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[Supast4r]

My friend told me that he could never date a black girl. When I asked him why he gave no clear reason. Is the mere act of this racist? I always go back and forth on this.

 

[Username1198]

Yes. Pretty obvious.

 

[Shaanyboi]

Yes

 

[JCHandsom]

Yeah, beauty standards are influenced by what we think of other races.

 

[Sai-kun]

in before t.o.p.

yes, yes it is. no matter how much anyone tries to spin it.

 

[RoyaleDuke]

Does this really need to be a question though, the answer is obviously yes.

 

[crimzonflame]

duh

 

[……forgetit]

Yep

 

[NYCmetsfan]

Yes.

You can find people not attractive but if your reason is their race. Then you're racist

 

[FUME5]

Having preferences is one thing, outright refusing to date anyone of a certain race is another thing entirely.

And that thing is racist.

 

[NoblesseOblige]

Not dating people because of their race is racist.

 

[Order]

I mean, yeah

 

[coolasj19]

Having preferences is one thing, outright refusing to date anyone of a certain race is another thing entirely.
And that thing is racist.

That's the beginning and end of it. Maybe someone here can give you an argument besides calling him racist next time you see him.

 

[MooseKnuckles]

Yes, cut and dry.

 

[Aizen.S.Kennedy]

Yea Idc what anyone says to try to justify it. If you think ALL of a race is unattractive it's due to racism.

 

[Caelus]

Yes.

Refusal to date another race is.

 

[How About No]

Like no shit

 

[Seesaw15]

Yes.

We have this thread a few times a year.
People get defensive and say having a preference isn't racist. People respond that institutionalized racism informs preferences. People get more defensive. 2 pages in people start posting pictures of hot black women. Thread closes.

 

[Zeyphersan]

I’m sorry your friend is racist

 

[Conciliator]

My friend told me that he could never date a black girl. When I asked him why he gave no clear reason.

yeah, the reason is that he's racist.

 

[Redd]

Because of their race? Yes, yes it is.

 

[Jason Frost]

Yes it is.

 

[therealist]

Having preferences is one thing, outright refusing to date anyone of a certain race is another thing entirely.

And that thing is racist.

I don't see what's so different about it. Obviously ops friend doesn't prefer black girls, therefore he won't date them.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

Yep

 

[Strike]

Yeah.

 

[shadowsdarknes]

Refusal is yes. Acknowledging you have a type or preference of attraction is one thing. Refusal simply based upon skin color is by definition racist.

 

[sphagnum]

You can find certain features unattractive just because you do. For example, I find red hair unattractive. That does not make me bigoted against the Irish.

But to completely disavow any romantic interest in an entire group over their ethnicity/race instead of being willing to give people a shot on their own merits, especially when there is a ton of physical variety within ethnicities/races is racist.

 

[norm9]

Possibly. I would have to know more about the racist first.

 

[Caelus]

I don't see what's so different about it. Obviously ops friend doesn't prefer black girls, therefore he won't date them.

OP's friend could "never date a black girl".

 

[thesoapster]

I feel like there are people out there who aren't attracted to predominant features from certain races, or more attracted to some than others. I think blacklisting an entire race is a bit much, because there seems to always be an exception (...or many). But sure, rejecting an entire race (maybe attraction is there, but the person refuses to consider this other person an option, regardless) would be racist.

 

[Earthbound64]

Yes.

You can find people not attractive but if your reason is their race. Then you're racist

Having preferences is one thing, outright refusing to date anyone of a certain race is another thing entirely.

And that thing is racist.

These.


Also:

My friend told me that he could never

"My friend..."?

 

[Forward]

Are Otaku a race? If so, how do they reproduce?

 

[Bobo Dakes]

There's a difference between "I'm not attracted to x people" and "I refuse to date x people".

I think it's weird to generalize in both cases racially, but the latter phrase is definitely racist.

 

[Gin-Shiio]

You can find certain features unattractive just because you do. For example, I find red hair unattractive. That does not make me bigoted against the Irish.

Oh, so I'm Irish now because I have red hair? You're a bigot after all.

Spoiler

I'm just pulling your leg.

 

[joelseph]

Yes.

We have this thread a few times a year.
People get defensive and say having a preference isn't racist. People respond that institutionalized racism informs preferences. People get more defensive. 2 pages in people start posting pictures of hot black women. Thread closes.

See is a Wizard.

 

[Ri'Orius]

I don't see what's so different about it. Obviously ops friend doesn't prefer black girls, therefore he won't date them.

Blanket refusal is not a preference.

I'll admit, my swipe right rate is lower for black women than white, and higher for Asian women. But it's not an all-or-nothing thing: there are individuals of all races that I find attractive.

 

[MooseKnuckles]

You can find certain features unattractive just because you do. For example, I find red hair unattractive. That does not make me bigoted against the Irish.

But to completely disavow any romantic interest in an entire group over their ethnicity/race instead of being willing to give people a shot on their own merits, especially when there is a ton of physical variety within ethnicities/races is racist.

You monster.

But really this post pretty much sums up all that needs to be said.

 

[Prototype Viktor]

Always because that's the way it's worded
Also people who think that way would still not date someone if they were only half or a quarter of that race as well

 

[Dreavus]

Yes.

We have this thread a few times a year.
People get defensive and say having a preference isn't racist. People respond that institutionalized racism informs preferences. People get more defensive. 2 pages in people start posting pictures of hot black women. Thread closes.

If memory serves, you've nailed the thread progression, lol.

I think preferences play a part but blanket statements like the one in the OP aren't a good look.

 

[99Luffy]

'Im generally not into black girls/guys' - not racist
'He/she is hot but I dont date black people' - racist

(Dont know why I used black as an example..)

 

[RevoDS]

You're allowed to have sexual preferences, that's not racist.

A blanket, firm "I don't date X" is.

 

[PK Gaming]

Duh doi

He's condescending and tactless too

 

[Korigama]

Yes.

You can find people not attractive but if your reason is their race. Then you're racist

Having preferences is one thing, outright refusing to date anyone of a certain race is another thing entirely.

And that thing is racist.

What they said.

 

[Curious Puppy]

Yes.

You can find people not attractive but if your reason is their race. Then you're racist

Do you mean that if you're more sexually attracted to white people than black people for example, you're racist?

 

[WiiredShawn]

Should ask your friend "So which parts of Black girls do you find particularly undateable?"

Report back when you can.

 

[FUME5]

I don't see what's so different about it. Obviously ops friend doesn't prefer black girls, therefore he won't date them.

'I think X girls are the hottest and so would prefer to date people with features similar to that ethnicity' is completely different to 'I won't date women of X ethnicity'.

 

[mrkgoo]

Is not finding a particular physical attribute attractive, something that is predominant in a particular race and hence refusing to date them racist?

 

[therealist]

OP's friend could "never date a black girl".

Why would someone prefer white girls over black girls? Probably for the same reason ops friend could never date a black girl.

 

[Dongs Macabre]

Is not finding a particular physical attribute attractive, something that is predominant in a particular race and hence refusing to date them racist?

Can you list some examples?

 

[kamineko]

I agree with everybody