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[Kitsunebaby]

People are always going to talk about others behind their back, even the closest of friends do it. Venting your frustrations about someone, whether large or small, is necessary to continue getting along with them. It's best not to let it faze you.

 

[eudaemonic]

Depending on how often you fact check... that could be annoying. That can easily be taken as "you never know what you're talking about". Sometimes the facts matter. Sometimes it's just idle bullshit that's never going to come up outside of the current conversation. If someone kept doing it to me, I'd start to get a little pissy about it too.

In that case, he may like you enough to blow off some steam to someone else and not totally ditch you as a friend. I think we've all been guilty of that at some point.

But regardless, if you're going to play the "oh yeah, if I'm so horrible, how come you're the homophobe?" card, that's just being a bit of a cunt. Is it worth addressing? Sure. But sure as shit not under the condition of you're only trying to knock him down a peg because he has a complaint about you.

(This is under the impression that both of you have faults.)

Personally, if it really bugged me that much, I'd drop the whole relationship instead of turning it volatile. It's really not worth it while I debate internally if I'm justified or not over something trivial.

 

[SummitAve]

You're the guy that always has to be right...

 

[daveo42]

I dated a girl in college who talked shit about me behind my back to my roommates. The idea was if my roommates thought I was a horrible person, they would basically exile me from our group and I'd have to spend all of my free time with her. Right after she started spouting this shit, my roommates (who I had lived with for well over a year and became good friends) told me and I broke up with her same day. She even tried to bribe me with a blow job as a way to get me to stay.

What's messed up is she still wanted to be friends and several times tried to hook up with me and tell me she got into some of the stuff I was into at the time.

 

[-Plasma Reus-]

I dated a girl in college who talked shit about me behind my back to my roommates. The idea was if my roommates thought I was a horrible person, they would basically exile me from our group and I'd have to spend all of my free time with her. Right after she started spouting this shit, my roommates (who I had lived with for well over a year and became good friends) told me and I broke up with her same day. She even tried to bribe me with a blow job as a way to get me to stay.

What's messed up is she still wanted to be friends and several times tried to hook up with me and tell me she got into some of the stuff I was into at the time.

Should have taken the blowjob then told her to get the hell out.

 

[SkeptiMism]

It's unfortunately a very common thing for humans.

That said, it can be really annoying sometimes. In a former workplace of mine everyone talked shit about each other all the time and god I hated it. I was new there (well I had been in the company for some time but I switched to that place due to the company's circumstances) so everyone kind of told me how horrible those other people are. I just stayed silent mostly as I really didn't like that feeling of backstabbing that seemed very common there.

Obviously though, I'm guilty of it myself too at times, but generally I don't think very negatively of people and it's quite rare that I talk about others behind their back.

 

[Beardz]

You're the guy that always has to be right...

"Everybody hates me because I'm always right!"

 

[KillerMike]

I could've guessed he'd be talking about me behind my back from the way he is, but it just feels different knowing exactly what he said. Even if I thought that he did it before. I had no idea what he finds annoying about me or what he says, but hearing it word for word I now know exactly what I do that is annoying to him and it makes me wonder if other people find that annoying. It's not like I'm going to change how I am after knowing this, but it just makes me wonder.

But regardless, if you're going to play the "oh yeah, if I'm so horrible, how come you're the homophobe?" card, that's just being a bit of a cunt. Is it worth addressing? Sure. But sure as shit not under the condition of you're only trying to knock him down a peg because he has a complaint about you.

Yeah, in retrospect that was a bit of a silly comment. I guess I was just feeling a bit bitter, but I also find it strange how he can put such an emphasis on something like that and think it's ok to make homophobic comments.

You're the guy that always has to be right...

Haha, if only. That would make my tests a lot easier. Like I said before, I don't care if I'm right or not, I'll happily admit that I'm wrong if I am.

 

[Sigmaah]

Some overnight crew member thinks I'm a fat piece of shit with a pimpley face. I don't think I've ever seen this guy or said a word to him. Kinda surprised when one of my managers told me. I don't see the need to make an issue out of it tho, idgaf bout that niggas life lmfao. Don't know why he's worried about me.

 

[JimmyRustler]

Never happened to me but since my department is talking behind everyone elses back I assume they are talking about me as well.

I can deal with it pretty easy though. Just today when I left the office everyone left was standing in a circle and before I left I was like "bye.... Now you can talk about me...." with a smile on my face. Laughter ensured.

But really... I can understand it and have no rpoblems with me at all. Especially work mates. You spend so much time together, naturally someone gets pissed at me. So let it vent, I don't care.