I have been prescribed anti-depressants but I stopped taking them due to bad side effects. However, I get paranoid that people are out to get me. Like for example if I tell them off in a bad way, they would retaliate and try to find some way to harm me. I tend to overthink things at times and it is causing me anxiety and paranoia. How do I keep a calm mind because I start my new job on Monday.
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How do you not get paranoid that some people might be out to harm you?
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Get a therapist.
This is not a snarky comment. That's what therapists are for. Meds only do so much.
This is not a snarky comment. That's what therapists are for. Meds only do so much.
Yeah I also would sugest a therapist. They are experts and most likely can you help better than any medication can. And these days its pretty common to go to one. So do not be afraid of being crazy or so.
Also if you are on anti depressants maybe you should try other ones. This shit is really complicated and you need to find one that helps you.
Also if you are on anti depressants maybe you should try other ones. This shit is really complicated and you need to find one that helps you.
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choco-fish
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Agreed, go back to the doc and get a different medication. I’ve been on several over the years some didn’t help but one will eventually work for you. In combination with good therapy they can really help you on the road to recovery
bitbydeath
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I remain confident in being able to mess them up if they tried anything. Maybe hit the gym to build confidence in your own abilities?
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Catphish
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Deep breaths. Five seconds each way.
Try to detach from yourself through observation. You are not your body, or your emotions. You're just a passenger in the vehicle. Observe it. The moment you observe your body and mind objectively is the moment you are free of them.
It will be fleeting at first, and you will slip back. That's fine. It's not a test, and perfection is not expected.
It's like in quantum mechanics; observation collapses the wave function. Similarly, observation of your mind silences the chaos, even if only temporarily. When it starts up again, just observe it again. No judgment, no concern. Just observation. Watch, listen, acknowledge, continue. Don't fight the negative; acknowledge it as it comes, and passes through. Next time it comes, repeat. See it come, feel it go. However long it takes. The more you do it, the easier it gets, and the longer the silence lasts.
Remember where you come from. Remember your divinity.
The universe is in you.
Nothing is permanent.
There is nothing to be afraid of.
Try to detach from yourself through observation. You are not your body, or your emotions. You're just a passenger in the vehicle. Observe it. The moment you observe your body and mind objectively is the moment you are free of them.
It will be fleeting at first, and you will slip back. That's fine. It's not a test, and perfection is not expected.
It's like in quantum mechanics; observation collapses the wave function. Similarly, observation of your mind silences the chaos, even if only temporarily. When it starts up again, just observe it again. No judgment, no concern. Just observation. Watch, listen, acknowledge, continue. Don't fight the negative; acknowledge it as it comes, and passes through. Next time it comes, repeat. See it come, feel it go. However long it takes. The more you do it, the easier it gets, and the longer the silence lasts.
Remember where you come from. Remember your divinity.
The universe is in you.
Nothing is permanent.
There is nothing to be afraid of.
Corrik
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No. He is paranoid something can harm him.
What he needs to understand that no matter what he can come to harm at any time. Nothing can change if he gets into a car and another person wrecks into him. Nothing can change if a lightning bolt is going to strike him out of the sky. Nothing can change if someone is going to shoot up a store he is in or if a terrorist is going to attack a place he goes to.
He needs to accept that those are possibilities that cannot change.
But he also needs to understand that the odds of this happening are so miniscule and are extremely unlikely to happen. That they are so unlikely to happen that there is no point to worry about them. And, if such a thing were to happen, it is something you cannot change.
You cannot look out for everything in life. You cannot distrust everyone in life. You have to accept things can not go the way you want or that bad people in life could exist. However, you cannot change that and you cannot live your life in fear around that.
What if you miss out on the girl of your dreams because you could not accept that bad people do exist and understanding many good people do exist. Instead of seeing if a person is bad, you immediately wrote them off and lost out on meeting an amazingly good person?
