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DarK SouL said:
So, ummm, she was living with her "(ex) boyfriend" while she was dating you?
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{Mike} said:
yes
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skybaby said:
Why haven't you stopped by her place?
edit: Actually, nevermind. I think I understand.
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Somehow, I don't even think he knows where she lives.
 
Oh man. This is pathetic.

Look, Mike. I am sorry for how bad you must feel. But this is the second thread about this situation that I've read (were there more?), and the other one had to be at least 3-4 weeks ago. This shit has gone on way too long, and we were telling you a month ago that this girl snowed you.

You have got to let this shit go. Stop contacting her friends, stop e-mailing her, stop getting in touch with the damn police. You got dumped -- if you guys were ever actually going out in the first place. I have to echo CabbageRed's question, too: What made you think, specifically, that she was your girlfriend? Was there a verbal agreement, were you emotionally physical, was there sex, were there I-love-yous exchanged, etc?

It really doesn't sound like it. You need to stop doing this to yourself, and more importantly, you need to stop doing this to her... whether she was in the wrong or not about how she dropped you completely, this shit looks borderline psychotic and all it would take is her to stop feeling sorry for you and start being a little creeped out for her to call the cops about you. You need to let this go.
 
What a depressing thread. I'm almost expecting some thriller twist like the girlfriend being a split personality or someone he killed a decade ago.

Imagine what the cops and "girlfriend" must think.
 
Chemo said:
Oh man. This is pathetic.

Look, Mike. I am sorry for how bad you must feel. But this is the second thread about this situation that I've read (were there more?), and the other one had to be at least 3-4 weeks ago. This shit has gone on way too long, and we were telling you a month ago that this girl snowed you.

You have got to let this shit go. Stop contacting her friends, stop e-mailing her, stop getting in touch with the damn police. You got dumped -- if you guys were ever actually going out in the first place. I have to echo CabbageRed's question, too: What made you think, specifically, that she was your girlfriend? Was there a verbal agreement, were you emotionally physical, was there sex, were there I-love-yous exchanged, etc?

It really doesn't sound like it. You need to stop doing this to yourself, and more importantly, you need to stop doing this to her... whether she was in the wrong or not about how she dropped you completely, this shit looks borderline psychotic and all it would take is her to stop feeling sorry for you and start being a little creeped out for her to call the cops about you. You need to let this go.
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v. good post
 
Chemo said:
Oh man. This is pathetic.

Look, Mike. I am sorry for how bad you must feel. But this is the second thread about this situation that I've read (were there more?), and the other one had to be at least 3-4 weeks ago. This shit has gone on way too long, and we were telling you a month ago that this girl snowed you.

You have got to let this shit go. Stop contacting her friends, stop e-mailing her, stop getting in touch with the damn police. You got dumped -- if you guys were ever actually going out in the first place. I have to echo CabbageRed's question, too: What made you think, specifically, that she was your girlfriend? Was there a verbal agreement, were you emotionally physical, was there sex, were there I-love-yous exchanged, etc?

It really doesn't sound like it. You need to stop doing this to yourself, and more importantly, you need to stop doing this to her... whether she was in the wrong or not about how she dropped you completely, this shit looks borderline psychotic and all it would take is her to stop feeling sorry for you and start being a little creeped out for her to call the cops about you. You need to let this go.
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Well okay I think I need to explain things a bit there. I met her three years ago with the help of a dating website. I went over her place and well we got together rather quick. Then, because of the distance, we stopped our relationship. Three years fast forward to this year, I contact her again and learn she's now living near my place, so I say "wouldn't it be cool to meet again" with no love intention. We did meet and well we got together again even if she had a boyfriend, meaning she was not being honest with him. This situation was pretty uncomfortable for me and I told her to hurry and move away. She did so, but now I don't see her anymore since she moved to an apartment. I'd like to say the (ex) boyfriend once caught me at the apartment, but we were in the living room chatting so nothing happened, she covered this by giving me sheets about her import company (cauz I was helping her with the company) and I came back to my house. Of couse, there was sex involved, everytime we saw each other. If I emailed the cops, it's just because I don't have any ressources left - I only know one of her friends and she's never online, I don't have a phone number of the parents and she sold her cellphone. She does not answer emails and she did not connect to her favorite websites nor the company's website for weeks. That's why I'm living in fear.

It's over for me with her, even if she talks to me again. She did so many things wrong and hurt me alot. For those who did not see my previous posts about this relationship, because I did not feel the need to start a thread at that time, are here some facts ;

- She lies to me even if I made it pretty clear I absolutely HATE lies ; yesterday, when I asked her is she had plans for the rest of the day, she told me "well maybe..." then stopped her sentence because she knew I would be mad and said "no" instead.

