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[crazyprac]

Licking a GAF member over their entire body sounds like a sure fire way to induce vomiting, judging from some of the thread topics around here.

I'm dying! Hahahahaha

 

[trixx]

At the very least try to cut it don to once maybe twice a week. Turn off the portable electronics, at least 2 hours before going to bed/. Read a book or play a video game then knock out.

Actually what I do is go for a long distance run 3-5 km then take a shower. By the time I'm done I get so tire that I just knock out..

I know you can reduce it to like twice a week. From there cut it even more.

 

[PeskyToaster]

Sounds like you're too hardcore for sex to get you off anymore. Try doing death defying stunts, maybe jump out of an airplane or something.

 

[QuantumZebra]

So, a while back, I got drunk at a get-together and ended up fooling around with this girl. Everything was going fine, there was plenty of foreplay and she and I were definitely into it. But when it came time to actually get things going, things... didn't get going. I even dipped out at one point to look up porn on my phone to see if I could rev my engine a little, but nada. So I just ended up crashing in her bed with her.

At first, I figured this was because I had plenty to drink. Whiskey dick, right? But this morning, I was showering and I felt like cleaning my pipes as well. Now don't get me wrong, I wasn't just staring at a blank wall and vigorously rubbing my penis. There was plenty of imagination going on (since no pics). And while I could get hard, I couldn't finish myself off. I tried for, like, 15 minutes. Shao Kahn would've been disappointed.

So I'm having issues down under. It would've been easy to blame it on alcohol, but that's not the truth. The truth is I'm hooked. I watch porn everyday and masturbate at least once a day. I work with several pretty ladies and I constantly imagine fucking each one of them. I'm not going so far as to say that porn is ruining my life, but it certainly isn't helping. I'm lucky that I'm not in a committed relationship right now because this would destroy it. So, I'm gonna quit for now. A jerk-off sabbatical. Never done anything like it in my life before and my impulse control is spotty, so we'll see how long I last.

Anybody else have any similar experiences they've been through, or are currently going through?

As shit as reddit is and has been - I found some interesting stuff there sometimes.

One of those has been /r/nofap.

Lots of people addicted to porn to the point it affects their performance and their lives.

It's a simple seratonin/reward thing.

If a heroin addict gets pure stuff every day straight into their brain, then anything less won't suffice (seeing perfect women having sex and you being in the guys shoes).

--

Take a long break... when you do get back try getting your jimmies off to just like, bikini pics of hot celebs, like the good old days of the internet.

It helps, at least for me it did.

 

[Airola]

it aint porn, it's jerking off

just google it, or read my post, which basically just makes sense. there's nothing wrong with his dick

But one of his problems was that he wasn't able to finish when jerking off in the shower. If your theory is right, then he wouldn't have any problem jerking off since his penis has gotten used to it.

It clearly seems like his brain needs the visual stimulation that porn brings. And that can be a huge problem.

 

[entremet]

I remember when nofap threads were chided here.

My how times have changed. Good to see people getting help and reclaiming their sexuality.

 

[BennyBlanco]

https://youtu.be/6XRmAGbLhjY?t=44s

 

[JrBaconCheeseburger]

I masturbate two times a day every day. It affects my performance in that I take forever to orgasm. But that wouldn't be a problem if my SO was willing to help me out a little more. If I stopped id probably be tempered. It's like my saving grace right now, but I should also chill on it a bit.

Sounds like you need a new SO.

Isn't dealing with it just delaying the inevitable?

I am sure there is history but sounds like a shitty situation.

That's all

 

[jordan0386]

You've only watched too much, when you've seen it all.

Talk this silly again, and I'll find you.

 

[mugurumakensei]

But one of his problems was that he wasn't able to finish when jerking off in the shower. If your theory is right, then he wouldn't have any problem jerking off since his penis has gotten used to it.

It clearly seems like his brain needs the visual stimulation that porn brings. And that can be a huge problem.

Wrong. It proves he's right. If it takes 15 minutes to jerk off, it means your body's nerves have been overstimulated which necessitates longer and more vigorous stimulation.

