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How do you approach a girl who's in the library?

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Subitai said:
OP is trying to get real advice and GAF is only concerned about entertaining itself.

OP, if she really looks like she is worth, just stay and wait till she looks like she is packing up. Then you're not worried about annoying her in the middle of whatever she is trying to accomplish.
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You have been here longer than I have, how in the world are you this naive?
 
quick question OP are you an Alpha?

Y/N

If the answer is yes go talk to her right now. If the answer is no head to the bathroom and rub one out like usual.
 
I noticed you noticing me, and I just wanted to put you on notice that I noticed you too.

Or

That shirt looks very becoming on you. If I was on you, I'd be cumming to.

I'm single
 
JetBlackPanda said:
It's fine as long as you let them know you definitely didn't do anything to it.
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Try defusing any apprehension by assuring her you know how hard it is to drug women without them noticing, you know from personal experience.

She'll laugh at your dark humor which gives you permission to whip out a winning smile. Here's an example I've found on the internet

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Check the book she is reading, google it, and spoil it for her.

Then apologize by inviting her somewhere, talk, etc.

THIS WORKS IF SHE IS NOT READING FICTION TOO. Spoil her how thermodynamics work dunno, be creative.
 
Get close to her, get your book stuff out and a little piece of paper. On the piece of paper begin a game of tic-tac-toe, make the first move, and then slide the paper to her


If she doesn't continue the game, then it isn't meant to be
 
mah nigga . i have a story for you .

i was in the library last semester doing my own thing , playing starcraft 2, and this beauty sat right across me for a good 2 hours or so .

i had some bananas with me , ate them , and being lazy I left them on the table. half an hour or so later , she stood up , asked if I wanted those skins thrown out , i obliged yes . Being an opportunist, i talked to her when she got back . We talked for about 30 mins , I learned she's a graduate student at my school , half korean/white , good looking . I got her name , but I didn't get any sort of contact details afterwards . just a name and a handshake .

anyways, the following day I went back to the same spot hoping to see her again, nothing . I gave up, but the day after , out of luck i saw her again as I was walking back to my apartment after class ; I was taking a different route than normal because I had bought a hotdog at some vegan stand (tasted bad) , anyways, I saw her, she saw me, I forgot her name , but she remembered mine . was so happy that I got to see her once more ; was this fate ? i am not sure .

a week later, after my night class on a monday, I saw her once more at the library , called her out , said what's up , she came by to my computer . afterwards , i asked if she had fb . she did , I was happy , but apparently she just got married recently .

anyways, what I'm trying to convey is , take things as they come . don't force it . you can try to talk to her, but don't be too pushy. be natural .

because
i'm a five star general, son
 
Knock a ton of books from a big shelf near her onto you. Topple the whole shelf if you can. If she comes to help you, it's true love. If she ignores you, it was never meant to be, and you might also be unconscious or dead. That will help with the rejection.
 
I once knew a girl who caught a guy hiding behind a bookshelf at the library and masturbating while staring at her. I don't know what she's been up to for the past several years, but it's always possible that her relationship with the library masturbator flowered into something truly beautiful and now they're happily married with a dog and a kid and another kid on the way. It could happen.

or you could just leave her alone.
 
isual said:
anyways, what I'm trying to convey is , take things as they come . don't force it . you can try to talk to her, but don't be too pushy. be natural .

because
i'm a five star general, son
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in other words act now or forever hold your piece?


also is this a college library or a public library?
 
You have to master eye talking.


Alaskanbullworm said:
Get close to her, get your book stuff out and a little piece of paper. On the piece of paper begin a game of tic-tac-toe, make the first move, and then slide the paper to her


If she doesn't continue the game, then it isn't meant to be
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This....might work.
 
Find out what book she was reading, and go up to her tell her you were looking to check that book out, and ask if when she's done you can read it as well. Just make an excuse for as to why you can not check it out.
 
Just slide up to her and ask her what she's reading.
Then say that you've also read what she's reading, and when she asks you "Oh yeah, what's it about?" you flush and respond with a cutesy "Sorry, to be honest with you, I came over because I thought you looked interesting, but how about you tell me all about that book over a cup of coffee? My treat".

High five, playaaah!
 
Karkador said:
Knock a ton of books from a big shelf near her onto you. Topple the whole shelf if you can. If she comes to help you, it's true love. If she ignores you, it was never meant to be, and you might also be unconscious or dead. That will help with the rejection.
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Bonus effect: Make sure to have the How to do CPR book fall strategically next to your face.
 
Alright, thought about it some more.

What I would do (which would probably be nothing, but you asked):

A. Sit next to her. Not side by side or anything, but if she' on one side of the table, you sit on the other end. Close enough so if you wanted to communicate, you could, but not creepy close.

B. When she coughs, say "Shh." Do it playfully so that when she turns to you, she knows you're just being cute.

C. Now since you broke the ice, you can be nice and offer to go get her some water. You were gonna go get yourself one anyway. "I'm gonna get a water, you want one?" Something like that.

