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I been trying to cut down for about 15 or so months now. Maybe longer. To no avail really, i had a good few stabs at it, but i just need to release from time to time. I would say that it not everyday now, but recently cut it down to a couple times a week, and i pretty much only watch Lesbian or Female Solo now. But i would advise just gradually reduce the amounts you are using. If like me, you been doing it everyday for 10 years it is going to be hard to just drop it. For those 10 years, it never really felt like a problem, it just became a habit, an habit i enjoyed a lot at times.

Personally i've been trying to stop because i realised that i was looking at most girls as a sexual object, i've been single for too long and kind of just accepted porn as an alternative, and i had that "what if i am gay thought" which i can't shake (Despite being 29/30 and having no prior thoughts to the matter) . Personally i have had no issues with performance - saying that i haven't had sex in a while, but whilst kissing or even talking to some girls i've had no issues becoming aroused.

I kind of get bored by porn now, and once you do step back from it for a while you realise how ..weird most porn looks like and how mechanical a lot of it looks. Also my head ain't been with the action on screen, it just a mad rush to ejaculate.

But i'm with the camp that porn addiction is a thing. I don't think the likes of /NoFap is the holy grail to every sexual related problems, it won't magically cure you ; personally i think there are deeper lying issues at hand, but i do think that reducing you consumption will have benefits. Since you are in a relationship, you should see benefits pretty quickly, and just try and experiment in the bedroom, take that curiosity to the sheets!
 
Salsa said:
yes, actually.

this is definetly a thing

i've had troubles getting up once or twice but there was also alcohol involved

here's the real deal: i've had more issues finishing, and staying hard, because of this

jerking off too much makes you used to your hand.

your hand is tighter and better (in that way) than any real vagina out there. you get used to a certain pace, a certain everything, and then fucking to that pace or getting such a tight grip is impossible, so its hard to get equally stimulated.

last GF we just ended up having basically porn sex because of this altho I was never explicit. I just pulled out and came onto her by finishing it myself.

I mean, I had no complaints, but since then half the time i've had sex with random girls I just didnt finish. It sucks.

if you're seeing someone or you know you're gonna have sex just... dont jerk off

it's a real thing man
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This man speaks the truth. Take it easy OP. If you know you're gonna get laid you just need to remind yourself of that and it will help you keep control until then.
 
It really annoys me when there is a lack of kissing in a porn. Mostly because my own RL experience contradicts that. Kissing make up about 60% if not more activities during sex. For porn not to emulate that feels artificial and impersonal.
 
Replicant said:
It really annoys me when there is a lack of kissing in a porn. Mostly because my own RL experience contradicts that. Kissing make up about 60% if not more activities during sex. For porn not to emulate that feels artificial and impersonal.
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Pornmakers feel you: X-Art, PassionHD try to emulate that style.

/out
 
If any of you have the self control I'd seriously recommend abstaining from masturbation for at least a month. I was sceptical about it at first but with a combination of porn abstinence and regular workouts at home I felt a huge improvement to my energy and motivation levels.
 
I had the same problem as the op,tried with a girl twice. First time I thought it was alcohol second time destroyed my confidence. I started using Viagra and things after that for awhile.

I Changed my diet and exercise regularly, it took awhile but now I don't have any issues even when im really drunk I just last longer. I still also fap at least twice a day and watch porn.
 
I'm with Salsa on this one. It's not just the porn, it's the act of jerking off. You jerk off a lot and you get used to a certain sensation that no vagina will be able to replicate. Death grip etc. Don't abstain just from the porn but form jerking off altogether as well for some time. After you have had a small break from fapping and you start doing it again, start using your imagination instead of porn.

I jerk off watching porn 3-4 times a day but this is of no concern for me since my general expectations of suddenly getting some action is basically nonexistant, and when the occasional miracle happens and I do get laid I'm so damn aroused (because it's so rare for me) that I end up finishing multiple times in a row.
 
YoYo Switch said:
its crazy the decisions you make when you're horny

i wandered into the VR section of pornhub and watched a video out of curiosity

i then decided i had to see this like it was meant to be seen, and ordered a google cardboard.

found some 2d porn, finished up

immediately started looking for ways to cancel the order, cumming with my face in a cardboard box for 15 dollars wasn't worth it anymore
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-Be horny
-Open a couple of porn video tabs on your browser
-Open a few more that look hot
-Damn, there are a few more that look hot hot hot!
-Open ten new tabs
-Open even more!!!
-Jerk off to one of them
-Quickly close 20 tabs
-See a glimpse of what you had actually opened
-Be disgusted and close the last 35 tabs even quicker
 
It'll get into your head like anything addictive can.

