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Kthulhu said:
I know it doesn't, but I personally know a lot of people who think it does.

Edit: fuck I'm at the top of the page
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And far be it from me to claim otherwise; it's just always helpful, especially in threads like these, to make sure. :>

Also hue

Woorloog said:
I have to ask, why is "transgendered" a slur? At a glance, it seems to be but a small spelling variation.
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It's not a slur, it's just wrong. Like "homosexualed." It implies that someone "becomes" trans instead of that someone "is" trans.
 
A Link to the Past said:
When people slip, the best thing to happen is to make sure to have someone point out where you slipped so you don't do it again. I have no concept of whether you slipped or if you legitimately were ignorant of the proper terminology, and when you ignore the correction, it's important to me to make sure that you don't ignore it, for the same reason why you would see that happen when someone says something - even accidentally or through ignorant - that is offensive to another person. It has nothing to do with being on a high-horse and more to do with constructive criticism.
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Cool. No need to pound it in with: "Also I'm going to hope that you read #2 and will take that to heart and use the proper terminology in the future. :P"

If you truly want to educate or correct someone then there's no need for a follow-up self gratifying remark. It just comes off as insufferable as in, "it's great you took my advice, here's who told you this advice... ME!"
 
Woorloog said:
I have to ask, why is "transgendered" a slur? At a glance, it seems to be but a small spelling variation.
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I don't consider it a slur, just an assault on the English language.

Transgender is already an adjective. Calling someone 'transgendered' is like calling someone 'beautifuled' or 'intelligented'. It doesn't make any sense.
 
Subpar Spatula said:
Cool. No need to pound it in with: "Also I'm going to hope that you read #2 and will take that to heart and use the proper terminology in the future. :P"

If you truly want to educate or correct someone then there's no need for a follow-up self gratifying remark. It just comes off as insufferable as in, "it's great you took my advice, here's who told you this advice... ME!"
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Uh, okay lol. You didn't reply to the criticism (and in fact avoided acknowledging it by removing it from the quote you were replying to), thereby making it impossible for me to know whether you took it to heart and you didn't edit your original post. I literally had no idea whether you took something that people who made the mistake that you made to heart. I ain't no mind reader. It is important to me and other trans people THAT people who use the wrong terminology demonstratively understand that they made a mistake so that we can hope that it does not happen again.
 
A Link to the Past said:
And far be it from me to claim otherwise; it's just always helpful, especially in threads like these, to make sure. :>

Also hue



It's not a slur, it's just wrong. Like "homosexualed." It implies that someone "becomes" trans instead of that someone "is" trans.
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Well, wouldn't the underlying state be transexual? I thought transgender referred to someone who has undergone sexual reassignment, so an ed at the end wouldn't really be wrong.
 
Rest said:
Well, wouldn't the underlying state be transexual? I thought transgender referred to someone who has undergone sexual reassignment, so an ed at the end wouldn't really be wrong.
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"denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender."
 
I can point out a man that the majority of women would find attractive but I in no way have ever felt sexually attracted towards any man, not even in the slightest.
 
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Was a very strange experience. I was hanging out with a group of friends and this one dude came with another. He might have been some Asian or Hispanic, but he was...cute? I said to myself "Hmm, I would not be grossed out if we cuddled." Was kinda surreal. For a minute I was just kinda staring at the floor, deep in thought about it.

We were smoking herb, but I don't think it had anything to do with it. He was legit attractive. He smoked just a couple of hits and I can tell he didn't do it much. He was trying his damnest to not cough though. Was so fucking cute.
 
Chmpocalypse said:
Some people are asexual, though.
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And there's romantic (and probably other kinds of) attraction in addition to sexual one. It is possible to find a person (or a thing) attractive without wanting to fuck them.


I figure i'm most likely aromantic asexual, neither interested in sex nor am i interested anyone romantically (as far as i can recall, i've never even had a crush on anyone).
(Or i could be... was the term demi-? Sorta type that i don't feel interest in anyone until i know them well enough. Difficult to test this concept though, since i'm not terribly interested in meeting people in general.)