 

[Agent_ShortBus]

Yup I have the same problem wich I'm trying to fix except I didn't have a problem getting hard, problem was I couldn't finish the last two times. Ended up going for an hour each time I felt so bad for the girl I actually apologized. I've almost completely stopped looking at porn in order to try and fix my problem. I think it's because of all the different types of porn movies out there that I've seen or just got used to switching around whenever I wanted that normal sex just wasn't enough anymore.

 

[mugurumakensei]

Yup I have the same problem wich I'm trying to fix except I didn't have a problem getting hard problem was I couldn't finish the last two times. Ended up going for an hour each time I felt so bad for the girl I actually apologized. I've almost completely stopped looking at porn in order to try and fix my problem. I think it's because of all the different types of porn movies out there that I've seen or just got used to switching around whenever I wanted that normal sex just wasn't enough anymore.

That you said try means it didn't succeed, have you tried ceasing masturbation altogether?

 

[Vicetrailia]

Sounds like you need a new SO.

Isn't dealing with it just delaying the inevitable?

I am sure there is history but sounds like a shitty situation.

That's all

She's my rock. but we've agreed to see a sex therapist. It's a trip though.

 

[Agent_ShortBus]

That you said try means it didn't succeed, have you tried ceasing masturbation altogether?

I've cut back but haven't stopped completely, I used to do it once a day and now I've been trying to go just once or twice a week while trying my best not to use the Internet.

Edit: Oh yeah it's really for me to finish on my own without any material. And just my imagination.

 

[JB1981]

Can't say I have this problem.

 

[DeaconKnowledge]

This isn't healthy.

 

[pdog128]

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

Can watching too much porn really do that? I was actually going to create a thread for this same issue.

This past Friday night I went out with a girl. I had three beers, firebomb, and whisky. Though I must admit I jerked off TWICE that day before the date.

Anyway went back to her place. Incredible ass and body. She let me lick her butthole. She's a freak. I should be incredibly hard right? Problem is? I couldn't get an erection. There was a point where I did get hard while doggy style, and I even made her squirt. But after that, nothing. Just me giving her oral and apologizing.

She said I was thinking too much and relax. I felt awful in our first meet up.

Would cutting back on porn help? Or was it a combo of the drinks too?

Edit-and please don't read this in Archer's voice.

 

[Agent_ShortBus]

Yup I'm sure the Internet broke my dick.

 

[Krixeus]

Edit-and please don't read this in Archer's voice.

 

[iPaul93]

Are you me?

 

[brawly]

Heads up: almost everyone out there thinks about sex constantly. I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking about boning your co-workers. I worked in a company building heavily dominated by women (95%) and there were at least a dozen women I would've liked to pull into a bathroom and fuck their brains out (with their consent ofc).

Stroking the shaft once a day is nothing. You only watch too much if A) it distracts you during your daily duties (work) or B) blood comes out

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

Heads up: almost everyone out there thinks about sex constantly. I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking about boning your co-workers. I worked in a company building heavily dominated by women (95%) and there were at least a dozen women I would've liked to pull into a bathroom and fuck their brains out (with their consent ofc).

Stroking the shaft once a day is nothing. You'll be just fine.

I go two-three times a day. Rare for three unless it's my off day. I'm going to cut back on it and see what happens. If this becomes an issue I'm going to cut my fire pole off.

 

[exYle]

Can watching too much porn really do that? I was actually going to create a thread for this same issue.

This past Friday night I went out with a girl. I had three beers, firebomb, and whisky. Though I must admit I jerked off TWICE that day before the date.

Anyway went back to her place. Incredible ass and body. She let me lick her butthole. She's a freak. I should be incredibly hard right? Problem is? I couldn't get an erection. There was a point where I did get hard while doggy style, and I even made her squirt. But after that, nothing. Just me giving her oral and apologizing.

She said I was thinking too much and relax. I felt awful in our first meet up.

Would cutting back on porn help? Or was it a combo of the drinks too?

Edit-and please don't read this in Archer's voice.

Dang, yo.

Obviously I don't know for sure, since I made this thread, but it sounds like you and I had similar issues. My lady told me the same thing

 

[AColdDay]

Holy shit some of the posts in here are blowing my mind. Internet porn really is fucking people up.

 

[Lashley]

First time I was about to lose my virginity I couldn't get hard, it was probably anxiety. I wanted the ground to swallow me up.

Girl kept asking if it was her fault, which made me feel even worse

 

[botty]

Have you tried having sex with other men?

