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Have You Ever Been Attracted to the Same Sex?

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Samarecarm said:
Sure, definitely

but, tired of people disbelieving me or giving me grief about it, so ... meh
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Recently got into kind of an argument with my mother on this. Her reactions to any kind of same-gender romance is always so defensive, it bothers me. I assume that the strong feelings are rooted in people still being programmed to believe that homosexuality is "wrong" from their religious upbringing - even if they have discarded their beliefs. There is no reason to be so repulsed at the idea if you understand there is nothing wrong with it.

It's why we shouldn't "tolerate" things. We need to accept them.
 
Monocle said:
I mean there's so much male variation out there that this is a little like saying you're not into vegetables.
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I would say it's more like not being into pickled products. There're a lot of different variations, but they all have things in common that someone might not fancy.
 
mostly when i was a teenager and trying to figure out who i was. never actually done anything but have thought about kissing and doing more sexual things with other guys. in a way i am still attracted to some guys but i'm mostly attracted to girls. like 95% girls 5% guys. i don't think i would ever get into a relationship with another guy but i'd definitely fantasize about it a little bit.
 
I'm not just attracted to a woman's physical features. I am also attracted to the very idea of femininity and the characteristics that, in my experience are inherent in all women.


Even in platonic sense, I feel more comfortable about a pretty girl than I do a handsome guy. Girls I can chill out with, men I must compete with.

So while I can understand how another man could be seen as attractive a guy could never do it for me.
 
Yup. My problem is that I can't picture any kind of actual romantic relationship with a dude.

I mean, it works out okay, since I married a woman. But even before then, it was always just sex. I don't want some dude just in my house all the time, you know?
 
I'm bisexual but I cannot honestly say I've ever been "romantically attracted" to a guy.

"But you suck dick sometimes!!" I'm only interested in the mouth and the lower half of a guy. I've never viewed a guy the same way I view girls and would never date a guy or marry one.
 
SliceSabre said:
I'm bisexual but I cannot honestly say I've ever been "romantically attracted" to a guy.

"But you suck dick sometimes!!" I'm only interested in the mouth and the lower half of a guy. I've never viewed a guy the same way I view girls and would never date a guy or marry one.
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I'm like completele other way. I wouldn't consider myself bi, but I can be attracted to physical good looking men, but not in a sexual way. More like a life partner.
 
Sexuality is so weird and intricate I really don't think that there's any way to bother labeling what you are. Heterosexual/Homosexual/Bisexual.... I don't think these terms matter or are even relevant.

Sexual preference is just as varied as your taste in music, or media, or sport. Everyone has their own preferences, everyone has their own kinks and quirks and the quicker you stop caring about what you're called and just start connecting to whatever you are the better it is for everyone.

The joke is that if it exists, there's porn of it. And that's absolutely true, and the quicker people accept that as fact the quicker we can all move on and stop caring about it.

I didn't come out to my parents as liking Punk Rock. I didn't come out as being a fan of anime. But I sure as hell will tell people if there's a new show/song/person that I'm into. My "coming out" to my parents was "hey, you're in town? I have a boyfriend come meet him". And there were 0 issues. Obviously that's not indicative of all people everywhere but it should be.
 
UnnecessaryTodd said:
Sexuality is so weird and intricate I really don't think that there's any way to bother labeling what you are. Heterosexual/Homosexual/Bisexual.... I don't think these terms matter or are even relevant.

Sexual preference is just as varied as your taste in music, or media, or sport. Everyone has their own preferences, everyone has their own kinks and quirks and the quicker you stop caring about what you're called and just start connecting to whatever you are the better it is for everyone.

The joke is that if it exists, there's porn of it. And that's absolutely true, and the quicker people accept that as fact the quicker we can all move on and stop caring about it.

