucky man.
That was for me way more empowering and I felt like the kind of the world.
RoninChaos
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You should probably stay away from my wife then. lol In a club situation like that, I would definitely let a mother fucker know what's up. If somebody bumped into her or something at the store, i wouldn't go all "hulk smash" and shit. That's stupid.
I think there's a certain way you should act when dealing with people. I don't get all touchy and feely with strangers. Then again, I don't go to clubs because I have a kid, I am married, and clubs fucking suck.
but yeah. I stand by what I said.
really? A friendly touch and you'd get in a fight? I've been with my wife for 13 years. There have been maybe 3 times that I got jealous enough to want to fight. all 3 times took place when I was younger than 25 and drunk. See the pattern there?
DonasaurusRex
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You and OP are basically the reason I don't go to clubs. I don't like confrontations and would hate to accidentally bump into you, just for you to get all bro on me.
I'd hate to see what you would do if your wife cheated on you.
freenudemacusers
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hah uh ok then.
dance clubs are fun. maybe they suck because, um, you're on the lookout for dudes touching your wife the whole time. doesn't sound like a fun time to me.
POWERSPHERE
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Big man
RoninChaos
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i used to be a bouncer at a strip club. I'm not a fan of fighting. Maybe you missed the part where I said I don't go to clubs. I'll give you a sec to read it again since you were probably really quick on the quote button to tell me how you feel and to use the term "bro" as an insult.
I bet you're the coolest kid on the internet.
freenudemacusers
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they are great for people watching
Z_Y
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You suck at story telling, OP. First you are across the bar watching this guy hit on your wife then you are right beside him gripping his hand? Then you are on the dance floor being a dancing fool....then you sneak away (from who?) and want to punch him but are unsuccessful? What does that even mean? And at what point were the bouncers holding you back? And why did they go from holding you back to buying you drinks and cheering you on to dance a fool again? Such a disjointed mess of a story.
I hope your sissy friend and the disgruntled stranger pulled a train on your wife later on that night while you were passed out in the car.
I hope your sissy friend and the disgruntled stranger pulled a train on your wife later on that night while you were passed out in the car.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Lighten up Francis. Seriously, if you're going to get into a fight over some guy touching your wife, who may not even know she's with you, let alone that you're married, then you probably should seek some professional help. It's one thing for someone to touch her in an inappropriate manner, particularly if they know you're together, but it is another thing to go off on them over an innocent touch.
Insecurity-GAF is really showing through today.
RoninChaos
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I don't have to worry about that because, as I said in the post you quoted, I don't go to clubs anymore. You and the other guy must have missed that.
freenudemacusers
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no, i read that. doesn't change what I posted at all.
RoninChaos
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lol and because I feel a certain way, I'm insecure? That's a hell of a jump there, chief. gtfo out that bullshit.
I'll leave you guys to it. Obviously you're a ladies man so it wouldn't bug you if a complete stranger started touching the woman you're married to. I get it. Stay pimpin.
Then just change my sentence to "People like you and OP..."
I don't even want to address the rest of your post.
Sho_Nuff82
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Going to a club when you're over 30, married, or have kids is not wrong in and of itself.
On the other hand, acting like a drunken fratboy meathead is. Most people are just in there to have a good time. There's always a couple of clowns who want to start some shit over every minor perceived bit of disrespect (spilled drink, scuffed shoe, shoulder bump, cut in the bathroom line, bf/gf drama).
Cat Party said:
Don't get it twisted, women go to clubs for the same reasons guys do - to drink with friends, dance with strangers, and get laid.
This is why we can't have nice things.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Why else would you break a guy's hand for touching your wife? What justification would you have for even trying something like that?
freenudemacusers
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that's my day attire, my evening gimp mask is a nice plush velvet.Do you wear this? ;-)
this.
CornBurrito
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I find it funny that someone should get praise for acting like a rational human being instead of a wild animal.
