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[hgarrett54]

Unattractive, awkward, clingy, and very, very stupid.

oh, and that's just first impressions. Anyone who's talked to me for any amount of time knows I'm much, much worse.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Fat, hairy, and weird.

Jabba the Hutt

Ugly.

I'm invisible to men. It's cool now, but it used to really depress me (it was also dangerous, almost got hit by quite a few cars).

I think I'm invisible. Out of fuck/marry/kill, I get "who?".

Edit: Lots of similar responses. I feel like more people will die alone than ever before.

Insane, stay away from type.

Ugly motherfucker

gonads

Not to be approached

Disgusting.

I'm that awkward mix of invisible (low key, quiet, cling to walls in a room) and impossible to miss (tall, fat, bald and bearded). I also give off a cartoon character vibe by wearing basically the same clothes all the time.

A large, disgusting piece of shit that needs to go away.

Going by the sneers I see on some faces, a short, pale non-entity with zero sexual appeal. Vive la difference!

 

[CreepingFear]

I don't think a woman alive ever really found me attractive. My mom's friends would call me handsome, but I think they were just being polite. I think I either don't exist to most women or they find me scary or weird.

 

[JordanN]

"Black guy with a huge dick."

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I'm sure that above most things I come across as 'thoughtful' in a way that's restrained or not self-effacing, and I have good conversational skills. I also readily share my value system with people, or philosophize about ethics or 'how we should lead our lives' in a way that's mostly genuine and unpretentious. Sometimes I say funny things but mostly I'm pretty mentally flexible and try to develop rapport, have a fairly broad sense of humor, etc. I try to make other people comfortable and am a genuine 'people pleaser', while simultaneously holding a reserve of philosophical 'purpose' that's fairly exacting in the sense that sometimes I think I would be more suited to live off that in isolation than actually within 'society'. I think I come across fairly well with most people, because I'm good at 'diplomacy', but as a gay dude sometimes I think that women tend to like me more, but a lot of gay people say that and who knows how true it really is

 

[happypup]

I don't think a woman alive ever really found me attractive. My mom's friends would call me handsome, but I think they were just being polite. I think I either don't exist to most women or they find me scary or weird.

It's what's on the inside that counts, so the next time you like a girl show her some of your insides.

 

[Vermillion]

Who knows? I've been told that I have a nice physique, though.

 

[Yaphett Kotto]

Socially awkward fool.

Who's good at math.

 

[CreepingFear]

It's what's on the inside that counts, so the next time you like a girl show her some of your insides.

That might hurt a little.

 

[Chris R]

I'm not, and if I am it's in a negative manner.

Practical invisibility has it's perks though.

 

[Bjern Fita]

Feel I'm doing pretty well.

Forged a great career as a foreigner having to learn the language. Supporting a great woman who's on the track to Big4 partner if she wants it. 2 beautiful kids. Hitting the gym and looking better and better...

Hoping to make ladies jealous but I guess I have to get divorced to capitalize on it...

 

[Crayons]

Is there a word that means "looks like someone who is easy to take advantage of?"
If so that's how other people see me

 

[francknara]

before University:
dontcare.gif

at University:
care.fig

 

[FallingEdge]

I think I'm aight. Could be better could be worse.

 

[TOP SHOTTA]

"Black guy with a huge dick."

ORL? If you're serious and you think they think like that - what is that like? I had somebody I dated tell me they 'knew' I had a big dick. And it wasn't that I walk around in spandex shorts or something. I kind of do, but that hasn't stopped me from getting cheated on. It's nothing to write home about.

But again if you're serious what sort of vibe they give tells you that? ...and do like it or is it racist?

 

[Mistel]

Is there a word that means "looks like someone who is easy to take advantage of?"
If so that's how other people see me

Vulnerable is pretty close.

 

[0xCA2]

Repulsive, pitiful, feel bad for me & disgusted by me, etc

In HS guys would say "that's your boyfriend" and girls would be a big dramatic "ewww no~!", etc

 

[Necromanti]

Honestly? I haven't a clue. I've had women attracted to me (sometimes to the point of people being uncomfortably forward), but never men. Things would be a lot simpler if I were only straight. Maybe I'm just seen as inoffensive.

For the first response to have completely missed that or ignored by the exact sort of person who I was trying to make sure didn't feel left out makes me think I won't waste the time next time.

Thanks.