- Like I said, she never calls, most of our relationship is now exclusively online which sucks balls (MSN/Hotmail).

- She does not seem to care about the number of days spent without me. It's the second time I don't see her in more than a week (I'm only dating her since March, you do the math).

- She never says what she wants, even If I tell her she must do it.

- The other day, she said she took the bus to come and see me, but stayed in it because she "had a feeling she should not get out the bus" so she went back to her place, while I was patiently waiting for her at my place.

- She seems a little bit too much attached to money

- She told me she couldn't get my cellphone calls, but when she came to my job I tested her and it magically worked. I suspect she is using lies to cover things up. Now she says said cellphone is repaired, though she never have minutes for me (pre-paid minute cards).

- Sexually speaking, she always say "no" and well it seems weird and erroneous, but it means "yes". I can understand this because she has been a victim of a rape 2-3 years ago, but still....it kinda sucks when you have the impression you are raping her, and it is not because she does not like sex or anything.
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- If she does not have the cash to go to the movies, she won't accept me paying the tickets for her. Another example is, like one month ago or more, she wanted to call and I suggested to take my cellphone, but she did not accept because she did not want to use my minutes even though I told her it was not a problem.

- At a friend's party, a literally burst in tears. I drank a little over my limit and I cried because of my girlfriend. She wasn't there even if she could have been, and my friends told me she seems to be acting like a little princess. That was a shitty moment, and humiliating.

- The first time I did not see her for more than a week, I felt so bad and decided to go see her at the appartment. Again, I cried as soon as I entered the place because well it makes me feel bad inside when she is acting like I'm not that important, without a minimum of communication. She said it won't happen again, and now it's worse and I have this constant feel that I will puke.

- Almost each time she comes see me, she has something else planned later that day, meaning I can only see her a few hours. These hours are always in the morning, and it's getting on my nerves since everything opens later for activities. Plus, it's not normal.

- I bought her things, wrote her a letter, a poem, and she never bought me something, or took the time to give me something. There is this idea lost in my head that she may still have a relationship with the ex, but I don't want to judge that, because I don't believe she could do it.

- She has a very low self-esteem. I ALWAYS tell her she is good, beautiful, etc. but it seems to me she does not want to listen.
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THIS IS THE INTERNET.

It's not that hard to find somebody's phone number.

(Not that I really want to encourage your creepy behavior)
 
border said:
THIS IS THE INTERNET.

It's not that hard to find somebody's phone number.

(Not that I really want to encourage your creepy behavior)
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Her mother has a different family name than her, and it's very generic, so yes it's hard.
 
Doesn't sound like she considered you her boyfriend even if you considered her your girlfriend. Clearly you were her "on the side" thing. She washed her hands of you, yet you're determined to hold on. Let it drop, man. And take comfort in the probability that you weren't/aren't the only guy she was doing this with.

You have been played. Now buck up and find yourself a real girlfriend.
 
SuperPac said:
Doesn't sound like she considered you her boyfriend even if you considered her your girlfriend. Clearly you were her "on the side" thing. She washed her hands of you, yet you're determined to hold on. Let it drop, man. And take comfort in the probability that you weren't/aren't the only guy she was doing this with.

You have been played. Now buck up and find yourself a real girlfriend.
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Basically what I'm getting from the whole story...
 
Exes dropping any and all contact with their ex happens all the time, hell I'v done it before.

She wants nothing to do with you, it seems pretty obvious.
 
So she doesn't want your money, doesn't want to talk to you, and says no to sex (but you still have sex which - surprise surprise - feels like rape). She has now cut you completely out of her life and her friends are trying to tell you to leave her alone - yet you are calling the cops.

You need help. I'm not being snide; you need help. And, for her sake as well as your own, you need to put this behind you an let it go.
 
- Sexually speaking, she always say "no" and well it seems weird and erroneous, but it means "yes". I can understand this because she has been a victim of a rape 2-3 years ago, but still....it kinda sucks when you have the impression you are raping her, and it is not because she does not like sex or anything.
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Hmm... just so I understand correctly, you asked her for sex, she said no, and you did it with (to) her anyhow?
 
