In terms of what I consider actual, real violence?
I've slapped an ex once, immediately apologized afterwords. I was under a lot of stress,working serious overtime, my then boyfriend and I were signing a lease to a new apartment, an apartment we could only afford if we were both working. He quit his job right when it was time to put forth the cash (it was still being built and we had moved out of our apartment, staying with his mom fr a few weeks until it would be finished). I had to sell almost all of my games and systems to be able to afford the place until he fund a new job. It didn't bother me at all, I'm not very materialistic. Three weeks into living at the apartment, I noticed he didn't bother putting any effort into looking for work and I was pretty upset about it. Two days later, I came home from work and he flat out told me he didnt love me, was breaking up with me, etc. I should mention, I have MDD and that year was very rough on me. I was relying on cutting myself to ease the pain (I hid them from him at the time), drank often, was extremely depressed.
What made me slap him was finding out that he called my parents and told them I was crazy, that he had basically financially carried me for months, and that I was out of control. I understand I was not the most emotionally stable person, but he lied to my parents abut the financial situation. On top of that, my parents were extremely mentally and physically abusive towards me while I was growing up, my mom especially. They were the wrong people to call about this sort of situation. That was when I slapped him. I wont get into the details abut what happened afterwards, it's really not relevant to this. I will say it ended in a suicide attempt and he and I getting back together...
Looking back, I regret hitting him. If I were a man,it wouldn't have excused my actions, so why should it excuse it because I'm a woman?
Physical Abuse that I would tolerate?
Now? None, unless it is in the bedroom (which I wouldn't consider abuse tp begin with).
In the past?:Though I've made a post about it in another thread, there was a situation where I tolerated it, too lazy to retype it so I'll quote it
He had shown violent tendencies before the event took place. Punching holes in the walls for rolling bad Dungeon and Dragon stats, breaking controllers whenever he'd lose at halo, and grabbing me really hard during arguments. Looking back, any of those should've been reasons to leave him. Now? I'd probably leave way before something escalated this far. If I saw ANY sort of indication that the guy had anger issues, then I'd immediately leave.
