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[Lelielle]

You could always do the overused 'The Graduate" wedding scene for a hoot.

 

[Killa Sasa]

Sing Internationals player anthem, switching the he with she's and vice versa.

You'll at the very least have a hot song.

 

[pnjtony]

She came over to day and talked with my GF who also doesn't think it's the right choice right now.

Turns out she's actually terrified. She acknowledges she's in deep. Her dad for the $7000 he gave her from his 401K so it's really an issue of just having to go through with it. She's also got baby fever.

I feel bad for her. I'm not going to say anything. She knows it's not right but she's walking into it anyways so I don't really have to say anything.

 

[Jake.]

The answer is: you don't.

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[Mr. Spinnington]

Haaaayyy buuuuuuddyyyy, what's up--

OH FUCK LOOK OUT MARRIAGE

 

[puck1337]

Female friend as well and to get it out of the way, no I'm not in love with her. I have my own GF.

Anyways she's 22 and her BF is 20. They met last April. Neither of them have finished college and after they get married neither of them will get any sort of financial aid since they'll be married. This is their first real relationship for both of them. No employment prospects, financial backing, house nothing. It's not even like he knocked her up so it's "the right thing to do" cause I totally understand that.

Huh. I did the same thing 7 years ago, and we're still married and more in love than ever. We've both since found careers and now we have a kid. And I know for a fact that had anyone told us that we shouldn't get married, we would have just told them to fuck off.

In that time, we've also seen several of our friends divorce. When they were engaged, they also would have told someone offering advice to fuck off.

You see, this is the one area of life where people really don't listen to their friends and family. Unless one person in the relationship is doing something nasty behind the other person's back (cheating, drugs, etc.), they aren't going be open to advice. All you're going to do is alienate yourself from them.

 

[WrathOfOtaibah]

It is best that you don't. All it will do is make them defensive and have even greater resolve in getting married.

 

[Octagon]

You could always do the overused 'The Graduate" wedding scene for a hoot.

I like your avatar.

 

[mcgarrett]

No...in the issue with my GF she's in graduate school and gets a crapload more financial aid being a "SINGLE" mother. Playing the system? well yeah but it'd be impossible to pay for $500/credit hour classes on what we currently make.

So essentially, she's taking aid away from a real single mother... yeah, you're really not in a position to be giving life advice.

 

[gblues]

Female friend as well and to get it out of the way, no I'm not in love with her. I have my own GF.

Anyways she's 22 and her BF is 20. They met last April. Neither of them have finished college and after they get married neither of them will get any sort of financial aid since they'll be married. This is their first real relationship for both of them. No employment prospects, financial backing, house nothing. It's not even like he knocked her up so it's "the right thing to do" cause I totally understand that.

My GF and I have lived together for nearly 5 years and we're not married (even though we have a child) because we're still trying to get our education and we know we'd be screwed if we did get married.

What to do, what to do.

Stay the fuck out of it.

My wife and I met in March of 2001 and were married in July of 2002. That's a shorter amount of time than your friend has been dating her guy. We pretty much hit it off instantaneously and we knew immediately that we wanted to get married.

I have an awesome relationship with my wife that I wouldn't trade for anything. If you came to me in June 2002 and told me to cancel the wedding, I would've told you to fuck off, and I wouldn't have the little guy in my avatar today.

Bottom line, unless he's an abusive fucker that you know is going to mess her over physically and/or emotionally, it's none of your business.

 

[Squirrel Killer]

How do you tell a friend NOT to get married?

"Him?"

 

[BirdBomb]

tell her you slept with him one drunken night.

 

[Slurpy]

Female friend as well and to get it out of the way, no I'm not in love with her. I have my own GF.

Anyways she's 22 and her BF is 20. They met last April. Neither of them have finished college and after they get married neither of them will get any sort of financial aid since they'll be married. This is their first real relationship for both of them. No employment prospects, financial backing, house nothing. It's not even like he knocked her up so it's "the right thing to do" cause I totally understand that.

My GF and I have lived together for nearly 5 years and we're not married (even though we have a child) because we're still trying to get our education and we know we'd be screwed if we did get married.

What to do, what to do.

Sounds like a couple I know. After I rejected the girl, she had a breakdown, then promptly threw herself at another guy (shes the type). The guy had no willpower and went gaga over the fact that she threw herself at him, and they announced marriage plans in no time flat. The guy was a friend, and part of me wanted to warn him about her (I didnt think highly of her at all, gold-digger type, no emotional control, etc etc) but I knew it wasnt the right thing to do. Its not my place. Everyone has a duty to find out about who their going to commit to before they do so, and not my place to spread shit about others. But what to do you know, theyre happy as can be now. Glad I kept my mouth shut.