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[Gustav]

You disagree that being physically active increases quality of life? We're not talking about becoming some lifting bro or gym rat.

I disagree that it makes everyone happier.

The human body simply isn't designed to sit on its ass all day and you will suffer adverse mental and physical effects if you give into that temptation. The push for physical activity doesn't mean you have to be a gym rat; simply taking walks or standing behind your desk instead of sitting makes a difference.

Steve Jobs was a man full of energy. He liked dancing and dated many women, even when married. Sure, he didn't earn black belts in mixed martial arts, but I'm pretty sure he didn't sit quietly behind Woz all day and night. Like I said a few posts back, the holy trinity is move/create/achieve in any combination you're comfortable with... Jobs, for all his faults, certainly did all three.

TLDR, being active does not equate being an athlete

OP already goes to the gym.

 

[triplestation]

Marmalade

Just say it

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Marmalade

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Drugs.

Came to say this. Get high, have a drink, bust off a couple nuts.


Yes Indeed :tn:

 

[SniperHunter]

i am in the same boat op. just hang in there

set some goals, set some timelines and move towards them. start thinking of a plan where you want to be in a month, 6 months, a year etc.

 

[RP912]

I'm in the same boat as well OP .

The only thing I can say is try to developed a tolerance. Try to find something that you enjoy doing or changing your routine.


How I'm trying to cope is playing simulation games, listening to different types of music, and currently seeking employment to relocate into a better environment.

 

[Partial Gamification]

Marmalade

Just say it

..

Marmalade

Mumbling, "Moomins marbling marshmallow marmalade Monday morning" makes me mellow.

 

[mt1200]

You should join a gym

It may not help in the long run, or at least it didn't work for me, I look and feel a bit better but I still don't know what I want in my life and how to make it happier.

OP, If you feel better after joining a gym, please ignore all those people that think it's a waste of time/money, it gets better when you start seeing results after several months.

 

[The Last Wizard]

So since the last time I posted a few things have clicked helping me understand some stuff, I ran into a women at a bar and got to talking about life it was very helpful. Then I watched garden of words which helped a bit more. But the tipping point was something a gaffer said in the I can't find my place in life thread and it really helped me understand a few things.

It sounds a bit like me when I went to film school. I have spend so much of my life watching films, and have loved it, that it made sense. But there is a difference between making films and watching them.
Film school was expensive and it was not something that opened any doors, but what I did get from it was that I learned a lot about myself. I think it gave me a big advantage because I came so much closer to figuring out parts of myself I didn't knew.

After film school I knew;

1) Whatever I do in life it has to be about creativity. It's my strength. My antenna is fixated on accumilating random thoughts from around me and babbeling it out. I need to nurse and grow this abillity. Like it was an RPG.

2) I knew that while I admired the making of film, I didn't felt that cinematography, acting, video editing or all that stuff was what needed fixing. What needed fixing was storytelling. Meaning story, structure, dramaturgy.

That lead me to thinking I was going to be a writer.



Ok, start over. Done with film. Going to be a writer. What now. Down the road, down learning a new craft. Have dyslexic tendencies, this should be fun...

1) Writing is hard. Too much preasure. Writes anyway.

2) People don't like what I write. Or they like it, but for the wrong reasons. Finds aspects I like.

3) What exactly am I doing with my time? One day it dawned on me, that during my doodles, scriptworkshops, what I enjoyed the most was actually making the artistic expression of the story. It was not writing itself, but making the poster, figuring out the tagline for the plot, and all that. Boom! Suddenly I knew. It was graphic design.


Ok, start over. Graphic Design 101 - What now -

And this is where I am today. Still trying to get better, but still enjoying it like crazy. Wanting to learn it.
I attribute my focus on film and later writing as leading me here. In some weird way, all my failures helped me get to here.


My question to you: If you really feel deep down inside of what you have enjoyed doing the most during your time at programming school, does anything pop up? Is there anything that you have felt that made you tick?


I love the expression; it's only failure if we don't learn from it. Retails is torture. Retail is torture because it sucks the energy out of you. Few things in life are more difficult than mustering the power, the engagement, the free will to break out of that cycle. It's almost impossible if you are depressed.

