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How do I tell my girl she needs to work out?
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Lo-Volt said:
Im telling you im fit like a god!
In no way am I going to say that my girl looks bad or is overly fat, I said shes a little fat+ Im concerned about her health.
Her family actually calls her buta-chan(little pig), thats a little bit sad. :lol
But japanese are very very slim, so compared to a regular J-girl my GF is a little fat.
Moment of insight: Maybe I spent too much time looking at other Japanese girls?
Maybe I need help?
Zombie James
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Kaeru said:
What the ****'s wrong with you?
Systems_id
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Is the OP serious?
pel1300
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to you guys saying "she isn't fat!" after looking at the pic:
1) obviously by "a little FAT" the OP didn't mean a complete fat ass or anything, just a little bit more chubby than he'd prefer, and hes worried it will get worse as she gets older.
2) YOU CAN'T TELL SHIT FROM THAT PIC. Shes wearing a loose dress for gods sake, get a clue. The only thing that pic shows us is that she isn't obese.
Judging from her face, I can see that the possibility that she may be a slightly on the chubby side.
1) obviously by "a little FAT" the OP didn't mean a complete fat ass or anything, just a little bit more chubby than he'd prefer, and hes worried it will get worse as she gets older.
2) YOU CAN'T TELL SHIT FROM THAT PIC. Shes wearing a loose dress for gods sake, get a clue. The only thing that pic shows us is that she isn't obese.
Judging from her face, I can see that the possibility that she may be a slightly on the chubby side.
buckfutter
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Sure you are.Kaeru said:
I can't honestly think of a way to tell someone this, without really making them feel like crap, or angry toward you. Very risky scenario...
From her pic, she does not look fat at all... but I can understand seeing her so infrequently, you'll probably be more perceptive of small changes.
So she has brought up the subject before? Or did you...?Kaeru said:
Damn!Kaeru said:
From her pic, she does not look fat at all... but I can understand seeing her so infrequently, you'll probably be more perceptive of small changes.
pel1300
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Striker said:
Stop getting hung up on semantics. The OP obviously doesn't think she is "fat" in the same way that you interpret the word "fat".
To some people, they use the word "ugly" to describe any person who isn't attractive.
Other people only use the word "ugly" to describe people who look disgusting.
Likewise, some people use the word "fat" to describe anyone who isn't completely in shape/lean. And others use the word "fat" to describe only people who are medically obese.
PhoenixDark
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Kaeru said:
MrToughPants
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TOM f'N CRUISE
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just say what i said (if you work out also)
"hey babe.....i work out all the time for you"(cause she always tells me how good i look)
"you should really try to start doin somthing yourself"
after that..she started to work out
"hey babe.....i work out all the time for you"(cause she always tells me how good i look)
"you should really try to start doin somthing yourself"
after that..she started to work out
PhoenixDark
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Best thing to do is to hit the gym together. That way it won't seem like you're singling her out, and it'll benefit you both physically.
Kaeru said:Thats why I come to GAF for my relationship advices!
Being the complete asshole that I am, I would probably ruin everything by taking things into my own hands.(
I don't mean to make it seem like I'm calling you a jerk or something. It's just an issue that rubs me the wrong way, I guess.
BatiGOOOOOOL
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OMG, WHAT A DISGUSTING PIG LADY!Kaeru said:Is there such a game? Because she just got a DS Lite so that would be the perfect birthday gift. 2 birds with 1 stone!
I am mostly concerned about her health. She works as nurse and she does heavy lifts, stands for many hours without sitting down, and so on. If she's not fit her body is going to take the beating sooner or later.
Seriously Kaeru, from that picture she looks perfectly normal.
PhoenixDark
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BatiGOOOOOOL said:
Just out of curiosity, are you african american?
siamesedreamer
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With the addition of the pic, this thread has now become a waste of bandwidth.
The OP needs to get a grip. You go telling her you thinks she's fat and I promise she'll never have sex with you again........
The OP needs to get a grip. You go telling her you thinks she's fat and I promise she'll never have sex with you again........
BatiGOOOOOOL
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I'm latin american. Costa Rica, more precisely. Why? If I may ask.PhoenixDark said:
lachesis
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If you are concerned of her weight, and she's doesn't work out regulary - I guess best way is to take her out often, and walk a lot for a little walk/sanpo/date, etc. Perhaps take a road trip, or invite her to Sweden for european tour with alot of eurail/walking etc. They tend to lose weight like that with just a bit of activity.
nincompoop
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Shoot her up with a heavy dose of morphine and perform liposuction on her while she's passed out.
Take her e-mail address and sign her up for fitness spam; and go on fitness related websites, put in her e-mail and say you'd like the site to send more information. Keep doing that and maybe it will sink in.
Seriously tho, she doesn't look bad in that pic; if she gets to a point in her life where her metabalism slows and she balloons, she will have to get in shape again on her own. Nothing you say/do is going to make her do shit, especially if she's comfortable with her appearance.
