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[bengraven]

Don't give up. You gotta BELIEVE!!!

Thanks.

I was doing great though, I was walking nearly every day and then suddenly I pulled a tendon while walking.

I spent a week not able to walk without excruciating pain and a limp. My exercise fell off and then my diet took a dip.

 

[Canova]

Thanks.

I was doing great though, I was walking nearly every day and then suddenly I pulled a tendon while walking.

I spent a week not able to walk without excruciating pain and a limp. My exercise fell off and then my diet took a dip.

dude :lol , I don't mean to be mean, but you gotta try harder than that. if you can't exercise at the very least you should control your diet

 

[RiskyChris]

Stop fucking up your diet. Every time you want to eat something you shouldn't, think about how much progress you make by not eating it.

Think about how much progress you LOSE by eating it.

 

[Blader]

Thanks.

I was doing great though, I was walking nearly every day and then suddenly I pulled a tendon while walking.

I spent a week not able to walk without excruciating pain and a limp. My exercise fell off and then my diet took a dip.

What? How did you do that?

 

[Big B]

hmm this is going to sound strange, but besides exercising have you tried switching to a rice diet? Say for example, meat once or twice a week but veggies all the time (with rice)?

 

[bengraven]

What? How did you do that?

I'm not sure. I was walking and felt flames in the top of my foot. I'm not sure if it's "pulled" or just stressed. Whenever I walked, the tendons in my feet were on fire for days.

Stop fucking up your diet. Every time you want to eat something you shouldn't, think about how much progress you make by not eating it.

Think about how much progress you LOSE by eating it.

I know, I know. That's the frustrating part: I sit back and am like "Jesus, why the hell did I do that?"

 

[grumble]

I'm not sure. I was walking and felt flames in the top of my foot. I'm not sure if it's "pulled" or just stressed. Whenever I walked, the tendons in my feet were on fire for days.

I know, I know. That's the frustrating part: I sit back and am like "Jesus, why the hell did I do that?"

I read earlier here that you need to lose about a hundred pounds. If that's the case, then you are morbidly obese (definition is 100 pounds overweight) and exercise is not a great idea. Your body will not be able to handle the stress which that amount of weight is putting on it, particularly if you lead the kind of inactive lifestyle that has caused you to accumulate that amount of fat.

What you should really do is diet down until you're a little lighter, then start some more activity. You don't have to go on a strict diet, or a complicated one. You just need to cut your calories. If your body has that amount of weight, then it takes a lot of food to maintain it and cutting calories alone should cause a rapid weight loss. Obese people can often lose weight multiples faster than someone looking to lose a few pounds.

The easiest way for you to lose weight is to count your calories, maybe via fitday.com. As long as you include all of your food, then it'll give you a picture of your diet and intake, and you can use that to track and adjust your food. After the initial phase where you enter in some foods, you'll find it very quick to do. Once you have a handle on how much you eat, then you can see where the problem areas are. Slice those down and you'll already start losing weight. Once the cravings stop (three weeks), then slice down more. Keep it there until you've lost about 30-40 pounds, then start some exercise (compound weights, not cardio! Weights burn more calories!). Once you've made it a lifestyle, you can continue down until you've got a sixpack and a beach body and have girls following you down the street.

Keep us posted!

 

[whitehawk]

I don't think I can win this battle.

I don't EVER want to hear you say something like that again. It's quite simple. If you try hard and truly believe you can lose the weight, you will. If you keep saying "I can't, I can't, I can't", then you will not.

I was taught an interesting experiment last week:

1. Tell someone to hold out their arms.
2. Push down on their arm, while they try to resist (You don't have to use a lot of force)
3. Now try having them say "I cant" over and over, while you push their arm down.
4. Next, have them say "I can" over and over, while you push their arm down.

Every time I've seen this experiment done, they resist much better when saying "I can", and fail when saying "I can't". Even if they try hard, the negative thoughts get to their subconscious, and it prevents them from doing the task.

Seriously, you need to stay positive. You CAN lose the weight, I know you can.

 

[Future Trunks]

bengraven, believe it or not, this has to be one of the most motivating threads I've ever read on GAF, and amazingly it was mainly because you chose to, quite frankly, "man up" about your situation. I'm in. I'm on the "bengraven support-bandwagon." I'll be worthy of this tag once again! (Well, I still am, the muscle hasn't gone anywhere, the body fat % has just increased LOL) While I don't have any kids....or a spouse....I can understand where a lot of the excuses and cop-outs you mentioned come from and how easy it is for them to stop you. In my own life, between working 40+ hours a week, driving 2 hours to school and 2 hours back 1-2 days out of the week, studying for exams, being a homeowner, sitting at a desk 10 hours a day and God knows what else, it's easy to always be "too tired" to get in the gym in the morning or grab a #5 value meal from the drive thru because you've been too busy to cook your own food, and many many more excuses. Having transitioned from college life and working out and eating a certain way, my mind didn't properly adapt itself to the time constraints I put myself under in regards to my lifestyle.