I need to comment on asexuality that it does feel kinda odd at times. A lot of people sweat about dating and whatever else and i'm just like... "WTF"? I feel kind of alien in a society where sexual and romantic attraction are norms.
But i am what i am, and ultimately i don't give a shit about others expectations for me.
 
Blasian Persuasion said:
I'm lipstick half the time, the other half stud.
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That's boss as fuck.

Not even gunna lie while I'm happy being lipstick and have no desire to change, that is amazing someone knows themselves that they aren't just one end of the spectrum and they can flow between the two ends like that :)

The few Studs I hang with love to joke I can't even go chapstick (they are right to) lol.
 
Snowybreak said:
Fuck it, I'm gonna rephrase it. On the scatterplot of sexuality, I don't give a damn. I love Guys, Girls, Chicks with Dicks, Dudes without Dicks, and every possible point in between. Why limit your sexuality in this world between homo or hetero? Fuckin' go gray-scale man! Go find that cute guy out there with hips that would make your jaw hit the floor! Because unbeknownst to most, sexual orientation can be pretty damn fluid.
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I always find comments like this funny. It's like you can't comprehend that to a straight guy, there's no man out there that could be considered 'cute' with 'hips that would make your jaw hit the floor'. I've seen 10s of thousands of guys pass by in my life. The thought just doesn't occur.

You're bi, that's cool. But assuming that straight people are closed minded is just as ignorant as those who think gays can be cured.

At work last Friday we had a lunch treat. My heart dropped when I found out it was a lobster lunch. Everyone else was delighted - an expensive treat. But my taste buds get one whiff of lobster and I want to hurl. I can't explain it. It's not socialised behaviour, it's not learned behaviour, the first time I ever smelled and tasted lobster I knew I found it disgusting. Over the 30 years of my life that hasn't changed. Yet people will tell me 'Lobster is delicious! Open your mind!' as if I'm somehow incapable of knowing what I am and am not capable of liking, or as if I should push through a barrier of distaste on the off chance that there might be some nugget of pleasure on the other side.

That's what it's like when you say 'don't limit yourself!' to someone with a defined sexuality. It's just silly.
 
Griss said:
I always find comments like this funny. It's like you can't comprehend that to a straight guy, there's no man out there that could be considered 'cute' with 'hips that would make your jaw hit the floor'. I've seen 10s of thousands of guys pass by in my life. The thought just doesn't occur.

You're bi, that's cool. But assuming that straight people are closed minded is just as ignorant as those who think gays can be cured.

At work last Friday we had a lunch treat. My heart dropped when I found out it was a lobster lunch. Everyone else was delighted - an expensive treat. But my taste buds get one whiff of lobster and I want to hurl. I can't explain it. It's not socialised behaviour, it's not learned behaviour, the first time I ever smelled and tasted lobster I knew I found it disgusting. Over the 30 years of my life that hasn't changed. Yet people will tell me 'Lobster is delicious! Open your mind!' as if I'm somehow incapable of knowing what I am and am not capable of liking, or as if I should push through a barrier of distaste on the off chance that there might be some nugget of pleasure on the other side.

That's what it's like when you say 'don't limit yourself!' to someone with a defined sexuality. It's just silly.
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As someone noted though, why do hetero men get so much more repulsed by other men than hetero women are by women or gay men are by men?
 
Love me some men. Guys are hot but im gay so.

I've seen women I would totally consider beautiful but i've never gotten any impulse to sleep with them or anything.
 
Ricki Ortiz was already a suave-ass looking mug before she had her transition. I openly acknowledged how handsome she was but I was never actually attracted to her.

Post-transition I'm attracted to her now tho, no doubt.

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I love this thread.

I've been gay for a decade, but I've been aroused by phsyical contact with a female, even if I've never had the desire to get a girlfriend. Maybe there's a woman out there, waiting for me.

But for now, I'm gay all day, every day. I haven't had sex like in a year and a half but I don't care, men are just sexy.
 
No... But I think I'm getting to the point where I pretty much hate everyone.

This could also be due to quitting cigarettes many months ago.
 
the more offense a man takes at the suggestion of finding another dude attractive the more deep-seated issues they have with the idea of homosexually. it's always their next sentence, too, that says they find nothing wrong with it.
 