 

[wintermute0]

Unapproachable.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Is there a word that means "looks like someone who is easy to take advantage of?"
If so that's how other people see me

Gullible should suffice, right?

 

[Man]

Male. 30.

Damn short (5.5). Biggest problem by far.
Strong broad shoulders / physique.
Slightly overweight atm but still clearly work out.
Dreamy blue eyes.
Good job, stable.
People say I'm both serious and relaxed.

 

[akira28]

cute, quiet, smart. too quiet, too nice, a sexy, sexy man, dependable(hah), mysterious(huh?), noble. I've gotten different reviews depending, I guess on how I feel and what facets I portray. I think I'm a sort of cute, kinda disappointment, but someone out there likes me. Mostly I think I'm misunderstood, but I guess that's my fault.

Pretty sure some folks are being too hard on themselves in here though.

 

[Dark Octave]

To be honest, I often wonder what my wife sees in me. Just for the fact that dudes are ugh.

 

[jdouglas]

Distant

 

[TOP SHOTTA]

I'm sure that above most things I come across as 'thoughtful' in a way that's restrained or not self-effacing, and I have good conversational skills. I also readily share my value system with people, or philosophize about ethics or 'how we should lead our lives' in a way that's mostly genuine and unpretentious. Sometimes I say funny things but mostly I'm pretty mentally flexible and try to develop rapport, have a fairly broad sense of humor, etc. I try to make other people comfortable and am a genuine 'people pleaser', while simultaneously holding a reserve of philosophical 'purpose' that's fairly exacting in the sense that sometimes I think I would be more suited to live off that in isolation than actually within 'society'. I think I come across fairly well with most people, because I'm good at 'diplomacy', but as a gay dude sometimes I think that women tend to like me more, but a lot of gay people say that and who knows how true it really is

This comes off as how you *want to be perceived* not as you *actually are perceived* which are totally different things sometimes. I know exactly how I want to be perceived (and remember I'm talking about in a dating sense here and less about value systems and being a people pleaser, friendly and philosophical stuff) but I know that I'm not hitting the mark every time.

Because unless you are an absolutely unbelievable 1 in a million kind of person that is not how people see you. Because I can't say there's anybody I see like that. So good, etc.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Honestly? I haven't a clue. I've had women attracted to me (sometimes to the point of people being uncomfortably forward), but never men. Things would be a lot simpler if I were only straight. Maybe I'm just seen as inoffensive.

The only times I can remember being hit on by men were at gay bars, or sometimes at coffee shops by male barristas because you know, so I think that skews the perception a bit.

This comes off as how you *want to be perceived* not as you *actually are perceived* which are totally different things sometimes. I know exactly how I want to be perceived (and remember I'm talking about in a dating sense here and less about value systems and being a people pleaser, friendly and philosophical stuff) but I know that I'm not hitting the mark every time.

I see what you mean, but I disagree, the only deliberate motive I tend to have is to get people to like me, I don't really 'project' an image beyond maintaining some degree of reserve and that's because I'm prideful and hate to be embarrassed by my circumstances, most of these things are stuff I've filtered through people expressing their perceptions of me, and since I love validation I've thought about it a fair bit and composed it into a concept of my 'persona' after the fact, rather than before I just don't know how anyone can describe themselves through an external locus

 

[Poyunch]

"He's cool but I couldn't even consider him as a boyfriend."

 

[MadSexual]

Thanks GAF. I think I'm going to go outside now. I was going to stay in and watch the Pens, but they're making that hard to do. Can't figure out what women think of me if I don't see any, so let's see what happens.

I don't see this ending well.

 

[hxa155]

attractive but scary and not approachable

that's what they say

 

[Necromanti]

The only times I can remember being hit on by men were at gay bars, or sometimes at coffee shops by male barristas because you know, so I think that skews the perception a bit.

Now that you mention it, a lot of gay men I know are barristas. (The gay struggle, perhaps.) Perhaps you're right about the environment being key, as well, since being hit on as a man (and by a man) in a more "gay-threatening" zone is probably rare unless you are very visually striking in their eyes, or something.

 

[TomPUH]

Quiet and prone to getting too drunk.

 

[TAJ]

Honestly? I haven't a clue. I've had women attracted to me (sometimes to the point of people being uncomfortably forward), but never men. Things would be a lot simpler if I were only straight. Maybe I'm just seen as inoffensive.Thanks.