RoninChaos
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Because it's some random stranger, a person I don't know, touching my WIFE. That has nothing to do with insecurity and you're an idiot if you think it does. It's not like I think she's going to run off, rip her clothes off and fuck the guy because she was touched. If that was my thought process, then yes, I'd be insecure. But it isn't. You're just projecting that on me because you don't know me. And instead of actually asking why I feel this way, you threw out the insecurity card. Which is stupid.
I'm not insecure about my wife or her actions. I don't want a stranger randomly touching my family. If some random person started touching my kid, I'd do the same thing. Where's the insecurity in that?
Oh wait. There isn't any. I'm just protective. And that isn't the same as insecure.
POWERSPHERE
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Rule 434: anyone who calls another man 'chief' is a meathead.
theignoramus
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"look but dont touch, motherfucker think twice
cuz the gat that I clutch got a little red light"
Dude, I work as a bouncer at a club/bar. And obviously you've learned nothing about how you're supposed to conduct yourself. Because, assuming you have been in the profession, you should know how people that act like that ruin the atmosphere and fun of the night because they blow stupid shit way out of proportion.
Sho_Nuff82
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So if you went to the bathroom and you came back and saw your wife dancing with another gentleman (not even grinding, I'm talking arm's length), what would you do then, break his arms?
Don't you think it's up to the wife to decide whether or not it's okay?
Kung Fu Jedi
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So you'd break the guys hand if something like what happened in the OP occurred with your wife and some random club-dude? That's not protecting her and as I said in the initial post, if it was inappropriate touching that's one thing, but just causal, friendly touching? It's not normal to want to break someone's hand over that. It's just not.
deejay8595
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Thiiiissss guy.... lol. You don't go to clubs so you have no say. If you ever did go to a club you would understand the dance floor is packed with both females and males who are drunk beyond their means. Knowing the male specie, one could understand why they would touch a female (barely clothed sometimes) while drunk on a crowded dance floor.
If you don't want to catch feelings because someone is trying to give your girl/wife play don't bring her to the club!!!
CornBurrito
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Speaking of which, "look, don't touch." is something I said when showing off Yu-Gi-Oh cards in elementary school.
I find it odd that someone would use it when talking about a human being.
I'm imaging some dude tapping his wife's shoulder to ask where the bathroom is, and getting his hand broken by RoninChaos.
deejay8595
my posts are "MEH"
Why in the hell do you have her in an environment where you know that could happen???? I don't understand.
Apparently Ronin and the OP treat their wives like possessions. They got no say.
RoninChaos
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You know, for this being the internet, it's amazing how many people obviously can't read.
I don't go to clubs any more. I haven't been for years. I'm not the OP.
To be clear, I'm not down with random strangers touching my family. I'm a protective person. That's the end of it. The rest of gaf can try to psychoanalyze me all the want, say stupid shit like "apparently Ronin treats his wife like a possession!" which is a real easy way to pigeon hole me, avoid anything I said, I guess as an attempt to feel superior. I guess it's easier and play armchair therapist rather than understanding why a person would feel the way they do. That's fine. I don't really give a fuck what random people on the internet that I'll never met think of me.
Acid House
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This thread is full of guys who are "that creeper" and don't even know it.
Don't act like its an overreaction to be protective of your wife in this (or any) situation, or act like its the wife's job to handle it. Women usually want to avoid confrontation, it's the man's job to take up the slack.
Girls get drugged nightly at bars everywhere, the male of our species is predatory and desperate.
I think a lot of these white knights or soft batch "men" in this thread don't live in the real world.
Don't act like its an overreaction to be protective of your wife in this (or any) situation, or act like its the wife's job to handle it. Women usually want to avoid confrontation, it's the man's job to take up the slack.
Girls get drugged nightly at bars everywhere, the male of our species is predatory and desperate.
I think a lot of these white knights or soft batch "men" in this thread don't live in the real world.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Exactly what I was getting at. That's not being "protective" it's being completely insane.
Unless of course he's just an Internet tough guy who uses way too much hyperbole.
RoninChaos
Member
Worse things have happened.
Do you even know what you just wrote? I really must still be drunk from last night, but this thread is getting to ledendary status.
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