KmA said:
This is so interesting to me, because as a gay person who has extremely limited attraction to women, kissing a woman would never seem repulsive to me. In fact, sex with a woman doesn't seem all that displeasing really.

The number of men who are *repulsed* at the thought of even having light sexual contact with someone of the same gender is kind of appalling.
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Why is it appalling? I'm repulsed at the idea of having sex with a woman, having sex with a morbidly obese man, a really really old man, a diseased man, an obnoxious asshole of a man, a short-haired man, a really unattractive man, and so on. There's nothing wrong or "appalling" (lol) with that.

J/K about the short hair... xD or AM I

I'm not really accusing anyone of anything, it's just that you should analyze why you think it's so gross to touch another guy in that way when that same feeling doesn't really exist for straight women and gay men in regards to other women. Men are just socialized in a way to view each in a very non-sexual manner and I feel like a lot of guys internalize that.
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Eh, maybe, but frankly you shouldn't generalize about straight women either. The thought of eating out a woman makes me want to hurl, no matter how gorgeous she is. :P

Übermatik;214628607 said:
I think complete, 100% heterosexuality is a rarity. [...] Am I making sense?
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*eye roll* No.
 
I realized I was bi in high school so I'd have to say YES. Men and women both are capable of packing some fine booty.
 
A Link to the Past said:
But I wasn't replying to you, I was specifically talking about repulsion straight men have re: other men in a sexual context versus the repulsion (or lack thereof) that exists in other groups.
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Perhaps straight men are just more likely express repulsion? Though i can't say if they're just more honest or open about that, or if it is kind of cultural pressure to express that whether it is true or not.
 
A Link to the Past said:
As someone noted though, why do hetero men get so much more repulsed by other men than hetero women are by women or gay men are by men?
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To play DA , some women do feel repulsed (or at least dislike) the idea of being with other women, gay guys too.
Its most likely the cultural conditioning, religion, sexism, expectations, femenine male bashing, etc.

Also, for example girl on girl is hot while guy on guy is considered nasty even by girls, at least from what i have seen.
 
Griss said:
I always find comments like this funny. It's like you can't comprehend that to a straight guy, there's no man out there that could be considered 'cute' with 'hips that would make your jaw hit the floor'. I've seen 10s of thousands of guys pass by in my life. The thought just doesn't occur.

You're bi, that's cool. But assuming that straight people are closed minded is just as ignorant as those who think gays can be cured.

At work last Friday we had a lunch treat. My heart dropped when I found out it was a lobster lunch. Everyone else was delighted - an expensive treat. But my taste buds get one whiff of lobster and I want to hurl. I can't explain it. It's not socialised behaviour, it's not learned behaviour, the first time I ever smelled and tasted lobster I knew I found it disgusting. Over the 30 years of my life that hasn't changed. Yet people will tell me 'Lobster is delicious! Open your mind!' as if I'm somehow incapable of knowing what I am and am not capable of liking, or as if I should push through a barrier of distaste on the off chance that there might be some nugget of pleasure on the other side.

That's what it's like when you say 'don't limit yourself!' to someone with a defined sexuality. It's just silly.
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Sorry, seems my tone was a bit more hostile than I intended (and I write stream of consciousness, so there's that). I wasn't talking about how straight men should go actively seek gay partners or what have you, or that straight men are close minded (which again, looking at my post, seemed to be what I was saying), I was attempting some sort of humor about sexuality.

So yes, I'm sorry for rambling, I tend to post things (that may actually be edited down) without thinking of how people might respond.
 
Morrigan Stark said:
Why is it appalling? I'm repulsed at the idea of having sex with a woman, having sex with a morbidly obese man, a really really old man, a diseased man, an obnoxious asshole of a man, a short-haired man, a really unattractive man, and so on. There's nothing wrong or "appalling" (lol) with that.
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What if you're someone who's at least six of those seven options?

Thank god I'm married!

W-w-w-wait a second... darling? Is that you?
 
A Link to the Past said:
But I wasn't replying to you, I was specifically talking about repulsion straight men have re: other men in a sexual context versus the repulsion (or lack thereof) that exists in other groups.
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Culture/religion probably has more to do with it than anything else. Finding it hard to find studies on the "why' part tho.
 
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