It's completely the opposite for me.
I'm straight and guys eyefuck the shit out of me all the time, (Got soooo sick of people pointing it out to me when I was building houses along a beach path in LA) but I'm invisible to women.

 

[Aurongel]

Cute but awkward most likely.

 

[User 100115]

Completely unnoticeable unless I'm dressed up. Then I often get called 'exotic'.

Until they get to know me then its 'a bit odd'

 

[Dark Octave]

attractive but scary and not approachable

that's what they say

This shirt may be for you.

 

[ThoseDeafMutes]

A neogaf moderator? Women want me and men want to be me.

 

[braves01]

"Damn that beautiful stranger got me hotter than July. I need to sit down."

 

[DiabolicalBagel]

I'm a guy and 5'4", how am I perceived? Shit, it's like I'm not even there.

 

[Dabookerman]

Unapproachable. Weird. Outsider.

I dunno really. I barely ever see any. I'd be interested to know though..

I definitely agree with one of the posts here. More of us will die alone.

 

[Arkos]

Relentlessly, overwhelmingly sexual, intelligent, insightful, caring, warm, and basically a 10/10.

So I don't understand why I'm having trouble finding a date.

 

[JordanN]

ORL? If you're serious and you think they think like that - what is that like? I had somebody I dated tell me they 'knew' I had a big dick. And it wasn't that I walk around in spandex shorts or something. I kind of do, but that hasn't stopped me from getting cheated on. It's nothing to write home about.

But again if you're serious what sort of vibe they give tells you that? ...and do like it or is it racist?

When they only make eye contact with my crotch.

Spoiler

Yeah, I'm joking

It's been a long time since a girl said something about me. I only recall during Middle School, girls really liked my face for some reason. I've also been told by others I have beautiful eyes.

 

[pelicansurf]

Handsome, confident, funny, and intelligent who borders on rude/annoyed(ing) and pompous on certain days.

 

[Randoug]

I have a baby face and women constantly think I'm younger than my age. It bothers me because they usually don't take me as seriously as I would like.

 

[Admiral Bone to Pick]

A lot of girls really like me as a friend and trust me a lot. At this point most of my friends are girls because I generally find them more empathetic and mature and their insecurities don't annoy me as much as male insecurities. There's also usually a deep mutual understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. I'm probably not the guy that every girl wants a boyfriend, but so what? I still really enjoy spending time with them regardless. And since I've been doing a lot of self-improvement in my life lately I'm confident that I'll find someone soon.

Wish other people weren't so quick to put themselves down, it's sad to see.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Now that you mention it, a lot of gay men I know are barristas. (The gay struggle, perhaps.) Perhaps you're right about the environment being key, as well, since being hit on as a man (and by a man) in a more "gay-threatening" zone is probably rare unless you are very visually striking in their eyes, or something.

I do think this is the case. I think there's degrees of 'ice' in 'breaking the social ice', and imagine how hard it would be to just hit on some stranger like at a grocery store or something. I wouldn't do it. I think in those situations it usually follows a form where people are just nice or friendly to you until they can decide how comfortable they are being a little more obvious. Most interactions you have with people in passing don't really get to that point, and I think only those very bold few are comfortable being obvious from the beginning.

 

[Mango The Magician]

Distant, quiet, shy, weird, and good-natured are words that come to mind, also a lot of gaf memebers descirbe themselves as quiet and distant, weird.

 

[Necromanti]

It's completely the opposite for me.
I'm straight and guys eyefuck the shit out of me all the time, (Got soooo sick of people pointing it out to me when I was building houses along a beach path in LA) but I'm invisible to women.

Shirtless?

I wonder what these factors are that seem to attract certain sexes.

 

[Herne]

I definitely agree with one of the posts here. More of us will die alone.

Yeah. I'm so used to the idea it's not a problem for me. I mean, sure, it's sad, but fuck it, I'm not going to live my life focusing on how I meet my end (heart attack for me, since it's in the family). I've done too much moping about it already, now it's just an accepted fact.

 

[TAJ]

Shirtless?

I wonder what these factors are that seem to attract certain sexes.

No, not even once.

 

[Vicetrailia]

They find me attractive, positive, uplifting, always smiling, charismatic, "intelligent", funny, mysterious, easy going, sexual/flirtatious, guarded and slow to committal, humor cuts deep but its always there, terrible text speller.

in relationships they find me to be a dark horse with a lot of layers, keep finding something new.