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[345triangle]

kind of. i got with one girl, didn't think anything of it and got with another the week later, but ended up being with the first girl for a couple of years :/ i don't know if i should've told her, but couldn't really see it being a good idea.

 

[electricpirate]

Nope and never been cheated on.

 

[SamuraiX-]

Sorry, I haven't slept in a day. lol. I am tired like a mofo. >.<

To Stooge: I just didn't like her reason why she was an Atheist, I am religious yes plus open minded, and woulda accepted a conclusive reason why one woulda been an atheist but she had the most retarded reason to be one. I didn't like it. If shes this dumb to come to this reasoning, then I question her decisions in life. But I found out I was right to question starting from that when I found out she makes horrible decisions.

Sounds like a keeper!

Yep, with every girlfriend I've ever had, including my wife.

Slept with two married women too. And a few girls with boyfriends. Funny story: On two separate occasions I visited a girl I liked in another city - and ended up sleeping with their roommate. Who had a boyfriend.

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I married the second one

Cheating is awesome!

DA FUCK!? :lol

 

[Snakeyes]

If I cheat, I usually do it in the very beginning of a relationship.

But yes.

 

[Consul]

no

been cheated on, though

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[kennah]

DA FUCK!? :lol

Even better, she's cheated on me once, with a friend of hers, at his bachelor party!

*thumbs up*

 

[darksunpr]

No, and I hope I wasn't cheated on

 

[J. M. Romeo]

Even better, she's cheated on me once, with a friend of hers, at his bachelor party!

*thumbs up*

You see, what's really important is what they do WHEN they are with you. Don't you think?

 

[Rei_Toei]

I've never cheated. Messed around with one girl while in a relationship but with consent. My GF did the same when slightly drunk with this girl so I guess you could say that kept it relatively uncomplicated. Funnily enough I always thought this would lead to a threesome but sadly that never happened.

My current GF sorta cheated on me in the first month we were dating. We hadn't really consolidated the relationship (ie hadn't talked about whether it was just messing around or more) but I felt really bad about it since we were having such a good time. Broke it off for a short time, but started seeing here again and her remorse appeared genuine to me. Still together one year later.

 

[345triangle]

I've never cheated. Messed around with one girl while in a relationship but with consent. My GF did the same when slightly drunk with this girl so I guess you could say that kept it relatively uncomplicated. Funnily enough I always thought this would lead to a threesome but sadly that never happened.

the same girl? did you guys just sit around for weeks afterwards talking about how awesome she was?

 

[dismas]

Nope. Never will.

This

 

[SouthernDragon]

I only cheated on my ex for a few reasons (Atheist, dumb, an art thief, dead fish in bed, etc) and I cheated on her. No remorse for it too. It was worth it especially since I left her shortly after. I went back to my ex for a few months.

Is her name Raquel, by any chance? Sounds like someone I used to know.

Anyways, never done it, never had it done to me primarily because I've never had a significant other.

However, I do know someone who'd be considered a serial cheater if not for the fact that they always preface their relationships with "I'm dating multiple people right now, but none of them are committed relationships, and neither is this one. Is that ok?"

 

[345triangle]

This

i guarantee that the majority of people who have cheated on someone have also thought "i'll definitely never cheat on anyone" at some point

it's crazy to make absolute statements like that. when i was 10 years old i was pretty damn sure that i'd never try a cigarette.

 

[wwm0nkey]

no

been cheated on, though

pretty much this, wasnt that bad though since I hated her. Also I was at E3 so I really just didn't care. Seriously though she though that a little anime con in Ohio was bigger than E3...and she called herself a gamer :lol

 

[Rei_Toei]

the same girl? did you guys just sit around for weeks afterwards talking about how awesome she was?

Naaah, it was more kissing/fondling and a little more, neither of us went the whole way. Also, it was kinda a once in while thing. I'd usually watch movies and smoke weed with this girl and then she'd stay the night, my girlfriend at the time almost exclusively kissed with this girl every now and then wile going out/at parties. This all happened ages ago in my second year at uni and at time I thought it was great but I don't think I'd be happy with it now.

 

[Chinner]

i used to be a huge cheater, but then i went to japan and learned about ~honor~

 

[Hugbot]

Even better, she's cheated on me once, with a friend of hers, at his bachelor party!

*thumbs up*

That sounds less like cheating and more like a fairly open marriage, but if it's working for you more power to you.

Personally I've never cheated and I hope I've never been cheated on, but I'm monogomous by nature. There are certainly people who have a much harder time with it, and it's unfortunate that a lot of times they set themselves up to have to try and stay with one person. I know more than a few people who could be much better off with relationships that were more open to the occasional tryst.

 

[dark_chris]

Is her name Raquel, by any chance? Sounds like someone I used to know.

Nope, her name is Sara

 

[dreamcastmaster]

A guy once said to me about staying faithful when presented with the opportunity to cheat "At the time you feel really moral, then afterwards you just feel gutted"

You know he was right, it's not like you can get any bonus points from your partner for staying faithful "Hey hon guess what? I turned down a prettier girl tonight just for you, can I have a BJ for being a good boyfriend?". You don't get credit for what you're supposed to do in relationships.

