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[Wazzim]

Sounds like something for older people with busy jobs, definitely not suited for someone my (19).
I need to 'feel' the connection and it simply isn't efficient. I can meet multiple girls for a fraction of the money/time spend on setting up your profile and dates.

So am I. At this point, I'm expecting Quasimodo.

He already posted a photo once, he's a normal looking dude.

 

[Izick]

So am I. At this point, I'm expecting Quasimodo.

Bingo.

http://www.okcupid.com/
http://www.badoo.com/
http://www.pof.com/

I see, thanks. Not sure I'll make a profile, but I'll definitely scope them out to see what's up.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Make a profile. Where's the harm in it? Just read the Nice Guys of OKC thread on what not to do.

 

[Kilrogg]

I'm not entirely comfortable with it, but heck, give it another year and I'll probably be lonely enough to try it.

You're a good-looking dude and a GAF mod, what else could a (wo)man ask for?

 

[Cyan]

so if online dating leads to that then win-win, i guess?

Dude, that's kind of the whole point of online dating.

 

[Seanspeed]

I feel very strongly about it.

I don't want to have false-advertising

All first dates are false advertising. Best clothes, best makeup, best behavior, etc etc.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Let's make a profile for Izick. I'm sure with GAF's collective resources and intelligence, we can craft the winningest and most swaggerific profile any red-blooded man could want that would capture the hearts of women all over.

 

[bjb]

I've met and dated some cool people on OKC.

Were any of them comfortable with you buying feminist porn?

Spoiler

jk

 

[Derrick01]

Would never ever do it but I guess if it works for some then more power to them.

 

[Aguirre]

Let's make a profile for Izick. I'm sure with GAF's collective resources and intelligence, we can craft the winningest and most swaggerific profile any red-blooded man could want that would capture the hearts of women all over.

http://scenekids.com/niggalodeon

?

lol, just kidding

 

[Plywood]

Let's make a profile for Izick. I'm sure with GAF's collective resources and intelligence, we can craft the winningest and most swaggerific profile any red-blooded man could want that would capture the hearts of women all over.

Do you want him to fail out of the gate?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

http://scenekids.com/niggalodeon

?

lol, just kidding

What the hell? lol

Do you want him to fail out of the gate?

I'm gonna make him a goddamn winner.

Question: If you specifically describe yourself as "quirky" in your profile, are you really quirky?

Edit: Oh my God, OKC has been edited with a crazy blind date function. This is amazing. Get ready, Izick.

Edit 2: It's been a while since I logged into my fake account, all my matches are intimidatingly pretty.

 

[Plywood]

Edit 2: It's been a while since I logged into my fake account, all my matches are intimidatingly pretty.

Go for broke.

 

[Messypandas]

i'm all for it, i guess! bet i much prefer physical relationships because i love all that good stuff thats involved like cuddling, kissing, even something simple like just sitting together watching tv! so if online dating leads to that then win-win, i guess? ^_^

oh Aggy if you were a girl i'd date you

 

[Aguirre]

What the!?? lol



I'm gonna make him a dang winner.

Question: If you specifically describe yourself as "quirky" in your profile, are you really quirky?

Edit: Oh my God, OKC has been edited with a crazy blind date function. This is amazing. Get ready, Izick.

Edit 2: It's been a while since I logged into my fake account, all my matches are intimidatingly pretty.

it a profile a gaffer made on that site, hehehe ^_^

 

[Holy Order Sol]

I see nothing wrong with it, having used it before, I've just worried at times for privacy-related reasons as I tend to compartmentalize my social life more than people usually do.

 

[forknknife]

All you have is talking so you get to know whether you're compatible pretty quickly. No time wasted on awkward dates where you try to make conversation and figure someone out because you've spent months getting to know them already. Then you can meet in person, see if the chemistry is there outside of the interwebs. If it is, perfect. You can figure out a game plan from there if it's serious enough.

And then you tattoo your face, of course.

 

[KevinCow]

It's pretty miserable. Sending out dozens of messages and getting zero replies makes me even more depressed than usual.

If you're half as ugly as you say, Izick, then you'll probably have pretty much the same experience. You basically have to be a model to get anyone's attention.

