I really don't think that's the case. You not being able to tell that you will either be burned or generally not enjoy a game does not mean that I or anyone else cannot either. I can say with 100% certainty that I will not be burned by a game I pre-order, because I don't pre-order every big game that comes out. I'm not just pre-ordering games because other people are excited for them, or because a publisher's marketing team is telling me to be excited, I'm pre-ordering based on my own tastes. I know what I like, and I'm sure plenty of other people do as well. Also, not everyone relies on reviewers to tell them what games are and are not good. If you do (or did at some point), and you find that they are lacking in several regards, maybe you should stop listening to them (or maybe you already have). At the end of the day though, you're the one spending the money. Not the publishers, not the developers, not the reviewers, not the retailers; you. You make the decision whether or not to pre-order a game, and if you do not have the utmost confidence that you will enjoy that game, just wait.
That being said, I also think your proposition that no one should pre-order just because they can download games on day 1, or that they shouldn't buy the game at all for at least a month, is kind of ridiculous. For one, if you have Best Buy's GCU or Amazon Prime, pre-ordering physical copies is cheaper than buying digitally, and you get other perks. Plus, many people do not have the internet speed or bandwidth to support buying all of their games digitally. As a far as waiting a month to play a game goes, let me put it like this; I like Pokemon. I know I'm going to enjoy Sun/Moon. Why should I wait some arbitrary amount of time to play a game I know I'll enjoy? I'm getting in there day one and setting the groundwork for my competitive teams.
Waiting for however long just because a game might get better months after release doesn't mean I can't or shouldn't enjoy it when it comes out. Maybe my opinion is skewed because I don't buy tons of games, and I haven't bought any games that were busted on day 1, but I don't think I should be tied down to that expectation just because other people are having bad experiences with games that I'm not even interested in. I don't think anyone is displaying any traits of being an addict just because they don't want to be talked down to by people who are against anyone ever pre-ordering games.