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[Cubsfan23]

if she's determined to cheat, she will use whatever logic to back up that desire.

him letting me go out with him = he doesn't care, so ill cheat

him not letting me go = he doesnt trust me/controlling, so ill cheat

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

if she's determined to cheat, she will use whatever logic to back up that desire.

him letting me go out with him = he doesn't care, so ill cheat

him not letting me go = he doesnt trust me/controlling, so ill cheat

YES. Nailed it.

I don't think she talked to OP about the meeting to fess up. She just wanted to see his reaction for the trap and to justify what she's doing for herself.

 

[KingJ2002]

you're not being a dick about the situation.

1. Don't let her honestly fool you. The biggest con anyone can play on someone is to show you the "truth" which coincide with the actions that have taken place... but dont share true motives and intentions.

2. You're both in this relationship and smart money knows to never put yourself in situations where you might hurt the other.


whether she realizes this or not... but now you dont trust her as much... that aura she had has started to dim... and SHE better fix that shit.

don't give her a pass... you're the one who's going to get hurt in the end... because you didn't do anything but play your part.

 

[Booser]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

 

[Cubsfan23]

she would have already made up an excuse if she really didn't want to see him

 

[Salsa]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

Doubt she'll cheat. Sure as hell the guy will try.

 

[Particle Physicist]

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

Finally. This is all that needed to be done.

 

[Booser]

she would have already made up an excuse if she really didn't want to see him

See thing is she is kinda flaky like that. Im the only person she doesnt seem to cancel things on at the last minute. I've actually said to her in the past you cant keep telling people you're gonna do stuff then cancel at the last minute. It annoys me when certain people are always doing it to me.

 

[Ginko]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

It's so obvious that she doesn't wanna see him. However, I understand your point when you let her make her own decisions, but as much as you like that as a man from you woman, they like to be told what to do once in a while. Because in the end, you can't treat a woman as if she was a man (e.g. just because you like to be given the choice to make your decisions, doesn't mean she likes it too, at least not always).

 

[Booser]

It's so obvious that she doesn't wanna see him. However, I understand your point when you let her make her own decisions, but as much as you like that as a man from you woman, they like to be told what to do once in a while. Because in the end, you can't treat a woman as if she was a man (e.g. just because you like to be given the choice to make your decisions, doesn't mean she likes it too, at least not always).

Hey thats true to an extent, or about certain things. Im not sure if women like being told who they can or cant see though. I remember a friend of hers broke up with a guy cos he wasnt "assertive enough". But that over little things like what movie they were gonna see or what place they were gonna eat. It was always "I dont mind, you pick". It drove her mad. My girl had to go watch Predators whether she liked it or not

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

You handled that like a man. This will not be a bad girl-age as many predicted.

 

[Cubsfan23]

See thing is she is kinda flaky like that. Im the only person she doesnt seem to cancel things on at the last minute. I've actually said to her in the past you cant keep telling people you're gonna do stuff then cancel at the last minute. It annoys me when certain people are always doing it to me.

she'll probably tell you she cancelled at the last minute with him then, but she really spent time with him.

 

[Doodis]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

Good job, you did the right thing.

 

[IonicSnake]

She might not want to actually see him but if he really is a good friend she might feel bad if she didn't go talk to him and is trying to make you tell her not to go. That way she wont feel as guilty as if you would tell her to do what she want. Just a thought.

I don't think she's cheating on you though. I thought so at first but reading through the thread and your posts it seems like she's open with you and if you're seeing that she's acting like she normally does with anyone else I don't see much to be worried about. If she's a cheater it doesn't matter what guy it is, she's going to cheat in the end. But right now it doesn't look to me like she's out to get laid with this guy.

 

[rainking187]

Ok I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

Jesus, if she was testing you you failed big time.

"Should I go hang out alone with this guy that clearly wants to fuck me?"

"Eh."

 

[matt360]

Finally dude! Sounds like things are good, at least from your girl's end. That other dude is still bad news though.

