You're in the clear. Be honest with your friend that you had no idea that he was pursuing her and that you've already won.
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You're in the clear. Be honest with your friend that you had no idea that he was pursuing her and that you've already won.
BriareosGAF
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A++, would read again to make me feel like I'm back in high school. It's the curse of wisdom that you can only achieve it through years of pain-staking, cringe-inducing mistakes. Enjoy it OP.
Also Mama Robotnik GIF is possibly the greatest thing ever.
Also Mama Robotnik GIF is possibly the greatest thing ever.
HappyBivouac
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Should have been first post.
NaturalHigh
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efyu_lemonardo
May I have a cookie?
I don't know what CW is, guessing some tv show. I absolutely agree expecting her to dump the best friend in favor of him was highly naive, but that's not what I meant. I was thinking about a scenario where you actually want to remain friends with the girl, and keeping your distance would be your way of allowing yourself to cool off until you could resume being friends. With no expectation of a relationship with her.
I was wondering if in that case you should tell her why you're keeping your distance or make up some white lie? Because it seems like just keeping your distance without saying something wouldn't have worked here..
edit: and I guess a white lie would be the more considerate thing to do.
No he won't. He probably took a sip of rum, coughed it back up, and went back to drinking Mike's Cranberry Hard Lemonade.
Lambda Pie
Banned
cold feet and a dry sausage. you ain't gonna get anyone moist.
Things are about to pick up, folks!
yeah, unless you plan on coming clean, why make everything super-super awkward? I wouldn't even say that distance would help. Just re-absorb those feels. Deal with it. dot jif.
Except in their case he claims she was sort of into him too.
Go_Ly_Dow
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You are a NeoGAF.com treasure.
CheesecakeRecipe
Stormy Grey
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Distance without explanation might work out best in many cases. Ladies love mystery and too many of them want what they can't have. If you stop acting like a simp and distance yourself, suddenly I could see that serving as a potential reset button on an otherwise friendship zoned relationship.
You emo all over her and explain why your achy heart can't stand being around her because of deep feels and her uterus is going into lockdown.
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Deleted member 47027
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Goddamn I like your style. I'd like to have a cigar with you sometime.
Mr. B Natural
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OP, the lesson you should have learned from your experience is that you did just about everything possible wrong.
And when you're a doormat, you don't get people off of you by confessing your love for their feet. Boyfriend or not.
Be yourself. You don't treat your normal friends like you treated your crush, right? Well then you weren't acting like yourself. Nice guy != doormat. The keyword in "nice guy" is not "nice," it's "guy." Act like one, you might get somewhere sometime.
And when you're a doormat, you don't get people off of you by confessing your love for their feet. Boyfriend or not.
Be yourself. You don't treat your normal friends like you treated your crush, right? Well then you weren't acting like yourself. Nice guy != doormat. The keyword in "nice guy" is not "nice," it's "guy." Act like one, you might get somewhere sometime.
José Mourinho
cocknose
OP comes across like a first class berk.
Top thread, would read again.
Top thread, would read again.
Flying Toaster
Member
You sir are a gentleman and a scholar.
Gotta love the OP for delivering to his thread and being honest with GAF.
Dont feel too bad OP. I had a kind of similair experience. Met my 1st girlfriend when i was 18 we were together for 5 years. Broke up and i fell hard for another girl who had a boyfriend of 2 years at the time.
We fooled around for a couple of months without him ever knowing. Until one day she got tired of me because i actually was in love/infatuated with her and wanted something real and not in secret.
Got all beta-bitch on her because she was slowly trying to let me down. I still cringe when i think back at the times when i called her to ask if she was still in love with me .. oh god the cringyness.
But anyway you learn from that shit and set your own principles. I made a point to just cut all contact. Delete phone and facebook. I still hear from her from time to time.
From there on i told myself to never ever get involved with women who are dating another guy. And i did. Even last week i met this really pretty girl at a bar who was obviously into me, started talking, had some drinks, she gave me her card. But then later that night i learned from a friend that she had a boyfriend of 4 years (my friend knew her boyfriend). Brought it up and she confessed to it with the usual bullshit "yeah but its not going to well and this and that and blahblah. I told her(because i was drunk and wanted to know) well damn thats too bad, i was just about to kiss you actually. She told me that i should try it. I told her "well no, i'm not going to do that" and walked away.