Most people are good people. You have to accept that a person could be a bad person and if they wished to do harm to you they could. I walk past maybe a million people a year. If one of them wanted to harm me, they could. I understand that possibility exists. I cannot change that. Someone could just as easily harm me in my house as they can walking by me or driving past me or so on. However, I understand those odds are insanely small. That most people are good people. And, probably 99.99% are even oblivious to my existence.
You cannot live your life in fear. You cannot treat everyone as if they are out to get you. You have to accept the things in life you cannot change and go about your life in a positive way. Any single one of us can drop dead at any given second. We cannot let that stop us from living our lives and enjoying it.
Corrik
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Who are you talking to? Me? I didn't insult you or anything? I am confused...
highrider
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Therapy, medications, self medication, exercise, positive lifestyle, time spent outdoors and with animals. These things in different combinations depending on the person seem to help. I’m generally not paranoid but I have moments of it as well as social issues with anxiety. It helps me to think tactically, always taking a moment to scan my surroundings or situation, but also truly accepting my mortality and knowing that sometimes you just can’t duck it so you might as well live as you see fit and be happy.
Ecto311
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For me I just think the ultimate thing would be my death and that doesn't seem so bad so let them have at it. Plus why would anyone waste the time to harm me there are lots of other things to do than harm me. It helps believing you are insignificant and small in the grand scheme of things. Like being embarrassed. To you that one small thing is huge and ruins your day and to everyone else they forget about it minutes later. That shit can haunt you for years and the people who you thought were laughing at you are all going through their own shit and have no thoughts about you at all.
MastAndo
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I'm not sure how old you are, but I think you'll eventually come to realize that people aren't paying as much attention to you as you think. Most are so wrapped up in themselves, that the reality of our social interactions is usually much different than how they play out in your head.
Also, I'm not sure what you mean about telling someone off in a bad way. I'm not saying you should be a pushover, but you make it sound like an inevitable and common occurrence that you'll be telling someone off. You also have to realize that avoiding confrontation isn't as difficult as you think. The high ground/being the bigger person pays greater dividends in the end than the instant gratifying of reacting impulsively. I think you'll also learn that many of these situations are often not worth your time. Worry about you and bettering yourself, not what some person who is inconsequential to you might say or do.
Also, I'm not sure what you mean about telling someone off in a bad way. I'm not saying you should be a pushover, but you make it sound like an inevitable and common occurrence that you'll be telling someone off. You also have to realize that avoiding confrontation isn't as difficult as you think. The high ground/being the bigger person pays greater dividends in the end than the instant gratifying of reacting impulsively. I think you'll also learn that many of these situations are often not worth your time. Worry about you and bettering yourself, not what some person who is inconsequential to you might say or do.
way more
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If you are having paranoid thoughts and are aware of them it's entirely on you to find the right medication. It's rare that the first anti-anxiety drug you try is the right one.
What were you taking? How much? Did you quit it cold turkey? What were you taking them for?
Just because you were prescribed the drug doesn't mean you can't question, appeal, or ask for a different drug. It's your job to talk to the doctor and find the right treatment plan for you.
What were you taking? How much? Did you quit it cold turkey? What were you taking them for?
Just because you were prescribed the drug doesn't mean you can't question, appeal, or ask for a different drug. It's your job to talk to the doctor and find the right treatment plan for you.
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grumpyGamer
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I am very anty-meds, you need to see a specialist and maybe try to calm your fear by trying to prepare for it, like do martial arts so that you can maybe if something happens you believe you have the control over the situation.
You need to see if it is something you can deal with or need real help, it will make life easier in the long run if you treat it now
You need to see if it is something you can deal with or need real help, it will make life easier in the long run if you treat it now
Therapy and medication are 2 ways. I usually just tell myself it's all in my head, works 95% of the time... eventually. Sometimes being intoxicated (booze, smoke) doesn't help so I stay sober for a few days to see if that sorts me. Also I occasionally go super positive to compensate, try to put smiles on peoples faces to make myself feel better ^_^
RainblowDash
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Carry a knife, work out at a gym to build strength and stamina.
sirmixalot
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If you need therapy. You can google NAMI. It is a non-profit organization that provides free therapy services once a week. They are located in the united states in every state I believe.