 

[brawly]

Can watching too much porn really do that? I was actually going to create a thread for this same issue.

This past Friday night I went out with a girl. I had three beers, firebomb, and whisky. Though I must admit I jerked off TWICE that day before the date.

Anyway went back to her place. Incredible ass and body. She let me lick her butthole. She's a freak. I should be incredibly hard right? Problem is? I couldn't get an erection. There was a point where I did get hard while doggy style, and I even made her squirt. But after that, nothing. Just me giving her oral and apologizing.

She said I was thinking too much and relax. I felt awful in our first meet up.

Would cutting back on porn help? Or was it a combo of the drinks too?

Edit-and please don't read this in Archer's voice.

I go two-three times a day. Rare for three unless it's my off day. I'm going to cut back on it and see what happens. If this becomes an issue I'm going to cut my fire pole off.

Try this: first jerk off twice and try mating again, but sober. Then don't jerk off for a day and try drunk.

Could be either one, could be a combination, could be a once off.

 

[Salsa]

Girl kept asking if it was her fault, which made me feel even worse

that's better than the alternative

I couldnt get it up once drunk when I was 24 fuckin a girl that was 33

she got mad as hell and straight up berated me about being a lil kid and how it was her fault messing with young people and how I was not a man and she went on and on and on

now its hilarious but she made me feel like absolute shit on a regular case of just whiskey dick

she also didnt do nothing

I mean, if the girl im gonna have sex with is having issues getting wet or whatever im gonna work for it and help rather than get mad

what a bitch

 

[xxracerxx]

Try this: first jerk off twice and try mating again, but sober. Then don't jerk off for a day and try drunk.

Could be either one, could be a combination, could be a once off.

Did you really just use the term mating? Ha!

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

Holy shit some of the posts in here are blowing my mind. Internet porn really is fucking people up.

Well, sometimes when you have a dry spell you have to make sure you pump a few out before meeting up and later sex. Hopefully her husband didn't find out I couldn't get hard.....oh yeah its an open relationship on her part. Definitely didn't feel any anxiety about having sex on the bed she sleeps with her husband..

 

[exYle]

that's better than the alternative

I couldnt get it up once drunk when I was 24 fuckin a girl that was 33

she got mad as hell and straight up berated me about being a lil kid and how it was her fault messing with young people and how I was not a man and she went on and on and on

now its hilarious but she made me feel like absolute shit on a regular case of just whiskey dick

she also didnt do nothing

I mean, if the girl im gonna have sex with is having issues getting wet or whatever im gonna work for it and help rather than get mad

what a bitch

Wow, that fucking sucks. That's how performance anxiety manifests

 

[LyleLanley]

Well, sometimes when you have a dry spell you have to make sure you pump a few out before meeting up and later sex. Hopefully her husband didn't find out I couldn't get hard.....oh yeah its an open relationship on her part. Definitely didn't feel any anxiety about having sex on the bed she sleeps with her husband..

I think the idea is that you beat off once so that you don't get too excited. You shouldn't be jerking yourself dry before you even meet up with the woman.

 

[Red UFO]

I quit porn recently for this very reason. Shot fucks people up, honestly. Still rub one out every 1-2 days but only looking at pictures of hot models or something. Sounds incredibly lame when I say it like that but man am I glad to be free from porn's death grip (literally and figuratively)

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

I think the idea is that you beat off once so that you don't get too excited. You shouldn't be jerking yourself dry before you even meet up with the woman.

I hope you're right. im stopping for awhile. Hopefully I don't pre my pants while at work.

 

[Lashley]

that's better than the alternative

I couldnt get it up once drunk when I was 24 fuckin a girl that was 33

she got mad as hell and straight up berated me about being a lil kid and how it was her fault messing with young people and how I was not a man and she went on and on and on

now its hilarious but she made me feel like absolute shit on a regular case of just whiskey dick

she also didnt do nothing

I mean, if the girl im gonna have sex with is having issues getting wet or whatever im gonna work for it and help rather than get mad

what a bitch

your dick did you a favor that day

 

[Izayoi]

Yeah, it is known... good thing you can combat it with sildenafil. Thanks, Doc. Now I can beat off and fuck my wife on the daily.

I'm sure I'll regret it when I get older, but damn is it awesome in the now.