 

[Buddha Beam]

All you have is talking so you get to know whether you're compatible pretty quickly. No time wasted on awkward dates where you try to make conversation and figure someone out because you've spent months getting to know them already. Then you can meet in person, see if the chemistry is there outside of the interwebs. If it is, perfect. You can figure out a game plan from there if it's serious enough.

Yep that's why I feel it's ultimately superior. All my long term relationships, including my wife, we initially met or communicated extensively online. It's pure personality.
If you're just out for a good time or sex or whatever, it's obviously not a very good method compared to in person methods.
But if you're looking for something deeper, it's a smart bet, IMO.

 

[NEOPARADIGM]

Alternatively, you spend months on the phone / skype getting close to someone - only to be stunned by an awkward first encounter where they look different and there's no physical chemistry.

First of all, pessimist much? Why isn't this hypothetical person more beautiful in person than you imagined?

Second, sure, that's kinda the whole idea: online dating operates under the principle that you build emotional/psychological ties first, then move on to the physical, whereas "traditional" dating typically begins with the physical and then cultivates the emotional/psychological later.

Two identical approaches with identical goals, only with different starting-points.

I met my lady online; we've been together for 13 years.

 

[bjb]

You basically have to be a model to get anyone's attention.

This isn't true at all. Plenty of GAFFers have had success through online dating. Trust me, they're not models lol

First of all, pessimist much? Why isn't this hypothetical person more beautiful in person than you imagined?

Uhm. Actually it happens quite frequently. There's even been a movie / Tv Show centered around the idea of people being misled through online dating. As well as plenty of online horror stories. Not exactly sure what you're getting at.

 

[Rubbish King]

I have a profile on OKcupid I dont use it or have a picture, its interesting to see what kinda people are on there, i actually saw people i knew irl on there which was surprising

But id never tell them or anyone else i knew :3


Because I'm a cool guy

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Perhaps vague absurdity is the way into a girl's inbox. I mean, if your message is so weird and off-kilter that they have to reply, success!

 

[kittens]

I have a profile on OKcupid I dont use it or have a picture, its interesting to see what kinda people are on there, i actually saw people i knew irl on there which was surprising

Several of my top matches are friends, lol.

 

[Valnen]

I don't believe in non online dating for people like me. I won't find my fellow nerds in a bar, afterall.

 

[Cow Mengde]

Let's make a profile for Izick. I'm sure with GAF's collective resources and intelligence, we can craft the winningest and most swaggerific profile any red-blooded man could want that would capture the hearts of women all over.

Done!

 

[Wazzim]

Perhaps vague absurdity is the way into a girl's inbox. I mean, if your message is so weird and off-kilter that they have to reply, success!

I kinda want to do this, complete with an over the top profile.

 

[Voice of Reason]

I tried OKC but no one ever replies.

 

[Rubbish King]

Several of my top matches are friends, lol.

Ever discussed it with them?

As i dont use it for dating they dont actually know it's me...

 

[ThoseDeafMutes]

Perhaps vague absurdity is the way into a girl's inbox. I mean, if your message is so weird and off-kilter that they have to reply, success!

 

[Rubbish King]

I tried OKC but no one ever replies.

I'd reply.

 

[Voice of Reason]

I'd reply.

Do you wanna date me?

 

[Aguirre]

It's pretty miserable. Sending out dozens of messages and getting zero replies makes me even more depressed than usual.

If you're half as ugly as you say, Izick, then you'll probably have pretty much the same experience. You basically have to be a model to get anyone's attention.

im sorry you had a bad experience, but you know i think it also depends on how you construct these dozens of messages you send out.... like, i think short one devoid of any... well witty, humorous or funny stuff will probably get shunned aside. at least... i probably would... i'd definitely reply to the messages that have had effort put in! ^_^

that said, i tried those dating sites too and i never got any replies from anything i sent out

 

[The Technomancer]

I tried OKC but no one ever replies.

You just have to send a lot of messages to a lot of people. So far I've only ever had single dates (and one that turned into a close friendship with no overtones) but I really needed the confidence boost that came from going on dates with, well, anyone.

 

[Xanadu]

never done it and feels too weird for me

 

[bjb]

i never got any replies from anything i sent out

You seem like a pretty cool guy. I'm sure there's a girl out there - keep trying.

 

[jambo]

I'm not entirely comfortable with it, but heck, give it another year and I'll probably be lonely enough to try it.