Non-prescribed medicine is just as dangerous, as not taking medicine in some cases. I know that non-prescribed medicine is considered extremely bad for your health. That includes stopping medicine meant for mental health services.
If you stop taking your medicine you can develop other symptoms. The symptoms could develop because of the side effects of the medicine. The psychiatrist knows the right doses to stop it gradually and not abruptly. You can't stop medicine suddenly and expect relief or you could expect some symptoms or damages.
If a mental health patient. A psychiatrist will tell you about how to administer it for a gradual withdrawal. In that case, go as soon as possible to a psychiatrist. You don't want symptoms such as long-term depression. You don't know where the paranoia may be coming from. You need to see a psychiatrist maybe after stopping the medicine because you need the advice of a doctor (psychiatrist) anyways. If you are a mental health patient you should be medicated at all times by a psychiatrist. You should be seeing a doctor until you become stable. To get check-ups, on how you do. If you are not a mental patient, you still need to go through the process of checking up.
A therapist is a non-medical solution for people who were never diagnosed with mental illnesses. Try to go to one. But visit a psychiatrist if you were diagnosed. Depending on what the therapist says. They will tell you what to do.
Non-prescribed medicine is just as dangerous, as not taking medicine in some cases. I know that non-prescribed medicine is considered extremely bad for your health. That includes stopping medicine meant for mental health services.
If you stop taking your medicine you can develop other symptoms. The symptoms could develop because of the side effects of the medicine. The psychiatrist knows the right doses to stop it gradually and not abruptly. You can't stop medicine suddenly and expect relief or you could expect some symptoms or damages.
If a mental health patient. A psychiatrist will tell you about how to administer it for a gradual withdrawal. In that case, go as soon as possible to a psychiatrist. You don't want symptoms such as long-term depression. You don't know where the paranoia may be coming from. You need to see a psychiatrist maybe after stopping the medicine because you need the advice of a doctor (psychiatrist) anyways. If you are a mental health patient you should be medicated at all times by a psychiatrist. You should be seeing a doctor until you become stable. To get check-ups, on how you do. If you are not a mental patient, you still need to go through the process of checking up.
A therapist is a non-medical solution for people who were never diagnosed with mental illnesses. Try to go to one. But visit a psychiatrist if you were diagnosed. Depending on what the therapist says. They will tell you what to do.
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Yes, this
Big4reel
Member
I went to therapist my entire highschool life and maybe its just me but it never worked. I was also prescribed meds but it didn`t really have much effect on me.
That being said if you can afford it going to a therapist might be a good idea. Just know you also have to work to improve and make yourself happy on your own too, I moved to a different area, go new friends, went out and explored a bit more, work out a bit, etc.
That being said if you can afford it going to a therapist might be a good idea. Just know you also have to work to improve and make yourself happy on your own too, I moved to a different area, go new friends, went out and explored a bit more, work out a bit, etc.
One Eyed Willy
Member
I don't get paranoid because I know nobody is out to get me. In your case, you should talk to a professional.
perryfarrell
Member
The main thing is to realize that people do not think about you.
They don't have the time to plot attempts to harm you.
You're not the center of other people's attention, you barely even register on their radar.
The fact that you are the center of YOUR world doesn't mean your're the center of other people's worlds. You're not. You're just one of the nameless people to them.
(This reminds me of David Foster Wallace's speech 'This is water' -- very much worth reading.)
They don't have the time to plot attempts to harm you.
You're not the center of other people's attention, you barely even register on their radar.
The fact that you are the center of YOUR world doesn't mean your're the center of other people's worlds. You're not. You're just one of the nameless people to them.
(This reminds me of David Foster Wallace's speech 'This is water' -- very much worth reading.)
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