As far as advice goes spend as little time alone as possible - that's basically effortless time. Keep your reasons for wanting to cut down present in your mind, such as displayed clearly in your room - trying to 'willpower' your way through it is pointless, whereas getting attached to the your reasons can make the idea of 'giving in' more painful than just resisting the urge. And watch out for rationalizations - usually it isn't a case of finding a good reason to do something you're resisting the urge to do, but excuses to do something you already want to do.

Good luck.
 
Shredderi said:
I'm with Salsa on this one. It's not just the porn, it's the act of jerking off. You jerk off a lot and you get used to a certain sensation that no vagina will be able to replicate. Death grip etc. Don't abstain just from the porn but form jerking off altogether as well for some time. After you have had a small break from fapping and you start doing it again, start using your imagination instead of porn.

I jerk off watching porn 3-4 times a day but this is of no concern for me since my general expectations of suddenly getting some action is basically nonexistant, and when the occasional miracle happens and I do get laid I'm so damn aroused (because it's so rare for me) that I end up finishing multiple times in a row.
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Or if you really want to whack one out, use tons of lube.
 
I watch too much porn too

It's getting in the way of me organizing my porn

Boney said:
Shower wanks are there worst as well and it's probably not helping that you're focused on having to get a hard on or finishing.
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Dab a drop of conditioner on I'll finish in 15 seconds

Can't say if there will or will not be a buring sensation afterwards
 
Alcohol has a major major effect on it so you shouldn't be waving it off like that.
Shower wanks are there worst as well and it's probably not helping that you're focused on having to get a hard on or finishing.

Porn is normal and masturbating is normal. Don't be so upset with it, sucks that you couldn't get it up with the girl but don't try your brain by it unless it's a very common situation.
 
I've been thinking I had the same problem. Went over to visit a fwb for fun times, and God help me I had to keep myself hard manually. Not exactly what keeps the mood going.

I also felt an incredible drop in my sex drive after a one night stand with a new partner a few days ago, so I'm gonna try NoFap and just take it a day at a time. While it's certainly fun having a high libido, I'd rather not my primary partner be my left hand.

Either that, or I might find myself investing in a fleshlight just so I don't give myself a death grip.
 
Salsa said:
yes, actually.

this is definetly a thing

i've had troubles getting up once or twice but there was also alcohol involved

here's the real deal: i've had more issues finishing, and staying hard, because of this

jerking off too much makes you used to your hand.

your hand is tighter and better (in that way) than any real vagina out there. you get used to a certain pace, a certain everything, and then fucking to that pace or getting such a tight grip is impossible, so its hard to get equally stimulated.

last GF we just ended up having basically porn sex because of this altho I was never explicit. I just pulled out and came onto her by finishing it myself.

I mean, I had no complaints, but since then half the time i've had sex with random girls I just didnt finish. It sucks.

if you're seeing someone or you know you're gonna have sex just... dont jerk off

it's a real thing man
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i have this exact same problem. for a while i couldn't finish inside of my ex girlfriend; would always pull out and finish off myself. oral was the same way - but i'm not sure, maybe she wasn't good at it. she's also the only person who's ever performed oral on me so i don't really have a point of reference.
 
Salsa said:
yes, actually.

this is definetly a thing

i've had troubles getting up once or twice but there was also alcohol involved

here's the real deal: i've had more issues finishing, and staying hard, because of this

jerking off too much makes you used to your hand.

your hand is tighter and better (in that way) than any real vagina out there. you get used to a certain pace, a certain everything, and then fucking to that pace or getting such a tight grip is impossible, so its hard to get equally stimulated.

last GF we just ended up having basically porn sex because of this altho I was never explicit. I just pulled out and came onto her by finishing it myself.

I mean, I had no complaints, but since then half the time i've had sex with random girls I just didnt finish. It sucks.

if you're seeing someone or you know you're gonna have sex just... dont jerk off

it's a real thing man
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Yup. + Death grip is my problem.
 
If you think about it, our hunter gatherer ancestors probably weren't jerking off every day like "yo, lets take a break from tracking down this bison for a minute and have a wank".
 
While porn can have an adverse effect on your sex life, you should also look at your diet, sleep schedule and emotional state. There are a number of things that could lead to erectile disfunction.

You seem to believe that you may be addicted, so if you're really intent on cutting down the amount of porn that you watch, you should be tackling it the same way you would any other addiction. The moment you start thinking of it as a joke, you'll lose focus and fall off the wagon. Good luck!
 
I'm reminded of that member with the tag "just gonna rub one out in the next few minutes"
 
You're supposed to jerk off almost daily. Though you might still watch too much porn.

Either way, my point is that the jerking off isn't part of your issue.
 
TickleMeElbow said:
If you think about it, our hunter gatherer ancestors probably weren't jerking off every day like "yo, lets take a break from tracking down this bison for a minute and have a wank".
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Because they would just walk up to a woman and just fuck her right then and there
 
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