Okay that last bit had no real contribution to the thread but i was like fuckin proud of myself you know, being drunk and all, and its not like every weekend a really attractive girl hangs all over me.
Dont feel too bad OP. I had a kind of similair experience. Met my 1st girlfriend when i was 18 we were together for 5 years. Broke up and i fell hard for another girl who had a boyfriend of 2 years at the time.
We fooled around for a couple of months without him ever knowing. Until one day she got tired of me because i actually was in love/infatuated with her and wanted something real and not in secret.
Got all beta-bitch on her because she was slowly trying to let me down. I still cringe when i think back at the times when i called her to ask if she was still in love with me .. oh god the cringyness.
But anyway you learn from that shit and set your own principles. I made a point to just cut all contact. Delete phone and facebook. I still hear from her from time to time.
From there on i told myself to never ever get involved with women who are dating another guy. And i did. Even last week i met this really pretty girl at a bar who was obviously into me, started talking, had some drinks, she gave me her card. But then later that night i learned from a friend that she had a boyfriend of 4 years (my friend knew her boyfriend). Brought it up and she confessed to it with the usual bullshit "yeah but its not going to well and this and that and blahblah. I told her(because i was drunk and wanted to know) well damn thats too bad, i was just about to kiss you actually. She told me that i should try it. I told her "well no, i'm not going to do that" and walked away.
Okay that last bit had no real contribution to the thread but i was like fuckin proud of myself you know, being drunk and all, and its not like every weekend a really attractive girl hangs all over me.
ginger ninja
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take note timedog, this is the kind of pictorial representation i asked for..but your was fine too
Yep.
And unless you explicitly stated your feelings about the girl to your friend BEFORE they started dating, the whole "he went behind my back and snagged my girl" thing is a load of BS.
Adam Blade
WWKC
OP totally violated the bro code.
Holy shit this is 100% textbook friendzoning + keeping on the hook. You're her fallback plan. I'd feel bad for you except you literally did the exact same thing to girl #2.
being emotional in front of a girl is game?? loool
The thing is, he's not even her fallback plan, not after that debacle. He's been nuked from orbit.
He MIGHT be, like, her fallback, fallback, fallback, fallback plan.
Honestly, it sounds like Zozz has some pretty understanding friends. Could've gone much worse than it did. I personally think his bro should've talked to him before making a move first, but to be frank if it takes a dude that long to make a move, he shares some of the blame. I think Zozz confessing his feels knowing full well his bro had marked his territory was a more severe breach of code, but doing that sort of shit does take some balls and should be recognized.
One thing is for certain: his bro's dick game is better.
One thing is for certain: his bro's dick game is better.
Flying Toaster
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What did you want, a massive threesome or some hopless romantic movie crap where girl one falls for OP and girl two gets friendzoned but is ok with that because it was just sex on the side?
Can I post pictures of a girl I had a 3some with just to spice up this thread? I mean, GAF loves threesomes, and since this thread is full of personal anecdotes anyways...
ginger ninja
Banned
Go on...
Flying Toaster
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Damn skippy you can.
Liberty4all
Banned
this man deserves neogaf Gold for LIFE
Fixed that for you.
Zen_Arcade
Banned
You're the gift that keeps on giving.
And away we...go!
freenudemacusers
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Hari Seldon
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Back in my college a girl I was hot in starting fooling around with my roomate. I swooped in an married her up. If you like it you gotta put a ring on it.
Kano on the Phone
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Amazing.
Flying Toaster
Member
This is not a sound plan, how did you know she wasn't crazy?
With the third participant being her friend, girl #2.
It's the CIRCLLLEEEE OF LIFEEEEE!
Ether standards are getting low eh
Flying Toaster
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Guy is sleeping with Girl A and Girl B
Guy originally liked girl A but his bro took girl A and made her his bitch.
Guy has been hanging out with girl A and has developed feelings for her but still sleeps with girl B.
Girl B has feelings for guy and is willing to leave boyfriend for him.
Guy expresses love to girl A and she tells him to chill out because she is somebodies girlfriend.
Guy gives up and goes for girl B after being friendzoned by girl A.
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