Anyway I've lived and learned.

 

[SamuraiX-]

i used to be a huge cheater, but then i went to japan and learned about ~honor~

Are you considered an expert now? :lol

 

[suoodS]

I was basically waiting for my girlfriend to get back from vacation to break up with her. Didn't want to dump her right before she went to Europe for three weeks.

Nice cockblock :lol

 

[kennah]

i used to be a huge cheater, but then i went to japan and learned about ~honor~

Doesn't every guy have a mistress there?

 

[demosthenes]

Never cheated. As far as I'm aware, haven't been cheated on.

 

[spindashing]

Ehhh, I haven't been cheated on but I had the whole break up with my long time girlfriend and one of my close friends went right for her. Didn't ask for my blessing or anything. I mean he didn't have to, but still, I felt it was a dick move. To this day our relationship is strange because of it. I don't know how far the two progressed, but it didn't last long. Bros before hoes my ass.

Hell, even in another instance when me and her was together -- the two of us were bored so we joked to our friends telling our friends that we broke up and all. It was funny as shit seeing some people's responses but one of my friends CONFESSED his feelings for her (I wasn't there) right at the spot. She was freaking out, and she told me.

...

Yeah, that was awkward. He apologized profusely, and I didn't get

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too

mad at him about it. We didn't talk for awhile, but after it all we were able to still keep a long-time-friend relationship because we've known each other for so long. Not a day went by that he regretteds it, and honestly I feel bad for him since he hasn't been in a relationship since I met him.

 

[SamuraiX-]

A guy once said to me about staying faithful when presented with the opportunity to cheat "At the time you feel really moral, then afterwards you just feel gutted"

You know he was right, it's not like you can get any bonus points from your partner for staying faithful "Hey hon guess what? I turned down a prettier girl tonight just for you, can I have a BJ for being a good boyfriend?". You don't get credit for what you're supposed to do in relationships.

Anyway I've lived and learned.

Why would you be rewarded? I find that so childish about some people these days. They expect to to be praised for things that are expected of everyone, like being a decent human being or having ethics.

So since I don't get praised for not being an alcoholic or a drug addict, I should just say "fuck it" and go wild?

 

[SlasherJPC]

Been cheated on and never been a cheater. I was cheated on in my very first relationship and I swore never to inflict the pain on somone else that I felt that day years ago. Horrible, horrible thing. If you really don't want to be with someone THAT bad. Just break up with them and then have your fun.

 

[Chinner]

Are you considered an expert now? :lol

yeah, but i'd doubt you know much about it.

 

[The Technomancer]

I have one close friend though who's hot as hell, and exceedingly nice and intelligent to boot. She has literally every guy she becomes friends with (besides me) fall for her eventually, to the point of offering to cheat on their current girl with her. (Despite the fact that she is currently in a very publicly known long term relationship with a guy she loves)

Their behavior disgusts her, and she's getting increasingly jaded about being friends with guys at all...

 

[turnbuckle]

no

been cheated on, though

.

Two girls cheated on their boyfriends with me.

Does that count?

Oh, eh, if that counts then I'm a repeat offender.

 

[Hydranockz]

Why would you be rewarded? I find that so childish about some people these days. They expect to to be praised for things that are expected of everyone, like being a decent human being or having ethics.

So since I don't get praised for being not being an alcoholic or a drug addict, I should just say "fuck it" and go wild?

Exactly. I showered today!! Or, I went to school/work. The fact that you have the chance to go to school/work, have a shower or to be going out with that girl means that you shouldn't be such a selfish attention seeker when you don't ditch them.

 

[dreamcastmaster]

Why would you be rewarded? I find that so childish about some people these days. They expect to to be praised for things that are expected of everyone, like being a decent human being or having ethics.

So since I don't get praised for being not being an alcoholic or a drug addict, I should just say "fuck it" and go wild?

Yeah that's kinda my point, turning down a really hot girl is not easy. Your only benifit is your own ethics. I've felt quite good when I've been told that my girl has turned someone down even if shes complaining she got hit on. Women dont think the same though.

 

[SlasherJPC]

The problem is.. alot of guys DO infact think with their dicks. They are just looking to put it somewhere warm, moist, and fuckable. I mean I shit you not, guys think of sex on a basic primal level like that. As some say "Pussy is pussy".

Personally I'm done with the one/two night stand situations. I really only prefer to get intimate with a relationship. Cheating just isn't cool in anyway for me. Even when I have been DRUNK... I've never though to myself. I can't control myself. Its just an excuse I think.

 

[The Technomancer]

Yeah that's kinda my point, turning down a really hot girl is not easy. Your only benifit is your own ethics. I've felt quite good when I've been told that my girl has turned someone down even if shes complaining she got hit on. Women dont think the same though.

Yeah, life isn't easy. This is one thing that bugs me increasingly these days: how people will just do whats easy because they don't want to exert the strength to do whats right.