Devote all of your time to your real love, GAF.

 

[kittens]

Ever discussed it with them?

I did with some of them. Some of them sent me (intentionally) creepy messages, heh. I actually ended up joining because one of them always talked about it. I felt a little loserish at first, but that stopped when I found out how many of my friends are on there, haha.

 

[NEOPARADIGM]

Not exactly sure what you're getting at.

Given the choice between two hypothetical, purely fictional future occurrences, you chose to imagine and project the poor, unwanted result.

I'm "getting at" the question of "why would you do that?" but in a half-kidding way.

It's your world, dude, I just post in it.

 

[Rubbish King]

Do you wanna date me?

Do you have a nice car?

I did with some of them. Some of them sent me (intentionally) creepy messages, heh. I actually ended up joining because one of them always talked about it. I felt a little loserish at first, but that stopped when I found out how many of my friends are on there, haha.

None of my friends have ever mentioned it


Might be sneaky and check the mens side

 

[bjb]

Given the choice between two hypothetical, purely fictional future occurrences, you chose to imagine and project the poor, unwanted result.

I'm "getting at" the question of "why would you do that?" but in a half-kidding way.

It's your world, dude, I just post in it.

I was merely presenting another side of possibility. The reality, though, is that it happens. A lot (apparently).

Personally I knew a guy who flew halfway across the country (in the early 2000s) to meet some girl he met on AIM. Turns out she had perfected Myspace angles, and was about 60 pounds heavier than he imagined. Complete with yellow teeth. He flew back 2 days later after initially planning to stay two weeks.

 

[IAmtheFMan]

This isn't true at all. Plenty of GAFFers have had success through online dating. Trust me, they're not models lol

Yep, just ask Ashodin.

In all seriousness, online dating at this point doesn't have the same implications that it had say 10 years ago. Almost all my single friends of both genders have been online at some point. It definitely isn't the same as regular dating and takes a while to get used to, but with persistence you can have some pretty good results.

 

[Izick]

I don't even know what's going on at this point.

 

[genjiZERO]

I've had mixed results with online dating. It's definitely hard to get replies, and for the girls who send me messages I only respond about 25% of the time back. Then when I finally do get someone to get a casual cup of coffee most of the time they're dull or crazy. Then if you get even further than that all but one has ended up being crazy. Very recently I had a great experience with it - I met a girl I could talk with for hours and hours, and whose values and interests coincided perfectly with mine. However, she was a med student about to start her residency and so it couldn't go anywhere because she was about to move away. C'est la vie I guess. I still prefer it to simply talking to random girls. Much easier to filter through the nonsense.

 

[Cow Mengde]

i never got any replies from anything i sent out

Just don't give up. Girls can be really picky. Just browse the dating threads and learn how to message girls. Fuck, even I'm having success, and you're talking about a guy who hasn't been on a date for 8 or 9 years.

 

[Synth_floyd]

Just make sure to avoid the paid sites that will bullshit you with fake profiles and things like that. Online dating is fine.

 

[Toppot]

As far as I see it online dating gives you more information about the person before you first talk to them. I can look at a profile, see their interests, habbits etc and then decide to meet them. In real life you might like the look of them, might feel a spark, but online gives you so much more.

It's not like you either date in real life or online, you do both, and why not give yourself more of a chance of meeting someone to be with?

 

[Rubbish King]

I don't even know what's going on at this point.

Sign up for OKCupid you big girls blouse

 

[umop_3pisdn]

All you have is talking so you get to know whether you're compatible pretty quickly. No time wasted on awkward dates where you try to make conversation and figure someone out because you've spent months getting to know them already. Then you can meet in person, see if the chemistry is there outside of the interwebs. If it is, perfect. You can figure out a game plan from there if it's serious enough.

I find that my first metric for gauging romance is how I feel around the other person. Getting an understanding of the person's mind from conversation is important, but I find that if it doesn't immediately 'feel right' on some kind of gut level that I'm only just going through the motions. Maybe video chat could accommodate that, but for me, a person that tends to follow irrational 'feeling' metrics in these sorts of things above everything else, online dating usually doesn't allow one to get a feel for this quality.

 

[Plywood]

I don't even know what's going on at this point.

Uh, did you sign up yet?