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[demosthenes]

I feel drained if I go out too often. I feel best when I initiate contact on a night that I feel like going out. If I am asked I feel less inclined to go. Sounds selfish, but I have moments where I feel like I won't be drained if I go out.

This is another way to describe how I feel.

 

[Plywood]

Tell your friends to invite me instead OP.

 

[Kitsunebaby]

Sometimes I just don't have the money or energy to go to whatever function, but I'm a pretty big extravert so I still go out pretty often. Also, most of my friends live in other cities so a 45 minute drive to hang out is something I'm used to.

 

[Skinpop]

Yes, that 'meeting people' face is sooooooooo draining.... And kind of pissing myself off inwardly. All that nonsense anxiety of trying to be liked / liking white noise chatter x__x;;;

Tiring.

same here, I've lost interest in socializing for the same reasons. It was fun partying and drinking til I was 25 or so but since then it doesn't do anything for me. Don't like being drunk, don't like being around drunk people, don't like being hangover. Now I don't mind the occasional partying but then it's fun precisely because you only do it once a month or less. I try to organize activities that doesn't involve getting drunk but nobody's interested, and on the off chance they are they won't commit since it involves more planning than buying a carton of beer and head out to the nearest park.
I've lost many friends due to this over the last five years or so. But I'm not sad about it, can't really call someone who's only idea of spending time together involves drinking a friend to be honest.

I used to live abroad a few years ago, we'd go hiking, visit hot springs and have other social events all the time. Funny thing is I happily drank much more then(not that I drank a lot), feels a lot better drinking a few cold ones after a day of hiking than doing the whole club/party thing.
Miss that sorely.

 

[PaulExcellent]

I'll go for you.
Socializing is totally rad.

 

[oneils]

The driving is a pain. That is understandable. Having a few drinks under my belt helps me have fun, but I wouldn't drink if I knew I had a 45 min drive at the end of the night. So I'd probably not go either.

You could either invite them out somewhere closer and see if that works.

 

[Ermac]

relevant:

 

[WorriedCitizen]

Sounds like me. Socializing is exhausting. I'm an introvert. And i'm in the same boat with friends who just like to go to bars and clubs. And even when we meet at someones home it's just sitting around a table drinking beer or watching the same shitty comedies for the x-th time. Wish i had friends who would like to go to museums or art galleries. This sort of thing.

But all the people from my youth who shared such interests moved away. I once had a friend who had fun ideas like going to the forest and paint landscapes or messing around together with music software. Not long ago i told a friend that i would like to go to the woods with a metal detector and he was just like "eww that sounds boring". :/

 

[YesNOnoNOYes]

same here, I've lost interest in socializing for the same reasons. It was fun partying and drinking til I was 25 or so but since then it doesn't do anything for me. Don't like being drunk, don't like being around drunk people, don't like being hangover. Now I don't mind the occasional partying but then it's fun precisely because you only do it once a month or less. I try to organize activities that doesn't involve getting drunk but nobody's interested, and on the off chance they are they won't commit since it involves more planning than buying a carton of beer and head out to the nearest park.
I've lost many friends due to this over the last five years or so. But I'm not sad about it, can't really call someone who's only idea of spending time together involves drinking a friend to be honest.

I used to live abroad a few years ago, we'd go hiking, visit hot springs and have other social events all the time. Funny thing is I happily drank much more then(not that I drank a lot), feels a lot better drinking a few cold ones after a day of hiking than doing the whole club/party thing.
Miss that sorely.

Yes, yes. Can relate.

I don't understand that whole 'lets get together so we can get totally drunk and ignore each other cuz too drunk to connect' type of outing. I mean, partying hard is fun, from time to time, but to treat that as THE go-to outing type is mind-boggling.

I like hiking and museums and visiting parks and art galleries and all that. But my friends are mostly into retail therapy and partying / drinking hard.

Shopping and booze are great too, don't get me wrong. Just yeah, not sure about them being the primary and definitive outing occasions.

 

[leakey]

OP should organize/host some events for friends. I would suggest a dinner party. Do that a couple times and it will make you want to go out. Just gotta mix it up now and then.

 

[thoseAREmySHOES]

same here, I've lost interest in socializing for the same reasons. It was fun partying and drinking til I was 25 or so but since then it doesn't do anything for me. Don't like being drunk, don't like being around drunk people, don't like being hangover. Now I don't mind the occasional partying but then it's fun precisely because you only do it once a month or less. I try to organize activities that doesn't involve getting drunk but nobody's interested, and on the off chance they are they won't commit since it involves more planning than buying a carton of beer and head out to the nearest park.
I've lost many friends due to this over the last five years or so. But I'm not sad about it, can't really call someone who's only idea of spending time together involves drinking a friend to be honest.

I used to live abroad a few years ago, we'd go hiking, visit hot springs and have other social events all the time. Funny thing is I happily drank much more then(not that I drank a lot), feels a lot better drinking a few cold ones after a day of hiking than doing the whole club/party thing.
Miss that sorely.

Sounds like me. Socializing is exhausting. I'm an introvert. And i'm in the same boat with friends who just like to go to bars and clubs. And even when we meet at someones home it's just sitting around a table drinking beer or watching the same shitty comedies for the x-th time. Wish i had friends who would like to go to museums or art galleries. This sort of thing.

But all the people from my youth who shared such interests moved away. I once had a friend who had fun ideas like going to the forest and paint landscapes or messing around together with music software. Not long ago i told a friend that i would like to go to the woods with a metal detector and he was just like "eww that sounds boring". :/

These kind of things are messing with my life, too. I'm an introvert that WANTS to be an extrovert just because society clearly favors extroverts. But, I can't. I just can't. Standing in a crowded bar with music way too fucking loud to carry on any conversation just doesn't appeal to me. It never really did, but now I'm getting to the point where I can't even convince myself to give it another shot.