But you have to do it, or just die. You really are chained in a prison. You need to claw yourself out of this before you become a bitter cynical person who has lost themselves too the consumer-insanity. You will just be a living sponge sucking up all the negative energy. Goddamn retail is bad.

That's the thing, I never really tried or got far into programming. My ennui kicked in when I changed to that major and I've always got passing grades with minimal effort so I didn't really care. But I think computer science is broad enough to not just be programming. I've learnt that I like to be creative as well and I want to work on projects so that I can see the fruits of my labor. This is one of the reasons I don't enjoy retail as theirs no projects or seeing the result of your hard work in a physical form.

Did the OP ever find happiness?

Still trying, but not for happiness for fulfillment.

Besides what's already been said, I think it helps to learn about everything you can. It's easier than ever before in the internet age. What people call happiness is in large part dictated by your mental relationship with the world around you. The more you know the more context you can understand. It also increases your chances of stumbling across something that greatly interests you that you never knew about before.

Learning about the physical world is great. Astronomy is good; understanding the vastness of the universe is humbling and can really pull you out of your own local perspective. It's pretty easy for people to grow into a rut and feel that the world is as small as the rut they have carved out.

At the end of the day, the one person you're always going to be stuck with is yourself. Many people ruin their lives running away from themselves because it's a person they don't like. Do what you can to be more, purely for your own sake, and you might be surprised at how your internal world changes. And as the inner world changes, the outer world tends to follow.

I think this is one of the main problems, my learning slowed down since I haven't been in school. One of the reasons why I'm enjoying cosmos so much is that I'm learning stuff I'm interested in.

i am in the same boat op. just hang in there

set some goals, set some timelines and move towards them. start thinking of a plan where you want to be in a month, 6 months, a year etc.

I used to set goals but kind of stopped, I'm not sure if I have any for the year. I've got a few but they don't really have the possibility of being completed 100%.

I'm in the same boat as well OP .

The only thing I can say is try to developed a tolerance. Try to find something that you enjoy doing or changing your routine.


How I'm trying to cope is playing simulation games, listening to different types of music, and currently seeking employment to relocate into a better environment.

The tolerance thing is kind of scary as I equate it to settling.

It may not help in the long run, or at least it didn't work for me, I look and feel a bit better but I still don't know what I want in my life and how to make it happier.

OP, If you feel better after joining a gym, please ignore all those people that think it's a waste of time/money, it gets better when you start seeing results after several months.

I already go to the gym and I do feel good afterwards. If my eating was better I'd be doing even better.

 

[Snkfanatic]

I can't offer much but I will say finding a new hobby really helped my outlook on things over the last year.

 

[The Last Wizard]

I can't offer much but I will say finding a new hobby really helped my outlook on things over the last year.

Yea that's what I plan to do, someone else suggested that. I'm gonna pick up a guitar in about a week.

 

[NotBacon]

That's the thing, I never really tried or got far into programming. My ennui kicked in when I changed to that major and I've always got passing grades with minimal effort so I didn't really care. But I think computer science is broad enough to not just be programming. I've learnt that I like to be creative as well and I want to work on projects so that I can see the fruits of my labor. This is one of the reasons I don't enjoy retail as theirs no projects or seeing the result of your hard work in a physical form.

I'd say give it another shot. At least until you get into the algorithms and data structure courses which shouldn't be too far away. That's when it's really obvious who is cut out for it and who isn't. It's definitely more than just code (which is difficult enough for some people), so I see a lot of people come in who are "good with computers" or "love video games" and drop out within a few quarters.

The good thing is that you seem to enjoy the creative aspect, which can be massively rewarding. Seeing something you built from the ground up work without a hitch is one of the greatest feelings. So yeah, I'd take at least a few more CS classes just to see.

 

[The Last Wizard]

I'd say give it another shot. At least until you get into the algorithms and data structure courses which shouldn't be too far away. That's when it's really obvious who is cut out for it and who isn't. It's definitely more than just code (which is difficult enough for some people), so I see a lot of people come in who are "good with computers" or "love video games" and drop out within a few quarters.

The good thing is that you seem to enjoy the creative aspect, which can be massively rewarding. Seeing something you built from the ground up work without a hitch is one of the greatest feelings. So yeah, I'd take at least a few more CS classes just to see.

Cool thanks for the advice. In my last year I was taking discrete mathematics and calculus and both were annoying.