I didn't come out to my parents as liking Punk Rock. I didn't come out as being a fan of anime. But I sure as hell will tell people if there's a new show/song/person that I'm into. My "coming out" to my parents was "hey, you're in town? I have a boyfriend come meet him". And there were 0 issues. Obviously that's not indicative of all people everywhere but it should be.
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I like and agree with this sentiment. I feel like those who are free with their sexuality will be free, those to choose to be strict will be strict, everyone has their own preference but everyone also shouldn't care about someone else's preference. But also in that note not everyone can just experiment with sexuality without societal repercussions, so it does get a label. But as far as Rule 34 goes, I'm not sure of its "significance" in the matter of helping people get over caring about whos poking who and who doesn't want to be poked by who, and who wants to be poked by who, but is unsure if said poking would be acceptable.
 
guys and girls are attractive as hell.

When i look at girls im like. Damn look at that ass and her face is gorgeous, or boobs. always boobs.

When i look at guys i admire their style and fitness level.

In porn if a dude is packing serious heat, its hotter then if he isnt. I have never had the urge in real life to fuck a dude though. Women, though, all the time.
 
I think attractiveness and sexual desire are mutually exclusive: just because I find Hugh Jackman attractive doesn't mean I want to have his dick up my bum.
 
Subpar Spatula said:
I'm confused, don't you have to sleep with both to be considered bisexual?
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No. If your attracted to one and choose not to author still attracted.

It's like a man or woman who refuse to given in and be with the same sex even if they are attracted to them and have zero desire for the other, they are still gay.

The act of sex does not determine your sexuality. Someone being a virgin for 30 years doesn't make them asexual :) just becAuse they haven't had sex.
 
KiteBlues said:
But as far as Rule 34 goes, I'm not sure of its "significance" in the matter of helping people get over caring about whos poking who and who doesn't want to be poked by who, and who wants to be poked by who, but is unsure if said poking would be acceptable.
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I meant it more as an example. Porn exists of everything because everything is sexy to someone. There are people with very weird and specific kinks and fetishes, and as long as it doesn't cause harm to others there should be no judgement regardless of what those preferences are. And this includes things like objectiphiles and fat fetishes and all manner of unconventional attraction. Things like this make the news because they're so "out there" but I'd wager they're more common than anyone realises. And quite frankly, it shouldn't be news. It's just a thing.
 
EVOL 100% said:
Intellectually and emotionally, and maybe even physically yes.

Sexually? Hell naw. Dicks repulse me
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isnt that the same?
UnnecessaryTodd said:
Sexuality is so weird and intricate I really don't think that there's any way to bother labeling what you are. Heterosexual/Homosexual/Bisexual.... I don't think these terms matter or are even relevant.

Sexual preference is just as varied as your taste in music, or media, or sport. Everyone has their own preferences, everyone has their own kinks and quirks and the quicker you stop caring about what you're called and just start connecting to whatever you are the better it is for everyone.

The joke is that if it exists, there's porn of it. And that's absolutely true, and the quicker people accept that as fact the quicker we can all move on and stop caring about it.

I didn't come out to my parents as liking Punk Rock. I didn't come out as being a fan of anime. But I sure as hell will tell people if there's a new show/song/person that I'm into. My "coming out" to my parents was "hey, you're in town? I have a boyfriend come meet him". And there were 0 issues. Obviously that's not indicative of all people everywhere but it should be.
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im thinking its sexuality and preferences (and kinks/qauirks like you said) are incredibly varied. but maybe not as flexible as many people believe and this implies

if you consider yourself straight and have been always attracted to girls chances are you will marry one and thats it, heterosexuality is the still the big majority after all.

And many gay people also wont have the desire to have intimacy with the opossite sex, even if sometimes they have fancied it
 
I'm intersex, and have yet to meet another intersex person that I was attracted to (but can't assume that won't happen in the future)

I am attracted to people whose gender identity matches my own.

And some people of other genders.
 
I realize sexuality is a spectrum, but I must be all the way to the right on the hetero side. I just don't find masculinity attractive at all and I tend to like more feminine and curvy women.
 
Hubbl3 said:
I'm with this guy.