One question though, is your girl always helping out people in distress? Is she one of those people who feel obligated to help others when they are down? I know a few people like this, and while helping others is nice, my friends tend to go overboard and put themselves in situations that might considered dangerous. Whether that means cheating on a SO, or something that is actually dangerous and could get them hurt or killed.

 

[Jobiensis]

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

As long as that is really how you feel than you did just fine. If you don't want her to go though, you really need to tell her that. You aren't telling her what to do, you are telling her you don't want her to go.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries in a relationship. Adults are free to make whatever choices they want, but there may be consequences for those actions. It is far more conducive to a good relationship to tell your S.O. that something is really pushing the bounds of what you consider acceptable, than to let her do it and then hold a grudge for it.

It does sound to me like she is a bit uncomfortable about the situation and is looking to you for guidance.

Being that I don't know you or your girlfriend, your judgement should be a lot better than mine, so I'm just voicing my experience.

Good luck

 

[Booser]

"Should I go hang out alone with this guy that clearly wants to fuck me?"

Yeah but being a girl she obviously doesnt see it this way.

Half this thread alone has been the age old "can guys and girls be friends?". Girls perspective : yes. Guys perspective : not usually. According to her, and I have no choice but to believe her - he is just a friend. Of course I know thats not fully true from his point of view but as long as it remains that way from her point of view it's ok.

 

[Devolution]

Yeah but being a girl she obviously doesnt see it this way.

Half this thread alone has been the age old "can guys and girls be friends?". Girls perspective : yes. Guys perspective : not usually. According to her, and I have no choice but to believe her - he is just a friend. Of course I know thats not fully true from his point of view but as long as it remains that way from her point of view it's ok.

Even if he does want to fuck her brains out, if you know she's trustworthy it shouldn't be an issue. The fact that you're having issues with it should tell you all you need to know about your relationship, you don't think she's trustworthy. Either she's not or you refuse to trust her, and either way your relationship is doomed.

 

[Dan Yo]

Yeah but being a girl she obviously doesnt see it this way.

Half this thread alone has been the age old "can guys and girls be friends?". Girls perspective : yes. Guys perspective : not usually. According to her, and I have no choice but to believe her - he is just a friend. Of course I know thats not fully true from his point of view but as long as it remains that way from her point of view it's ok.

I think the guys that are saying he's the evil one with bad intentions and she is the sweet little naive one that has no idea she is being preyed on, are way off.

Despite what some guys here believe, women are not stupid. When she continued to see the guy, she knew damn well what she was doing. Don't fall for her playing dumb.

Either way, it sounds like you handled things correctly. Keep in mind though, that even if she makes the right decision in this instance, she still may have or was very close to screwing up. Keep your eyes open in the future, because it's apparent she is prone to straying when the right guy comes around.

 

[ZAK]

I think the guys that are saying he's the evil one with bad intentions and she is the sweet little naive one that has no idea she is being preyed on, are way off.

Despite what some guys here believe, women are not stupid. When she continued to see the guy, she knew damn well what she was doing. Don't fall for her playing dumb.

Either way, it sounds like you handled things correctly. Keep in mind though, that even if she makes the right decision in this instance, she still may have or was very close to screwing up. Keep your eyes open in the future, because it's apparent she is prone to straying when the right guy comes around.

See, this seems untenable. Do you really want to be with someone you have to watch like a hawk all the time? Do you think someone really wants to be in a relationship where all their actions are subject to review to make sure they stay in line? Both seem unlikely.

 

[Incitemaybe]

You are doing the right thing OP. Most of the people posting in this thread are straight up insecure. Best thing to do is be open and honest with her.

 

[Jobiensis]

Even if he does want to fuck her brains out, if you know she's trustworthy it shouldn't be an issue. The fact that you're having issues with it should tell you all you need to know about your relationship, you don't think she's trustworthy. Either she's not or you refuse to trust her, and either way your relationship is doomed.

That is a really stupid thing to say. What you are talking about isn't trust, it's blind faith. Ignoring a secretive get together with an ex is not trust. OP had every right to have trust issues with it initially, and the fact he talked with his girlfriend about it bodes much better than bottling it up under some machismo/feminist 'trust'. Most people will cheat given the right circumstances.