{Mike} said:
Well okay I think I need to explain things a bit there. I met her three years ago with the help of a dating website. I went over her place and well we got together rather quick. Then, because of the distance, we stopped our relationship. Three years fast forward to this year, I contact her again and learn she's now living near my place, so I say "wouldn't it be cool to meet again" with no love intention. We did meet and well we got together again even if she had a boyfriend, meaning she was not being honest with him. This situation was pretty uncomfortable for me and I told her to hurry and move away. She did so, but now I don't see her anymore since she moved to an apartment. I'd like to say the (ex) boyfriend once caught me at the apartment, but we were in the living room chatting so nothing happened, she covered this by giving me sheets about her import company (cauz I was helping her with the company) and I came back to my house. Of couse, there was sex involved, everytime we saw each other. If I emailed the cops, it's just because I don't have any ressources left - I only know one of her friends and she's never online, I don't have a phone number of the parents and she sold her cellphone. She does not answer emails and she did not connect to her favorite websites nor the company's website for weeks. That's why I'm living in fear.

It's over for me with her, even if she talks to me again. She did so many things wrong and hurt me alot. For those who did not see my previous posts about this relationship, because I did not feel the need to start a thread at that time, are here some facts ;
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You need to just face the fact that she played your ass and get over it. Who the **** cares if she's okay? She obviously didn't like you or respect you that much even when things were at their "best"... and I use the term "best" extremely loosely because even at best she was still living with and -- whether you want to accept it or not -- ****ing her "ex", who was totally not ACTUALLY her ex, but rather her real boyfriend who knew (and probably still knows) all of the following:

- A) where she lives,
- B) what her phone number is,
- C) who her parents are,
- D) who all of her friends are,
- E) probably her new MySpace address,
- F) and a new Facebook too,
- G) her new AIM screen name that she made so she wouldn't have to hear from you anymore,
- H) etc, etc, etc.

Basically, information she wouldn't give you. Now, I don't really know if she uses MySpace or Facebook, but I'm just trying to make a point here. You would have this information if she wanted you to be able to get in touch with her in any capacity whatsoever.

Come on, man. This is the second thread (at least) you've made about this bitch and you've been sweating this shit for at least a few months. You really need to come to terms. You will feel a lot better if you get some piss and venom flowing over this situation instead of this blowing kisses and wishing upon a star shit.

I really don't mean to come off like a dick, man... but this is not the way things should be handled.
 
Dear OP,

Hi I'm reality, and I feel the need to point out a few facts here. CRUCIAL facts....

#1. You are not her boyfriend.
#2. You never WHERE her boyfriend.

Come visit me sometime.

Signed,

Reality
 
Rushmore said:
Hmm... just so I understand correctly, you asked her for sex, she said no, and you did it with (to) her anyhow?
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THAT'S messed up. And then to email the cops pretending to care about her safety (when clearly, going ahead with rape-sex indicates the opposite). Seems ill-advised. Self-destructive personalities all 'round.
 
LakeEarth said:
Future prediction : It will be a happy ending, as Mike discovers the girl is still okay when the restraining order arrives.
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I laughed really hard and got a puzzled look from my boss. Good form, LakeEarth.
 
DarienA said:
Dear OP,

Hi I'm reality, and I feel the need to point out a few facts here. CRUCIAL facts....

#1. You are not her boyfriend.
#2. You never WERE her boyfriend.

Come visit me sometime.

Signed,

Reality
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Truth. Pure Truth!

This story sounded kinda fishy to begin with, but now all the details come out and we all know what is going on.

Living with her ex-boyfriend. Come on now...You might have thought you and her were playing the ex, but YOU were the one getting played.

Seriously, man. Please for the love of god walk away from this. This woman chewed you up and spit you out, but now you need to be a man and try to walk away from this with some shred of dignity. Please.

Like this isn't even one of those "give her some space" situations, this is a JUST DROP IT.
 
Rushmore said:
{Mike} said:
- Sexually speaking, she always say "no" and well it seems weird and erroneous, but it means "yes". I can understand this because she has been a victim of a rape 2-3 years ago, but still....it kinda sucks when you have the impression you are raping her, and it is not because she does not like sex or anything.
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Hmm... just so I understand correctly, you asked her for sex, she said no, and you did it with (to) her anyhow?
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Just so we all understand correctly, you asked a former rape victim for sex, she said no, you did it anyway, and it only "sucks" because you had the "impression" you were raping her?

She's fine. Walk away and just be happy a squad car doesn't show up at your door.
 
Everything Chemo has said is correct. {Mike}, even the reply in your own defense with the recaps on the situation has made you look more bizarre.

You were her short-term **** buddy while she was going through some issues with her permanent boyfriend. She worked things out with him OR she got herself a new man. For all you know, she's married and trying to put her old shit (you) in her past. Maybe she's still just messing around with guys on dating sites and whatnot, but certainly not you. She realized you had become too attached and needy. Every equation points to "you're no longer in her life because she decided so... stop being creepy, obsessive, stalker-ish."
 
