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Having someone taken from me and feel completely helpless!!!!

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OP, what's your next move? Being angry accomplishes nothing and you probably aren't getting that dog back unless you can reason with them. In the event they keep the dog, what are you going to do?

The dog wasn't stolen, guys. His wife willingly let the mother-in-law leave with it.
 
Razmos said:
Just.. call them? tell them that you don't want them to take the dog for the reasons you listed and see what happens. If they don't give it back, take them to court.
This is worth fighting over and the OP, as angry as he is about the situation doesn't seem to actually be doing anything.

Would the parents really side with the sister-in-law over this? really? why not just talk to the parents yourself and explain the situation.
It's your family, get it back no matter what.

Stop being so passive and do something. Would a confrontation really be that bad? Families get over shit like that, if they don't, just don't have anything to do with them, they sound like awful people anyway.
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I agree with this, the best thing to do is talk, OP has said that the step father is a good guy, try talking directly with him and tell him why you are so concerned and why he shouldn't trust them.
 
Dunedain_Ranger said:
I can't im already two hours away from just my home if they left at seven towards Mississippi their problem seven hours ahead . I guess just cry and and be pissed off
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Are you indebted to your in-laws? If that's the case I understand. If you are financially independent, why are you being push over like that.

Is there a reason your wife not supporting you? I felt like a big part of the story is missing.

Sorry about your lost, just hope for the best.
 
A police report isn't going to work when your wife willingly gave up the dog.

I really don't mean to offend but I don't want to beat around the bush, so I'll say it bluntly. You and your wife have issues. Your wife decided to give away one of your family dogs behind your back, after you voiced your disapproval, fully knowing her own kids love the dog. She didn't take you or your kids into account. She listened and sided with the group of people who absolutely don't have her interests in mind, as opposed to her own family. And this family has a history of walking all over you and your family for the sake of their own personal gain.

This isn't really about the dog. Your wife doesn't have your back, which IMO is one of the most basic concepts of marriage. You need to really think hard about just how committed she is to you and your kids, because right now from the incidents you've been describing it doesn't look like she's committed at all. This sounds like someone who folds like a cheap tent for her family who are walking all over her, and she doesn't care if she's dragging down the rest of her own family with her.
 
You can keep 'talking', it won't hurt, but I would demand a specific amount of money for care and feeding OR the dog ASAP, give a reasonable deadline, and then sue them. That's a consequence. It will concentrate minds and get results.
Where in Miss. do they live? PM if you don't want it public.
 
I love how everyone is saying "just talk to them" as if they are sane individuals

These people are crazy. They are mentally abusing his wife and taking advantage of her their whole lives. This is just one event in a string of atrocities.

Nothing will happen. If he does anything, then his wife will just give the dog back to them.

He should be lucky that they didnt want to lay claim to the rest of his dogs at this point.
 
EatinOlives said:
A police report isn't going to work when your wife willingly gave up the dog.

I really don't mean to offend but I don't want to beat around the bush, so I'll say it bluntly. You and your wife have issues. Your wife decided to give away one of your family dogs behind your back, after you voiced your disapproval, fully knowing her own kids love the dog. She didn't take you or your kids into account. She listened and sided with the group of people who absolutely don't have her interests in mind, as opposed to her own family. And this family has a history of walking all over you and your family for the sake of their own personal gain.

This isn't really about the dog. Your wife doesn't have your back, which IMO is one of the most basic concepts of marriage. You need to really think hard about just how committed she is to you and your kids, because right now from the incidents you've been describing it doesn't look like she's committed at all. This sounds like someone who folds like a cheap tent for her family who are walking all over her, and she doesn't care if she's dragging down the rest of her own family with her.
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I think the biggest problem is that the wife doesn't have her own back. Her mother (and possibly her sister) have done a number on her.

Guileless said:
Where in Miss. do they live? PM if you don't want it public.
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Don't do this.
 
Dunedain_Ranger said:
She's already been to therapy for years growing up because how her mom treated her over her sister. She still has issues and minor anxiety
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And she just let her mother put her spoiled sister over her again, as well as her husband and kids. I wouldn't pay for therapy if your wife isn't capable of growing up.
 
Jackpot said:
Are you? Who uses that PUA bs in conversation?
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Not sure what PUA is, but we're talking about a dog, so it's the word I thought of first. You should look up the origin.