 

[KingJ2002]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

great answer! leave it to her and see if you two can get past this.

 

[zlatko]

She's got a penis waiting for her Wednesday. He's prolly doing naked jumping jacks in the mirror right now to keep in shape and get his pecker ready for the gravity dick hits against her chin he'll perform.

If it was me though...I'd call a ho out. As a man you gotta once in a while act jealous----even if you aren't the jealous type by nature. It lets her know you care. Just don't go over board, because then of course you are just an ass. If she brings up the, "I thought you trusted me," bull crap...then just say I do, but when you leave out important info like that I can't help but get suspicious. You'd do the same thing."

 

[soundahfekz]

Good job booser. I don't think anyone wanted you to spaz out on her, but usually the OP of these kind of threads ignore all logic and reason in favor of a desired result, which gets him dumped or cheated on.

Where you go from here with the situation is entirely different for each man. You did good though.

Spoiler

I would've said fuck that shit from the start but that's just me

 

[AlphaSnake]

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

The correct answer would've been: "I'd prefer you didn't...but I can't force you to do anything." If she loves you she'd find a way out. If she doesn't...well, she doesn't find a way out.

 

[Dan Yo]

See, this seems untenable. Do you really want to be with someone you have to watch like a hawk all the time? Do you think someone really wants to be in a relationship where all their actions are subject to review to make sure they stay in line? Both seem unlikely.

No. I wouldn't want to be with someone I have to watch like a hawk.

 

[K.Jack]

Now you know that just speaking to her about it from the beginning would have saved you from a lot of mental stress.

 

[Booser]

Looks to be the final update for those few left who care

She texted me today with usual run of the mill things, how her day was etc. Said that the dude text her this morning to meet up but she never texted him back. She had been sick over the weekend and even though she felt fine today she said it was a good excuse to miss the meeting, which she did.

Because she has a habit of flaking out on people I told her it would save her a lot of hassle if she would just quit agreeing to meet people if she had no intention of meeting them. So she said she would text the dude back and she if he wanted to meet for the coffee tomorrow. When I asked if she was still goin to do it after she knew I didnt like the whole situation, she said no. She said that she had never thought about it from my side of things (as in the guys point of view in general) and she agreed that I made some good points and because of that and the fact I just plain didnt like it she wasnt goin to meet him.

I explained that I never had any problems with her hanging out with anyone else, but this is a guy I didnt know who just ticked every box in the "dudes to keep away from your girlfriend" box. Maybe thats being jealous or posessive, but if it is then so be it.

She actually seemed pretty happy it. Maybe the people on here who said she was just looking for a definate response from me were right.

On the downside I got a terrible haircut today.

 

[FunkyPajamas]

All's well that ends well. I'm glad to know things worked out ok for you.

 

[The Shadow]

Looks to be the final update for those few left who care

She texted me today with usual run of the mill things, how her day was etc. Said that the dude text her this morning to meet up but she never texted him back. She had been sick over the weekend and even though she felt fine today she said it was a good excuse to miss the meeting, which she did.

Because she has a habit of flaking out on people I told her it would save her a lot of hassle if she would just quit agreeing to meet people if she had no intention of meeting them. So she said she would text the dude back and she if he wanted to meet for the coffee tomorrow. When I asked if she was still goin to do it after she knew I didnt like the whole situation, she said no. She said that she had never thought about it from my side of things (as in the guys point of view in general) and she agreed that I made some good points and because of that and the fact I just plain didnt like it she wasnt goin to meet him.

I explained that I never had any problems with her hanging out with anyone else, but this is a guy I didnt know who just ticked every box in the "dudes to keep away from your girlfriend" box. Maybe thats being jealous or posessive, but if it is then so be it.

She actually seemed pretty happy it. Maybe the people on here who said she was just looking for a definate response from me were right.

On the downside I got a terrible haircut today.

Not maybe. We were absolutely 100% right and look at that, shit worked out.

It's good that things worked out though. LOL at all the bitter forever-alones that thought she was instantly cheating.

 

[K.Jack]

Good stuff. I'm glad things went the way I had hoped.