So she was raped 2 or 3 yrs. ago? Isn't that how long the OP has known her? He also readily admits that he met her online he went over and they "hooked up" combine that with no means yes sometimes and I seriously think I'm going to be sick. I hope to God I'm wrong about this.
 
{Mike} said:
- Sexually speaking, she always say "no" and well it seems weird and erroneous, but it means "yes". I can understand this because she has been a victim of a rape 2-3 years ago, but still....it kinda sucks when you have the impression you are raping her, and it is not because she does not like sex or anything.
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My god. As someone who's helped a girl overcome rape and sexual assault, I want to beat your face to a blood pulp right now.

In fact, this combined with other examples of your blatant disregard for her and your obsessive quest to find her reminds me very much of the guy she was dealing with.

Leave her the **** alone.
 
Days like these... said:
So she was raped 2 or 3 yrs. ago? Isn't that how long the OP has known her? He also readily admits that he met her online he went over and they "hooked up" combine that with no means yes sometimes and I seriously think I'm going to be sick. I hope to God I'm wrong about this.
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Yeah, I regret skimming his big quote-a-thon because I didn't catch that sex line and proceeded to kind of badmouth the girl.

I feel pretty ****ing weird about this entire thread right now.
 
Dan said:
My god. As someone who's helped a girl overcome rape and sexual assault, I want to beat your face to a blood pulp right now.

In fact, this combined with other examples of your blatant disregard for her and your obsessive quest to find her reminds me very much of the guy she was dealing with.

Leave her the **** alone.
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Ditto on all accounts. It was kind odd/funny/pathetic until the rape story. Now it's just disturbing.
 
Dan said:
My god. As someone who's helped a girl overcome rape and sexual assault, I want to beat your face to a blood pulp right now.

In fact, this combined with other examples of your blatant disregard for her and your obsessive quest to find her reminds me very much of the guy she was dealing with.

Leave her the **** alone.
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Seriously. Did she also say "No" to going out with you, but you took it as "Yes" anyway?
 
Squirrel Killer said:
Just so we all understand correctly, you asked a former rape victim for sex, she said no, you did it anyway, and it only "sucks" because you had the "impression" you were raping her?

She's fine. Walk away and just be happy a squad car doesn't show up at your door.
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You miss the point. She liked sex and asked for it. It's just that, as a reflex, she was saying "no" because it takes time for her to have sex relations since the rape thing. She's insecure. I don't wanna contact her to change her mind if she did dump me, I just wanna make sure she's fine. It's the first time something so weird happens with a girl, that's all. She told me it took her much time to be entirely comfortable with sex and the ex, and I can understand with her past. It's not like I forced her to do sex, I always double checked if she really wanted to.

edit ; it's not Tremblay, nice try.
 
{Mike} said:
You miss the point. She liked sex and asked for it. It's just that, as a reflex, she was saying "no" because it takes time for her to have sex relations since the rape thing. She's insecure. I don't wanna contact her to change her mind if she did dump me, I just wanna make sure she's fine. It's the first time something so weird happens with a girl, that's all.
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Damn this thread is so disgusting and your replies aren't helping. Leave her alone.
 
Fireblend said:
Damn this thread is so disgusting and your replies aren't helping. Leave her alone.
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How is that disgusting? It was just her reaction to sex. She did say "I love you" and other compliments too, even while in the act of sex. It's not a matter of leaving her alone, I just need answers. I wouldn't even care if she told me something, but the situation is not normal.
 
{Mike} said:
You miss the point. She liked sex and asked for it. It's just that, as a reflex, she was saying "no" because it takes time for her to have sex relations since the rape thing. She's insecure. I don't wanna contact her to change her mind if she did dump me, I just wanna make sure she's fine. It's the first time something so weird happens with a girl, that's all. She told me it took her much time to be entirely comfortable with sex and the ex, and I can understand with her past. It's not like I forced her to do sex, I always double checked if she really wanted to.

edit ; it's not Tremblay, nice try.
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Dear OP,

Hi, this is reality again... why won't you come visit me?

Signed,

Reality
 
DarienA said:
Dear OP,

Hi, this is reality again... why won't you come visit me?

Signed,

Reality
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I don't think a **** friend or anything else you imply she was would have took the time to hang out with my friends, write me emails on a regular basis and call me. I WAS her boyfriend, the ex even knew it and just did not want to know more about it. They were together for 3 years.
 
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