I've never been attracted to another dude and I don't know if this technically counts, but if Bailey Jay came knocking on my door, I would 100% make kissy faces with her (she's a trans porn star, so be careful if you go googling)
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Yeah, I'm a big Bailey Jay fan. Something about her just, man. Maybe it's the boobs. They look so nice...Her scenes are kind of boring though.
 
It's interesting how some folks treat genitals as a separate aspect to the rest of the body, which is consistent with the gynephilia/androphilia orientations as less binary. There really is such a wide spectrum to attraction, both sexual and otherwise.

From chatting to my two closest female relatives, both of whom are very much straight, they openly admit to having had crushes on other women and seeing female celebrities as gorgeous and so on. But they immediately get squicked out when they think about interacting with vaginas. Other people I've discussed this with simply seemed to lack curiosity on the matter, consider themselves "mostly or historically straight" and feel no need to experiment.

I did feel compelled to have a same-sex encounter to "find out once and for all" (which was a dumb way to look at it). The experience was an eye-opener because I realised that to me, there's no inherent difference between having sex with men and women; the difference is between the individuals themselves. Obviously it's different for other bisexual people, and that's fine.
 
I am not attracted to dudes or the masculine body at all outside of big dicks. I literally cannot watch porn without there being one. Sometimes I only look at it and not the girl. Buy outside of that, I'm not attracted to guys at all. Like show me a picture of the best looking male supermodel in the world and I'll feel nothing. But if he has a nice dong I might be interested.

Besides that I'm basically a straight male
 
Alienfan said:
I honestly don't know how people can say they're 100% straight or gay, without having tried things with both genders. I would have identified as fully "gay" a year or so ago, but after a couple of "college experiences", I surprised myself and let's just say I would definitely say I'm more 80% gay. Don't know what label that gives me, labels are dumb
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I'm not attracted to anything about male bodies. Muscles, facial hair, penises, none of it. It's not gross - it just doesn't turn me on. I can look at a finely chiseled guy and admire him or think he's good looking but it doesn't get my blood pumping or cause me to think things automatically. I've never found myself accidentally/unconsciously glancing at men while I'm out and about. Only women.

Now obviously not all men have muscles or display typical attributes of "masculinity", but that doesn't really make a difference - I'm still not attracted to twinks or other guys either. The only time I've seen guys who I thought were attractive was when I thought they were girls first, like certain androgynous models, and even then that's mostly because of the faces and not the body types.

I guess I just like soft features, curves, and vaginas. Anything else doesn't work for me, so that's how I know I'm heterosexual (and specifically a straight guy with particular preferences for women).
 
Jaye davidson. From the stargate movie. Abundant crush/dreams. I wanted to see more movies she was in, then I watched the crying game.

I was like 12 or 13? The confusion.
 
I'm pretty damn in love with femininity - repulsed by muscular (and short haired) men. Soft beauty dudes tho... I can find them hot.

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I can go to town with him.
 
KiteBlues said:
Huh, people disbelieve your attraction to the same sex?
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It sometimes comes in the form of: "You can't be gay. You know what? You just haven't found the right partner yet." or "It's just a phase/you're just experimenting."

commedieu said:
Jaye davidson. From the stargate movie. Abundant crush/dreams. I wanted to see more movies she was in, then I watched the crying game.

I was like 12 or 13? The confusion.
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He was so hot in Stargate. I think he might have been the first guy I crushed on. Love the androgynous look in general.
 
Yeah, it happens. I even know my "type" ,and it is very different from my opposite sex "type", but that's normal I guess?
 
I've never been attracted to either gender. That revelation took me much longer to notice then it probably should have.
 
Alexlf said:
It's easy to point out someone the same gender as attractive, but I've never been attracted to one of them.
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This is basically where I'm at. Most of the time I can acknowledge that a guy is attractive, but I don't feel any attraction to them (physical or emotional). Then there's guys that women find attractive that just make me scratch my head (some of the guys my sister and her friends swoon over like Benedict Cumberbatch or Loki from Avengers just confuse me).
 
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