Seriously tho, she doesn't look bad in that pic; if she gets to a point in her life where her metabalism slows and she balloons, she will have to get in shape again on her own. Nothing you say/do is going to make her do shit, especially if she's comfortable with her appearance.
I can believe kaeru in him saying she might be fat. Just because you look noraml with clothes on, doesn't mean you don't have body fat. In other words, she's out of shape, which isn't hard to imagine; Japanese people, some might say the women in particular, only adjust their diet without including excercise.
She's Japanese, so I kind of feel like you can just blatantly tell her. At least someone I know who has a Japanese girlfriend always directly tells her 'yasero yasero' and stuff like that. People tend to be more direct concerning weight in Japan anyway. You can coat it in concern for her health or whatever if you want to.
Fat face comes with fat body. Asians in particular get 'moon face'. It goes away somewhat when they tone up.
She's Japanese, so I kind of feel like you can just blatantly tell her. At least someone I know who has a Japanese girlfriend always directly tells her 'yasero yasero' and stuff like that. People tend to be more direct concerning weight in Japan anyway. You can coat it in concern for her health or whatever if you want to.
Fat face comes with fat body. Asians in particular get 'moon face'. It goes away somewhat when they tone up.
Oldschoolgamer
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PhoenixDark said:
I think I see what you did there. "/ lol
BatiGOOOOOOL
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Yeah, me too. Took me a while.Oldschoolgamer said:
PhoenixDark
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:lol
Don't do it like someone I know who constantly tells his gf she's fat. (Like 10lbs overweight.) She's pretty bothered about it now. And he wonders why they're not having sex anymore.
He lost weight, but only because he was diagnosed with diabetes and finally started eating right.
He's a bigot and an asshole and she should leave him.
He lost weight, but only because he was diagnosed with diabetes and finally started eating right.
He's a bigot and an asshole and she should leave him.
alex chilton
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I wouldn't call her fat, but she's definitely chubby. I don't think asking her to go work out at the gym with you would be a good idea, she'll understand what you really mean by it. Asking her to go do some physical activity, like biking or hiking would be a more subtle approach.
tnw said:
You sir, understand my point exactly.
Her family is very honest about what they feel regarding her weight.
My girl has a kind of moon face, and I think that if she lost some weight she would be so beautiful because her true features would show.
It is quite irritating that young Japanese people have no sense of excersising. My girl and her friends work all day, go out and drink beer after work, nobody cares about health issues. And they are nurses so thats just even worse.
Lots of skinny framed people have bellies so this may be the case here. Chubby arms and thighs are also a problem for women but can be hidden or disguised in clever ways. There will come a time when this won't work anymore though. I think this is the growing concern.
What to do?
Don't directly bring it up. Just no. It's just too much headache for something that doesn't have enough of a chance of working.
The distance is the biggest problem here. Most people don't have the drive to work out and eat properly. If they don't have enough determination to go to the gym alone then they will quit the first chance they get. The best solution then is to artificially build the determination somehow.
- Constantly talk about working out, what body types are good, admire physical specimens, eating well, your body fat percentage, what exercises you do, etc.
- Don't eat ANYTHING unhealthy when around here. She will feel like a pig for not eating as well as you.
- Reassure her that you will love her no matter what but then talk down on fat people and their lack of discipline, self-respect, ugliness etc and hope that neither of you ever go down this path.
- Watch sports and other events that are full of hard bodied girls/guys. Beach volleyball, dancing or pole vaulting are good examples. heh.
Sounds like an assholish sort of scheme but it could work. Again the distance thing makes it even harder to do but it's worth a shot if it bothers you that much.
Though this would probably have the opposite desired effect on people with low self-esteem though.
What to do?
Don't directly bring it up. Just no. It's just too much headache for something that doesn't have enough of a chance of working.
The distance is the biggest problem here. Most people don't have the drive to work out and eat properly. If they don't have enough determination to go to the gym alone then they will quit the first chance they get. The best solution then is to artificially build the determination somehow.
- Constantly talk about working out, what body types are good, admire physical specimens, eating well, your body fat percentage, what exercises you do, etc.
- Don't eat ANYTHING unhealthy when around here. She will feel like a pig for not eating as well as you.
- Reassure her that you will love her no matter what but then talk down on fat people and their lack of discipline, self-respect, ugliness etc and hope that neither of you ever go down this path.
- Watch sports and other events that are full of hard bodied girls/guys. Beach volleyball, dancing or pole vaulting are good examples. heh.
Sounds like an assholish sort of scheme but it could work. Again the distance thing makes it even harder to do but it's worth a shot if it bothers you that much.
Though this would probably have the opposite desired effect on people with low self-esteem though.
If you're in a long-distance relationship where you barely ever get to see your girl and your biggest priority is that she lose some weight, you probably need to have a long, hard think about what the hell you're getting out of this.
I don't think it's particularly fair that you'd expect someone to change their appearance for your benefit when you aren't even around to see them.
I don't think it's particularly fair that you'd expect someone to change their appearance for your benefit when you aren't even around to see them.
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