I've already been working on some things and man, the road back is much tougher than the road to put on weight in the first place LOL (shoulda listened to the older folks when I was young about how easy it would be to drop the weight when I was younger). Not because of the exercise necessarily or my body aging, but because it's so easy to let other "grown-up" committments or excuses stop you from doing what's most important - taking care of yourself. Especially when it comes to career advancement and adult responsibilities.

Remember, no matter what, if you happen to eat something not so good, then it's water under the bridge, bounce back by eating a nutritious meal next time and getting the exercise. Be consistent. Don't decide "hmm, well, I ate that, time to blow the whole thing!" As a nutritionist used to tell me: "If you were driving along down the road and suddenly you got a flat tire, since you blew out one tire would you up and decide to hop out of the car and slit the other three?" Cheating is not failure. I think a lot of people think, once you cheat it's "all over, bail out, game over, man, game over!"

Keep it up bro. It's good to be self-aware.

Thread bookmarked for future browsing.

 

[Price Dalton]

Look into ketogenic, or paleo diets. Eat healthy fat to lose fat. Whether there's a metabolic advantage, or fat just fills you up faster leading to reduced caloric intake, these diets really do work. And they're totally sustainable and health-promoting in the long run.

And someone mentioned a "rice diet." That's possibly the worst diet an obese, most likely insulin-resistant person can follow.

 

[Ignis Fatuus]

If you snack healthy in between meals and just stick to your diet you should see results without too much grief. It sounds like you know better but don't stop yourself.

The problem, then, is not in the plan--the problem is clearly discipline. I think people are being too sensitive by not pointing this out.

You need to kick your own ass in gear, or find someone who's willing to do it for you. Without discipline, no diet and no exercise plan can help you. You've got to want it, and you've got to want it bad enough to suffer for it.

If you just cheat when the going gets tough, you're not cut out for it. Here's how that will end: You're going to keep making halfassed attempts, screw them up, then feel bad for yourself and start pigging out.

Go all the way or don't. Halfassed attempts do more harm than good and they waste your time.

 

[Jea Song]

Did you ever play sports as a child? Which one did you actually enjoy playing? For me, I enjoy basketball. It's something you can do alone. As well as jogging. IT doesnt cost much either. Just buy a pair of shorts, a shirt, and some cheap running shoes that fit. And a basketball if you want to play. The hardest part is finding the time to do these things. If you can afford, then buy a treadmill if if you wanna stay home. You can find the time. If you can post on gaf, then you can run on that treadmill for 15 or 20 mins.

As for the diet part. Find things that are healthy for you that you actually enjoy. There are plenty of foods that are good for you and taste good. Buy some vitamins and take them everyday. Do some form of excersise at least once a week. This followed by eating healthier foods. Slowly increase your excersise. Eventually, you will start to shed the pounds and FEEL much better. As long as you do some form of exersise, and cut down on the fat you eat, you will lose weight.

 

[RiskyChris]

Find something you can occupy your oral fixation with. Every time you're about to eat something, drink a shit ton of diet pop or water instead.

 

[xelios]

While I don't have a problem with my weight, I do have a problem with craving sugar all the time. To the point I feel physically ill/weak/dizzy without it. I think I need to see a doctor to see if I have some type of deficiency or disease (don't want to derail the thread, but is there something which causes that?).

So while I can't give you any advice on dieting I wanted to at least say I completely understand how your willpower can fail you at times. My cravings are so powerful sometimes that I'm just a slave to it, and I'm a fairly disciplined person in all other aspects of life. Don't beat yourself up over it, if you mess up just try harder the next day and don't give up. Hope it all works out.

 

[CharlieDigital]

While I don't have a problem with my weight, I do have a problem with craving sugar all the time. To the point I feel physically ill/weak/dizzy without it. I think I need to see a doctor to see if I have some type of deficiency or disease (don't want to derail the thread, but is there something which causes that?).

So while I can't give you any advice on dieting I wanted to at least say I completely understand how your willpower can fail you at times. My cravings are so powerful sometimes that I'm just a slave to it, and I'm a fairly disciplined person in all other aspects of life. Don't beat yourself up over it, if you mess up just try harder the next day and don't give up. Hope it all works out.

Splenda.

 

[xelios]

Splenda.

I do use Splenda where I can, but that doesn't really explain why I have the cravings. I'm in shape so it's not causing any issue there, but I'm afraid something's wrong or I'll cause insulin resistance eventually. Anyway I was mostly empathizing with the OP when it comes to lack of willpower.

