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How to get over a girl fast?

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Not that it's going to solve your problem, but watch the movie Swingers. The plot is that the main character can't get rid of his feelings for his ex-girlfriend until he meets a new girl, which is basically what a lot of people have been telling you to do this whole thread.
 
Grow up.

A) If you got attached to her that significantly in one month, then "getting over her fast" is not going to happen. Only TIME heals it...

B) Drugs and alcohol for your coping method? Try friends instead...
 
EviLore said:
Women (humans in general) tend to be fickle, emotionally charged creatures. As a man, you should enjoy the time you spend with a girl who's infatuated with you, but take caution with forming strong emotional attachments. That way, if and when she throws you a curve ball like "my ex sent me a love letter so now I have feelings for him again, bye," you're not devastated and crying in a corner and can resume normal awesome life as soon as possible. This has the added benefit of encouraging behavior where she's going to try hard to win your emotional engagement if she wants it (e.g. a lot of blowjobs). You're not being a dick, still treating the other person well; you're just protecting yourself.

Have fun and be cool. It's the healthy modern approach.
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We should just have a tread "Ask evilore"
 
MMaRsu said:
Well I thought she was serious about getting with me..she lived together with him for a year and broke up with the guy two weeks ago.

I'll try to leave it in the past but honestly she gave me no closure whatsoever. She never even ended it, that came from me..
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You need to take responsibility for the things that happened and learn from this experience. You got involved with someone you work with (horrible idea) who just got out of a relationship (red flag).

Two options- number 1, realize you didn't handle things correctly, learn for this and move forward. You need to embrace your feelings and deal with this in a healthy manner. You couldn't control her actions but how you choose to react is completely up to you. Option 2 is to blame her, take no responsibility, numb yourself to the pain youre experiencing and learn very little.
 
HalfBakedProphet said:
You need to take responsibility for the things that happened and learn from this experience. You got involved with someone you work with (horrible idea) who just got out of a relationship (red flag).

Two options- number 1, realize you didn't handle things correctly, learn for this and move forward. You need to embrace your feelings and deal with this in a healthy manner. You couldn't control her actions but how you choose to react is completely up to you. Option 2 is to blame her, take no responsibility, numb yourself to the pain youre experiencing and learn very little.
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Those aren't even the biggest red flags. She cheated on her bf with him.
 
You need one of these.

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Messofanego said:
You need one of these.

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Well i watched that movie with her last weekend..probably a bad idea.

She did text me this morning that she is feeling like an idiot for treating me this way, and that i deserve better than her blablabla

Then she had to work at 1 oclock and ran into me saying that her head is a mess she doesnt know what to do or what to say...fml i told her if she respected me she would have come by to tell it to my face. Im just feeling like everytime before work i hear from her then after work nothing. I kinda want to confront her after work when she is done....
 
MMaRsu said:
Well i watched that movie with her last weekend..probably a bad idea.

She did text me this morning that she is feeling like an idiot for treating me this way, and that i deserve better than her blablabla

Then she had to work at 1 oclock and ran into me saying that her head is a mess she doesnt know what to do or what to say...fml i told her if she respected me she would have come by to tell it to my face. Im just feeling like everytime before work i hear from her then after work nothing. I kinda want to confront her after work when she is done....
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Do not do this. You don't hear from her after work because she has her BF. He distracts her. This push and pull she is giving is a way to keep you as a fall back. And it's working.

You are not in love, do not let her become an obsession. Just leave her be.


Trust me...no one person is worth it.
 
MMaRsu said:
I kinda want to confront her after work when she is done....
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Don't. Leave it be. Why would you want to have anything to do with her? Closure? You got closure when she got back to that other guy.

She hurt you, don't make the pain worse.
 
Tence said:
Don't. Leave it be. Why would you want to have anything to do with her? Closure? You got closure when she got back to that other guy.

She hurt you, don't make the pain worse.
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I was already starting to get over her a bit but now there is just the why really. I already texted her friday that I wouldn't send anything to her from my initiative and that I had already put enough energy into it. She had no reason to respond to that, even two days later.

Yeah but ok here's the problem.

She texted me this morning that she didn't know what she was thinking ignoring me and treating me this way. That was after I sent her a text two days that I was done with it and that it would be my last text sent to her from my initiative.

She still hasn't given me any clarity if she is back with the guy, but I'm 99% sure. Since we work together all I want is for her to come by and tell me face to face that she is done with it. Because right now even at work she spirals around it. And I have been giving her the option of telling me what she wants so many times, and I've already told her I'm fine with it if she wants to get back with that other guy, you know whatever.. All I want is some closure indeed.

I want to know why a girl would sleep over, bring condoms and watch romantic movies with me, and the next day she goes to discuss shit with her ex to pick up all her shit etc and then I don't hear from her again. I just want her to be honest with me and I don't give a shit if she's back with that guy.

If she wants to keep me on a line or something that shit isn't gonna work and that's why I'm going after work tonight.

I'll just say this

Listen I came to work because you I want to give you one last chance to tell me when you are coming over to discuss/close this shit off, not just for me but also because we work together and I want to keep it normal in the workplace. Whereever that conversation leads, I do not care but I just want this settled.

Something like that.. shit is fucked up and I really shouldn't have to go back to work tonight, but honestly I don't want to see her at work tomorrow and still not know wtf is going through her mind.
 
Does venting like making this thread help you?

Anyways, plenty of fish in the sea, life goes on, it's all for the best, etc etc
 
I thought finding another girl was the answer to this too but I'm going to argue against it. It doesn't fill the void. It really doesn't. You still hurt. You need to get over the girl on your own first before you're ready to engage in another relationship. It is just an opinion but it comes from experience. In your OP you said you only messed around with the girl for "a month". If it was only that temporary a couple of nights out with your friends should do it. Try getting over something that lasts years. That hurts. And that takes time. You should be fine in a couple of weeks. Tops.
 
Only thing is time, you need to try and stop thinking of her/him and move on doing other shit, eventually it'll come
 
If you've got it bad you're in for a few months of agony.

If you're lucky you'll find a new girl and will be able to cut that short significantly.

Otherwise, hang tight.

(Alternatively, you could try to embrace the hate and the anger. Attempt to grind whatever you feel for her into dust.)


Get a new girl, hide your desperation though.
 
MMaRsu said:
Long story short, I messed around with this girl who I work with for a month, but she went back to her old boyfriend and she left my ass in the cold. I need to get over this bitch fast! I've already smoked alkl my stash and drank all my alcohols
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is your name Toyler?
 
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