Edit...also, yes I am. Neither my wife or myself take shit from either of our families. Sometimes we fight about things in private, but when it comes down to it, we are united. Neither of us would let the other get away with being a push over. He bears just as much responsibility as she does.

Edit edit..on some things we decide to play good cop/bad cop. One of us will take the heat so the other can keep the peace.
 
I'm sorry you lost your dog. I hope they take care of him/her this time.

I wouldn't have anything to do with them, from this point on. I would even consider moving.
 
Dave Inc. said:
This is a terrible opinion. Not everyone is very assertive and if someone took advantage of her then it's on them.
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they knew not to ask the husband. she should have said no and any other questions ask the husband.

maxcriden said:
Exactly. Not her fault. Things aren't so straightforward or black and white. Family members have weird powers over each other sometimes.
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whatever, she can't even back up her husband.

maxcriden said:
Things are just not that simple though. Like I said sometimes family mbers have a weird power over each other. We just don't know the whole story here and it's not necessarily relevant or any of our business.
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and what are these strange powers? super-strength? heat vision? super speed? time travel?

Goliath said:
OK, I am just as heated as the next guy and love my Dog more then most human beings I know but this is extreme.

Let's put things in perspective:

-The OP has two other dogs
-The OP has a family with his wife
-The OP seemed to not have been on the same page as his wife before work

I would not recommend divorce and splitting up you family over a dog which was with you for two years and one of three. His kids are priority and splitting up over this is petty. HOWEVER I would recommend that he get on the same page as his wife and explain to her that the priority is their immediate family, not parents, grandparents, siblings, etc. Moving might be the only solution.
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the dog is just the latest issue in what seems to be a pattern of the wife choosing the family over her husband. if she can't get her shit fixed then she is incapable of being in a relationship. harsh but simple. therapy isn't just sitting in a couch for an hour, it's also taking the steps necessary to fix or move forward from what's wrong. she doesn't seem to be able or doesn't want to.

Scullibundo said:
You need to stop now.
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no, he's right.
 
Aw fuck.

So sorry to hear about that, op. That poor dog.

I am a bit mad at your wife, though. Her giving away a family member really doesn't sit right with me. I don't want to pit you against your wife, particularly not now. Seriously, don't give those assholes the satisfaction of robbing you of your dog AND fucking up your relationship.

However, I do think the two of you need to work on giving her some more confidence, to wean her off this weird abusive/unhealthy relationship with your inlaws. She's the mother of your kids, and your mate. That's gotta count for something, that must be something worth defending, something that gives her strength and pride. It's her (and your) one and only home. Fuck everybody else.

Oh well. Look at me talk like a know-it-all. As if it was that easy. Good luck, Op. Don't let those turds get you down.
 
Scullibundo said:
You need to stop now.
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I have family like this and I've been in the OP's shoes more times than I care to remember. There is no other way to get them to stop than to stand up to them. They do stop.

It's not easy living with it for years, being taken advantage of and watching other family members like your mom being belittled like this, and it's even harder to go through having to turn it around. It makes me really upset to see others just roll over when he has the power to decide he deserves better and he has everything he needs to do something about it.
 
Paco said:
And she just let her mother put her spoiled sister over her again, as well as her husband and kids. I wouldn't pay for therapy if your wife isn't capable of growing up.
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She had there therapy when she was younger not now. I also found out they took her to get groomed I flipped out and said funny they didn't offer that two years ago when I cleaned her for a month picking hundreds of tics off her or when I put ointment on her fly infested ears . Then I met her at lunch she cried showed me the texts of her fighting it. I basically told her by letting them take her they sided with them and not her kids or husband. Even more infuriating they are showing up at my nieces bday with her as a surprise I just can't gaf
 
They wanted the dog back so they wouldn't have to buy a birthday present? or they just wanted to seem like great parents.

Wow, I just can't even.
 
Dunedain_Ranger said:
She had there therapy when she was younger not now. I also found out they took her to get groomed I flipped out and said funny they didn't offer that two years ago when I cleaned her for a month picking hundreds of tics off her or when I put ointment on her fly infested ears . Then I met her at lunch she cried showed me the texts of her fighting it. I basically told her by letting them take her they sided with them and not her kids or husband. Even more infuriating they are showing up at my nieces bday with her as a surprise I just can't gaf
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I'm in tears over this, and I've let it resurface some similar history in my life and I'm no longer rationale about the situation.