 

[InaudibleWhispa]

How important is it to have set meals a day? I'm not obese or anything, but I'd like to lose a few pounds and currently I pretty much have one meal a day at about 6-7pm. 40% of the time it's probably junk food, the rest of the time it'll be a typical meal -- not uber healthy, but nothing particularly unhealthy. Is the reason I'm not losing weight mostly what I'm eating or how/when I'm eating? Should I try replacing some of that junk food, or just have smaller portions spread throughout the day?

 

[Meadows]

Did you ever play sports as a child? Which one did you actually enjoy playing? For me, I enjoy basketball. It's something you can do alone. As well as jogging. IT doesnt cost much either. Just buy a pair of shorts, a shirt, and some cheap running shoes that fit. And a basketball if you want to play. The hardest part is finding the time to do these things. If you can afford, then buy a treadmill if if you wanna stay home. You can find the time. If you can post on gaf, then you can run on that treadmill for 15 or 20 mins.

As for the diet part. Find things that are healthy for you that you actually enjoy. There are plenty of foods that are good for you and taste good. Buy some vitamins and take them everyday. Do some form of excersise at least once a week. This followed by eating healthier foods. Slowly increase your excersise. Eventually, you will start to shed the pounds and FEEL much better. As long as you do some form of exersise, and cut down on the fat you eat, you will lose weight.

Do this and you'll see muscle gain within 2 weeks Bengraven, promise.

 

[bengraven]

bengraven, believe it or not, this has to be one of the most motivating threads I've ever read on GAF, and amazingly it was mainly because you chose to, quite frankly, "man up" about your situation. I'm in. I'm on the "bengraven support-bandwagon." I'll be worthy of this tag once again! (Well, I still am, the muscle hasn't gone anywhere, the body fat % has just increased LOL) While I don't have any kids....or a spouse....I can understand where a lot of the excuses and cop-outs you mentioned come from and how easy it is for them to stop you. In my own life, between working 40+ hours a week, driving 2 hours to school and 2 hours back 1-2 days out of the week, studying for exams, being a homeowner, sitting at a desk 10 hours a day and God knows what else, it's easy to always be "too tired" to get in the gym in the morning or grab a #5 value meal from the drive thru because you've been too busy to cook your own food, and many many more excuses. Having transitioned from college life and working out and eating a certain way, my mind didn't properly adapt itself to the time constraints I put myself under in regards to my lifestyle.

I've already been working on some things and man, the road back is much tougher than the road to put on weight in the first place LOL (shoulda listened to the older folks when I was young about how easy it would be to drop the weight when I was younger). Not because of the exercise necessarily or my body aging, but because it's so easy to let other "grown-up" committments or excuses stop you from doing what's most important - taking care of yourself. Especially when it comes to career advancement and adult responsibilities.

Remember, no matter what, if you happen to eat something not so good, then it's water under the bridge, bounce back by eating a nutritious meal next time and getting the exercise. Be consistent. Don't decide "hmm, well, I ate that, time to blow the whole thing!" As a nutritionist used to tell me: "If you were driving along down the road and suddenly you got a flat tire, since you blew out one tire would you up and decide to hop out of the car and slit the other three?" Cheating is not failure. I think a lot of people think, once you cheat it's "all over, bail out, game over, man, game over!"

Keep it up bro. It's good to be self-aware.

Thread bookmarked for future browsing.

Damn...thank you. This is one of, if not the best response I've read in the thread, and there have dozens. Just another way to remind me I'm not just alone; whining on a forum.

Based on these responses and the user on the last page who stated he lost 35 pounds due to my thread, I'm almost too embarassed NOT to keep going.

My idea had been to bump this thread in 6 months with a better, more toned pic to compare to the beached whale pic I put up on the first or second page. Instead I had to admit I was failing. And GAF came through.

You guys have actually brought me to tears.

Do this and you'll see muscle gain within 2 weeks Bengraven, promise.

I was doing a lot of walking, hell I was straight up RUNNING and loving it, though up until this week it was still really hot and muggy. I'm a northerner, I used to go for 3 hours walks in ice storms, so walking in the Florida bogginess was pretty depressing. I still did it, I thought of this thread while doing it. And yes, sometimes I hated you guys for it. :lol

Anyway, when I fucked up my tendons, I had to stop. I tried the next day to go out, got suited up, but after two blocks I was almost in tears from pain. I decided to focus on diet.

(then I fell off, but that's beside the point)

The weather up here is getting nice and cool, so I'm hoping to have a few more weeks of walking.

Find something you can occupy your oral fixation with. Every time you're about to eat something, drink a shit ton of diet pop or water instead.

 

[Rentahamster]

Use that camera. Take a picture of everything you are about to eat and make a collage on your desktop for every week.

You won't eat as much.

 

[bengraven]

I remember back when I watched the Howard Stern show, they brought in a bucket that was filled with all the food he had eaten the day before (duplicates, naturally) and they said it was the most disgusting thing ever.