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I'm 28, she's 18. Should I go for it?

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Fuck the puritan mentality.

She's old enough and mature enough to make her own decisions when it comes to sex and love. If you turn her down, you are essentially insulting her intelligence and integrity as a person.

Go for it and screw dissidant opinions. The heart wants what the heart wants.
 
NOOOOOOO don't do it, I dated a co-worker once when i was 19, bad idea, once it ended she was a complete bitch and got me fired by sleeping with the manager..

PS:I learn that lesson at a young age never date where you work and i have never done it since..
 
terrisus said:
This keeps getting said throughout this thread. But, it's simply not true.

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And, if that bothers you, definitely don't go checking out age of consent in other countries.
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So in the states where the age of consent is 16/17 there is no restrictions with that? So in theory a 40 year old can go out with a 16 year old?
 
Anticitizen One said:
So in the states where the age of consent is 16/17 there is no restrictions with that? So in theory a 40 year old can go out with a 16 year old?
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There are restrictions in some cases. In particular, usually if the older person is in a position of authority or care over the younger person.
Definitely if it's something one is actually planning, check with the specific laws of your state (there are also laws about crossing state lines, so review that if that applies as well)

But, otherwise, yeah.
As I said, if that seems strange, don't take a look at age of consent across the world. There are many areas where it's even younger.
(And a couple which require the couple to be married)
 
Anticitizen One said:
So in the states where the age of consent is 16/17 there is no restrictions with that? So in theory a 40 year old can go out with a 16 year old?
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If it's like in Canada, there are probalby restrictions for people is positions of authority. Here (Canada), while the age of consent is 16, that age is upped to 18 when the older person is in a position of authority. So a 42 year old man couldn't sleep with his 16-year old student. I'm not talking about the school bylaws; that rule is established in the criminal code, so it would be a criminal offence.
 
There's an 8 year difference between my wife and me. We started dating when she was 18 and I was 26. Now we have a family and are quite happy together.

I'd say the co-worker thing is a bigger deal than the age difference.
 
AuthenticM said:
Fuck the puritan mentality.

She's old enough and mature enough to make her own decisions when it comes to sex and love. If you turn her down, you are essentially insulting her intelligence and integrity as a person.

Go for it and screw dissidant opinions. The heart wants what the heart wants.
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*maybe* 18 is only adult by societal standards. She may very well be completely incompatible and incapable of being with someone 10 years her senior. Or not. It's not set in stone.
 
The gap is too large for me for a relationship. 10 years is a long time and think about how things will be at work if it doesn't work out. Now if you're just hitting it thats a different story.
 
AuthenticM said:
Fuck the puritan mentality.

She's old enough and mature enough to make her own decisions when it comes to sex and love. If you turn her down, you are essentially insulting her intelligence and integrity as a person.

Go for it and screw dissidant opinions. The heart wants what the heart wants.
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Debatable, especially at 18.
 
Well she's over eighteen, but everything depends on the situation. Is the OP an insanely creepy, huge nerdy guy going out with an 18 year old that looks like a 13 year old? If so thats deeeply disturbing. If hes a normal looking ladies man going out with an older looking 18 year old then carry on.
I hope it aint the former.
 
Work with her? Who cares.
18? Not important.
Is she hot? Now that is what needs answering OP. "Pretty cute" isn't an inspiring description.
 
OP, you should bear in mind that this girl was in second grade the year you graduated from high school.

now I don't think that necessarily makes you a creep or anything. after all, you are both adults
...technically
. and she could be mature enough to handle the relationship.

but what could you two possibly have in common with each other? you've been out living your life for the past 10 years and she's only now leaving home. age may just be a number, but the difference in experiences between is profound.
 
I dunno why this is 10 pages already...

Anyway, if you want to, go for it. I'm 34 and went out with a 20 year old at work. She thought I was mid-20s but when she found out she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. Still wouldn't take it back. I'm the guy in the office who went out with the hot student worker that all the sap dudes at work desperately/pathetically flirt with every day and six months later it still brings a smile to my face.

Age doesn't mean shit, it's just more where both you people are in your lives. There's just a better chance that the younger one hasn't got there yet.
 
You will regret not doing her in the future when your like 45 or 50 and really fat. She is 18 so it is highly likely that she isn't mature enough to have a committed long term relationship with but, she is definitely old enough to understand how sex works. Anyway, I know 50 year old men and women that are still immature as fuck and I know girls half that age that actually have it all together.
 
Ross: I would date her but there is a big age difference.
Joey: Well think about it when you're 90...
Ross: I know, she'll be 80 and it won't be such a big difference.
Joey: No. What I was gonna say is when you're 90 you'll still have the memory of what it was like to be with a 20-year-old.

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Because they work together they shouldn't date? That's a bullshit. I was dating my female colleague and after some time we got engaged.
If you really like her go for it.
 
Picobrain said:
Because they work together they shouldn't date? That's a bullshit. I was dating my female colleague and after some time we got engaged.
If you really like her go for it.
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It is generally a bad idea. But, since he is in a temporary work environment, and I get the sense he's just thinking about hooking up with her a few times, I think he should go for it and have a good time.
 
As someone who's been in the reverse position - my 21 to her 30 - I'd say that you probably shouldn't view yourself as a predator. Probably.
 
When i met my wife, I was 24 and she was 20... I still felt like I was robbing the cradle.

I would never date/sleep with a coworker either. Bad things will happen or it will be awkward when the sex is long gone
 
Go for it! She's 18, probably really mature about casual sex and will most definitely not make a scene about the whole thing if it goes sideways. Who knows? She might even be still a virgin and you'll be her first real boyfriend. That'd be awesome right? Right? ... guise... right?
 
Younger girls bore me to death, and they're 99% of the time not worth the trouble.

The same probably applies do younger boys.

DerZuhälter;100907675 said:
Go for it! She's 18, probably really mature about casual sex and will most definitely not make a scene about the whole thing if it goes sideways. Who knows? She might even be still a virgin and you'll be her first real boyfriend. That'd be awesome right? Right? ... guise... right?
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Yup.
 
I'm 29. I couldn't imagine being with an 18 year old girl simply because I remember how fucking annoying 18 year old girls are. I wouldn't date under 23 or 24, honestly. There's just so much growing up that happens in those years.
 
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