The rest is up to you. Actually, the whole damn thing is up to you, but that's probably what I would do, but I'm a nice guy and a jerk at the same time, maybe that's not how you are. Honestly, I'd just sit somewhere in her vicinity and then forget about her. If she likes you, she'll let you know, if not, you got homework done and you move on with your life. Thinking about it too much will make you creepy. You're at a place of work, get to work.
 
Mr. B Natural said:
Alright, thought about it some more.

What I would do (which would probably be nothing, but you asked):

A. Sit next to her. Not side by side or anything, but if she' on one side of the table, you sit on the other end. Close enough so if you wanted to communicate, you could, but not creepy close.

B. When she coughs, say "Shh." Do it playfully so that when she turns to you, she knows you're just being cute.

C. Now since you broke the ice, you can be nice and offer to go get her some water. You were gonna go get yourself one anyway. "I'm gonna get a water, you want one?" Something like that.

The rest is up to you. Actually, the whole damn thing is up to you, but that's probably what I would do, but I'm a nice guy and a jerk at the same time, maybe that's not how you are.
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Smooth advice.
 
I've often asked women that I didn't/barely knew (as in randomly started speaking with them on a bus/grocery store "Hey, give me your phone number and we'll do someting". And you know what? The only negative answer I got was because the girl already was in a relationship. (To which you just say something like "Hey, no problem, take it as a compliment then!"

The only thing you need to do is not act too shy. Just a bit of confidence and you'll get results! (And you may end up having the stragest date ever too... you never know!)
 
One of the most annoying things in the world is when people see you reading, and for some reason assume you are bored and lonely and want conversation. I am reading. I am reading because I enjoy it.

TL;DR, if she's reading/working, don't.
 
Mr. B Natural said:
Alright, thought about it some more.

What I would do (which would probably be nothing, but you asked):

A. Sit next to her. Not side by side or anything, but if she' on one side of the table, you sit on the other end. Close enough so if you wanted to communicate, you could, but not creepy close.

B. When she coughs, say "Shh." Do it playfully so that when she turns to you, she knows you're just being cute.

C. Now since you broke the ice, you can be nice and offer to go get her some water. You were gonna go get yourself one anyway. "I'm gonna get a water, you want one?" Something like that.

The rest is up to you. Actually, the whole damn thing is up to you, but that's probably what I would do, but I'm a nice guy and a jerk at the same time, maybe that's not how you are.
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The shh part sounds like it could have a lot of backfire.
 
Style Fox said:
The shh part sounds like it could have a lot of backfire.
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Absolutely. But whatever. It's a shot at communicating without making it seem like you're hitting on her. Cause you're not, you're just showing your sense of humor.

If the girl takes offense to it, she's probably not worth pursuing, especially if she sees you smiling back at her being boyish. "Shh." <Wait for her to look at you>. "You're ruining my library experience."
If someone (even a guy) gets angry over that, then that someone doesn't match my personality.

The issue with my advice is that it's what matches my personality, not the OPs.
 
Alaskanbullworm said:
Get close to her, get your book stuff out and a little piece of paper. On the piece of paper begin a game of tic-tac-toe, make the first move, and then slide the paper to her


If she doesn't continue the game, then it isn't meant to be
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This will only work if you're good looking. Are you good looking OP. We need pics. Of the girl too if possible.

Help us help you.
 
"I hear if your phone number matches your ISBN number it's good luck, you'd better tell me what it is so I can check"
 
threetri333 said:
I am trying to get myself to talk to her, but I am hesitant in doing so. She's on her laptop and I don't know if I should bother her or give her company. What should I do GAF?

She seems to be coughing a bit, so a water bottle would be a nice ice breaker. Edit: She has a water bottle.

Ummm, my looks mirror my avatar, is that an advantage?
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Haha. Meeting girls in the library has always been my thing! They're more likely to be quality girls.

I'd just go say hi and see what she's studying. Make the conversation quick and casual, and be sure to get her name (full preferably). Before it gets awkward break off the conversation and say, "It was nice meeting you [name] say hi next time you're in the library". Then go back to your seat and get back to work. If you got her full name look her up on facebook later on. If you like what you see email her saying it was nice meeting her and ask her if she'd like to get coffee. Of course you could do this right off the bat, but I find library girls prefer a little discretion.

Of course, if the conversation never gets awkward stay with it, but be sure to get her info at the end.

I think you're looks are just fine. Is she Asian? What's your major? I'm sure you know, but if she is your status will be an important factor.

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as for the meta-discussion of whether it's ok to kick it to girls in the library. Absolutely it is. Lots and lots of people go to the library in university to socialize. That's what me and all my friends (both guys and girls) did. The library was a social scene unto itself.
 
LOL @ those saying "don't" because it's the vaunted Library, where work is supposedly done. No girl goes to a library to simply get work done - they want to be noticed, or approached. If they wanted to be left alone, they would get a study room or stay in their dorm. And if you play your cards right and ask a question in a self-deprecating way that touches upon her intellectual forte, you'll not only get an A but also a lay.
 
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