The problem is.. alot of guys DO infact think with their dicks. They are just looking to put it somewhere warm, moist, and fuckable. I mean I shit you not, guys think of sex on a basic primal level like that. As some say "Pussy is pussy".

I think I am somewhat of an oddball there, at least if what other people has told me is true.
Sex doesn't really matter to me. Sure, its nice, but I don't feel the urge to get laid every opportunity I get if it has some really negative consequences, I can wait until I meet a girl who it will mean something with. And its not some thing I fight, its just how my temperament naturally seems to be.
(yes, the girl from before I really thought I had a chance at something good with. Boy did she fool me)

 

[Hydranockz]

Yeah, life isn't easy. This is one thing that bugs me increasingly these days: how people will just do whats easy because they don't want to exert the strength to do whats right.

Agree whole heartedly.

 

[SouthernDragon]

Nope, her name is Sara

It saddens me to think that there are more people like her out there.

 

[Wazzim]

Cheating on someone? I don't even have time for a relationship, let alone fucking it up.

 

[Shin Kojima]

Never, but chicks have cheated on their boyfriends to get with me.

 

[dark_chris]

Never, but chicks have cheated on their boyfriends to get with me.

Thats the same for me with the current girl i am with.
Girl was arranged to be married to some guy. She compared both of us and saw that I am much better, kinder, romantic, etc than the guy since he is a dominant jerk with his rules and I give her more freedom and spoiled her. So she broke it off and is dating me now.

 

[Sneds]

Never, but chicks have cheated on their boyfriends to get with me.

Are you ever worried that they'll do the same thing to you?

 

[Enco]

Why would you be rewarded? I find that so childish about some people these days. They expect to to be praised for things that are expected of everyone, like being a decent human being or having ethics.

So since I don't get praised for not being an alcoholic or a drug addict, I should just say "fuck it" and go wild?

This.

This attitude and the "I'm an adult so it's fine. You won't understand" attitudes are what are ruining communities (not that you're considered an adult if you're immature enough to do something so stupid)!

I find it sad how people are all like "I've cheated, so what". A lot of relationships no longer have value which is depressing.

Grow up and stop thinking cheating makes you "cool".

 

[Carlisle]

Cheated once, but it was pretty harmless and it didn't get physical... I was in high school so I don't put a lot of stock in it. My last gf was one of those twisted situations where I thought we were more broken up than she did when I started sleeping around with other girls... it was a shitty situation and in retrospect I should have made sure we were all on the same page. We clearly weren't and it's my biggest regret in life. Still feel terrible.

Was cheated on once that I know of, by the same girl I cheated on in HS... pretty fair I think :lol I suspect one more cheating but I didn't care nearly enough to want to find out, it was a shit relationship that lasted only a couple weeks.

And I had a chick cheat on her bf with me once a couple years ago.

So one of each. That's probably enough. In a committed relationship for almost 3 years now so if anything like this happens again it'll be world-endingly devastating.

 

[dreamcastmaster]

Are you ever worried that they'll do the same thing to you?

Not if you don't take it serously. Been there, in most cases the girl got back with the original boyfriend anyway. She used the "we were on a break" get out clause.

 

[Virtua Ben]

Two girls cheated on their boyfriends with me.

Does that count?

Same here. Can't say that I've ever been cheated on though. I hope karma wont come back and bite me in the ass.

 

[soul creator]

for those that "cheat", just stop entering monogamous relationships. There's no law that says you are required to only enter traditional monogamous relationships

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there's lots of social pressure though

edit: also what Hugbot said

 

[Hugbot]

This.

This attitude and the "I'm an adult so it's fine" attitudes are what are ruining communities (not that you're considered an adult if you're immature enough to do something so stupid)!

I find it sad how people are all like "I've cheated, so what". A lot of relationships no longer have value which is depressing.

Grow up and stop thinking cheating makes you "cool".

Stepping outside of a relationship understood to be monogomous is scummy and hurts people, but like it or not monogomy isn't everyone's bag. The thing is, these people need to learn to be upfront about it and find a likeminded partner, far fewer people get hurt and they'd be able to maintain a successful relationship without sneaking around. It's plenty understandable to get everything you need emotionally from someone and still want to explore sexually with others, but there's definitely a right and wrong way to go about it.

for those that "cheat", just stop entering monogamous relationships. There's no law that says you are required to only enter traditional monogamous relationships

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there's lots of social pressure though

This.

 

[Minamu]

Never had the chance to cheat on someone yet. Wouldn't take it if did present itself. Same thing if it was the other way around. You can't trust those girls

 

[The Technomancer]

for those that "cheat", just stop entering monogamous relationships. There's no law that says you are required to only enter traditional monogamous relationships

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there's lots of social pressure though

Exactly. I have no problem with that. Its not the multiple partners or no commitment thing that I dislike, its the dishonesty.

 

[Zozz]

Nope.

 

[Burli]

Nope and no ones every cheated on me

(got a big penis , great looks and i let of good vibes , im just an all round good boyfriend for my girlfriend)

Someone totally needs to cheat on you, for your own good.

 

[The Lamonster]

Cheaters are cowardly scum.