Though you still need to resolve your feelings, on why you considered breaking up with her in the new year, even before the Facebook message came to light.

 

[Freshmaker]

Jesus, if she was testing you you failed big time.

"Should I go hang out alone with this guy that clearly wants to fuck me?"

"Eh."

Yeah. He should've slapped her and then rubbed her face in his manly chest hair.

 

[soultron]

Sounds like things went okay, OP.

Not hard to be honest sometimes, eh? You can still be tinge jealous, like all human beings are at one point or another, but not come off like an insecure psycho.

IMO, the thing you did right was make your position known and then let her decide what to do.

 

[Moobabe]

So this haircut of yours?

 

[Cubsfan23]

Looks to be the final update for those few left who care

She texted me today with usual run of the mill things, how her day was etc. Said that the dude text her this morning to meet up but she never texted him back. She had been sick over the weekend and even though she felt fine today she said it was a good excuse to miss the meeting, which she did.

Why is she thinking of an "excuse" if she wasn't even planning on texting the guy back? Unless she is talking about when she has a future conversation with him, that makes no sense.

Because she has a habit of flaking out on people I told her it would save her a lot of hassle if she would just quit agreeing to meet people if she had no intention of meeting them. So she said she would text the dude back and she if he wanted to meet for the coffee tomorrow. When I asked if she was still goin to do it after she knew I didnt like the whole situation, she said no. She said that she had never thought about it from my side of things (as in the guys point of view in general) and she agreed that I made some good points and because of that and the fact I just plain didnt like it she wasnt goin to meet him.

so she texted him because of you, and now she's gonna flake on him today and tomorrow? Your post is confusing

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

Ok conflicting opinions so I just wanted to clear a few things up, mainly regarding the "usual place" comment.

She had met him out once before in a local shopping centre one day, months ago. She told me about it casually that evening in an "guess who I got talking to today" kinda thing. I know the place and its the same place they are meeting this week. The comment was obviously tongue in cheek.

Also in the convo it was obvious they hadnt seen each other in ages, probably not since that time months ago so its not a "fuck place".

Anyway she came over last night to come out with me and a few friends despite the fact she started to run a fever so we went home early. She got pretty sick. Today she was saying that she doesnt want to go into see her old work colleagues tomorrow which she had originally planned to do as she doesnt want to give them the dose she has. (She was a part time nurse in an old folks home so she would probably kill them). She wants to meet me tomorrow instead. She said though if she was still sick that it would be a good excuse not to see the other guy on thursday.

I admitted that the whole thing made me a feel a bit uncomfortable, esp regarding the other dudes intentions seeing as I dont know the guy personally. I asked if she would feel uncomfortable had the tables been turned and I was meeting an old girlfriend one on one who admitted she wanted to cheat and had fancied me in the past. She admitted she would feel uncomfortable about that too. So she asked me what she should do. I told her that I'd said my bit and that the decision was up to her.

I know thats not macho enough for the majority of GAF but I believe that grown adults shouldnt have decisions made for them. If she expressly forbid me from meeting a girl I wouldnt. But I'd be pretty pissed. I'd appreciate it more if she just told me how she felt and left me to make that decision. I'm only doing the same here.

well good, you did right.

 

[Ashes]

Don't go close to the edge, if you don't want to risk falling off.
Lots of people go close to the edge for the thrill of it.
Lots of people jump off the edge for the thrill of it.

Don't transgress if you value your relationship I guess..

 

[Aselith]

Why is she thinking of an "excuse" if she wasn't even planning on texting the guy back? Unless she is talking about when she has a future conversation with him, that makes no sense.



so she texted him because of you, and now she's gonna flake on him today and tomorrow? Your post is confusing

Inspector Cubsfan23 on the case! This bitch be cheatin.

Spoiler

Time to retire, Sherlock. We closed this one out.

 

[Booser]

so she texted him because of you, and now she's gonna flake on him today and tomorrow? Your post is confusing

She was on about other friends texting her that morning, he was one, that she never texted back. I just made a general comment that she should text her friends back. But yeah the gist is that she isnt gonna go see him.