 

[Airola]

Wrong. It proves he's right. If it takes 15 minutes to jerk off, it means your body's nerves have been overstimulated which necessitates longer and more vigorous stimulation.

No, his original theory was that jerking off a lot makes him used to the exact grip and rhythm. And because of that, the looser grip of a vagina with a different rhythm isn't going to do the trick.

The OP hasn't had problem with jerking off while watching porn. But now he first has problems with finishing when having sex with a woman. Then, he has problems when he's trying to jerk off without having a woman there or without watching porn.

Well, to be fair, he tried to look at some porn during the situation with the girl to see if that would help, and it didn't. So that could mean the issue isn't porn. But I'd say this is more of a proof of a psychological thing. He had already "failed" to get the sex going. In those situations absolutely nothing might help anymore, other than trying it again the next day or so.

I'd say his brain was looking for something certain, and his expectations of the situation were way too high. The brain is looking for same types of stimulating visuals than what's seen in porn and at the same time the brain is making you expect yourself to be what you've seen in porn.
Like, "now I should do this and that, now I should see this and that, now I should feel this and that, now I should hear this and that." And when those don't happen, the body might suddenly give up, and it's hard to get things work again after that has happened.

 

[Salsa]

your dick did you a favor that day

I fucked her the next morning cause she was really hot but yeah

 

[IISANDERII]

it aint porn, it's jerking off

just google it, or read my post, which basically just makes sense. there's nothing wrong with his dick

if you stop masturbating for a bit, you built that shit up, and then having actual sex is much more rewarding and pleasurable since you're not stroking your dick fast like a maniac twice a day and suddenly have to switch to a looser, slower-paced vagina.

it aint rocket science

I've never jerked off like that!

 

[SgtCobra]

Yep, another member here with the same experiences. Lay off the porn and the masturbation for a few weeks and the results will be very rewarding.

 

[LyleLanley]

I hope you're right. im stopping for awhile. Hopefully I don't pre my pants while at work.

That's a risk worth taking.

 

[scotcheggz]

NoFap is a terrible idea, I kinda casually tried it before, I mean I didn't have a wall planner or anything I just consciously decided to not fap for a few days and see how it affected my motivation etc.

Long story short, by day 8 I wanted to fuck everything in sight and my balls ached like hell. I had one of those painful blue ball faps and put the whole nasty little affair behind me.

 

[~Devil Trigger~]

try masturbating without porn, imagining a woman you know or had sex with before.

 

[JrBaconCheeseburger]

She's my rock. but we've agreed to see a sex therapist. It's a trip though.

Good start and good luck to you.

 

[LyleLanley]

try masturbating without porn, imagining a woman you know or had sex with before.

Know your audience man.

 

[Dusktildawn48]

Its funny that for me when a big game or console comes out (uncharted, halo, or even my vive) my sex with my wife gets so much better cause I don't watch or jerk it during those times

 

[Kinsei]

Like others have said, go for a few weeks without porn and masturbation and see if that helps. If it doesn't then go see a doctor.

NoFap is a terrible idea, I kinda casually tried it before, I mean I didn't have a wall planner or anything I just consciously decided to not fap for a few days and see how it affected my motivation etc.

Long story short, by day 8 I wanted to fuck everything in sight and my balls ached like hell. I had one of those painful blue ball faps and put the whole nasty little affair behind me.

Sounds like an addiction to me.

 

[Mango Positive]

I'm 40 next year. I just had my first kid and my wife and I have been struggling a bit with the intimates with a young one nearby and all the tireds that go along with it. I just bought a bunch of "lil blue pills" from an Indian company (which totally worked without a prescription in the US) and decided to try that when the rare opportunity knocked. Results were spectacular. You need to be able to go a few days without waxing philosophical, but you can rely on the pills to take you the rest of the way, assuming the desire is there. Obviously, you should be able to do this without chemical help and you're a miserable failure of a man if you can't. Fortunately, the people who will tell you this are fucking stupid and wrong.

 

[shoreu]

I saw a documentary about this British guy who couldn't stop wanking. His life was in shambles because he wanked like 12 times a day. He even broke down at one point like "I can't stop wanking!!!". It was pretty sad OP, don't be like him.

Is it bad that I laughed at " I can't stop wanking"

Because omg lol