I'm so, so sorry. I hope you and your wife can figure out how to make things better. You're not helpless. You can figure it out together.
 
They took the dog back so they can have it as a present for his niece. It's vindictive and evil to do what they are doing. Breaking up your family to satiate their own.
 
Mercury Fred said:
Crash the birthday party. Take the dog back. Get a divorce. Move ON!
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seriously i'd just snatch the dog at the party

if the cops show up just show them years of dog photos and vet paperwork, say it's a family disagreement

you said you feel helpless in the OP. you're not helpless.
 
This is the saddest ending.

Dammit man. If the dog was in such shit condition when you get the pooch, you really should have fought for this.

You're too damn passive and you let a best friend go.
 
You can't just let this slide. They fucking stole your dog, theyre abusive to your wife and disrespectful to your family. If you wont go all liam neeson and take back your dog at least move and cut off contact with these pieces of shit.
 
You know what you can still do, OP? Wait one month then go visit the dog and if it's once again in a shit condition, call up and report them for animal abuse.
This is something you can still do.
 
falcs said:
You know what you can still do, OP? Wait one month then go visit the dog and if it's once again in a shit condition, call up and report them for animal abuse.
This is something you can still do.
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In fact, a failure to do something like this would make the OP complicit in any harm that befell the creature.

That may sound harsh but it is what it is.
 
If you have any kind of documentation for things like rabies treatment or whatever you could use that.

If the dog has a chip then you could use that to prove ownership as well.
 
The worst part is, if they do end up giving the dog to his niece they can use it as emotional blackmail, saying that if he takes the dog back it will make their kids sad.

Truly disgusting people taking complete advantage. And you have to feel for the dog too who is probably confused and lonely.

This is horrible :(
 
Dunedain_Ranger said:
She had there therapy when she was younger not now. I also found out they took her to get groomed I flipped out and said funny they didn't offer that two years ago when I cleaned her for a month picking hundreds of tics off her or when I put ointment on her fly infested ears . Then I met her at lunch she cried showed me the texts of her fighting it. I basically told her by letting them take her they sided with them and not her kids or husband. Even more infuriating they are showing up at my nieces bday with her as a surprise I just can't gaf
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Texts of her fighting it.....that is about the minimum you can do without rolling over completely without doing anything.


This is a very anger inducing thread, good luck op, you have a lot ahead of you, which I'm sure you know. Shit.
 
I can't even comprehend how lowly you must think of a person to steal their dog. You wouldn't even do it to your worst enemy.
 
As someone who really loves dogs,this story pisses me off so damn bad! it´s your dog now,tell them to fu** off.
I suffered a similar situation and i know exactly how you must feel right now.
Good luck man.
 
Like others have said, if you have things like vet bills to show you've invested a lot more in the dog than them, you'd probably have a good chance in getting the dog back if you get the law involved. If somehow your story could get to someone that could give it media coverage though, that would probably go a long way.
 
Time to let Brandie know what a colossal thunder cunt she is, OP. Sack the fuck up, put it all on the table. Either they reimburse you for your troubles if she doesn't return your fucking dog or she acts like a decent human being and returns your dog.

I'm sure you must realise by now how this entire situation is endemic of a fucked up living environment. You rent from your parent-in-laws who favour your sister-in-law and have your wife under their thumb? Things got bad enough that your wife needed therapy? Seriously, what the fuck are you still doing there? It's clearly not a good environment for you or your wife. I get that it's not easy to relocate, but given your wife's past and this entire fucked up situation, surely now is as good a time as any to start looking for another place?
 
Random Painted HIghway said:
Texts of her fighting it.....that is about the minimum you can do without rolling over completely without doing anything.


This is a very anger inducing thread, good luck op, you have a lot ahead of you, which I'm sure you know. Shit.
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Seriously. "Actions speak louder than words" and all that, in the end she still let them take the dog.

I feel so damn bad for the dog. :(
 
I'm sorry it worked out this way man. I hope you can get regular visits.


I think I'm done with off topic. All the dog threads; it's too much for me.
 
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